Ways to turn men down

Spis

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Naetha said:
Whats more, I'm married to a geek and a gamer :D

(Thats why I got so high a score on the geek test!)


Your married with 2 people? omg.. wanna add another person to ze marriage? :D


EDIT: do i seem desperat? ;D
 

Naetha

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I guess I'll have to start giving the relationship advice now Elisera's gone home...although I always have a tendency to split people up - imo if you're not 95% happy, it ain't worth it!
 

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If you don't trust the person you're with, it ain't gonna work.
 

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Well, imo once a cheater always a cheater. Never try and have a long term relationship with someone that has different ideas about cheating to you, cos that ain't going to work.

Also, most of the people whose relationships I've had a hand in splitting up have been gamers whose girlfriends wanted them to stop playing games to be with them. Not being funny, but if you enjoy playing computer games a lot, then thats what you do. (obviously if you're doing it to unhealthy levels, then you might need to rethink your life a bit) If a girl wants you to give up your games, then you should ask her to give up her soaps or her mobile phone as well.

I'm too damn opinionated today, apologies.
 

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Naetha said:
Well, imo once a cheater always a cheater. Never try and have a long term relationship with someone that has different ideas about cheating to you, cos that ain't going to work.

Also, most of the people whose relationships I've had a hand in splitting up have been gamers whose girlfriends wanted them to stop playing games to be with them. Not being funny, but if you enjoy playing computer games a lot, then thats what you do. (obviously if you're doing it to unhealthy levels, then you might need to rethink your life a bit) If a girl wants you to give up your games, then you should ask her to give up her soaps or her mobile phone as well.

I'm too damn opinionated today, apologies.

but then they will just play the no sex card :(
 

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elisera said:
But would you take offence if she offered to pay?
nope, I wouldn't be, but over here you'll have about an equal chance of seeing Sirius B explode into Supernova mode...

(okay, perhaps the odds are slightly off there, but still that chance is pretty small :))
 

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elisera said:
HE: Haven't I seen you some place before?

bah i remember when a girl said that to me, and my friends were making stupid jokes about what i really should have said, like:


"I'm that wanted serial rapist from TV"
"Yeah, I'm a customer of yours in the red light district"
"I was next to you last night bitch"

etc etc etc (yes lame)
 

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Kathal said:
Ok, mr 0.0001%
Guess you let the girls pay for dinner, let them hold the door for you etc?
Or in the case you are a girl, you pay for dinner and hold the door for the guys?
And in case you are gay, then nm.

How simple minded are you?

On a note about the 38dd, my gf has one size below Jordens and i hate it immensely. Having every single guy who goes past just looking straight down at your gf's assets is quite nervy and annoying. That said, after having such big ones to look after, I don't see the male fascination with big boobs...
 

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elisera said:
For the ladies (and I suppose a few guys as well..)

HE: Can I buy you a drink?
SHE: Actually I'd rather have the money.

HE: I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours.
SHE: I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours.

HE: Hi. Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
SHE: Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice.

HE: How did you get to be so beautiful?
SHE: I must've been given your share.

HE: Will you go out with me this Saturday?
SHE: Sorry. I'm having a headache this weekend.

HE: Your face must turn a few heads.
SHE: And your face must turn a few stomachs.

HE: Go on, don't be shy. Ask me out.
SHE: Okay, get out.

HE: I think I could make you very happy.
SHE: Why? Are you leaving?

HE: What would you say if I asked you to marry me?
SHE: Nothing. I can't talk and laugh at the same time.

HE: Can I have your name?
SHE: Why? Don't you already have one?

HE: Shall we go see a movie?
SHE: I've already seen it.

HE: Where have you been all my life?
SHE: Hiding from you.

HE: Haven't I seen you some place before?
SHE: Yes. That's why I don't go there anymore.

HE: Is this seat empty?
SHE: Yes, and this one will be if you sit down.

HE: So, what do you do for a living?
SHE: I'm a female impersonator.

HE: Hey baby, what's your sign?
SHE: Do not enter.

HE: Your body is like a temple.
SHE: Sorry, there are no services today.

HE: If I could see you naked, I'd die happy.
SHE: If I saw you naked, I'd probably die laughing.

HE: Where have you been all my life?
SHE: Where I'll be the rest of your life - in your wildest dreams.

Will have to remember some of these for future use :) Lots better than the plain old "Sorry I have a boyfriend"...
lol funny stuff :worthy: see you are 1 hard babe to crack

ps nice legs what time they open:sex:
 

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Bugz said:
How simple minded are you?

