Need her, want her :(

[Nugusta]

its long but if you can, please read it all and try not to miss anything out. I need people to know how i feel so i can get help

please dont go off topic

She means everything to me...with her a full year
i love her...she means everything to me. She ended it because she wanted to be single (flirt and have fun).
Was at school laid with her on tuesday, we was on the field...The sun was shining she had her head on my chest, I was happy When she got home she went on msn and told me:

[17:33:05] (k) º × ..!.: wish we was still on the field!!
[17:33:07] Ric needs Je:
[17:33:10] Ric needs Je: why?
[17:33:17] (k) º × ..!.: cos it was nice
[17:33:29] Ric needs Je: wish ud ask for a hug earlier!
[17:33:36] Ric needs Je: just wanted to make ya roll ontop of me
[17:33:58] (k) º × ..!.:
[17:34:16] (k) º × ..!.: thought it was dead gd
[17:34:19] (k) º × ..!.: dint wanna get up
[17:34:26] Ric needs Je: i didnt
[17:34:44] Ric needs Je: but would have prefared it if something
besides my head would keep the sun out ya eyes coz i wanted
to kiss ya n hug ya

next day we did the same, except this time she took NO notice off me. Just had her music on sat staring in the direction of a lad she liked when we broke up once. I asked what was wrong, she said nothing. We was on our way to class and i promised i wudnt get upset with her. (and i didnt, which is unlike me ) She told me she wasnt sure if it was working. She said she needed space (again, like same as week before) at the end of school i walked her to the gate because i need to get the bus. She said she still loved me, she still cared about me and that we still have a chance I just picked her up and kissed her.
What she said when we got home after asking her what was wrong again.

[16:34:30] (k) º × ..!.: av just bin over sensative 2day
[16:34:55] (k) º × ..!.: like i kept thinkin every1 that saw us n knew
u was thinkin tht i wernt gd enuff 4 ya
[16:34:55] (k) º × ..!.:brb toilet
[16:48:42] Ric needs Je:get back here soon
[16:48:12] (k) º × ..!.: im too hotttt
[16:48:42] Ric needs Je: yup you are
[16:48:47] Ric needs Je: thats why u wont stay with me
[16:48:58] (k) º × ..!.: oiii i am staying with you
[16:49:05] Ric needs Je: not even with me (we wasnt goin out but was seeing each other)
[16:49:17] (k) º × ..!.: ey?
[16:49:25] (k) º × ..!.: oh right
[16:50:37] (k) º × ..!.: but i do love you
[16:51:15] Ric needs Je: not only me
[16:51:22] (k) º × ..!.: but it is only you
[16:51:53] Ric needs Je: but u like other
[16:51:53] (k) º × ..!.: i dont even think about anybody else in that
way

later

[17:59:46] (k) º × ..!.: at the minute i think we shud b friends and
talk everything out properly
[17:59:53] Wants jess t: like today
[17:59:55] Wants jess t: ?
[18:00:00] Wants jess t: when i dint get mardy ?
[18:00:01] Wants jess t:
[18:00:14] (k) º × ..!.: yeah!!! i was proud btw
[18:00:21] Wants jess t: not proud enough to win you back
[18:00:23] Wants jess t: okay
[18:00:25] Wants jess t: sounds fair
[18:00:28] Wants jess t: id prefare it that way#
[18:00:40] (k) º × ..!.: really ?2
[18:01:06] Wants jess t: over argueing....not just being mates
[18:01:16] Wants jess t: sorry to get ya hopes up my lovee
[18:01:46] (k) º × ..!.: i just think we need 2 talk about _
everything _ and figure out where we go wrong n y the hell
i cant just make up my mind and keep it
[18:01:52] (k) º × ..!.: u shud b mad cos im even mad with myself
[18:01:56] Wants jess t: i know i should be
[18:02:00] Wants jess t: but i dont wanna be

hour or so later after doing her homework and having food.

