Advice Noisey neighbours

[Edmond]

I have noisey neighbours, not the ones that play music to all hours or have the TV turned up too loud.

These 2 argue pretty much every night. He is disabled (wheelchair bound) and goes off 3 days a week with a charity bus, whilst his wife has her boyfriend round when he's not there

She screams and shouts at him all night and he shouts back at her. I feel there is some kind of domestic abuse, albeit verbal,(mental) not physical. But I'm worried that it may end up going down that road. I don't speak to them, never have in the 21 yrs I've lived next door to them, I don't think they speak to anyone in the road tbh

My problem is, do I contact the social services and let them know what's going on, he has a nurse come every morning to tend to him, not sure if he has said anything to her but there was a police visit a few months back on a Sunday morning.

People I have spoken to say stay out of it, but if something happens, like she starts hitting him and I get asked if I ever hear anything, and I say yes, are they going to say " why didn't you tell someone"

What say you FH, cheers

 

[Tom]

"I don't speak to them, never have in the 21 yrs I've lived next door to them"

Well there's part of the problem tbh. I find that neighbours who I'm kind and polite to, who I help out when I can, cause me absolutely no trouble whatsoever.

 

[Lamp]

Noisy neighbours can make your life hell. You have to open dialogue with them. I would try speaking to them, then record the noise levels, make a diary so you have evidence, then you can seek professional advice from the police / management agency / citizens advice / lawyer / local council / social services. Bottom line: live with it, or move. Almost by definition, noisy neighbours are inconsiderate, and are likely to respond unreasonably / aggressively. I feel your pain. Had them in my old flat. I moved away in the end.

 

[Moriath]

call environmental health every time they start a loud tirade

 

[Moriath]

"I don't speak to them, never have in the 21 yrs I've lived next door to them"

Well there's part of the problem tbh. I find that neighbours who I'm kind and polite to, who I help out when I can, cause me absolutely no trouble whatsoever.

i dont think being nice to neighbours makes their domestic issues better or worse ... you just have been lucky

 

[TdC]

throw bricks at their house and dance, nekkid, in the street to the sweet sound of their screams of fear!!!

 

[old.Tohtori]

Everyone seeming to miss the point here, which isn't dealing with noisy neighbours in general, but if Eddie should get involved in a domestic(possibly violent) dispute.

On that note; people saying "stay out of it" are rather ironically getting involved in it

I'd personally stay out as long as the arguments sounded verbal and then f it got out of hand just ring the police, although "out of hand" is a bit of a subjective matter.

 

[Punishment]

I was delivering a dining table to a house today and myself and another guy i was delivering with had to prop it up on a low wall to remove the legs and some bloke comes out of the next door house saying " I need you to remove that table from our ajoining wall, i asked him " Seriously have you nothing better to do, leave me alone" he shambled off. Some people have far too much time to be asswipes.

I would say your best bet is to confront them and say the noise levels at night are unnacceptbale and to sort it or there will be action taken

 

[Edmond]

Thanks for the advice..just to clear things up, they are not noisey to the point that it ruins my evening, my concern is for his well being, if I didn't care I'd let them get on with it as its not bothering me directly, it doesn't make my life a living hell.

As for talking to them, it would be a case of knocking on the door and saying " so....hi....nice weather were having" as they never come outside, as I said before, they don't talk to anyone, they're a bit odd

Toht has hit the nail on the head, if it got out of hand, would that then be too late?

 

[Kryten]

I think you should indeed speak to social services or someone along those lines, just in case. Make it clear it's not really causing you a problem but you're concerned about the welfare of the residents and detail everything you can for them.
Then if something happens, you have a clear conscience in that you did something, no matter how small, to raise awareness with the right authorities.

 

[opticle]

See if you can have a word with the nurse before she goes in some time? Often they have better access to the pathways for social services, etc. It's still not easy, but if they're aware it can help sometimes.

 

[DaGaffer]

Tell Social Services (or as Opticle says above, button hole the nurse). Complaining about noise is one thing (its a double-edged sword dealing with the environmental health people), but if you're concerned, call them. Worst thing that can happen is you waste a social worker's time for a few hours and maybe get these neighbours giving you the evil eye, but as you don't speak to them anyway, it hardly matters and you have a clear conscience.