On a note about the 38dd, my gf has one size below Jordens and i hate it immensely. Having every single guy who goes past just looking straight down at your gf's assets is quite nervy and annoying. That said, after having such big ones to look after, I don't see the male fascination with big boobs...

why not just be proud of you got a gf ppl wanna look at?
 

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elisera said:
HE: Haven't I seen you some place before?

omg, that guy was trying to chat me up. im so bloody dense. but i was reading at the time and heaven help the person that distracts me from my book.
i looked up and said "i dont recognise you" and carried on reading. :mad:
 

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She: <insert random cheesy openingline>
Me: Sodd off, cant you see im drinking here
 

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Naetha said:
Well, imo once a cheater always a cheater. Never try and have a long term relationship with someone that has different ideas about cheating to you, cos that ain't going to work.

Also, most of the people whose relationships I've had a hand in splitting up have been gamers whose girlfriends wanted them to stop playing games to be with them. Not being funny, but if you enjoy playing computer games a lot, then thats what you do. (obviously if you're doing it to unhealthy levels, then you might need to rethink your life a bit) If a girl wants you to give up your games, then you should ask her to give up her soaps or her mobile phone as well.

I'm too damn opinionated today, apologies.

Agreed :)

I wouldn't worry about sounding opinionated Naetha hon, in my opinion the best advice is the honest kind.
 

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well on the lines of sharing the costs etc of nights out etc, me and the gf always, if drinking etc just take it in turns to buy rounds, or if one of us asks the other if they want to go cinema etc then the one who asks usually pays, altho i have a habit of if she pays, finding a way of paying her back hehe.
 

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Open a joint account before ordering the first round of drinks on your first date.

Problem solved

:p
 

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Lamp said:
Open a joint account before ordering the first round of drinks on your first date.

Problem solved

:p

Never *ever* EVER have joint finances.

Been with my hubby for 6 years, been married for two years (was our wedding anniversary yesterday - we both forgot lol!) and we've never had our finances linked at all, which has been great because my credit history is squeaky clean while his is a bit of a mess. It just means that I can refinance all of his loans and get his CCJs paid off more easily ;)

There's no reason to have joint finances unless you really don't trust who you're with, in which case, you don't want to be going out with them do you?!
 

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Naetha said:
Never *ever* EVER have joint finances.

Been with my hubby for 6 years, been married for two years (was our wedding anniversary yesterday - we both forgot lol!) and we've never had our finances linked at all, which has been great because my credit history is squeaky clean while his is a bit of a mess. It just means that I can refinance all of his loans and get his CCJs paid off more easily ;)

There's no reason to have joint finances unless you really don't trust who you're with, in which case, you don't want to be going out with them do you?!

OMG the first ever thing I disagree with you about Naetha!

My boyfriend and I have just bought our first house together and I have to say joint finances for us are a must! It makes managing our budgets so much easier. We still have our separate credit cards which we can then use if there is something "secret" we want to buy like b'day presents etc but personally I don't see having joint accounts as not trusting the person you are with - in fact I would see it as the complete opposite!

I trust my bf explicitly, especially with our money. We both spend what we want when we want (within reason) and any large purchases we both ok first.

I can see why it might be slightly different if like you say there are credit history issues etc but in most cases I don't see what the problem would be if you trust the person not to go spending all your money then why not?!
 

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elisera said:
OMG the first ever thing I disagree with you about Naetha!

My boyfriend and I have just bought our first house together and I have to say joint finances for us are a must! It makes managing our budgets so much easier. We still have our separate credit cards which we can then use if there is something "secret" we want to buy like b'day presents etc but personally I don't see having joint accounts as not trusting the person you are with - in fact I would see it as the complete opposite!

I trust my bf explicitly, especially with our money. We both spend what we want when we want (within reason) and any large purchases we both ok first.

I can see why it might be slightly different if like you say there are credit history issues etc but in most cases I don't see what the problem would be if you trust the person not to go spending all your money then why not?!


There's no real need to have joint accounts other than for budgeting purposes, but then likewise if you work out all your outgoings, and direct debits then its easy enough to divide them so they're appropriate for each person, then there's no need to budget so tightly. It means that we're both in charge of our own cash flow, there's no recrimination over spending (blah blah how could you spend £40 on a computer game? Now the DD for the car insurance will bounce etc etc).