[19:49:54] Wants jess t: tell me waht ya feel
[19:50:10] (k) º × ..!.: well
[19:50:13] (k) º × ..!.: i love you
[19:50:26] (k) º × ..!.: and i do still think ov u in a kinky way and
my belly stil goes weird when we kiss
[19:50:50] (k) º × ..!.: and i care about you
[19:51:05] (k) º × ..!.: and i dont like anybody else but its just
like 4 sum reason i wanna have a laff with them too :S and
i dont know why
[19:51:20] Wants jess t: thats okay
[19:51:23] Wants jess t: i get what ya mean
[19:51:25] Wants jess t: you wanna have fun
[19:51:27] Wants jess t: who doesnt?
[19:51:44] Wants jess t: but i promise things will get better between
us when we can see each other again
[19:51:48] Wants jess t: i think thats the problem
[19:51:50] Wants jess t: but yeh
[19:51:58] Wants jess t: you gonna be flirting with them or just
having a laugh?
[19:52:10] (k) º × ..!.: just having a laugh !!


[20:05:47] Song without: im being more then fair n everything n all u
can say is i dont mind
[20:06:06] (k) º × ..!.: i find that really weird how gd ur bein S:
[20:06:09] (k) º × ..!.: :s*
[20:06:41] Song without: maybe one of us wants the other
[20:06:56] Song without: and if i dont be like this then youll just
never talk to me again
[20:07:09] (k) º × ..!.: id understand if u went mad
[20:07:16] Song without: im not mad
[20:07:28] Song without: i just dont want to loose you AGAIN
[20:07:35] Song without: i want it to work
[20:07:39] (k) º × ..!.: then give me sum space
[20:07:49] Song without: im not giving you space?
[20:07:57] Song without: if i give you to much youll never come back
[20:08:17] Song without: if i give you too much youll end up liking
someone else like with your other bf's
[20:08:25] Song without: n if u havent already gone of me ull go off
me
[20:08:44] (k) º × ..!.: then make sure i dont ?!

[21:40:20] You dont fuc: say how you feel
[21:40:25] You dont fuc: earlier u actually LOVED me
[21:40:27] You dont fuc: now you dont
[21:40:40] (k) º × ..!.: i do
[21:40:43] (k) º × ..!.: i just dont know what way
[21:40:46] You dont fuc: well
[21:40:54] You dont fuc: are we still doing that thing u agreed to?
[21:41:01] You dont fuc: or u got a better plan?
[21:41:06] (k) º × ..!.: i dont knowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

(id hang with the lads with her that i was paranoid about she was liking her^^)

[21:43:50] You dont fuc: going off me tho?
[21:43:58] (k) º × ..!.: i dont kno

[21:52:50] (k) º × ..!.: i dont kno wot i can type...i wanna b ur
frend but i wanna have my fun, im 14 n its like im married
which sounds cruel but its true, i dont wanna be like that
i just wanna have a mess around after bein wiv u 4 nrlly a
yr on n off...just like josh did when he split up wiv
becki, n maybe u dont n wont but wer different n thats
probably y we get along cos wer not the same
[21:52:50] (k) º × ..!.: that
[21:52:58] I dont mean : thats got nothing to do with me
[21:53:07] I dont mean : tell me how u feel about me
[21:53:16] (k) º × ..!.: i dont know what i feel about you
[21:53:19] (k) º × ..!.: i wanna be ur 8
[21:53:21] (k) º × ..!.: m8*
[21:53:23] I dont mean : that it?
[21:53:33] (k) º × ..!.: for now
[21:53:45] I dont mean : you dont wanna see me at school n talk to
me?
[21:53:59] * (k) º × ..!..(r) ¤ Jess ¤ (r) ..!..× º (k) ( U Whisper
Softly In My Ear,Makes Me Unwind,The Way U Touch Me,Lets Me
No Ur Mine has changed his/her name to (k) º × ..!..(r) ¤
Jess ¤ (r) ..!..× º (k) ( U Whisper Softly In My
Ear,Makes Me Unwind( I FINK I DO BT!!!
[21:54:33] (k) º × ..!.: i wanna talk 2 you
[21:54:38] I dont mean : at school?
[21:54:38] (k) º × ..!.: n yeah i wanna c u at skool
[21:54:45] (k) º × ..!.: but i dont wanna be like we have been

