Death and Guilt!

[sayward]

Yesterday I heard that someone I loathe, who hates me, has died suddenly. This bloke has gone out of his way to make my life a nightmare for the past seven years. If the boot were on the other foot, so to speak, he would be laughing.

Now I know I'm feeling a bit low at the moment, as I said somewhere else, I had two weeks of the flu, then an operation on my hand which made me subsequently damage my back. So I can't exercise properly,and this is what I usually do every day in one form or another.

What I can't explain is my reaction to the news. It really took my legs out from under me. I stood in a supermarket literally not knowing what I was doing.

And then I felt incredibly guilty, but why? I couldn't even sleep properly and I haven't done or said anything unwarranted.

I won't be sending a card or going to the funeral. I'm not a hypocrite, I say things as I see them. Everyone knows where they stand with me and I find it almost impossible to lie.

This is where you all come in! Topic open for discussion!

 

[DaGaffer]

You've lost your nemesis. Sounds like this guy was a big part of your life (albeit in a negative way) and when you lose someone suddenly it leaves you bit knocked for six, after all you'll never get a chance to spit in their eye and call them a ****.

The "guilt" will go away (its just a mild form of survivor's guilt) and then you can go and dance on his grave with a clear concience.

In a way you should count yourself lucky to even have a nemesis; most people don't impact on other people's lives enough to bother. I personally haven't had a proper enemy for over 20 years.

 

[sayward]

Thankyou, that was very thoughtful. Has improved the way I feel already.

 

[Zenith.UK]

I'll be there to spit on the grave of my ex-landlord when he's put in the ground.
The day can't come soon enough.

I know with absolute certainty that I won't suffer a shred of guilt about it.
The fucker deserves the very worst.

 

[Everz]

Best way I think of it is that lovely quote.

'Life goes on'.

 

[Jiggs]

I'd turn up to the funeral purely to make sure!

 

[MYstIC G]

I personally haven't had a proper enemy for over 20 years.

Clearly you need to take up trolling forums, in my experience it takes all of 10 seconds to find people willing to try

 

[DaGaffer]

Clearly you need to take up trolling forums, in my experience it takes all of 10 seconds to find people willing to try

Ah, I don't count online enemies. None of you people are real anyway. That's what the voices in my head keep telling me.

 

[Chilly]

Ah, I don't count online enemies. None of you people are real anyway. That's what the voices in my head keep telling me.

we ARE the voices in your head. Go on, do it. Take out your penis and touch it to your keyboard.

 

[DaGaffer]

we ARE the voices in your head. Go on, do it. Take out your penis and touch it to your keyboard.

How do you think I type?

 

[old.Tohtori]

A hole is a hole fits here.

A loved one leaves a hole in your heart as much as a hated person leaves a hole in your, bowels?

You're most likely confusing guilt with something you're really feeling, such as empathy towards death being death still, possibly sympathy towards the family of their loss.

I'm guessing you've had a big loss too at some point, so know how it feels?

And being empathic isn't a bad thing per say.

No reason for guilt ofcourse and don't worry, in time you'll find someone new to hate you.

 

[MYstIC G]

How do you think I type?

Slowly

 

[DaGaffer]

Slowly

Well I admit there's a lot of xyb .jic.bj ir editing

 

[Wazzerphuk]

Clearly you were actually gay for him.

 

[Raven]

He is still a dick head to you but now he is a dead dick head. Move on.

 

[sayward]

A hole is a hole fits here.

A loved one leaves a hole in your heart as much as a hated person leaves a hole in your, bowels?

You're most likely confusing guilt with something you're really feeling, such as empathy towards death being death still, possibly sympathy towards the family of their loss.

I'm guessing you've had a big loss too at some point, so know how it feels?

And being empathic isn't a bad thing per say.

No reason for guilt ofcourse and don't worry, in time you'll find someone new to hate you.

A helpful answer. It won't let me rep you tho. Did I do it before?

 

[sayward]

Not sure I like the bit about finding someone else to hate me......... And yes I definitely know what a big loss feels like.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Think you've repped me for something or other

The bit about finding someone new to hate you is a light hearted bit in that, just basically a tongue in cheek way to say it'll be fine.

Knowing the loss personally, could explain empathy towards the situation(the part that is confused with guilt). Also, regular people don't get joy out of people dying, even if enemies, so if it made you jump for joy and go woooooo! at random people, it might be more worrying.

If talked like we were talking about a regular person of census style values etc.