My girlfriend and I broke up after 10 years this afternoon. I'm numb.
My girlfriend and I broke up after 10 years this afternoon. I'm numb.
Sorry to hear that. Was it expected?
Shit G. That sucks manMy girlfriend and I broke up after 10 years this afternoon. I'm numb.
My girlfriend and I broke up after 10 years this afternoon. I'm numb.
Give it a few days, see what's what. On speaking to our close mutual friends, it's like she's had some sort of breakdown - she can't explain to anyone what's gone wrong, or what she's feeling. If it's over, we'll need to speak to lawyers as we joint own the house and I'll need to buy her out.
Id just like to say my daughter comes home wit the same story every 6 months, they've been together for 9 years...bought a house, two days later she doesn't know what she wants, they break up.No. We had a great weekend, comfy sofa night on Friday catching up with shite tele, took her for a nice dinner last night, had a lovely breakfast this morning. We had a bit of an odd clash later this morning when she wasn't in the mood for sex but she came through 5 minutes later to initiate it. I said "it's ok, moment has past", then we started to discuss it and it got a bit emotional. I said forget about it, we'll talk later, she came back from her friend's house and it seemed ok - I said to talk about what happened earlier to just sort it and put it behind us, ended up with her an emotional wreck out of the blue, telling me she's not sure what's wrong but she's not sure what she wants anymore. I said that this all sounded like breakup speak and that maybe not a good idea to be in the house together if she's feeling like this. She packed a bag, went to her parent's house, haven't heard since. All our mutual pals know, she's devastated apparently, she's told them we've split up.
Really sorry to hear it mate. No clues beforehand?
Thanks mate. No clues. The only thing that's been a contentious issue for us has been the sex life - it's the usual story, together for 10 years, living together for about 8. For a couple of years the issue of a mismatched sex drive has cropped up (I don't know of a single couple where this isn't an issue at some point) - she went to therapy last November to discuss it with a psychologist and it seemed to improve; not like rabbits every night (again, who does after 10 years) but we got into an agreeable schedule that worked for us. I got a bit upset on Sunday when she pushed me back (even though she tried to do it 5 minutes later) and we both got a bit upset when I said that it sometimes made me feel unattractive to her / not good enough. That's when it went into full meltdown. I apologised for saying that and that it was all a bit silly, but she just continued down an incoherent abyss of upset saying things like "well you should be with a girl who does want you" and other destructive things. It just went full retard, I've never seen her in such a confused state.
We share very close friends - her two best pals are my two best pals (both girls) - neither of them can make sense of her either, she just keeps saying she doesn't know what's happened and doesn't understand why she feels the way she feels. Some suggested it's some sort of mental breakdown, which I doubt.
sounds like she just needs a bit of time to get things straight in her head tbh. good luck, hope it works out.
Not really commented, but i hope this sorts itself out for you GMe too.
Still in limbo.
Do you have non-mutual friends you can spend some time with?
It is for male children, calling your kid something gender neutral, like wingnut or poptart, in case they change their mind at 6, hasn't really caught on with the masses.