[21:55:12] I dont mean : everyhting you said today was a lie then?
[21:55:15] I dont mean : about you still loving me?
[21:55:17] (k) º × ..!.: no it wasnt
[21:55:26] (k) º × ..!.: it was what it felt, its what it still feels,
its just not the same

[21:55:40] I dont mean : why isnt it the same as it was 3 hours ago?
[21:55:51] I dont mean : ive actually been more helpful havent i?
[21:55:53] (k) º × ..!.: it wasnt the same then
[21:55:58] (k) º × ..!.: yea u have
[21:55:59] I dont mean : why wasnt it the same then?
[21:56:03] I dont mean : whats the difference?
[21:56:12] (k) º × ..!.: it didnt feel the same
[21:56:15] I dont mean : why?
[21:56:20] I dont mean : what did you feel then?
[21:56:24] I dont mean : and what do you feel now?
[21:56:27] (k) º × ..!.: cos it didnt feel as tho i needed u and
wanted u like i did
[21:56:37] I dont mean : 2 days ago you did
[21:56:44] I dont mean : now your gonna be thinking that about lemon
[21:57:02] (k) º × ..!.: no im not
[21:57:08] (k) º × ..!.: i wanna b single n free 2 do wot i want
[21:57:16] I dont mean : that mean go out with other lads?
[21:57:34] (k) º × ..!.: no it doesnt
[21:57:40] I dont mean : u mean just flirt?
[21:57:43] I dont mean : n touch them up
[21:57:47] I dont mean : n shag them
[21:57:50] (k) º × ..!.: not touch them up, just flirt (said earlier she just wanted a laugh...)

last bit (sorry, need it all of my chest )

[22:02:14] Death Wish: i did think and hope we would always be
together
[22:02:24] Death Wish: everything ive said about us hasnt been a lie
[22:02:33] Death Wish: n im sorry for the times ive messed up
[22:02:37] Death Wish: and ive upset you
[22:02:45] Death Wish: i shouldnt have treated you like that
[22:02:53] (k) º × ..!.: i could say exactly the same tho
[22:03:01] Death Wish: but i was worse
[22:03:09] (k) º × ..!.: how was you
[22:03:15] Death Wish: i drove you away from me
[22:03:26] (k) º × ..!.:
[22:03:36] Death Wish: i drove the person that means more then life to
me away from me
[22:03:44] Death Wish: and now your my only true friend?
[22:03:49] (k) º × ..!.: how am i ?
[22:03:57] (k) º × ..!.: the only one..
[22:03:58] Death Wish: i have no friends
[22:04:03] Death Wish: i dont trust anyone else
[22:04:08] Death Wish: ive told you things that are true
[22:04:14] Death Wish: that i havent and wont tell anyone else
[22:04:25] Death Wish: because i dont trust them half as much as i do
you
[22:04:32] Death Wish: because you mean everything to me
[22:04:34] Death Wish: and you know it
[22:04:42] (k) º × ..!.:
[22:04:46] Death Wish: dont you?
[22:04:49] (k) º × ..!.: i do
[22:05:01] Death Wish: i love you girl
[22:05:02] (k) º × ..!.: but i g2g
[22:05:06] (k) º × ..!.: and have no cred
[22:05:13] Death Wish: i better get a hug tomorrow!
[22:05:14] (k) º × ..!.: cos i spent it trying 2 make sure u wudnt do
anything daft
[22:05:17] Death Wish: okay
[22:05:22] Death Wish: i know
[22:05:24] Death Wish: you care
[22:05:26] Death Wish: thank god
[22:05:28] (k) º × ..!.: ill see you 2morro
[22:05:33] Death Wish: will i get my hug?
[22:05:37] (k) º × ..!.: b4 u start me criying !
[22:05:39] (k) º × ..!.: ull get a hug
[22:05:41] Death Wish: crying?
[22:05:44] Death Wish: why would you cry?
[22:05:47] Death Wish: ah nm
[22:05:48] (k) º × ..!.: i dont know
[22:05:51] Death Wish: just go
[22:05:53] (k) º × ..!.: my eyes gone all watery :S
[22:06:01] Death Wish: just remember me
[22:06:06] (k) º × ..!.: always will
[22:06:07] (k) º × ..!.: byebye
[22:06:10] Death Wish: and know what you mean to me!
[22:06:19] (k) º × ..!.: cya :*
[22:06:20] (k) º × ..!.:
[22:06:28] (k) º × ..!.: spider trying 2 rape me so really gotta go
[22:06:28] Death Wish: bye jess
[22:06:30] Death Wish: blue eys
[22:06:34] (k) º × ..!.:
[22:06:35] Death Wish: love
[22:06:44] Death Wish: made for me..
[22:06:48] Death Wish: perfect for me
[22:06:59] Death Wish: because i love you
[22:07:02] Death Wish: and youve gone
[22:07:06] Death Wish: and i cant tell you this
[22:07:08] Death Wish: to your face
[22:07:12] * (k) º × ..!..(r) ¤ Jess ¤ (r) ..!..× º (k) (C Am Tryin
2 Tel U Ur Love Is Super!( I FINK I DO BT! jess(L)z me!
is now Offline
[22:07:13] Death Wish: because i dont dare show you more love
[22:07:13] Death Wish:thats why i fucking cant do anything right...thats why i cant fucking say this to your face. Have fun jess.

