Question In Dark Mood

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Had this talk with a mate recently, and he mentioned periods of, well lets call them dark moods..
He basically explains the periods as experiencing constant annoyance of other people (even the ones he loves/likes) As in it take very little for people to trigger his temper/gloom. Now He is not exactly what you'd call a confrontitive personallity type, so for the most he keeps to himself (as much as posible during these times) He said it lasts from 2-3 days up to a week at a time.

Now that talk actually got me thinking. You see, I understand what he is telling me, but I cannot relate, not really truelly anyway! Sure I can have a bad day, but it's always somehow triggered by events and people around me, It's never a "Preset" as he describes it, Left to my own endevors I'll be "preset" to "happy" Being a close mate of mine, I really want to learn more about it, so here my question:

Do any of you relate ? Any insites you don't mind shareíng "publicly" here on FH?
 

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Everything and everybody is an excuse for anger to me.

Every day is a fucking awful dark day.

I have a really short fuse about everything and with everyone and I hate myself for it and I am lucky my wife doesn't leave me.

Something like that?
 

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I'm a very calm person, nothing really gets to me, but I have those sometimes. More often then not they're due to a high blood sugar(diabetic). Might be worth checking out, especially since they're long periods at a time so could very well be something related.
 

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Could be a type if bi polar disorder.
Get them to talk to a doctor about it and get referred to a specialist.
 

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I get like that sometimes, doesn't take anything at all to piss me off. Mostly people being stupid though.

Like some stupid cunt this morning that started panicking when I was trying to pull out behind them on a slip road, they slowed down so I couldn't get out and I had to stop at the end of the slip road. Was angry about that for hours.

Some days I am worse than others and just wake up grumpy for no reason whatsoever, they do say men have periods too (but without the blood letting obviously!)
 

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I have been on anti -D meds for over 10 years now after being diagnosed with severe depression. Genwerally speaking I am fine, but if I forget to take them (40mg citalopram, btw) or have to wait on my prescription this really does describe how I get. Even with them I get all angsty in the run up to events such as an xmas family get-together such as we are having this weekend. Yucky feeling!

Everything and everybody is an excuse for anger to me.

Every day is a fucking awful dark day.

I have a really short fuse about everything and with everyone and I hate myself for it and I am lucky my wife doesn't leave me.

Something like that?

:( Chin up, matey!! At least you're not a midget :eek:
 

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Had this talk with a mate recently, and he mentioned periods of, well lets call them dark moods..
He basically explains the periods as experiencing constant annoyance of other people (even the ones he loves/likes) As in it take very little for people to trigger his temper/gloom. Now He is not exactly what you'd call a confrontitive personallity type, so for the most he keeps to himself (as much as posible during these times) He said it lasts from 2-3 days up to a week at a time.

Now that talk actually got me thinking. You see, I understand what he is telling me, but I cannot relate, not really truelly anyway! Sure I can have a bad day, but it's always somehow triggered by events and people around me, It's never a "Preset" as he describes it, Left to my own endevors I'll be "preset" to "happy" Being a close mate of mine, I really want to learn more about it, so here my question:

Do any of you relate ? Any insites you don't mind shareíng "publicly" here on FH?

Sounds like a classic description of depression to me, but IANAD, so go and talk to one.

I don't get depressed but that's because I'm dead inside.
 

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HItting agree on both counts ;)
 

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I like the thought of being with people but when I am with them they drive me nuts and I just want to get away from them. Like @Jupitus i have been on 40mg of citalopram for best part of a decade. Not quite ten years now.

I got diagnosed with depression as a result of my aspergers, which is why I hate being round people too. Even though it makes me depressed I can't be social like others are.

I don't like gatherings and social interaction and small talk just seem asinine and pointless to me.

Hence I hate Xmas and the like also.
 

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I like the thought of being with people but when I am with them they drive me nuts and I just want to get away from them. Like @Jupitus i have been on 40mg of citalopram for best part of a decade. Not quite ten years now.

I got diagnosed with depression as a result of my aspergers, which is why I hate being round people too. Even though it makes me depressed I can't be social like others are.

I don't like gatherings and social interaction and small talk just seem asinine and pointless to me.

Hence I hate Xmas and the like also.

