Need her, want her :(

[Asha]

Trying to ignore her, but im the bad guy and im the one that ended it etc etc so that I could flirt...Or so everyone seems to be saying.

so.....................flirt then?
don't go around discussing it with anyone, just smile when they talk about it! 15 yo girls like the bad guy. It's much more interesting than going around protesting that you got dumped.
And stop asking after her, you're just torturing yourself and making her feel important, which she isn't really.

Is it just me or is anyone else picturing Apathy in a blonde wig trying to chat up Chilly ? ^^

 

[Chilly]

so.....................flirt then?
don't go around discussing it with anyone, just smile when they talk about it! 15 yo girls like the bad guy. It's much more interesting than going around protesting that you got dumped.
And stop asking after her, you're just torturing yourself and making her feel important, which she isn't really.

Is it just me or is anyone else picturing Apathy in a blonde wig trying to chat up Chilly ? ^^

I had nightmares!

 

[Gargo]

Love hurts, it really does. I've just come out of a relationship last sunday and let me tell you that lack of appetite and being restless is pretty normal. I manage to sleep a few hours every night and eat at most, 1 meal a day. What she done has fucked you up inside more than anyone will be able to understand. I say that because no one can understand anothers love and how strong it is, each piece of love is unique, big or small.
I'm not here to say you'll get over her, because you wont. She'll always hold that special place in your heart and you should always keep her there. She shown you a small part of what life has to offer us and you enjoyed it. Be grateful for that.
There'll be other girls that will show you more of life, more fun times. Now is probably the worst time for you to be hearing this but it had to be said.

My girlfriend gave me a direction in life for two years, gave me goals, opened me up to so many emotions which I used to hide away, helped my personality grow. There were so many things she done for me which I cannot repay.
No matter how much it hurts you just gotta move on bro.

If it helps, heres my story.. I met emmi over two years ago 'ingame' we got to know each other well and decided to meet up irl after the summer. She lives in Stockholm and I live in North wales so it was a kinda big thing meeting up. Anyway, she flew over to the UK and it was pretty much love at first sight. It was the best feeling I've experienced thus far in my life. So thats where our 'official' relationship started. We'd visit each other every 6weeks for 10 - 20 days. It was hard, but the times we spent together were more than worth the time apart. I cherished every moment.
In October 2003 we had a really rough time and almost seperated. Well we kinda did. She flew back to Stockholm, I made my way over there a few days later after managing to scrounge the money together for the flights. Turned up on her doorstep, shocked the hell out of her and her mum. The reaction was priceless heh, still smile looking back - she turned away from the door eyes bulging, laughing, almost tripped over and walked into a set of drawers while her mum was giggling - anyway. We patched things up and had some of the best few days together I can remember. The rest of the year went great. I met and was totally accepted into her family after spending chirstmas in finland with her aunts families and grandmother.
The great times continued, we'd been planning our move to umeå to study for a year when Easter 2004 arrived. Majority of things we're sorted out for the move up to Northern Sweden. Easter was to be the last time we'd see each other until late june which was gonna be a hard time. Then 8 days ago she told me she thought we should go our seperate ways because she wanted to be free instead of feeling bound to something. I was devastated, utterly. But I let her go, set her free to live her life. I mourned my loss in my room for a while then realised some of her stuff was here that she might need. So I logged back on to the net to ask her if I could send the stuff over because I wasnt sure of what her reaction would be.
She said some things about loving me, wanting me back and wanting to change how she was and try and make things work again. That sapped all my strength. And just the mere prospect of us potentially having a chance to work things out drove me off the rails. Later she appologised and said she didnt mean it, but was just scared of knowing she probably wouldnt see me again. Damage already done tho, I was an emotional wreck with so many conflicting opinions inside me. I decided the only way to sort it was to go pay a visit to her, sort things face to face because it was impossible to get straight answers over the net. (I dont really like the internet. As a means of true communication and understanding, its shit.) Didn't have to scrounge around for money this time because it was my birthday the week before.
Initially the trip was booked so I could fight to get her back but as the days went by I started to realise there was really no chance of getting her back.
I settled on it being a 'goodbye' visit after thinking long and hard during the drive and flight on friday. I wanted to spend some time with her as a friend but she said it was too soon for her. I understood that, it was perhaps too soon for me aswell but it was a nice to think we could have. I'm trying to be as, hm, unbiased as possible because she still reads these forums and has friends that do so too. So I wont go into detail about the trip.
I ended up saying my goodbye to her on saturday morning at about 7:30 am local time. It meant a lot to me that she got up so early and allowed me to say my goodbye. It hurt, hurt like fuck, my heart was racing and I was shaking. I wasnt only saying goodbye to a beautiful and caring girl that was part of my life for 2years but I was saying goodbye to to the family I had there, saying goodbye to the future I'd planned and saying goodbye to the country I love.

