So...no means no?

[CorNokZ]

Im sorry to hear that Good to hear you've turned it into something good in a way!

What would you do if she said that she didn't have a BF, but she did have, would you feel bad afterwards?

 

[Ara]

Should have gone to the party seemed like a nice one, but keept a good distance to the taken girl ;P Getting involved like that to a girl that has a boyfriend is never good, for your own conscious and the problems that comes with it, never worth it.

 

[echome]

Im sorry to hear that Good to hear you've turned it into something good in a way!

What would you do if she said that she didn't have a BF, but she did have, would you feel bad afterwards?

I have no idea tbh mate. I am just glad she told me. Been missing this rage inside me to get on with my life.

In some situations anger can be good.

 

[Overdriven]

Not sure if it's my age playing up here, but I feel depressed after reading this Not only is ONE asking, but ANOTHER ONE may be offering too, that's... TWO offerings.

Suppose you did stick to morals though

- No sex0r
+ morals.

Only the worse of the worse would sleep with a taken person knowingly! xD

Eeeep. :< *Runs*

 

[echome]

Not sure if it's my age playing up here, but I feel depressed after reading this Not only is ONE asking, but ANOTHER ONE may be offering too, that's... TWO offerings.

Suppose you did stick to morals though

- No sex0r
+ morals.

Remember that when all comes to all, sex is just sex - you have to live with your self aswell afterwards.

 

[Overdriven]

Remember that when all comes to all, sex is just sex - you have to live with your self aswell afterwards.

Hense why I did a "+morals"

Not gonna say much else, as I don't want to sound emotionless.


EDIT:

If I were in Toht's case, there would be a few rules I'd place down if it happened. (Hense my emotionless bit) - If you wanna know them, ask Nothing perverse.

 

[echome]

Hense why I did a "+morals"

Not gonna say much else, as I don't want to sound emotionless.


EDIT:

If I were in Toht's case, there would be a few rules I'd place down if it happened. (Hense my emotionless bit) - If you wanna know them, ask Nothing perverse.

Speak :->

 

[Overdriven]

These are actually rules myself and some people I know follow. So don't call me a bad human being.

1) If it happens (and both are willing at the time) it must continue to the end. (So even if the male wants to back out, they can't)
2) Any jewellery/memoribilia of any 'partners/relationships' must be taken off.
3) Any actions in the night are said persons own doings, other person cannot be blaimed for the mistakes made. (Pregnancy doesn't count, both must be involved in this case)
4) Anything said in the night, must be disregarded the next day.
5) NO MARKS WHAT SO EVER ON ANY PART OF THE BODY.
6) It does NOT leave the person(s) involved, you will force a lie to become the truth in your head (e.g.: No I didn't have sex that night)
6) If alcohol (X(pre-ditermined) amount) and you're in X mental state, the night/previous night can be down to feeling sorry for/too much alcohol (between the people)

There's a couple of others.. I can't rememeber them right now though.

EDIT:

There's actually a few more sets of rules myself and my drinking friends stick to aswell. Is pretty interesting. (Regarding alcohol)

EDIT 2:

Just to clarify, the rules were put in place for a WHAT IF situation. No other reason.

 

[echome]

These are actually rules myself and some people I know follow. So don't call me a bad human being.

1) If it happens (and both are willing at the time) it must continue to the end. (So even if the male wants to back out, they can't)
2) Any jewellery/memoribilia of any 'partners/relationships' must be taken off.
3) Any actions in the night are said persons own doings, other person cannot be blaimed for the mistakes made. (Pregnancy doesn't count, both must be involved in this case)
4) Anything said in the night, must be disregarded the next day.
5) NO MARKS WHAT SO EVER ON ANY PART OF THE BODY.
6) It does NOT leave the person(s) involved, you will force a lie to become the truth in your head (e.g.: No I didn't have sex that night)
6) If alcohol (X(pre-ditermined) amount) and you're in X mental state, the night/previous night can be down to feeling sorry for/too much alcohol (between the people)

There's a couple of others.. I can't rememeber them right now though.

EDIT:

There's actually a few more sets of rules myself and my drinking friends stick to aswell. Is pretty interesting. (Regarding alcohol)

EDIT 2:

Just to clarify, the rules were put in place for a WHAT IF situation. No other reason.

Fair enough. I respect your rules, though I don't like them - as they are to be used in a situation I really dislikes.

