Need her, want her :(

[Yaemon]

Cba to read everything but I have a few advices :

1. Let her come to you. By calling her and sending her sms you only make it worse.

2. Be honest. If you love her and she knows it, and still plays with your feelings she isn't in love with you which leads to my next point.

3. Break up. It takes two to tango if you know what i mean. Your only option at this point is to brake up with her, both as a "boyfriend" and as a friend aswell. I know this might sound a bit harsh but try to stay friends with someone who you still have feelings for while she dates other guys etc. It will only hurt more.


During this period she might call you and want you back etc.. just dont give in too easy, take your time and remember why it went wrong the last time and how she treated you etc.. still you are 15 years old and at that stage you seldom have long relationships. It's a time for experimenting and finding out what you really like.

 

[Nugusta]

Blue eyes...blond hair, someone that is intrested in me someone that can keep me happy...oh wait

 

[Raven]

leave it over the summer, you will feel better after that, when you get back to school say hi how was your summer and just talk like friends after that, maybe see how you feel then. I know how you feel now but you may not after 6 weeks (or however long you lazy students get now ) go out have fun with friends etc, you dont know you may meet someone else in your time off

 

[Nugusta]

leave it over the summer, you will feel better after that, when you get back to school say hi how was your summer and just talk like friends after that, maybe see how you feel then. I know how you feel now but you may not after 6 weeks (or however long you lazy students get now ) go out have fun with friends etc, you dont know you may meet someone else in your time off

Even if i did, id compare her to jess now wouldnt i? Thats not fair on the person i might meet and it feels like no one could compare to her anyway.
But yeh, i will relax abit...ill talk to her every now and then and not pressure her, she will either want me back or just forget me. Hope she wants me tho

 

[Jugvayne]

http://www.intellectualwhores.com tbh

 

[Ala]

http://www.intellectualwhores.com tbh

I'd just like to say.....

Great example of a guy who's been rejected so many times he just had to make a website about it. LOL. QQ more tbh.

~hugs~ Nug

 

[Chilly]

Thats a bit crap Nugusta, iv had similar experiences but we were both older and it was slightly more serious but the result was exactly the same, she dumped me for wotever reason got a new BF and left me feeling like a piece of shit.

Best thing i did was go to prague with abotu 20 mates get completly wankered for about 1 week then spend the whole summer boozing and getting high (perhaps you shouldt drink/smoke as much as me at 15 but its still an option!), the cure wasnt in the beer or the weed itself, it was in the other people i was doing it with.

As everyone keeps saying, DO something, anyhting that has nothing to do with her.

I bet you think about her before you go to sleep and when you wake up and it really fucks you off you cant think of anyhting else, and every little thing reminds you of her?

Get rid of all her stuff, pictures wotever, shove em in a shoebox or just burn em (i like burning things!!) delete chat logs/emails it only leads to wot ifs and you get even more depressed.

Find something to do, get a new bitch wotever.

Trust me, and everyone else when we say you WILL feel better and it WONT be this bad. Its just a hard time mate, we all go through it at some point, at least your young youl forget about it faster than i did i expect.

And join me and and all the men in here in a corus of "FUCKING WOMEN!!"




/edit oh and Ala, shush you girls ahve no idea the torture you put us through!

Actually...giving birth is quite accuriate, but at least it only lasts a few hours.

 

[Asha]

Sorry to hear she broke your heart, but really look at her actions recently before you let her do it again and again. If you have any self-respect you'll not contact her. You won't win her back at all by letting her jerk your chain when she is bored.

The truth is kinda harsh but girls at that age suddenly realise they have this power over boys. Maybe they knew they had it before but they didn't see how much. Suddenly she can make boys jump through all these hoops and even get them to fuck over their best mate just to hold her hand. Some girls put that power to good use, and some don't. This one is using you, and badly.

Your best bet is to NOT talk to her for a long time, maybe the whole summer. Ignore any msg she sends you. Do not respond at all costs! If she calls or comes up to you in person, don't react, act bored - even if it's killing you inside. She is just testing you to see if you'll still react, see if she still has power to make you jump when she calls. Not all girls are like that, but this one seems to be. She needs attention from as many people as she can get it from. Maybe she will grow out of it someday, but not today

And not all girls are like that, but at 14, many are!