I have been coaching myself on the get-togethers thing.... it's stupid really as I know that I usually enjoy myself once I am there, so I am trying to 'use' that 'knowledge' in a logical way ahead of these kind of things... it's working slowly ;)
 

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I don't like being with people for too long, its like a switch goes off and I just decide I want to leave. I get bored really easily and just cant be arsed to sit around making small talk, even if its family. They are OK with that and have basically got used to it but I feel bad about it sometimes. I guess its pretty selfish really but meh.

I am an introvert by nature though and can quite happily spend an entire weekend on my own (if the wife goes to her mums or something) and find it unwinds me a hell of a lot. I don't see anyone from Friday at 5pm until she gets back on the Sunday evening.

Except a core group of friends then I can spend the entire weekend in their company.

I am happy with the way I am and find trying to be different just makes things worse.
 
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Definitely sounds like an anxiety/stress/depression condition.

I always get worked up about social get togethers as well, even though I know when I'm there I'll enjoy myself, worst case scenarios seem to play through my mind for hours beforehand.
 

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I don't like being with people for too long, its like a switch goes off and I just decide I want to leave. I get bored really easily and just cant be arsed to sit around making small talk, even if its family. They are OK with that and have basically got used to it but I feel bad about it sometimes. I guess its pretty selfish really but meh.

I am an introvert by nature though and can quite happily spend an entire weekend on my own (if the wife goes to her mums or something) and find it unwinds me a hell of a lot. I don't see anyone from Friday at 5pm until she gets back on the Sunday evening.

Except a core group of friends then I can spend the entire weekend in their company.

I am happy with the way I am and find trying to be different just makes things worse.
Yeah I have come to like my own company. Not really got any friends as such only see work people and the wife. She has a few people she goes out with etc. but I can go whole weekends and even weeks with only talking to the cashier at a shop or something hehe. After ten years living on my own before I got diagnosed and married it's not a new thing for me.
 

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Could be a type if bi polar disorder.
I've thought about that, except he doesnt really display any noticable hyper activity, for the most part I'd call him a preaty calm person.
Tbh, if he hadnt told me how he felt, I likely wouldnt have noticed the extent.

Sounds like a classic description of depression to me..
I'd agree, except he doesnt show any tendencies towards dispare or any such behavior.

I don't like being with people for too long, its like a switch goes off and I just decide I want to leave. I get bored really easily and just cant be arsed to sit around making small talk, even if its family. They are OK with that and have basically got used to it but I feel bad about it sometimes. I guess its pretty selfish really but meh.

I am an introvert by nature though and can quite happily spend an entire weekend on my own (if the wife goes to her mums or something) and find it unwinds me a hell of a lot. I don't see anyone from Friday at 5pm until she gets back on the Sunday evening.

Except a core group of friends then I can spend the entire weekend in their company.

I am happy with the way I am and find trying to be different just makes things worse.

Is your mood directly influenced ny being around people or is it that you find that because of your mood that you have difficulties in social situations....if you follow?
F,exp. the chap that I 'm talking about definatly does not "as far as I know" suffer from any social anxieties. but his mood can affect his ability to socially interact with others
 

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I have a very low tolerance for stupid people. Not very good and it annoys my wife intensely. I don't get in a dark mood but I can go a bit OTT in my reactions sometimes. I just need to walk away and calm down bit in extreme cases.
 

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Been up and down for the last 7 years, was put on 40mg citalopram and they fucked me up and had to come off them, they made me paranoid. They changed them to 50mg Sertraline and I was having counselling which helped but I still get periods of dark times

I hate things like Christmas as I cant stand doing the whole social thing. Gatherings and parties that are not with close friends are usually a no no

I get very uptight with people, but I don't confront them so it just builds up, and I go through scenarios in my head of going ape shit with a baseball bat on their arses. I worry that one day I will get angry and there will be something to hand and i'll end up being carted off.

I don't think I am as bad as I was, or maybe I control it better, as I can look back to when I was really bad and see a different person to how I am now, but the last few months have been very testing and I do wonder if I am slipping back down again

I usually have 2-3 days a week when I am worse, then the other days are normal to bouncing off the walls. There is no pattern tbh

My close friends know what I'm like and are used to it now, but I did used to put @russell through some shit, and now even I piss her off so much that we don't talk for weeks, but I think she just lets me go away and sulk until I'm ready to resume buddy-ness (is that a word?)