And I need her back...its happened before but its never been THIS serious...she doesnt even talk to me now, the next day she made plans with ALL of them lads to meet up with her m8.

Next day shes at her mates house and her name on msn is:

(K)jess loving josh(K)

My best mate...

sorry for it being so long, i kept it to the parts that are more important, but i also needed some other stuff in there so you know whats happening.

I need her please someone help

Id like to add that im 15...dont say im too young to feel like this. I gave her all my love since i was 13 and everything i did was based around her and its just how ive grown up. Shes not amazingly good looking, but neither am i? Im skinny...when we went on holiday together i was incredibly spotty and insecure about myself but she loved me. She sat on the bed with me one night and i told her i thought she didnt like the way i look. She smiled at me...leaned in and kissed me and put her arms around me and said "That says it all"

A text i got on tuesday from her

heya! im ok ta u? Noo ya dont love me more!! Love you more (K) nite nite p.s thank u 4 makin me so happy

ffs everything reminds me off her, theirs no way i can get over her I need her back. Please anyone help I havent ate since wednesday, ive slept 6 hours in total and one of my dreams was her in bed with my best m8...

Copied it from my guild forum, I have no one else to get advice from. The only thing my mum can say is that ive got a old mind a young body and shes a child and messing me about.

For those that have read, thank you

 

[Brynn]

your 15, no offence but that was probably your 1st relationship. You ( i mean people in general) naievly expect that your 1st relationship is your last, that you will settle down with them and live happily ever after. There is only a small possibility of that happening. The case most often is that you go out with them, then break up. But you learn things about women that no-1 could teach your.

You say you loved her, i know how it feels to lose someone you love. (current status : relationship of 2 years bout -> <- of splitting up, and hurts like buggery). But the unfortunate thing is that it wasn't meant to be.

... your only 15 neither of you have matured (no offence) , which is why she would want to flirt more than settle for a guy - mabey she realises that she wants to go out and kiss as many guys as possible.

As hard and harsh as this may sound you have to get over her, and then find a girl better than her. also if she loved you then you wouldnt be in this situation.

And now for Dr Dan's advice - stay friends, nothing worse than loosing a friend, it may be hard to start with, but it will pay off.

 

[Nugusta]

your 15, no offence but that was probably your 1st relationship. You ( i mean people in general) naievly expect that your 1st relationship is your last, that you will settle down with them and live happily ever after. There is only a small possibility of that happening. The case most often is that you go out with them, then break up. But you learn things about women that no-1 could teach your.

You say you loved her, i know how it feels to lose someone you love. (current status : relationship of 2 years bout -> <- of splitting up, and hurts like buggery). But the unfortunate thing is that it wasn't meant to be.

... your only 15 neither of you have matured (no offence) , which is why she would want to flirt more than settle for a guy - mabey she realises that she wants to go out and kiss as many guys as possible.

As hard and harsh as this may sound you have to get over her, and then find a girl better than her. also if she loved you then you wouldnt be in this situation.

And now for Dr Dan's advice - stay friends, nothing worse than loosing a friend, it may be hard to start with, but it will pay off.