 

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

<snip> it must continue to the end. (So even if the male wants to back out, they can't) <snip>

Hell no. If someone gets second thoughts, that's where it ends.

 

[Overdriven]

Hell no. If someone gets second thoughts, that's where it ends.

Hense why my list was a 'what if' - TBH, if you're half way through it and you've already realised what's going on (before stopping) you might aswell carry on. (Not exactly like it'll be cheating too any further of an extent)

Believe me, I'm not a hug fan of those rules either. But they've been set in place (and are usually agreed on by both people) for a reason.. If you know you're going to break N rule, you don't do it.

I've yet had to follow them, mainly because I can control myself around females. BUT, IF the time were to come; it's allways asking "Are you SURE you want to go through with this" - I don't condone cheating () - But shit happens.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Just wanted to clarfiy on the matter of morals, no, i don't have any.

It's a principle of thing, not a moral thing. I can sleep around, dump 'em the next day, leave 'em hanging, lie, cheat, steal, be a norty person and not feel an ounce of guilt.

I just choose not to, especially in this case

Even when i was a younger, nortier version of myself, this was a rule i didn't waver from.

Living with myself after anything isn't a problem.

 

[Sparx]

i could and have lived with myself after sleeping with someone who has a partner, mainly because i dont honestly think i'm doing anything wrong, so have nothing to feel bad about.

I'm just a single guy knobbing a woman.

Of course its different if the boyfriend is a mate, but thats different rules, if he is a random you dont know then fuck it go out have some fun be like animals, most of them are not monogumous

 

[Huntingtons]

what if he is random HA? does the rule still count?

 

[yaruar]

i could and have lived with myself after sleeping with someone who has a partner, mainly because i dont honestly think i'm doing anything wrong, so have nothing to feel bad about.

Question for you though. Would you sleep with a mates girlfriend/wife if she came onto you and you fancied her?
Edit: just read that you wouldn't, in which case you are just a hypocrite

 

[old.Tohtori]

Question for you though. Would you sleep with a mates girlfriend/wife if she came onto you and you fancied her?
Edit: just read that you wouldn't, in which case you are just a hypocrite

Kinda what i was thinking.

You won't spoik a friends wife/girl 'cause you will hurt your friend.
But you will spoik a strangers wife/girl 'cause it only hurts the "some guy".

Interesting, though as i said, i don't judge.

 

[yaruar]

Kinda what i was thinking.

You won't spoik a friends wife/girl 'cause you will hurt your friend.
But you will spoik a strangers wife/girl 'cause it only hurts the "some guy".

Interesting, though as i said, i don't judge.

I think it's only something which comes with maturity. I'll be the first to admit i did some pretty shitty stuff when i was younger and ended up hurting a whole bunch of people. The only thing is that i learned from it and grew up and can look back and see how much of a twat i used to be.

 

[Infanity]

You banged her in the alleyway really didn't you?

I'd watch your mouth, It was your fucking girlfriend

 

[Poag]

Fraid i have to agree with OP.

If shes in a relationship thats fairly loonger term, even if she was really coming on I would not sleep with her [unless i was shit drunk and not entirely sure what i was doing ]


I've been seeing in a friendly fashion a girl i met on the train one day for a fairly long time. Shes in a long term with her BF, whom I have never met, we've both told each other that we have fairly strong feelings for the other, but i would never take it past what it is currently until she was single again, i've told her that and she was happy with what I thought. We go out alot of evenings, normally we make arrangements to meet in one place then go elsewhere to meet more friends, normally however we just stay at the first place talking and having a decent time



This maybe a bit rude or hypocritical, but, if I was to go with a girl who was cheating on her BF with me, and then later start a relationship with her, I would never feel entirely "safe" that she was not doing the same with another guy, if she had done it once then why not again? So keeping is "tame" for the time where your finding out what was going on and/or ending another relationship, is a sign to me of trust in each other

That works both ways, guys and girls.

 

[Lamp]

You done what I would have done.

Its wrong to fuck around with another man's woman. And you have no idea if that boyfriend has access to military weaponry, is a black-belt in 67 martial arts, or hangs out with a bunch of gangsters armed with very long sharp knives.

 

[Sparx]

yeah i am a hypocrite i admit it, so is every single person here

Infact most people in the world are hypocrites, i just admit it

The reason why i wouldnt do a mates bird is you dont shit on your own doorstep, you will have to see that girl all the time, not worth the agro. If its just a one night stand with a random bird from a bar then its not my problem

dont see how that possibly makes me a bad person/why i should go hang myself cause self righteous people say so. Its easy to sit on a forum and say i wouldnt do that, but filled with alcobooze and high spirits things change.