I think joint accounts are good if you really need to control and budget (i.e. if one person has a tendency to spend more than they've got then putting their money in a joint account may make them less inclined to do this), but otherwise its best to keep them seperate.

I'm just going from my personal experience, where we had to spend £500 to get my husband's ex's name taken off the mortgage (that was in joint name), and also she's been lumbered with poor credit rating from the tenants we had renting the attic who ran up countless CCJs then ran off owing 6 months rent.

If you keep your money to yourself (and I mean this in a technnical sense, not in a stingy sense) then you know exactly whats going on with it, and there's less likely to be any problems. At the end of the day its all down to personal preference, and I guess some people like the financial security of a joint account.
 

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Naetha said:
There's no real need to have joint accounts other than for budgeting purposes, but then likewise if you work out all your outgoings, and direct debits then its easy enough to divide them so they're appropriate for each person, then there's no need to budget so tightly. It means that we're both in charge of our own cash flow, there's no recrimination over spending (blah blah how could you spend £40 on a computer game? Now the DD for the car insurance will bounce etc etc).

I guess like you say it all comes down to individual circumstances. I definitely wouldn't say we budget tightly, we just find it alot easier to only have to look in one place to see how much money we have. And there is definitely no thoughts of recrimination as the way we look at it is we both work hard for our money so we can do with it as we wish.

Naetha said:
I think joint accounts are good if you really need to control and budget (i.e. if one person has a tendency to spend more than they've got then putting their money in a joint account may make them less inclined to do this), but otherwise its best to keep them seperate.

Our spending habits haven't changed at all since we merged our accounts (if anything I spend a bit more cuz I am more comfortable with our finances now)

Naetha said:
At the end of the day its all down to personal preference

Agreed and I think we should leave it at that :cheers:
 

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My GF pays for lots of stuff, I don't mind. I pay for more but I earn more than her, she has payed for meals/drinks etc. I don't buy into the whole men should pay for everything shit, saying that I'll take her out and spend whatever or i'll buy her random gifts, im not tight at all but I also don't think that just because she was born with a vagina I need to pay for everything.
 

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Naetha said:
You're welcome to them - 38 DD is a bitch when you're trying to run for a bus!

sorry but that actully made me laugh cos i seen ladies with big b***bs run after the bus and having problem cos they get their head punch bit big b**bs it just create a funny image in my head sry :)... well harsh to let some down like that and yes u r right i would never start a convo like that unless i knew the person very well and they knew it was a joke sorta thing :)
 

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Gamah said:
My GF pays for lots of stuff, I don't mind. I pay for more but I earn more than her, she has payed for meals/drinks etc. I don't buy into the whole men should pay for everything shit, saying that I'll take her out and spend whatever or i'll buy her random gifts, im not tight at all but I also don't think that just because she was born with a vagina I need to pay for everything.

If you took me out would you buy me dinner? or SoS away and leave me to pay the bill?
 

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Gamah said:
My GF pays for lots of stuff, I don't mind. I pay for more but I earn more than her, she has payed for meals/drinks etc. I don't buy into the whole men should pay for everything shit, saying that I'll take her out and spend whatever or i'll buy her random gifts, im not tight at all but I also don't think that just because she was born with a vagina I need to pay for everything.

Errrr, ermmm, Gamah...

:p
 

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elisera said:
In my experience alot of girls feel uncomfortable with guys paying all the time as it makes them feel like he will expect something in return...

Thinks it depends what the girl knows about you. Basically I'm easy with paying cause I have it (atm :p ), but that's for all people I meet, I got no problems paying the pizza's when we do a collective order with friends aswell or some coffee/icecream etc. and I don't really expect things back.

At the end of the day it all goes down to personality. You can behave so perfectly and still don't really get to chat with some person or you can behave like a fool and somebody else likes it. It's the same as with looks tbh. I just can't stand people - be it girls or boys - who think they're gods gift to mankind and show it around.
 

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Bahumat said:
If you took me out would you buy me dinner? or SoS away and leave me to pay the bill?

Running the three strike rule, £87 is the key milestone on "plough-through-certainty".

This has been proven by trial and error.

Don't ever bother spending more than this, that would be fruitless.

Please see the scientific chart attached.
 

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Bugz

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eggy said:
Running the three strike rule, £87 is the key milestone on "plough-through-certainty".

This has been proven by trial and error.

Don't ever bother spending more than this, that would be fruitless.

Please see the scientific chart attached.

I'm pretty sure spiking a drink costs less than that :m00:
 

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