Yeh, your right It was my first proper relationship and i did expect it to last, but she didnt need to lie about it she knows i would have understood.

How can I be her friend if she wont talk to me?

 

[Brynn]

Just let her be for over the summer. Mabey send her a text saying hows your summer or soemthing. or if you see her back at school ask her how her summer was. Just something to start chatting to her

 

[Nugusta]

But i cant just talk to her thats the thing, it always turns into something like "dont i mean anything to you?" and she gets annoyed, who wouldnt? I dont mean to make her unhappy but i just dont understand why she did this if 8 or so hours before she said she had dreamt of me and sent me that text.
I dont plan on getting over her though i think your right...i should. Ill send her texts saying i still love her and hope shes had a good time and good night.

Maybe she'll realise how much i care?

 

[Brynn]

Ill send her texts saying i still love her and hope shes had a good time and good night.

seriously dont.
1) from what you said about her she doesn't deserve ya
2) save your phonebill

 

[Nugusta]

But its not about the cash is it? If i can be her friend but for her to still know i love her to then im happy. Seriously I have the cash big bank account, wish i was that rich in daoc but havent played that since wednesday too. Earlier was sick after having one biscuit.

 

[Sissyfoo]

I'd just leave her be. Not gonna get her back by being a clingy bugger!

 

[Brynn]

if your a student it would be (sucks having a 100 quid mobile bill for one month)

if she liked you then she wouldn't treat you like that. She knows you love her - texting her over and over again wont make her realise that. It would make her more irritated each time she got a new text

 

[Nugusta]

I'd just leave her be. Not gonna get her back by being a clingy bugger!

[20:10:15] (#) ¨ ×..!..: eg. the argueing and me gettin clingy n
jelous
[20:10:25] (#) ¨ ×..!..: even tho we dint argue rlly
[20:10:25] Love jess : and me getting clingy n jealous
[20:10:37] (#) ¨ ×..!..: u wasnt clingy tho :S

I did get clingy too, but she said that herself when she cared...

 

[Nugusta]

if your a student it would be (sucks having a 100 quid mobile bill for one month)

if she liked you then she wouldn't treat you like that. She knows you love her - texting her over and over again wont make her realise that. It would make her more irritated each time she got a new text

I know your right but its hard too accept and its more then 100 a month...she used to run out of credit and i gave her money so she could talk to me.

 

[Brynn]

I know your right but its hard too accept and its more then 100 a month...she used to run out of credit and i gave her money so she could talk to me.

leave her now, sorry to be blunt but you would be better off without her.

Go meet your friends, take your mind of f her

 

[Nugusta]

I live in the middle of nowhere, she was my friend and i trusted her with everything, theirs things she knows that my parents dont know. We never was physical, it was mainly just hug and kiss but it was still serious.

Had to paste it...

Even posted it on FH, and brynn is being a big help. Thanks alot all but i still dont know what i should do. Everythign in me is just telling me i need her, but everyone else says i should forget her and find someone better she was the best so far, i havent met anyone who liked me more and thats the reason we clicked...because she loved me from day 1.

Thanks brynn

 

[Ala]

Some good advice from Brynn tbh.

If it makes any diff i'm a girl irl.
From what I read it sounds like you're really hurting bad I want you to remember, like all good things, this too shall pass. You won't feel this sad forever, it's just not possible.

Get some support from your buddies at school. People who you are friendly with and who have not got much to do with Jess or Josh (if possible). Go out with them and busy yourself doing fun things for you. When you're alone do nice things for yourself. Whatever makes you happy. The word of the day is 'nurture'.

Like Brynn I believe if Jess wanted to be with you she wouldn't have put you through all of this and then slapped you in the face (so to speak) by writing 'Jess loving Josh' on msn. That is quite simply childish, self centered and cruel. Do you want people who treat you so badly in your life?

You deserve the best in life and believe me, that is not the best life has to offer you.

Time will make all of this seem less painful. I'm not sure that anything will 'fix' you right away. You'll only get hurt more if you act willfully by chasing her. Her actions speak loudly, she doesn't want to be with you and I believe your mother is right when she said Jess is messing you about.