I admit i have said no on a few occassions cause it wasnt worth the beef, after all it is only a shag and i've had plenty of them

 

[Ctuchik]

if u don't care if the person u bang is cheating u have a pretty high probability of doing it yourself.

just that ppl don't really like to "brag" about them cheating on their other half as that other half just might find out by reading it

if u cant stay the fuck away from occupied ppl your just as bad as if your cheating your own girlfriend/boyfriend. being single yourself isn't really that good a excuse. and only shows that your a selfless little prick that don't care about anyone but yourself.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Its easy to sit on a forum and say i wouldnt do that, but filled with alcobooze and high spirits things change.

It is really easy, since that's what started the whole thread

I'm not one to judge people or their behaviour, but to me, if you can sleep with a taken woman, there's no reason not to f*ck your best mates woman either. Inconvinience issues are a minor nuisance at that point.

We go out alot of evenings, normally we make arrangements to meet in one place then go elsewhere to meet more friends, normally however we just stay at the first place talking and having a decent time

AND

This maybe a bit rude or hypocritical, but, if I was to go with a girl who was cheating on her BF with me, and then later start a relationship with her, I would never feel entirely "safe" that she was not doing the same with another guy, if she had done it once then why not again?

Have to tell you, you're allready dating a cheating woman. Sex is irrelevant. You're actually doing something that's even worse. If my gal went out and f*cked someone, i wouldn't mind that much(if she told me that is), but if she was seeing another man and basicly dating him, i'd be mighty miffed at it.

Yes a woman did f*ck around on me and did tell and i didn't mind it.

 

[Sparx]

and only shows that your a selfless little prick that don't care about anyone but yourself.

and who the fuck are you pray tell to call me a selfless little prick?

Just because i have the balls to sit here and say what quite a few have already agreed with me on, you feel the need to call me a prick

I do alot more in my life to keep the karma balanced but you just assume i'm just a bad person because i dont hold sex as dearly as you

I've had women do the dirty on me, i've had my heart destroyed and took me 2 and a half years to stop thinking about her every single fucking day. I guess after stuff like that you realise there are fucking alot more important things to worry about on this planet than is this girl who is chatting you up in a bar with someone, remember the point is she is coming on to you

EDIT: tor fair play to you mate, not saying your an idiot for turning them down or anything, i respect that fact you kept yourself back because you werent
comfortable in the situation. i salute you

EDIT2: so you know i get very very annoyed at being called a prick, alot more than ****, no idea why

 

[Calaen]

With Sparx all the way, I would not do it to a friend because it is not the same as doing it to a random. If your friend finds out it puts all of you in an awkward position.

Fucking some random bird that wants a quick no questions asked fuck is nothing to feel bad about ever, its said pure and simple stick it it and pull the fucker out at the end of the day no attachments at all.

Something happening with a friends g/f is probably because she actually fancies you and wants a relationship.

 

[old.Tohtori]

i respect that fact you kept yourself back because you werent comfortable in the situation. i salute you

Oh i was comfortable, was ready to f*ck her right there and then, but when you hear she's taken, to me, it's just one of those things that make you go hmm(had to, perfectly fit and all )

 

[Sparx]

cheers cal, i know you get my point perfectly

 

[Calaen]

cheers cal, i know you get my point perfectly

Its not exactly difficult

Trying to compare a random to a close friends partner is horse shit.

 

[Sparx]

some people mate rather admit the truth they feel they have to say the answer that seems right by the majority/society, and not actually sit and think what could happen when drunk

Its the ones that say neverrrrrrrrr then get pissed and do it are the cocks imo, at least i'm honest with myself. THAT my friend means i have a clear concience

 

[old.Tohtori]

Trying to compare a random to a close friends partner is horse shit.

Ofcourse there's a difference in the two, but the flipside is that you care about your mates and the problems, with randoms you don't. It IS a bit selfish to do it knowingly. Again, not saying it's wrong, but it's not that simple either.

At the end, someone always gets hurt from cheating. Unless ofcourse, someone's cool with cheating, in which case it doesn't become cheating anymore, more like...permission to f*ck

Also, have to say sparx, you saying you do it doesn't change it at all. No matter what way one feels on the matter. Admitting to being a cheater and being one without telling, still makes you(not you sparx) a cheater.