 

[Aoami]

By all means you can vibe with this girl, but just don't mug yourself, thats all, don't mug yourself.

 

[Nugusta]

Thats a bit crap Nugusta, iv had similar experiences but we were both older and it was slightly more serious but the result was exactly the same, she dumped me for wotever reason got a new BF and left me feeling like a piece of shit.

Best thing i did was go to prague with abotu 20 mates get completly wankered for about 1 week then spend the whole summer boozing and getting high (perhaps you shouldt drink/smoke as much as me at 15 but its still an option!), the cure wasnt in the beer or the weed itself, it was in the other people i was doing it with.

As everyone keeps saying, DO something, anyhting that has nothing to do with her.

I bet you think about her before you go to sleep and when you wake up and it really fucks you off you cant think of anyhting else, and every little thing reminds you of her?

Get rid of all her stuff, pictures wotever, shove em in a shoebox or just burn em (i like burning things!!) delete chat logs/emails it only leads to wot ifs and you get even more depressed.

Find something to do, get a new bitch wotever.

Trust me, and everyone else when we say you WILL feel better and it WONT be this bad. Its just a hard time mate, we all go through it at some point, at least your young youl forget about it faster than i did i expect.

And join me and and all the men in here in a corus of "FUCKING WOMEN!!"




/edit oh and Ala, shush you girls ahve no idea the torture you put us through!

Actually...giving birth is quite accuriate, but at least it only lasts a few hours.

OMG, what are you ?

 

[Mimen]

Well Chilly is right, the best thing to do is try and forget about it spending time with other important ppl in your life ( is going on the piss with your mates ). There is always a time when the shit hits the fan.

Some women will play guys like guitars, warping them to their own likings to then walk away with the next prat ( my current brother in law comes to mind ). He had been with my wifes sister for nearly 6 years ( they are bothe my age , 27) then she give him the " i think we got together to young blablabla " and fucked off leaving my now ex bro in law devastated, but he managed to get over it.

The devastation will pass, live moves on, things and ppl change. Its hard at the time, but nobody said life is easy....

/salute

 

[Nugusta]

Sorry to hear she broke your heart, but really look at her actions recently before you let her do it again and again. If you have any self-respect you'll not contact her. You won't win her back at all by letting her jerk your chain when she is bored.

Im not going to let her do it again, trust me. She isnt worth it and i can accept that now. I know i wont win her back by putting the effort in to see her now.

The truth is kinda harsh but girls at that age suddenly realise they have this power over boys. Maybe they knew they had it before but they didn't see how much. Suddenly she can make boys jump through all these hoops and even get them to fuck over their best mate just to hold her hand. Some girls put that power to good use, and some don't. This one is using you, and badly.

I loved her ofcourse she had power over me. I would have done anything for a kiss or a hug. She wanted power over more lads i knew that anyway she makes it to obvious, ill ask my friend not to talk to her he says hes not with her but she asked him to be he was my closest friend and he alone knew the pain i was going through during the year. If i was facing ---> that way he'd know thats the direction jess is in. She used to put it to good use, to love me back to make me want her more. Now shes just abusing my love for her.

Your best bet is to NOT talk to her for a long time, maybe the whole summer. Ignore any msg she sends you. Do not respond at all costs! If she calls or comes up to you in person, don't react, act bored - even if it's killing you inside. She is just testing you to see if you'll still react, see if she still has power to make you jump when she calls. Not all girls are like that, but this one seems to be. She needs attention from as many people as she can get it from. Maybe she will grow out of it someday, but not today

If she comes to me, I will talk to her. I cant help caring about her but I can help loving her, it will fade. But when we was together i loved it. Like a ripple in the water it starts off small and it grew (best way to describe how i felt for her during the whole time) but she felt the ripple hit land and it kept going back and forth untill finally it stopped...If she says Hi, i wont be able to stop myself smiling at her. Ive seen worse girls, but I dont try and be with them. She loved me from the start and i never knew what she was like before. But now alot of people from my school will avoid being with her. (Everyone knew how much I loved her even if they didnt know me, could always hear people saying were a cute couple) I've already been told that she messed me about, people have been adding me on MSN and saying they feel sorry for me and she was out of order. But i dont want people to avoid her, she doesnt deserve it. She loved me - she went off me, I only asked for a reason and for that im told im worth less then shit.