Lastly, you will likely get alot of advice from this thread. Look at it carefully and ignore any nasty comments (this is after all eOT). If alot of people are telling you the same thing then that is your answer.

Take care of you hun. So sorry you're hurting so much :wub:

 

[Sissyfoo]

No offense, but at 15 it probably wouldn't have been *that* serious even though you may think so. Her ability to go off and play the field like that is pretty conclusive that she wasn't in 'love' with you. Sucks...but that is life, I am afraid. Everything might seem black now but it will get better.

Originally posted by Ala somewhere up above
Some good advice from Brynn tbh.

Oh and my advice doesn't rock?! It was conciiiiiiiiiiiise!!!

 

[Nugusta]

Some good advice from Brynn tbh.

If it makes any diff i'm a girl irl.
From what I read it sounds like you're really hurting bad I want you to remember, like all good things, this too shall pass. You won't feel this sad forever, it's just not possible.

Get some support from your buddies at school. People who you are friendly with and who have not got much to do with Jess or Josh (if possible). Go out with them and busy yourself doing fun things for you. When you're alone do nice things for yourself. Whatever makes you happy. The word of the day is 'nurture'.

Like Brynn I believe if Jess wanted to be with you she wouldn't have put you through all of this and then slapped you in the face (so to speak) by writing 'Jess loving Josh' on msn. That is quite simply childish, self centered and cruel. Do you want people who treat you so badly in your life?

You deserve the best in life and believe me, that is not the best life has to offer you.

Time will make all of this seem less painful. I'm not sure that anything will 'fix' you right away. You'll only get hurt more if you act willfully by chasing her. Her actions speak loudly, she doesn't want to be with you and I believe your mother is right when she said Jess is messing you about.

Lastly, you will likely get alot of advice from this thread. Look at it carefully and ignore any nasty comments (this is after all eOT). If alot of people are telling you the same thing then that is your answer.

Take care of you hun. So sorry you're hurting so much :wub:

Its hard, no ones ever cared for me that much and ive never cared for them this much. Not even my parents. I just dont understand how that can change over night

 

[Brynn]

Its hard, no ones ever cared for me that much and ive never cared for them this much. Not even my parents. I just dont understand how that can change over night

now you know why guys just say "women" then everyone agrees



sorry ala - your lovely

 

[Nugusta]

Yeh and its hard not to see her at school...she flirts...she screams she dances around but yesterday gave me hope She was out with them people...so i decided id go out with my own mates (said their would be drink their and i havent actually drank in my life before) and she was with josh in a village close by (i could have walked their, i didnt know this untill josh rang someone i was with) josh apparently asked who my friend was with. Me, a few lad mates and then their girl friends. The second i was mentioned josh put the phone down, but had asked my friend if he'd come see them. Jess pranks me so i ring her and one of the lads girlfriends said something in the back ground and it seemed like jess got jealous

I just want her to know i love her and still be friends, she asked for us to be friends, not me so why doesnt she talk to me?

 

[Ala]

Its hard, no ones ever cared for me that much and ive never cared for them this much. Not even my parents. I just dont understand how that can change over night

You have your whole life ahead of you and believe me, you will know love greater than this, greater then anything you can imagine. If you think that felt good, you aint seen nothing yet!

No one can say why she changed. If we knew that we could go to Las Vegas and get rich!!

What is important is that you look after yourself.

I bet your mother cares for you more than anyone in the entire world, and that's true love, in a family kinda way sure, but it's a great thing and nothing is more important. Relationships and friendships may change and move away from us but (hopefully) family is always there.

You sound like an intelligent and sensitive guy, I have no doubt you will find love again and again before you find 'the one'.

Aww thanx Brynn :wub: Feel the love! \0/

 

[Nugusta]

You dont understand When we first met she wouldnt ever let me go, it made me laugh and i thought it was pretty much silly. She would always stare into my eyes and tell me that was my best feature next to my personality and that she loved me. Ive known she hasnt thought of me like that in along time I just dont know why she didnt tell the truth? Maybe she just wanted attention untill she found someone else? She told me that she though no one would ever love her as much as i did. It hurts to know that now, she only walked up to me because of my friend?

