Question Hotel rooms...

[russell]

So freddies, I am going away with a friend (man one)to see a gig and we plan to stay over in a nice hotel to drink and make an occasion of it. (No its not Ed)

Booking hotel rooms is a shocker as it is the peak of the season. So I want to book a 'twin' to save lots of pennies. I think it will be fine as long as precautions are taken (such as P'js worn and changing takes place in the ensuite etc).

Hubby says fine.

Since you lot are so good with your life advice I just wondered what your thoughts are -should I go for the more (much much more) expensive option of 2 separate rooms being as I am a married laydee?

 

[nath]

Surely the only people that can answer that are you and Ed. Strikes me it's entirely dependent on your relationship - I'd not feel great about it but I don't trust anyone so I expect only you guys can decide.

 

[taB]

I'm sure it'll be fine...

 

[mycenae]

I dunno Russell, I'm not sure I would feel too happy about it myself. Have you maybe thought how you would feel if hubby suggested something similar? Him staying in a twin room with a female friend? I know I wouldn't like Vae doing that. but then again, as has been said, the only person who can really answer that question is you and your hubby. if you two have talked about it, he says fine, you say fine and your male friend is a good enough friend and you're sure there is not even a remote possibility of interest from either his or your side, i guess its ok.

 

[Mabs]

no

get 2 rooms

the point where you have to ask the question is the point at which there is doubt, so id have to go with a no

is the fiscal gain, or lack of loss rather, worth any kind of niggling doubt ?

 

[Edmond]

Surely the only people that can answer that are you and Ed.

I'm not the hubby

 

[nath]

Oh.. not sure where i got that idea then

 

[old.Tohtori]

You'll be fine, now where are we staying?

No but honestly seriously, i would trust my lady in that situation, but then again, i wouldn't mind them humping another guy as long as they come home, stay safe, be honest about it and as long as their heart is in the right place..but then again...

If it's cool with the hubby, as in, really cool and this ain't just "some stranger" man he never has met, i doubt there's gonna be problems.

It's not like a sister and brother are gonna get it on either if in same bed, meaning;

If there's no interest, there's no interest.

And you know the guy won't mind sleeping on the floor if it IS that big of a deal. Hell, that's what men do. Especially to save a buck

 

[DaGaffer]

You're asking a forum full of geeks, socially inept introverts and the terminally odd for advice on sleeping arrangements? Don't you have, like, humans you can talk to?

Sorry guys, you know I love you all (you bunch of freaks), but don't you think this is an odd question for this forum?

 

[Tom]

If your other half has a problem with it, then you have a trust issue.

 

[old.Tohtori]

You're asking a forum full of geeks, socially inept introverts and the terminally odd for advice on sleeping arrangements? Don't you have, like, humans you can talk to?

Sorry guys, you know I love you all (you bunch of freaks), but don't you think this is an odd question for this forum?

When half the forum is breeding faster then bunnies on easter, the odd 25% getting married and the rest hunting barely legal...bike parts, yeah, i think it is

 

[russell]

You're asking a forum full of geeks, socially inept introverts and the terminally odd for advice on sleeping arrangements? Don't you have, like, humans you can talk to?

Sorry guys, you know I love you all (you bunch of freaks), but don't you think this is an odd question for this forum?

Just curious as to what your answers would be.
I do know some humans and the majority of them are fine with it
Just wondered what the consensus amongst the geeks is.

 

[DaGaffer]

Just curious as to what your answers would be.
I do know some humans and the majority of them are fine with it
Just wondered what the consensus amongst the geeks is.

Oh well, you asked. Speaking as someone who's current girlfriend has to cope with the fact that I have a very good relationship with my ex-wife; I don't think you can expect your husband to be completely cool with it. He'll probably say he's fine (modern man, in touch with his feelings yadda yadda), and to a greater or lesser extent he may even believe it (I don't know him but I think we all practice a bit of politically-correct doublethink these days).

However, you need to accept the green-eyed monster may be sewing seeds right now, because if your hubby is a typical bloke, he can't not run a few seedy scenarios through his head, and this may, usually when you least expect it, come back to bite you on the arse further down the line. It has nothing to do with trust, and everything to do with imagination. Having been both the giver and receiver of jealous behaviour, its not rational, at all, and can sneak up on you.

 

[pez]

I would pay the extra. Is 40 squid really worth even the tiniest niggle of doubt?

 

[Rubric]

The question is, do you trust yourself not to wake him up with a BJ and good hard screw in the morning?

 

[Wij]

Toss him off in the cab on the way home and he'll go straight to sleep without troubling you.

 

[old.user4556]

Toss him off in the cab on the way home and he'll go straight to sleep without troubling you.

LOL best advice

I'm perturbed it's even up for discussion; seperate rooms obviously.

 

[sayward]

I'm not a geek and I say get two rooms it's not worth the possibility of future aggravation whatever the hubby says at this time. Things change, there's a lot of future ahead for you.

 

[ECA]

If you were playing away from home separate or shared rooms wouldn't matter.

It really is a comfort level issue for both of you more than anything else.

 

[TdC]

möh, I find you having thoughts about it of any kind enough reason to not do it. get separate rooms and run whatever risk you will run without breaking your head over it too much.

for myself, I have lady friends who are, have been, and forever will be completely safe in a room with me always. though having said that I'm not above a chance to ogle some fine boobage -or anything else- snuck across a room while I'm pretending to sleep

 

[old.Tohtori]

Having been both the giver and receiver of jealous behaviour, its not rational, at all, and can sneak up on you.

If you're jealous that is. Ofcourse.

I'm not a geek and I say get two rooms it's not worth the possibility of future aggravation whatever the hubby says at this time. Things change, there's a lot of future ahead for you.

Oh yes you are

 

[Kryten]

I'd probably be naive enough to think it would be fine as long as everyone involved was in the clear but with the proviso that if there was any doubt let me know and I'll see if I can get a second room. After all lets face it; if there really was any sexual sort of tension or feeling going on, then a second room isn't going to stop it much

 

[Hawkwind]

What happens in xxxxxxx stays in xxxxxxx. Rules to live by!

 

[old.Tohtori]

if there really was any sexual sort of tension or feeling going on, then a second room isn't going to stop it much

Man speaketh the truth(i think you're a man?).

If there's humpty to be had, one plywood wall ain't gonna stop a rampaging rod of manliness

What happens in xxxxxxx stays in xxxxxxx. Rules to live by!

Only works in Vegas.

With a hooker.

And death.

Or STDs.

 

[Raven]

No, is the simple answer. I am surprised that your husband would even consider allowing it. Gig, alcohol and a single room...alarm bells.

 

[old.Tohtori]

I think the people who think "something WILL happen" are the ones with trust/commitment issues :lol:

 

[Raven]

Its not trust of the partner, its trust of the 3rd party.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Its not trust of the partner, its trust of the 3rd party.

So in essence, you'd tell your woman that she can't spend a night at a hotel with a friend 'cause he'll rape her?

 

[Belgerath]

Its not trust of the partner, its trust of the 3rd party.

That is simply the same thing.

Even if the 3rd party makes a move if you trust your partner then you will know they will say no.

Both my wife and myself have been in this situation, both of us stayed with the 3rd party in the same room different beds. (seperate occassions ofc)

As many have said if something was going to happen 2 rooms will make no difference as all that will mean is the 2nd room isnt used...

If they are going to cheat on you may as well be cheaply

 

[Raven]

So in essence, you'd tell your woman that she can't spend a night at a hotel with a friend 'cause he'll rape her?

Errr. No.

Again you are twisting words. Give it a rest.