I'll never be over her, I'll never stop loving her either. Like she told me, every person you love will always have their own place in your heart. She will always hold a big place in mine. I think I'll probably have to ask my lungs for planning permission in the future.

Anyway mate, this kinda thing happens and it makes you a stronger person. You might be sitting there feeling lost and telling yourself it doesnt seem that easy after reading peoples advice. It's not easy. I'm still feelign lost, infact, I'm still lost. I have no idea where my life is headed now. I'll be taking each day as it comes once my exams have started and ended.

Best advice I can offer is to take something up to fill in the time and space that she used to take up inside you. Learn to play an instrument or perhaps become a fashion geek - it's quite nice actually - maybe take up a martial art, I suggest one that has spiritual roots not some karate-punk-ass-shit.

And you're only young, you have your gcse's and a-levels still to come. Then theres uni Anything can happen in that time :wub:

Forget the sorrow, just dont forget the love inside.
Live your life and smile

Edit: Typo
Btw I didnt read the 11 pages of replies so ignore most of my shit if you've already sorted this out

 

[Gargo]

I write too much.

 

[Covenant]

I write too much.

But it helps...so don't knock it

 

[Nugusta]

What Gargo said

I know your right and I keep telling myself that I will always love her, I told her that too knowing that she was about to end it. It also seems as though it was the same reason they ended it. Found from some of her lad friends at school that she did infact, like Josh but now is going off him. I loved her family too, not posh, not poor. Friendly people. There would be no other family id like to spend my time with. No other girl id want to lay with, to care for, look after and show all my love too.

Hope your okay Gargo, thanks for the advice. Good luck

Yes I am young, but its how I feel. You cant change the mind of a youth. - Dont know how many people have told me that

 

[Drummer]

That was really..........dunno Gargo. But thanks for sharing that with us.

 

[pez]

omfg this thread is sick

 

[Tilda]

Ack...if only I had known I was about to propel myself to super fame I would have taken the time to sort out my hair...and mebbe have some half-nekkid chicky babes walking around in the background to give the impression that I was some kind of stud muffin.

https://forums.freddyshouse.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=445&stc=1

Fixed!
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Tilda

 

[Tilda]

BETTER NOW SISSY?, i'd deleted it and had to re-do it totally !!!

 

[Sissyfoo]

OMG DUDE!! A BLONDE AFRO!?! :-O

You just made the list!! ~reaches for a pen~

 

[Tilda]

What list? <gulp>
It started off as a kinda blond version of Ann Widdicombs mop, but then I went a bit over the top pasting this one bit

Tilda

 

[Sissyfoo]

I'll let you off because yer sig made me laugh!!

</egomania>

 

[Tilda]

\o/
Well you saying it made me laugh so...

 

[Ala]

Trying to ignore her, but im the bad guy and im the one that ended it etc etc so that I could flirt...Or so everyone seems to be saying.

Rise above it Nug, they're just bitter and twisted 'cos they know you are de man!!
Real friends wont listen to gossip. Then again, the school yard is a rash of peer pressure. Hopefully you'll sift out the young 'uns with a touch of integrity after all of this has died down. It will die down hun, they'll find a new FOM soon. Just look at DAoC, happens all the time

 

[Chilly]

Find a weapon nugusta ,a bigwe apon. Theyr all outr to getyo u!!

 

[Calaen]

I write too much.

Hope you get yourself sorted out mate, nice little post you wrote there.

I was in a relationship, for 4 years with a girl when I was in my teens, we broke up because her parents did not want her to be tied down in a relationship. Bastards... anyway it broke my heart and to this day whenever I see her I wonder what might have been.

I decided it would be best to get away from the area because we lived next door to each other, so I went to work abroad as a holiday rep, The 14 days training will always be one of the best and fun times of my life, met alot of new friends from all around the world, some of which became better friends than the ones I had at home. After completing training and returning home for 3 days my ex g/f told me that she did not want me to go, and to be totally honest I seriously considered not going to work away. But then I realised that if she was that serious about it she would wait... yeah right.


So off I went to work away for 7 months, I kept in contact with her while I was away and she said she was missing me. While working away I learned alot about myself and life in general, (A skinny dipping session with a Norwegian and a Very pretty Scottish girl kinda changed my opinion on hows girls act)


Anyway To cut it short I met a young woman who I am now currently engaged to be married with next year we have bought our own house and it great.


My advice to both Nug and Gargo would be to go out there and keep an open mind, the next Love of your life is just around the corner, but know this, the people that make you feel like you are feeling now, will have a place in your heart forever. The one thing you can both take from this is the feeling of Love you have felt for another person, this is something that no-one can take away from you.

 

[Gargo]

My advice to both Nug and Gargo would be to go out there and keep an open mind, the next Love of your life is just around the corner, but know this, the people that make you feel like you are feeling now, will have a place in your heart forever. The one thing you can both take from this is the feeling of Love you have felt for another person, this is something that no-one can take away from you.

