Sounds like that's what's going on. I just don't understand how people can be so totally and utterly self-centred.Just tell her, I said "Oi... You... NO!"
99% probability she's crashing and burning with new bloke and is trying to prep you into being a fall back position.
utterly self-centred.
Those two words epitomise the majority of modern men & women.
well yeah, there is that, ofc. though there are still a few gems about (m/f) who haven't let themselves be corrupted. too bad the best f's I know aren't single
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Having read some of the responses here by the way I am quite horrified. One day any one of you could be in her position, how would you want to be treated?
None of you have considered that she has been brave enough to admit that maybe she has made a mistake... even if TdC doesn't want her back. You all judge way to harshly in my opinion but maybe it is my upbringing and the old saying "yet he who is without sin cast the first stone"
oh it was serious enough. I won't go in to details though, sorry.depends how serious the relationship was to begin with.....
Do what is right for you TdC.
Having read some of the responses here by the way I am quite horrified. One day any one of you could be in her position, how would you want to be treated?
I don't confess to know the details, however what I do know is the girl is human and there are better ways of dealing with situations like these than some of the answers I have seen here.
have no fear, I do not.Yes. We are not all evil! Please don't tar us all with the same brush.
Can you think of any single scenario where one half of a relationship would be in *anyway* responsible for another half cheating? I sure as fuck can't - I can think of plenty of reasons Partner A could be shitty enough to make Partner B want to cheat, but ultimately everyone is in control of themselves, and has only themselves to blame when they do something horrible.It takes two to make or break a relationship in my opinion.
I can't think on that many levels that I can consider her considering me considering her if you know what I mean. In the past few months I've gone to just considering my own actions and the actions of others that impact me. I consider what she did to be extremely low and prove an utter lack of respect towards me. I know things can happen, I know people can make mistakes, I know people can change and relationships can end. Let me just say that she didn't make mistakes only once, and she did try to keep me from knowing.None of you have considered that she has been brave enough to admit that maybe she has made a mistake... even if TdC doesn't want her back. You all judge way to harshly in my opinion but maybe it is my upbringing and the old saying "yet he who is without sin cast the first stone"
I am not a religious nut however I do believe the saying above should be considered before kicking people in the fanny etc etc etc
no offence taken Nath. I must say, I'm a little taken aback that I actually posted such information in the first place. I was well shaken indeed. Anyway, it's here now, and I shan't remove it. I'm very interested in what others have to say, especially the ladies of the forums. Ofc, I realize that the info you get from me is completely biased, as it's my interpretation of what is happening to me. Naturally so. Anyway fwiw I considered my ex very evil up to saturday morning. Now I just pity her.Sorry teeds - this seems a bit shitty talking about this when really it's none of our fucking business, but I did feel that I had to respond to the above point.
It only takes one to break it up YoniIt takes two to make or break a relationship in my opinion.
Even in that situation - I'd say don't do anything until you work out how to tell their partner something's wrong. Why would they feel it's OK to destroy that trust so violently by cheating? If they simply wait until they can find a way out of the relationship things are still going to be painful but not to the same extent. Cheating as a way out seems very childish and completely lacking in empathy. It shows a fundamental lack of compassion and understanding that other people have feelings too, and things that you do can affect people. It basically further enforces my opinion that the vast majority of people on this planet are simply self-centred bastards.I have sympathy for anyone who cheats before breaking up because they don't know how to tell their partner something is that wrong.
Ofc, I realize that the info you get from me is completely biased,
Even in that situation - I'd say don't do anything until you work out how to tell their partner something's wrong. Why would they feel it's OK to destroy that trust so violently by cheating? If they simply wait until they can find a way out of the relationship things are still going to be painful but not to the same extent. Cheating as a way out seems very childish and completely lacking in empathy. It shows a fundamental lack of compassion and understanding that other people have feelings too, and things that you do can affect people. It basically further enforces my opinion that the vast majority of people on this planet are simply self-centred bastards.
I'm not too keen on the way Yoni tried to defend the women bashing. I for one would have said exactly the same if it was happening to TdC+boobies. (now THERE'S a thought)
Just because some reactions were angry does not mean that it has anything to do with the sex of that person. It is their actions that have been commented on.
Sadly, having seen this from both sides of the fence, I think you're being overly-simplistic. Cheating isn't always seen as a "way out". Sometimes life is just about bad timing.
Yoni is able to see both sides and this helps her to make such comments. Tbh I welcome them, and I don't want this to be about bashing my ex (pleasant as that would be).I'm not too keen on the way Yoni tried to defend the women bashing. I for one would have said exactly the same if it was happening to TdC+boobies. (now THERE'S a thought)
Just because some reactions were angry does not mean that it has anything to do with the sex of that person. It is their actions that have been commented on.
I've not been on the other side of the fence. I don't mean to offend but I hope I never get there, but simultaneously I realize that I won't understand until the choice comes apon me.Sadly, having seen this from both sides of the fence, I think you're being overly-simplistic. Cheating isn't always seen as a "way out". Sometimes life is just about bad timing.
if I were a girl I certainly think my opinions and reactions would be exactly the same. probably more empathic and more able to see both sides, but there you go. be that as it may, my male ego is colouring much of the thoughts I have, like duhI think it's easy to project ideas of women-hating in situations like this, but you're right if the genders were reversed certainly my opinions would be exactly the same.
It takes two to make or break a relationship in my opinion.
I have sympathy for anyone who cheats before breaking up because they don't know how to tell their partner something is that wrong.