Depression

[old.Tohtori]

Well i got a 4 on the what'sit test so can't really talk about "clinical" or "depression" i guess, but i've felt like crap, haven't had the strength to go on,until i think of my mothers advice:

Worrying about yesterday won't change a thing, and worrying about tomorrow just ruins today.

What can i say, mothers...weird creatures...seem to know.

Ifyou have loved ones, that "special one", friends who wan't to "ride" with you no matter what and to lesser extent, roof over your head and a paying job...well...life ain't that bad. Just have to take it hour by hour and not think of all things together.

What i do when i get "annoyed", i guess the right word, in my life?

First step, write down everything that's wrong.
One by one go down the list and start fixing them. Concentrating on one issue at a time and trying my best to change/fix it. Then move on. If something seems impossible, i move to next subject and come back to it later.

I've rarely seen a "problem" that isn't fixable.

 

[TdC]

Very moving Aada. Nothing much I could say now, remember your bro and be glad of the good times.

 

[Aada]

The whole thing stinks guys how can they loose 2 years worth of medical documents from a public hospital? heh yeah right..

 

[Guest]

for fucks sake, everyone one of you (apart from athan) need to get a fucking life, go outside, drink beer, cry get sad, get happy, isnt that what life is, a never ending rollercoaster of emotions, my god, set milly mouthing bunch of self important glib liberals.

 

[Damini]

Oh, ffs Brooky. That's like saying to a one legged amputee that they should go out pogo-sticking because the fresh air will do them good. It's natural to be happy, sad, all things in all measures, but your mind is an organ, and just like any other part of the body, things can go wrong with it. I do wish people would stop stigmatising depression as just some self indulgent whim. Do you go shouting at people in wheelchairs, telling them they could walk if they weren't so lazy?

 

[TdC]

my girlfriend would love a "normal" life and ditto emotions. sadly the things that plague her do not allow this. I try to do whatever I can so she can be happy and relaxed as she can be, but sadly I (I should say we) sometimes fail and what happens then isn't fun at all.

up to three years ago I would have denied that what she goes through in her head was possible for a human but I have learnt that had I done so I would have been gravely mistaken.

so, watch your fucking mouth Brooky.

 

[throdgrain]

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[Guest]

my point is that one person starts talking about "depression" and everyone gets on the band wagon about the day the teacher hit them with a stick in infants school and thats its affected them forever.............


i realise depression is an illness, my GF has it, you are not seeing my point.


lets all go to the therapist twice a week so he/she can tell us about why we hated/loved our mothers/fathers,

/me renames FH forums to 'Deeb's couch for the superficially retarded'

 

[Calaen]

my point is that one person starts talking about "depression" and everyone gets on the band wagon about the day the teacher hit them with a stick in infants school and thats its affected them forever.............


i realise depression is an illness, my GF has it, you are not seeing my point.


lets all go to the therapist twice a week so he/she can tell us about why we hated/loved our mothers/fathers,

/me renames FH forums to 'Deeb's couch for the superficially retarded'

I do believe you are a Cock. You dont actually have to read the thread so stay the hell away.

If people can get shit off their chest, by posting in here good for them. They certainly dont need shit stains like you moaning about them.

 

[old.user4556]

So everyone is just supposed to bottle it up and "get on with it"? Fucking superb advice Brooky, well done.

 

[Guest]

I didnt actually say that did i, i am questioning actual depression with people just having a bad few days, actually READ what i posted before the flame war starts please.

 

[Lazarus]

my girlfriend would love a "normal" life and ditto emotions. sadly the things that plague her do not allow this. I try to do whatever I can so she can be happy and relaxed as she can be, but sadly I (I should say we) sometimes fail and what happens then isn't fun at all.

up to three years ago I would have denied that what she goes through in her head was possible for a human but I have learnt that had I done so I would have been gravely mistaken.

so, watch your fucking mouth Brooky.

/me gives TdC calming tablets (or vast amounts of beer)

brooky - everyone handles things differently -we all have ways of dealing with different things.

It all depends on your outlook in life - we all have different hands to play and we play them they way we see fit. The way you deal with things is different to what I or tdc, or anyone else on this board does.

 

[old.user4556]

I didnt actually say that did i, i am questioning actual depression with people just having a bad few days, actually READ what i posted before the flame war starts please.

Go back and read my posts (about page 3 or 4) about "having a bad day".

Whilst I think that some people who are unhappy *do* need to give themselves a shake, there is a far cry between feeling unhappy and watching a loved one waste away from a disease - that's one hell of a bad fucking day.

Your post was insensitive giving what was posted prior to it.

 

[mank!]

for fucks sake, everyone one of you (apart from athan) need to get a fucking life, go outside, drink beer, cry get sad, get happy, isnt that what life is, a never ending rollercoaster of emotions, my god, set milly mouthing bunch of self important glib liberals.

you're a thick fucking twat.

by the way, you started the flame war with this blatantly inflammatory remark. don't act surprised when people bite back.

there's a world of difference between feeling shite and being depressed, clearly you've never experienced the latter. in which case, who are you to comment on other people's personal issues?

fucking cock

 

[Guest]

I have suffered from clinical depression diagnosed by a doctor and not someone in this forum, i have a fairly poorly son (which people know about) and a gf that suffered from post natal depression for 2 years, i think i am a good judge of what life situations would to "most" people make them get depression as an illness, other people just seem to be overwhelmed by it through no act of their own, my point and the one that maybe my sarcasm in my earlier post hid, is that everyone feels bad about life in general but thats not depression, the average person with a bad day has absolutely no idea about the feelings and mindset a person with depression has or what that person goes through in day to day life, ok my point was made sloppily but its still valid.

