Ways to turn men down

[Kathal]

Kathal - apologies but it sounded like the comments were directed at me directly.

Fair enough. I just knew a few of those girls and I was pissed every time they had fun on some guy’s expense when he approached them. They "dismiss" the guys nicely now.
I HATE arrogant ppl and ppl that think they are better than others. Good looking ppl (like me) are NOT better than others.

One thing I would say though is - remember it was only a joke!

Sadly its not out there. I live in Copenhagen and most of the girls here are acting like morons.
Girls from other parts of Denmark are really sweet compared to the chicks from Copenhagen.

I agree that alot of the time the guy approaches the girl but you also have to rememebr that some guys just won't take no for an answer so sometimes you have to be blunt and direct like that to get through to them!

Dismiss him nicely and if he don’t get it then tell him to leave you alone nicely. If that doesn’t work they feel free to say whatever you want.

 

[Hansmoleman]

Im confused

beaten to it :touch:

 

[Eeben]

Girls from other parts of Denmark are really sweet compared to the chicks from Copenhagen.
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aye those girls can be some real bitches! but then i just turn on my sønderjysk accent an they are all omg how hot!!

 

[Kathal]

Well, sorry, but that's complete crap.

Maybe it's true in your experience, but not in mine.

Ok, mr 0.0001%
Guess you let the girls pay for dinner, let them hold the door for you etc?
Or in the case you are a girl, you pay for dinner and hold the door for the guys?
And in case you are gay, then nm.

aye those girls can be some real bitches! but then i just turn on my sønderjysk accent an they are all omg how hot!!

I'm fucking moving to Jutland

 

[Spis]

Sadly its not out there. I live in Copenhagen and most of the girls here are acting like morons.
Girls from other parts of Denmark are really sweet compared to the chicks from Copenhagen.

Aalborg 4 teh win.. Though there are still some biatches here.. You can reckon them on the 10 inch makeup mostly though

 

[elisera]

Guess you let the girls pay for dinner, let them hold the door for you etc?
Or in the case you are a girl, you pay for dinner and hold the door for the guys?

None of that is in any way related to who approaches who!!

 

[Lamp]

There's no magic formula or never-fails chat up line.

People are different and they behave differently are are receptive to different stimuli and impulses depending on time, place, atmosphere, emotive state, etc etc etc

You can stereotype to a degree (eg. all men want as much sex as they can as often as they can all the time), but usually, if you're sociable, and look like you're enjoying yourself without acting like a tit or trying to be someone that you're clearly not, oh and you don't smell, are reasonably presentable, etc, and don't talk complete shite, and aren't shit-faced or smacked out on chemicals, then you're more likely to pull if you're relaxed than if you're busting veins to get a shag.

Its the old truism of "if you go out looking for it you don't get it" Saturday night down the local disco type thingy.

 

[elisera]

There's no magic formula or never-fails chat up line.

People are different and they behave differently are are receptive to different stimuli and impulses depending on time, place, atmosphere, emotive state, etc etc etc

You can stereotype to a degree (eg. all men want as much sex as they can as often as they can all the time), but usually, if you're sociable, and look like you're enjoying yourself without acting like a tit or trying to be someone that you're clearly not, oh and you don't smell, are reasonably presentable, etc, and don't talk complete shite, and aren't shit-faced or smacked out on chemicals, then you're more likely to pull if you're relaxed than if you're busting veins to get a shag.

Its the old truism of "if you go out looking for it you don't get it" Saturday night down the local disco type thingy.

"You must spread some reputation around before giving it to Lamp again."

So true

 

[Coldbeard]

mmm, boobtalk!

 

[Spis]

There's no magic formula or never-fails chat up line.