And not all girls are like that, but at 14, many are!

I understood that anyway and I avoid these people, I gave up alot of beautiful girls for her, but they didnt have her personality it wouldnt have lasted a few days without it. She is smart for her age, thats why I love her. Shes got an amazing personality towards the person she loves AND the people she thinks are fit...I just never saw that before now. She was never worth what I had to offer her, but she took it all anyway. There are times I dont regret, it was fun and romantic and sweet...but most of the time I just wasnt enough for her.

Thanks for the help

 

[Nugusta]

Well Chilly is right, the best thing to do is try and forget about it spending time with other important ppl in your life ( is going on the piss with your mates ). There is always a time when the shit hits the fan.

Some women will play guys like guitars, warping them to their own likings to then walk away with the next prat ( my current brother in law comes to mind ). He had been with my wifes sister for nearly 6 years ( they are bothe my age , 27) then she give him the " i think we got together to young blablabla " and fucked off leaving my now ex bro in law devastated, but he managed to get over it.

The devastation will pass, live moves on, things and ppl change. Its hard at the time, but nobody said life is easy....

/salute

I dont expect life to be easy I havent lived mostof it, but if she asks to be friends I expect her to be my friend One day she will see how much I loved her, and I dont want people or her to think she abused it. If there was two coins on a table, one 10p the other 1 pound. Which would you take?

Some people take only what they need. Others take everything.

 

[Sissyfoo]

When my friend was moping about his ex-gf (who he dumped) my other friend suggested to me that we get him a £20 hooker for the night to take his mind off his ex (who he had been trying to dump since 2 weeks after going out with her). Naturally my friend didn't take too kindly to this suggestion and went off in a huff to mope some more about his ex (who he had been going out with for 4 years or so) but what doesn't appeal to him may appeal to you.

Just think how sick with jealousy Jess will be when she sees you strolling down the street, arm in arm with a 50 year old, toothless, strung out crack ho! She will be positively GREEN!

It is a plan that can't go wrong (assuming you don't mind the clap/a bout of genital herpes)!

 

[Nugusta]

When my friend was moping about his ex-gf (who he dumped) my other friend suggested to me that we get him a £20 hooker for the night to take his mind off his ex (who he had been trying to dump since 2 weeks after going out with her). Naturally my friend didn't take too kindly to this suggestion and went off in a huff to mope some more about his ex (who he had been going out with for 4 years or so) but what doesn't appeal to him may appeal to you.

Just think how sick with jealousy Jess will be when she sees you strolling down the street, arm in arm with a 50 year old, toothless, strung out crack ho! She will be positively GREEN!

It is a plan that can't go wrong (assuming you don't mind the clap/a bout of genital herpes)!

Have to say you are one sick, twisted demented fool Dont think she would be jealous, she will just be surprised at how fast It would seem I had gotten over her because she knows I love her.

 

[Silverblast]

Ive been through something very similar... Since Im a very evil person, I would show her this thread's replies and reveal how much of a slut she is... I hope you get through it like I did, I cant really give any proper advice since my reactions werent the nicest , and I had the first move..

 

[Ballade.]

When my friend was moping about his ex-gf (who he dumped) my other friend suggested to me that we get him a £20 hooker for the night to take his mind off his ex (who he had been trying to dump since 2 weeks after going out with her). Naturally my friend didn't take too kindly to this suggestion and went off in a huff to mope some more about his ex (who he had been going out with for 4 years or so) but what doesn't appeal to him may appeal to you.

Just think how sick with jealousy Jess will be when she sees you strolling down the street, arm in arm with a 50 year old, toothless, strung out crack ho! She will be positively GREEN!

It is a plan that can't go wrong (assuming you don't mind the clap/a bout of genital herpes)!

Sissyfoo i want you!! I NEED YOU!! PLEASE BE MINE!!

 

[Nugusta]

Ive been through something very similar... Since Im a very evil person, I would show her this thread's replies and reveal how much of a slut she is... I hope you get through it like I did, I cant really give any proper advice since my reactions werent the nicest , and I had the first move..