 

[Edmond]

I have been trying to catch the nurse, I can't go up to her when she is outside the house, and it may look odd if I follow her or try to flag her down at the end of the rd, but yes I need to speak to the nurse, as she may already be aware of things

 

[Bahumat]

Put a letter through their door saying when they argue really loud it causes the rain to go sideways in the letter box.

Give it two weeks and then pour water through their letter box every time they start shouting.

 

[Bahumat]

I have been trying to catch the nurse, I can't go up to her when she is outside the house, and it may look odd if I follow her or try to flag her down at the end of the rd, but yes I need to speak to the nurse, as she may already be aware of things

Put a letter on her windscreen so when she goes to leave, she knows to park round the corner for you?

Are the neighbours the Klopeks?

 

[Gwadien]

http://www.itv.com/jeremykyle/

'Now, this is Ed, their neighbour..'

 

[Edmond]

Are the neighbours the Klopeks?

Hellooooooo!!

 

[Bahumat]

Hellooooooo!!

I want my skulls!

 

[russell]

Speak to the nurse just to ask her if she is aware of the daily spats. Then you have made an expert carer aware of tge situation. You should do something. You hear more than anyone else as you are attached to the house. You cantt stand by and do nothing. Contact social services via email to raise your concerns to his well veing?

 

[Scouse]

See if you can have a word with the nurse before she goes in some time?

This.

Social services won't be able to do much. There's no help services for adult abuse.

I have been trying to catch the nurse, I can't go up to her when she is outside the house, and it may look odd if I follow her or try to flag her down at the end of the rd, but yes I need to speak to the nurse, as she may already be aware of things

Leave a note on her car window with your phone number and a message asking her to either drop in when she can or give you a ring if she doesn't mind...?

 

[Gwadien]

You should cut their grass, it'll fix evveeeryyytthhiinnggg

 

[Tom]

i dont think being nice to neighbours makes their domestic issues better or worse ... you just have been lucky

If they know and like you, they might murder each other in peace and quiet.

 

[rynnor]

Stay out of it? If you say the noise doesnt bother you I would just stay out of it - they'll resolve it eventually.

People saying about contacting social services are living in a dreamland.

 

[ECA]

Just play really loud porn when they start arguing.

 

[Gwadien]

Stay out of it? If you say the noise doesnt bother you I would just stay out of it - they'll resolve it eventually.

People saying about contacting social services are living in a dreamland.

But what if she kills him, then Ed's on the news, 'So mr cuntbag, why didn't you report this abuse to the social services?'

'Cos Rynnor told me not to'

Better safe than sorry I always say.

PS. Cut their grass.

 

[Edmond]

How did you know my surname was Cuntbag??

 

[Nate]

Are you worried about his well being? If not, as you said it doesn't cause you upset then there's not a lot of reason to get invoved. If so, ring social services. The nurse could be useless. So could social services for that matter.

Also, are you more worried about what other people might think of you? (total cuntyness taking things out of context and all that on my behalf here )

People I have spoken to say stay out of it, but if something happens, like she starts hitting him and I get asked if I ever hear anything, and I say yes, are they going to say " why didn't you tell someone"

 

[rynnor]

But what if she kills him, then Ed's on the news, 'So mr cuntbag, why didn't you report this abuse to the social services?'

If all he hears is people shouting at each other then welcome to humanity tbh.

If he actually has any evidence of anything else going on then fine though unless one side is willing to state they are being abused then nothing can be done.

You cant be responsible for other peoples lives tbh - complain about the noise but beyond that do not go.

 

[Gwadien]

If all he hears is people shouting at each other then welcome to humanity tbh.

If he actually has any evidence of anything else going on then fine though unless one side is willing to state they are being abused then nothing can be done.

You cant be responsible for other peoples lives tbh - complain about the noise but beyond that do not go.

But as mentioned before, the nurse will know how to approach it, so she could potientally have evidence of abuse whereas before it was because he fell out of bed or something

 

[Scouse]

Have a word with the nurse and if you're really worried have a word with social services.

Then leave it at that full in the knowledge that you're a caring human being.