People are different and they behave differently are are receptive to different stimuli and impulses depending on time, place, atmosphere, emotive state, etc etc etc

You can stereotype to a degree (eg. all men want as much sex as they can as often as they can all the time), but usually, if you're sociable, and look like you're enjoying yourself without acting like a tit or trying to be someone that you're clearly not, oh and you don't smell, are reasonably presentable, etc, and don't talk complete shite, and aren't shit-faced or smacked out on chemicals, then you're more likely to pull if you're relaxed than if you're busting veins to get a shag.

Its the old truism of "if you go out looking for it you don't get it" Saturday night down the local disco type thingy.

Cant belive it was you posting "BOUNCING BOOBIES" on last page Wish i could draw back the rep, for making sense all of sudden

 

[Kathal]

None of that is in any way related to who approaches who!!

I know, BUT it’s kinda the same. When it comes to dating etc there are just some things guys are supposed to do.

Cant belive it was you posting "BOUNCING BOOBIES" on last page Wish i could draw back the rep, for making sense all of sudden

lol

 

[elisera]

I know, BUT it’s kinda the same. When it comes to dating etc there are just some things guys are supposed to do.

Couldn't disagree more!

What would you class as "guy things" then?


I suppose you would also say that there are some things women are supposed to do like housework and staying at home to raise the kids etc...

 

[Saggy]

I know, BUT it’s kinda the same. When it comes to dating etc there are just some things guys are supposed to do.

If the girl expects you to do that stuff make sure you ask her to clean up your place, cook for you etc

[edit] elisera was faster ;<[/edit]

 

[Spis]

I suppose you would also say that there are some things women are supposed to do like housework and staying at home to raise the kids etc...

Cook dinner !

 

[Eeben]

Couldn't disagree more!

What would you class as "guy things" then?

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paying for food an drinks when your out?

 

[elisera]

paying for food an drinks when your out?

Why should that be a guy thing?

 

[Naetha]

Couldn't disagree more!

What would you class as "guy things" then?


I suppose you would also say that there are some things women are supposed to do like housework and staying at home to raise the kids etc...

Ding Ding! Round two!

I think once people stop trying to conform to the social stereotypes of man must make first move, man must buy drink, woman must sit and look pretty etc etc people will start getting on a lot more, and have a lot fewer meaningless relationships. Obviously this has to be true on both sides, or it all goes tits up

Oops, there I go with the boobies again - lets get this back on topic!

Edit for those that are interested, I met my husband over the t'internet, when we met up, he bought the first round, I bought the second etc. Nowadays, he cooks, I wash up (due to personal aptitude in each sector) and we both tidy up

At the end of the day, that bollocks about men being from mars and women from venus etc is all a load of crap - everyone's human, just treat them like they have a personality. If they don't respond to that, they're not worth bothering with.

 

[Spis]

Why should that be a guy thing?

You mean it isnt? WTF, some girls are gonna pay me back!

 

[Lamp]

Guy things ?

Well I open doors, and give up seats - that kind of thing. I don't do it to pull. I do it cos thats what I've been told is the gentlemanly thing to do.

If someone finds that offensive, then I'm not interested in them.

If I open a door for a woman, or allow her out of a lift first, I'm not making any statement other than one of courtesy, respect, manners, etc

There aren't any rules you should do. Offer to pay etc but these days anything goes. It really doesn't matter as long as these things don't get in the way of both of you having a good time.

(Wonder if this'll be bigger than the shaving thread ?!?!)

 

[elisera]

You mean it isnt? WTF, some girls are gonna pay me back!

Whats wrnog with splitting the bill (if you really don't know each other that well) or taking it in turns to pay (if you are going on numerous dates/in a steady relationship)?

I don't think either party should feel like they HAVE to pay every time.

 

[Lamp]

Whats wrnog with splitting the bill (if you really don't know each other that well) or taking it in turns to pay (if you are going on numerous dates/in a steady relationship)?

I don't think either party should feel like they HAVE to pay every time.

Damn right.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to elisera again.

 

[Eeben]

At the end of the day, that bollocks about men being from mars and women from venus etc is all a load of crap - .

