My best friend is a boy, discuss...

[Sparx]

i have 2 best friends 1 male and 1 female

 

[Deebs]

i have 2 best friends 1 male and 1 female

Dead people in the freezer do not count..

 

[old.Tohtori]

When did it become wrong to want to shag someone?

If i want to shag a friend of mine, it doesn't mean things would be different. Unless i was thinking about it 24/7 and changing my behaviour to accomlpish a some goal.

 

[russell]

I think people's attitudes, values and beliefs are ingrained and more heavily influenced by their parents (and the strong viewpoints of the 9 year olds debating the right and wrong of having a best friend of the opposite sex was a good illustration of this) really early on. And more deeply than we think. Either:
1. You are drip fed your parents A,V,B'S and subconciously comply
2. You react against your parents A,V,B's and conciously go against their beliefs
and all this is pretty much set at the age of 9?
Scary.

 

[old.Osy]

I have female friends. And at some point, yeah, I do wanna shag em. A few, I actually did. We're no longer friends.

 

[Gwadien]

I have female friends. And at some point, yeah, I do wanna shag em. A few, I actually did. We're no longer friends.

Patience padawan, Patience, Await until they are asleep.

 

[georgie]

As long as you leave a cup of tea and a biscuit, it aint rape.

 

[Vasconcelos]

none of my best friends are a female...

guess im the weird one

 

[TdC]

bunch of retards. You can have best friends of the opposite sex. Life does not always revolve around sex.

lol you're so full of lies


for myself, all the girls I've liked in any way, I have been "in love" with or wanted (usually badly) to shag. the others I don't give a toss about. harsh? shallow? maybe.

I have a couple of male good friends. I do not want to have sex with them. Probably because I am not gay.

 

[Wazzerphuk]

Neg rep for Teedle's blatant lie.

Just come out, man. It's been SO long.

 

[TdC]

I may be latently gay, I am just not latently gay for you, Wazz

 

[Wazzerphuk]

FFS

 

[Access Denied]

I've had precisely 2 close friends who are male. The rest have been and ARE female. I just find it easier to talk to women without the (Imagined?) pressure to talk about nothing but your average male topics. It also helps that a lot of them are either bi or gay so I can still discuss the various merits of hot females =D

 

[rynnor]

The point I am trying to make is "if you have a best friend of the opposite sex you must want to shag them" is simply wrong. Why does friendship have to revolve around sex? It is just wrong. Plain and simple.

They dont revolve around it but its always there as a bubbling undercurrent in mixed sex friendships unless both sides are gay tbh.

I do not believe in platonic friendships (edit - amongst compatible couples) - people might not want to acknowledge it but at some level more is going on - its just how we are programmed.

 

[old.user4556]

Why does friendship have to revolve around sex? It is just wrong. Plain and simple.

You can't deny millions of years of evolution that men and women will naturally be sexually attracted to each other (unless they're not). Some of the best and most solid relationships I know started off as 'just good friends'.

I'm sure if you quizzed them at the time they'd have said "pfffffft, we're only friends?!". Fast forward 10 years, marriage and babies.

 

[russell]

I may be latently gay, I am just not latently gay for you, Wazz

Thats not what you told me
Man up and admit your feelings dude.

 

[Raven]

I have plenty of female friends, some I find attractive some I don't. Nothing wrong with friends of the opposite sex.

 

[Vasconcelos]

I have plenty of female friends, some I find attractive some I don't. Nothing wrong with friends of the opposite sex.

But, are we talking about just friends or "best friends"....

Cuz in the first case, yeah, I agree, I have plenty of female friends.

 

[Thorwyn]

My best friend is female. She´s also my ex gf.

 

[Bahumat]

My best friend is female. She´s also my ex gf.

And bang! There goes our secret love affair. Thanks Thorwyn

 

[Sparx]

Ive never had sex or felt sexually attracted to my female best friend and she hasnt for me either, so i think you are all wrong

 

[Ezteq]

My best friend is female. She´s also my ex gf.

lol what he said, B2 is my best mate, we go off for coffee or lunch whatever, go hiking or shopping, watch a movie it's great, he has a gf and I had a couple of bfs in the past year since we broke up and there is absolutely no 'ooh i'm just being friendly to get back together' it's over and done with and what remains is just a really ncie friendship...


I also have several male freinds, wouldn't call them 'best freinds' who I hang out with a lot and with one it's a bit awkward because his friend said he fancies me so I try not to see him as much as I used to because I don;t want to lead anyone on, but that's like a one off.

The thing with the children is quite funny because I remember as a nipper most of my BFFs were girls but the ones I hung about with and really had fun with were boys and lots of the girls were freinds with boys, it got a bit iffy around the age of 12-15 because everyones hormones were kicking in and we all got confused about everything but grew out of that mostly Oo

 

[old.Tohtori]

My best friend is female. She´s also my ex gf.

Same goes here. In a nutshell

 

[Laddey]

Nothing wrong with it. If you was her/his true friend, they wouldnt wanna jeaporidse the friendship you had together by fucking!

 

[Ezteq]

sometimes it's not even a case of not wanting to 'jeaporidse' anything, you are best freinds with someone you love them dearly and think they are a beautiful person but you just do not fancy them, it's just not there at all. I think that's how guys and gals can be friends successfully, if there's an element of fancying then I've seen freindships go all wrong because envy and then resentment take over.

 

[Calaen]

Being married I find it very difficult having a female as my best friend, simply because it complicates things to much.

 

[Ezteq]

Being married I find it very difficult having a female as my best friend, simply because it complicates things to much.

I hope your wifey poos isn't reading this you'll get the 'but I am your best freind!!!' paddington hard stare!!

 

[Laddey]

sometimes it's not even a case of not wanting to 'jeaporidse' anything, you are best freinds with someone you love them dearly and think they are a beautiful person but you just do not fancy them, it's just not there at all. I think that's how guys and gals can be friends successfully, if there's an element of fancying then I've seen freindships go all wrong because envy and then resentment take over.

Coming from a mans point of view...if i find her beautiful id want to nail her but the friendship comes before the nail.

 

[Calaen]

I hope your wifey poos isn't reading this you'll get the 'but I am your best freind!!!' paddington hard stare!!

We are soul mates, that's so above friends

I get on well with my female friends, but here lies the problem, when I'm going through a bad period with the wife, being around them isn't the best idea in the world.

 

[russell]

But, are we talking about just friends or "best friends"....

Cuz in the first case, yeah, I agree, I have plenty of female friends.

He is my bestfriend.
We talk most days, and hang out once a week, and go out to see places/people/ do things with the kids, with or without Mr Russell. We enjoy each others company, get on well and talk about our lives and things that bother us etc.. I talk to him exactly as I would to my female friends, nothing is sacred and I like to have a good rant!

I have 3 other close girlfriends (who are my circle of trust)

I have my husband who has to live with me and is grateful for the peace when I go round my mates house!

Vas -who would you go to rant to if you had a bad day?