Heh, figured all that out myself the past few days Takin each day as it comes. One door may have closed for me but there are others that have opened. Why stand around and stare at a closed door when you can walk through one of those open doors.

I'll be going to travel europe this summer and have some fun. Life goes on, if you wanna enjoy life you have to take hold of it with both hands, not let it drift by.

 

[Nugusta]

Heh, figured all that out myself the past few days Takin each day as it comes. One door may have closed for me but there are others that have opened. Why stand around and stare at a closed door when you can walk through one of those open doors.

I'll be going to travel europe this summer and have some fun. Life goes on, if you wanna enjoy life you have to take hold of it with both hands, not let it drift by.

Same, but my social life has really improved...im no longer on DAoC for 8 hours on a school day. Friends have been so supportive, they know how I felt for her and theyre even trying to get me hooked up with some other lass, heck after this sandwhich im off too meet them I know ill always remember her and love her. My doors are opening too.

But I do still think off her and today I learnt that she still cares about me but theirs no way im letting it happen again. Theres just too much pain involved

 

[Gargo]

You go girl!

er boy

 

[Nugusta]

You go girl!

er boy

Sheep

 

[Enli]

also had my similar experience :/
altho we parted as friends for what i'm damn happy
still in contact, still keeping a big spot in my heart etc

after we parted, she learned me to live from day to day, she actually helped me thru it
as for all that, i only want her to be as happy as possible and if needed i'll take care for that, the one that hurts her... will suffer

altho my experience ended in an other way then normally (normally they dump u and dont look back, as some of my other relations ended ) i called this experience "the curse of the first" cause u'll never forget it, and always make u dream and give the pain and joy of those days
dont wanna lose that feeling

 

[Asty]

I don't really have much experience but like many people pointed out, in a situation like that I think it's just best to try to forget her.. let life continue. Best way is to go out with friends and have fun, talking about it helps a lot.

I had a big crush on a girl in our school for 3 years. That time was very shit in my life, had no friends, no hobbys, no motivation for school or life in general, it was basically only daoc. When the school ended i finally got the guts to ask her to movies with me but ofcourse.. the answer was no, it felt kind of weird at the start because i was sure she liked me too, i had even planned stuff.. Depression was strong and summer went playing daoc in my little room. Now it's been a year after that and i don't really feel anything about it anymore. That will probably happen to you too in a while.

 

[Ala]

Same, but my social life has really improved...im no longer on DAoC for 8 hours on a school day. Friends have been so supportive, they know how I felt for her and theyre even trying to get me hooked up with some other lass, heck after this sandwhich im off too meet them I know ill always remember her and love her. My doors are opening too.

Glad to hear it Nug ~hugs~

But I do still think off her and today I learnt that she still cares about me but theirs no way im letting it happen again. Theres just too much pain involved

I was going to say that before, even if she realises her mistake don't take her back!! You have got a good head on your shoulders hun. Her loss

 

[Lothandar]

Awwwww ;-/

 

[Drummer]

also had my similar experience :/
altho we parted as friends for what i'm damn happy
still in contact, still keeping a big spot in my heart etc

after we parted, she learned me to live from day to day, she actually helped me thru it
as for all that, i only want her to be as happy as possible and if needed i'll take care for that, the one that hurts her... will suffer

altho my experience ended in an other way then normally (normally they dump u and dont look back, as some of my other relations ended ) i called this experience "the curse of the first" cause u'll never forget it, and always make u dream and give the pain and joy of those days
dont wanna lose that feeling

and u got drunk in the end yes?

 

[Enli]

and u got drunk in the end yes?

well... several times between relationships

 

[Nugusta]

Glad to hear it Nug ~hugs~



I was going to say that before, even if she realises her mistake don't take her back!! You have got a good head on your shoulders hun. Her loss

She changed her mind again

Poor girl...

 

[pez]

Whoa oh oh
Ooh hooh
No No No

[Verse 1:]
See, I dont know why I liked you so much
I gave you all, of my trust
I told you, I loved you, now thats all down the drain
Ya put me through pain, I wanna let u know how I feel

[Chorus:]
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses, they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back

Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back

[Verse 2:]
You thought, you could
Keep this shit from me, yeah
Ya burnt bitch, I heard the story
Ya played me, ya even gave him head
Now ya askin for me back
Ya just another act, look elsewhere
Cuz ya done with me

Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back

Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back

Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah

Ya questioned, did I care
You could ask anyone, I even said
Ya were my great one
Now its, over, but I do admit I'm sad.
It hurts real bad, I cant sweat that, cuz I loved a hoe

Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back

Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
Oh oh
Uh huh yeah
[Until the end]


Eamon.... like a modern day shakespere

 

[Enli]

and u got drunk in the end yes?

also, gotta be carefull where u get drunk, ended up with a girl in the billiard palace at the terminus