 

[mank!]

nobody's saying that feeling bad = depression. you're the one who made that link.

your point wasn't 'sloppily made' it was fucking stupid.

 

[Aada]

not saying im depressed.. yeah sometimes i get a little sad and i used to be depressed when it all happened but im ok but its natural to get sad sometimes when you think about things that upset you.

 

[Tilda]

Brookys post made me depressed

cock.

 

[Draylor]

This thread is depressing, nice to see brooky brightening it up a bit.

 

[Jupitus]

for fucks sake, everyone one of you (apart from athan) need to get a fucking life, go outside, drink beer, cry get sad, get happy, isnt that what life is, a never ending rollercoaster of emotions, my god, set milly mouthing bunch of self important glib liberals.

Done all that and more, in fact I found time to sympathise with you.

If you don't retract your recent comments I won't bother in future.

 

[Conchabar]

ive been depressed for as far back as i care to remember. if i could sum up depresion in what it feels like i would say:

Imagine being in a room with a single window and a door to the outside. You can hear everything that goes on outside these walls. Chains hold your worthless carcass to this room.

Time passes and hunger is a thing of the beings that live outside these walls, for your apetite never starts, you feel weiry your body yearns for comfourt and meaning but alas you are not so lucky. There is a bountiful amount of the most exoctic food lieing in front of you, but you do not want to eat, your apeitite is nill and not all the gold in the world could change your mind.

You watch the window as the world passes you by, you see the seasons pass and you see the sheep playfuly play in the spring and in the winter are no where to be seen. You yearn to be something, to be amoungst these sheep, to not be so sad, to not be dare i say diffrent. You feel so diffrent, so unreal, so un-apart of anything, you sometimes wonder why were you cursed to live this way.

A constant pain fills your body on a daily mission to survive another day, simple knocks and bruises feel like nothing compared to the eternal pain that fills you on a daily basis. You want to leave the barriers of the room and sometimes venture out, but the chains hold you back from fully experienceing the outside world, or if u break free for a little while and walk in the basking sun, but alas not even the glorius sun will ease your pain. If even the smallest of branch doth snap, a feeling of emptyness and nothingness will cover you of questions of why me, why do the gods hate me will cover your mind and you will with your tail between your legs walk back slowly as the chains hold you back once more.

not all depression is in my mind treatable, i beleive some people are stuck with it for life. I maybe wrong but i beleive in my eyes some people are meant to have it.

To just say go out get drunk, socialise, blah, blah blah blah. Yes maybe that applys to some, heck if i didnt already do that i might say hay u know what? thats a good idea! But what happens if u dont fit in, what happens if when you are with people your peers so to say, you are acting to fit in, your being funny and making people feel good because you feel you need to be apart of something, deep down in side you feel alone empty, shallow, with out purpose, with out meaning, you laugh but on the inside you feel dead, the world is not your oyster, you are the oyster. After awhile of going on these ventures to the pub and socialising and your fellow peers, you begin to beleive you are worthless and you could never be accepted in this society. Of course, maybe im wrong and there is a cure, drugs, yes drugs. Lets lye to our brain and hope it all goes away. wrong. it doesnt go away, it just manifests, and will break loose. thats what i did, eventauly it caught up with me and everytime i drank or smoked i felt a million times worse, im just happy i didnt jump on to harder things. Ive begin to accept it all, and realise happyness is a step or a unfruitful dream made by fairy tales that we are forced to beleive and dream about as kids. The truth of the matter is, yes depresion is a mind set, and with the right amount of presure you might be able to ease it for a little while or ignore it, but its always there

how i cope with it, is to laugh instead of cry, im a man after all im all out of tears anyway, philosophy helped me alot as well, i always had a nack for it, i guess it was a calling caused by a shit painful childhood and loosing half my family from secondry skewl to college which was the nail in the coffin for my depression. i hope i covered all of the depresion with that peice, im not sure, i just did it off the top of my head, im pritty sure its all there albeit u have to read between the lines

 

[throdgrain]

What depresses me is that you lot are all on the internet

 

[Tom]

That depresses me as well Throddy, but all mah mates have run out of cash. Might go out tomorrow night though, and order a few rounds.

 

[throdgrain]

ROUNDS???

Dont get me started !

 

[mank!]

what's even worse is that i fell asleep on the sofa earlier this evening. that's the sort of thing i'd expect you to do throd, but not someone so youthful as myself.

i'm too ill/poor to go out.

 

[throdgrain]

Shut up fatty , and get to bed !

 

[mank!]

hahaha

at least i can lose weight, you can't make yourself younger old man. enjoy yourself as you edge ever closer to death

p.s. mine's a fosters, cheers

 

[throdgrain]

No, and you cant make yer balls drop any quicker either

 

[Calaen]

you guys should get a room tbh.

 

[mank!]

No, and you cant make yer balls drop any quicker either

i heard you liked 'em like that mate?