Because men is from the stoneage an women are from venus

 

[elisera]

Guy things ?

Well I open doors, and give up seats - that kind of thing. I don't do it to pull. I do it cos thats what I've been told is the gentlemanly thing to do.

If someone finds that offensive, then I'm not interested in them.

If I open a door for a woman, or allow her out of a lift first, I'm not making any statement other than one of courtesy, respect, manners, etc

There aren't any rules you should do. Offer to pay etc but these days anything goes. It really doesn't matter as long as these things don't get in the way of both of you having a good time.

I think that is one of the most important points Lamp - It all depends on your reasoning behind it.

In my opinion there is a big difference between someone opening doors etc out of respect for the other person and being gentlemanly and opening the door because "I AM MAN, YOU WOMAN! MY JOB TO OPEN DOORS, YOU WALK THROUGH AND LOOK PRETTY!"

I mean in your situation you would not take offence to the girl offering to pay whereas it sounds like some people would see that as their manhood being undermined...

 

[Kathal]

Couldn't disagree more!

What would you class as "guy things" then?


I suppose you would also say that there are some things women are supposed to do like housework and staying at home to raise the kids etc...

Not at all. But if . . .
. . . I invite 10 girls out and let them know that I expect THEM to pay for dinner; 10 out of 10 will be pissed.
. . . I invite 10 girls out and let them know that I expect us to share the bill; about 8 out of 10 will be pissed.
. . . I'm invited out by 10 girls and let them know that I expect THEM to pay for dinner; about 7 out of 10 will be pissed.
. . . I'm invited out by 10 girls and let them know that I expect THEM to pay for dinner; about half of them will be pissed.

Raising kids and housework should be 50/50 imo.

Why should that be a guy thing?

It just is.

 

[Eeben]

I mean in your situation you would not take offence to the girl offering to pay whereas it sounds like some people would see that as their manhood being undermined...

has nothing to do with my manhood being undermined its just something i like to do when im out with a girl dont ask me why !!

 

[elisera]

Edit for those that are interested, I met my husband over the t'internet, when we met up, he bought the first round, I bought the second etc. Nowadays, he cooks, I wash up (due to personal aptitude in each sector) and we both tidy up

At the end of the day, that bollocks about men being from mars and women from venus etc is all a load of crap - everyone's human, just treat them like they have a personality. If they don't respond to that, they're not worth bothering with.

You must spread some reputation around before giving it to Naetha again.

We work similarly in our house, I do the cooking, washing and ironing and my bf does the dishes, hoovering and general tidying just cuz we both have dislikes for certain aspects of housework!

 

[Spis]

Whats wrnog with splitting the bill (if you really don't know each other that well) or taking it in turns to pay (if you are going on numerous dates/in a steady relationship)?

I don't think either party should feel like they HAVE to pay every time.

Nothing wrong with it, thats why i do it the post was ment because i think its obvious you dont have to pay everytime

Totally on-topic, my gf actually made contact with me in a club.. So the chat-up lines aint for guys only, imo

 

[elisera]

Not at all. But if . . .
. . . I invite 10 girls out and let them know that I expect THEM to pay for dinner; 10 out of 10 will be pissed.
. . . I invite 10 girls out and let them know that I expect us to share the bill; about 8 out of 10 will be pissed.
. . . I'm invited out by 10 girls and let them know that I expect THEM to pay for dinner; about 7 out of 10 will be pissed.
. . . I'm invited out by 10 girls and let them know that I expect THEM to pay for dinner; about half of them will be pissed.

Raising kids and housework should be 50/50 imo.

It just is.

I guess things must be different in Copenhagen...

 

[elisera]

has nothing to do with my manhood being undermined its just something i like to do when im out with a girl dont ask me why !!

But would you take offence if she offered to pay?

 

[Spis]

But would you take offence if she offered to pay?

Honestly now, how often does that happen?