Can always say what you did, I asked for help and advice

 

[Silverblast]

Well my storys that she had been flirting around with some of my mates, and I eventually got around to knowing about it. Kept my eye open for a few days and noticed how much leeway Ive been giving her. For the record I used to love her to an extreme extent, and as with you, she was on my mind 24/7. Few days later when she just pushed it over the edge, I brought it up, and told her how I felt about it, and dumped her. She kept crying etc, and she said, that if I had gone out with a single other girl, she would have went crazy, and she knows her mistake, and begged for us to be back together. I was real pissed at the time and just ignored her, and ~2 days after us breaking up, she was off with another guy, and now that poor guy gets dumped and shes off with the third . Im glad I took that decision and I havent looked back since. Dont know how that would help you but if it does, Im glad .

 

[Nugusta]

Well my storys that she had been flirting around with some of my mates, and I eventually got around to knowing about it. Kept my eye open for a few days and noticed how much leeway Ive been giving her. For the record I used to love her to an extreme extent, and as with you, she was on my mind 24/7. Few days later when she just pushed it over the edge, I brought it up, and told her how I felt about it, and dumped her. She kept crying etc, and she said, that if I had gone out with a single other girl, she would have went crazy, and she knows her mistake, and begged for us to be back together. I was real pissed at the time and just ignored her, and ~2 days after us breaking up, she was off with another guy, and now that poor guy gets dumped and shes off with the third . Im glad I took that decision and I havent looked back since. Dont know how that would help you but if it does, Im glad .

Just proves she didnt care for you as much as she once did, like jess once with me. But obviously "im only 15" what do I know? Im to young to have an opinion even if it creates technology to open worm holes

 

[Sissyfoo]

Have to say you are one sick, twisted demented fool Dont think she would be jealous, she will just be surprised at how fast It would seem I had gotten over her because she knows I love her.

Yes, yes...my wisdom is usually greeted with a certain amount of septic-jism but what you must realise is that its all about MIND GAMES, baby! You gotta make her think that you have had an epiphany and that you're all, like, "woteva, Jess, I got me a new bitch now and she totally puts out!".

She is far less likely to come back to you if she sees that you are still moping around and pining for her. Dunno why but that is the way of things.

Sissyfoo i want you!! I NEED YOU!! PLEASE BE MINE!!

Sorry, but I'm off the market for now. I'm still riddled with STDs from my last string of breakups.

 

[Silverblast]

Well if you must know, weve been together for 2 whole years, day after day talking on the phone and msn. Im very sure that she loved me, but my vague summary wont show it . It would be real nice if you dont go about concluding things..

 

[Nugusta]

It would be real nice if you dont go about concluding things..

Dont try and make it work?

 

[Mimen]

Dont try and make it work?

To try and make things work needs effort from both parties....

 

[Nugusta]

To try and make things work needs effort from both parties....

Shes online now, im ignoring her and shes managed to say:

[15:15:50] ... × ... (f: erm if u dont care y av u got thtas ur name
[15:16:12] You wont get: what?
[15:16:37] ... × ... (f: You wont get no more love from me Messed me
about too much get with my best friend then I dont care
I wont come crawlin
[15:16:47] You wont get: ahhhh
[15:17:08] ... × ... (f: yep
[15:18:28] ... × ... (f: so..?
[15:18:39] You wont get: so what
[15:18:57] ... × ... (f: so if u dont care y is tht ur naem
[15:19:16] You wont get: ah
[15:20:39] ... × ... (f: wel cant u giv a reason?
[15:20:46] You wont get: no

Thx for advice all...I can resist talking to her now :wub:

All you can be my new gf

 

[Sissyfoo]

Chilly's always on the look out for a new piece of ass...try looking him up.

 

[Chilly]

im busy with exams atm, but if i need a one way ticket to jail id be glad to make love to a 15 year old boy....

And what did you mean Nugusta

What ARE you?

?

Oh and mate change your name to something og i dunno.. 1 word long and nothing to do with her.

 

[Nugusta]

You read my mind

 

[Nugusta]

Oh and mate change your name to something og i dunno.. 1 word long and nothing to do with her.

Done

 

[Chilly]

Ahhhh, well its always the same i was having trouble getting the bish off my mind so i a) got perma-drunk and b) purged my room of all her stuff and all pictures/letters/emails wotever.

I must add now that im nearly on the road to curing my alcoholism, it only took 2.5 years...so hope exisits!