There must be something about FH that draws us all here :rolleyes:
 

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I get very uptight with people, but I don't confront them so it just builds up, and I go through scenarios in my head of going ape shit with a baseball bat on their arses. I worry that one day I will get angry and there will be something to hand and i'll end up being carted off.

This is actually preaty close to what "as I've understood it" he has described it.
whats your trigger though? is it being in social situations that get you hyped up/gloomy or do you find your mood/gloom is the obstical that prevents you from enjoying social situations?
 

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I have a very low tolerance for stupid people. Not very good and it annoys my wife intensely. I don't get in a dark mood but I can go a bit OTT in my reactions sometimes. I just need to walk away and calm down bit in extreme cases.
Doesn't help that my work desk is right next to the admin people at work who have one brain cell between them.. They thought Dubai was near Mexico the other week. And we're looking on eBay for tablets to buy ones bf she was gonna get a thirty quid case that she thought was the real thing. I dispare really I do.
 

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This is actually preaty close to what "as I've understood it" he has described it.
whats your trigger though? is it being in social situations that get you hyped up/gloomy or do you find your mood/gloom is the obstical that prevents you from enjoying social situations?
is what used to happen to me at school. Where I would store and store till I blew my top and twated someone. Then it wouldn't matter who was that caused the straw to hit the camels back they would get it.
 

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Everyone is mental to some degree. It gets worse as you get older. Life is too complicated and there is too much pressure.
 

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We've had this conversations over the years here. I most always get vilified for being unsympathetic or something :)
 

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Been up and down for the last 7 years, was put on 40mg citalopram and they fucked me up and had to come off them, they made me paranoid. They changed them to 50mg Sertraline and I was having counselling which helped but I still get periods of dark times

I hate things like Christmas as I cant stand doing the whole social thing. Gatherings and parties that are not with close friends are usually a no no

I get very uptight with people, but I don't confront them so it just builds up, and I go through scenarios in my head of going ape shit with a baseball bat on their arses. I worry that one day I will get angry and there will be something to hand and i'll end up being carted off.

I don't think I am as bad as I was, or maybe I control it better, as I can look back to when I was really bad and see a different person to how I am now, but the last few months have been very testing and I do wonder if I am slipping back down again

I usually have 2-3 days a week when I am worse, then the other days are normal to bouncing off the walls. There is no pattern tbh

My close friends know what I'm like and are used to it now, but I did used to put @russell through some shit, and now even I piss her off so much that we don't talk for weeks, but I think she just lets me go away and sulk until I'm ready to resume buddy-ness (is that a word?)

There must be something about FH that draws us all here :rolleyes:
I just get sick of all the crap every now and then. But I love you so I always hope for the best and that you will be ok.
 

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Tell him to go see a gp and tell them about this.
 

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I've always suffered from Generalised Anxiety, so under times of stress (such as the 55 hour weeks I've been putting in recently) I can get a bit dark and crabby, but most of the time it's fixed by taking 2 minutes out (popping outside for a smoke usually helps - a combination of the nicotine and change of scenery helps). It got really bad about 7 years ago when I was working in Sales, ended up on Paroxetine taking time off for stress.

Must admit since I swapped to Consultancy it's been loads better, only really have a problem now if I get 14 Account Managers requesting my services at once, still have those days though where I feel incapable of having a conversation though.
 

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Tell him to go see a gp and tell them about this.

Nah he's a grown ass man, and a responsible one at that. I do however want to understand him better, or well, the particular state of mind that is.
Simply due to the fact that I cannot really relate, I get what he is telling me, I've just never really experienced it fist hand.
 

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I've always suffered from Generalised Anxiety, so under times of stress (such as the 55 hour weeks I've been putting in recently) I can get a bit dark and crabby, but most of the time it's fixed by taking 2 minutes out (popping outside for a smoke usually helps - a combination of the nicotine and change of scenery helps). It got really bad about 7 years ago when I was working in Sales, ended up on Paroxetine taking time off for stress.

Must admit since I swapped to Consultancy it's been loads better, only really have a problem now if I get 14 Account Managers requesting my services at once, still have those days though where I feel incapable of having a conversation though.

Heh, Now that I can relate to, but I'd definatly say thats a triggered emotion/responce....yes? Or the 2 min, brake really wouldnt change anything...
 

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fist hand, what kind of friend is this Olg?
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