How do you tell a friend...

[kiliarien]

Yeah, or another thing i thought of is just wait and let her instigate it.

Problem is, that we've talked about deep dark secrets etc, talked about pretty much everything, but we're not hanging out except if we happen to meet(hang about same places). It's kinda like having a copy of yourself(gets and knows), but not hanging out on a scheduled basis. We don't even know when other one is out and about since we haven't exchanged numbers etc.

So while we're great friends, we're not in the conventional friendship thing

Now that IS a difficult one, because I assume you're think asking for her number could suggest to her that a) you're romantically interested or b) doing the 'be my best friend' thing.

Tricky tricky indeed. Letting her instigate would be my style too, but that could suck if she doesn't ever do it.....maybe give it some time and risk it if she doesn't help things along anytime soon?

 

[old.Tohtori]

Well doing stuff outside our random encounters(which aren't really random, more like weekly and has been for a good time) would require contact info, so yeah, it is.

Not to mention that it's part of our cool lil thing that we don't share that info, where as probably every other person usually met will.

 

[Cerb]

?

Ask her to do things with other people that are can't be interpreted as a 'Date"

 

[kiliarien]

Well doing stuff outside our random encounters(which aren't really random, more like weekly and has been for a good time) would require contact info, so yeah, it is.

Not to mention that it's part of our cool lil thing that we don't share that info, where as probably every other person usually met will.

Well that seems odd to me - could it be that she isn't sharing information because she doesn't see you as a friend per se, but more as a stranger outside her normal friendship group who she can tell stuff to without it actually affecting her 'normal' social circles? Do you get what I mean by that?

 

[old.Tohtori]

Well that seems odd to me - could it be that she isn't sharing information because she doesn't see you as a friend per se, but more as a stranger outside her normal friendship group who she can tell stuff to without it actually affecting her 'normal' social circles? Do you get what I mean by that?

Yeah i get what you mean, but no. We are part of the normal social circle

She probably would give her number if i asked, but like i said, it's a bit of a thing we got going on. Not to mention, she's shared information a plenty, as said, we've talked about all and anything.

Think i'm gonna go with a light poke route here, if there's some interesting sh*t going on, ask if she wants to go. That's an easy one since her interests are pretty much identical.

Then again, the interesting sh*t that's going on, we're already going to anyway

 

[kiliarien]

Yeah i get what you mean, but no. We are part of the normal social circle

She probably would give her number if i asked, but like i said, it's a bit of a thing we got going on. Not to mention, she's shared information a plenty, as said, we've talked about all and anything.

Think i'm gonna go with a light poke route here, if there's some interesting sh*t going on, ask if she wants to go. That's an easy one since her interests are pretty much identical.

Then again, the interesting sh*t that's going on, we're already going to anyway

Oh well as part of the same circle it's nice to know that's not her logic.

Good luck with it bud, wish you the best.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Yeah, gonna need it since, well, imagine me(brain) as a hot female who's a bit wilder, bit more ex tempore and you get *waves hands* tadaa.

Excellent, but at the same time i'm quite confident she's a figment of my imagination and we agree on it

 

[xomer]

you'r too young for that Toht

 

[Zita]

ummmm..... just let it happen, and if its meant to be... it will ;p

...

 

[Ezteq]

sorry, jumping in without reading all other posts but how I'd do it (actually, how I have done it) is just say 'Hay, I really enjoy your company we should do more stuff together!'

you can go about making things all complicated and stuff but I've found the direct approach is generally better and easier for everyone.

haha hark at me, I've only had friends for about 9 months and already I think I'm some kind of guru lol!

 

[Raven]

Coming out and saying "I want to be closer friends" is proper weirdo behaviour. Either you are closer friends or you aren't, it's not something that is decided. If you want to spend more time with her do as Ezteq says, if she want's to spend more time with then she will agree to do more together, anything else and you will sound like a nutjob.

 

[Vasconcelos]

Coming out and saying "I want to be closer friends" is proper weirdo behaviour. Either you are closer friends or you aren't, it's not something that is decided. If you want to spend more time with her do as Ezteq says, if she want's to spend more time with then she will agree to do more together, anything else and you will sound like a nutjob.

^--- This.

If you are past the 5th afternoon at Starbucks, forget about it, you will never bang her.

 

[Cerb]

I don't think he wants to dip his wick though. Invite her to do more things. That is all.

Also before 9 months ago you were on here......nice to know what you really think of us....

YouTube - Friendship OVER

 

[old.Tohtori]

Also before 9 months ago you were on here......nice to know what you really think of us....

The what now?

Raven; that's a cultural difference right there.

 

[Punishment]

Ez and Ravens last 2 posts kind of sum the whole thread up

Stop thinking to much

YouTube - Anchorman: The Legend of Ron Burgundy Funniest Scene

 

[Cerb]

The what now?

Raven; that's a cultural difference right there.

Sorry I meant to quote Ez's post for the friendship part

 

[old.Tohtori]

Sorry I meant to quote Ez's post for the friendship part

Ah ok, friendship on

 

[Laddey]

Find some common ground and use that. EG Squash...Then more things such as eating out, chilling etc. The key is common ground!

 

[Vasconcelos]

Find some common ground and use that. EG Squash...Then more things such as eating out, chilling etc. The key is common ground!

The other side of the that coin is the risk of becoming her best friend, something that, trust me, you dont want.

 

[xomer]

Xomer: I dont want ya for your big sexy tits and the ass with the red/yellow thong baby. I just want to play Monopoly with ya
Friend:

 

[DocWolfe]

I find that rape brings friends closer, but if you're not into that then you can always slowly poison her... then as she's getting more and more ill you could look after her and care for her, make her soup etc. Then you can spend the rest of your life with her without having to worry about anyone else! All you need to do when she's bedridden is keep the dosage low, making sure not to kill her.

Then when you've had enough you finish her off.

Schimples.

 

[Ezteq]

I find that rape brings friends closer, but if you're not into that then you can always slowly poison her... then as she's getting more and more ill you could look after her and care for her, make her soup etc. Then you can spend the rest of your life with her without having to worry about anyone else! All you need to do when she's bedridden is keep the dosage low, making sure not to kill her.

Then when you've had enough you finish her off.

Schimples.

Docwolfe... I'm your number one fan!

*puts Liberace record on and hides the iron pig*

 

[Lamp]