 

[Ala]

She very well may have been using you until someone else came along. She wouldn't be the first one to do that. The fact remains, you don't know why. Worrying about it and trying to get inside her mind isn't going to help you in the long run.
As for continuing a friendship, it may happen in time but give yourself some space to heal from the break up first hun.

 

[Sissyfoo]

Dude...seriously, if she still has real feelings for you then she will try and reconcile things. At the moment she is not interested so just leave it be. If you pester her and keep sending msgs to her saying that you love her then she is going to become even more distant. The best thing ... nah, the ONLY thing you should do now is get on with your life and try to get over her. So far the advice posted here has been top notch and you should heed every word.

 

[Shawr]

Best bit of advice I can give is to leave her alone for a while, maybe like brynn suggested the whole summer. Not meaning to cause offense but it sounds to me from what you've posted here that maybe you are pushing her a bit too much, making her feel pressured. The only outcome there is that you will just end up pushing her all the way away from you. (Believe me, I learnt that one the hard way when I was younger ). She may be finding the transition from gf to friend harder than she is letting on, and the callous way she let you know about your best friend may just have been because she didn't know how to tell you.

Leave her be for a while, let her come to you. Go out with your mates and have a good time ( I know it might be hard but it will get easier with time). Last time I heard one of my mates had broken up with a long term gf I went straight down the offy, bought a crate of beer, phoned some other mates and headed round his flat. He ended up destroying us all later on that evening at a drinking game when we got him convinced to come out to a club and we each had our own "interesting" story about getting home that night. But that's going off topic, my point is, he felt a lot better the next day (excusing the hangover) and had a good time. I'm not saying go out and get drunk (though that's what the majority of my sage advice breaks down to ) but just go and hang about with your mates, do something you enjoy.

The key here really is time, give her time, give yourself time. Eventually you'll probably look back and wonder what all the fuss was about, but, such is life.

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As for continuing a friendship, it may happen in time but give yourself some space to heal from the break up first hun.

That was kind of what I was trying to say. Though more concise and with less rambling.

 

[Nugusta]

I know your right, but its hard ill do that. We were just so close? Closest ive ever been to someone just too look at her across the field or over a road and to just want to run up to her and hug and kiss her and make sure shes okay and a few days ago she would have done the same for me

Your right, thankyou all for the help

 

[Nugusta]

but just go and hang about with your mates, do something you enjoy.
The key here really is time, give her time, give yourself time. Eventually you'll probably look back and wonder what all the fuss was about, but, such is life.

I enjoyed being with her But i just dont know what i can do to make the time pass...I just dont feel like being on the computer other then talking to her? Its the way my life has been based, the only times i went out was to see her, every other time i was talking to her on msn or at school.

 

[Daws]

At 14, a lot of girls are sluts and whores. Most of them need boyfriends to validate themselves. I know one girl who hasn't been single for a week since she was 11. She's had about 20 different guys on the go. They just love to wind you round their fingers and use you. Women suck tbh.

 

[Nugusta]

At 14, a lot of girls are sluts and whores. Most of them need boyfriends to validate themselves. I know one girl who hasn't been single for a week since she was 11. She's had about 20 different guys on the go. They just love to wind you round their fingers and use you. Women suck tbh.

Thx but she did care for me. She did love me and i could tell.

 

[Ala]

At 14, a lot of girls are sluts and whores. Most of them need boyfriends to validate themselves. I know one girl who hasn't been single for a week since she was 11. She's had about 20 different guys on the go. They just love to wind you round their fingers and use you. Women suck tbh.

Fell the love! \0/

 

[Sissyfoo]

At 14, a lot of girls are sluts and whores. Most of them need boyfriends to validate themselves. I know one girl who hasn't been single for a week since she was 11. She's had about 20 different guys on the go. They just love to wind you round their fingers and use you. Women suck tbh.

Bitter much?

 

[yaruar]

At 14, a lot of girls are sluts and whores. Most of them need boyfriends to validate themselves. I know one girl who hasn't been single for a week since she was 11. She's had about 20 different guys on the go. They just love to wind you round their fingers and use you. Women suck tbh.

yeah but thats because they know a 14 year old boy would fuck a fencepost if someone had drilled a hole in it first....