TdC
Trem's hunky sex love muffin
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but in true girly fashion she has managed to tell me that A) she is so riddled with doubt that she's doing the "right thing" that she can't possibly be with me anymore and B) she loves me so that she doesn't want to be without me ever. within the space of 5 minutes.
she has tried her utmost to explain to me that the fact that there's nothing wrong with us, our relationship, my/her friends all like her/me, my mother and her parents like(s) her/me, the fact that everything comes naturally and that we hardly ever argue, the fact that we see eye to eye on just about everything and the fact that she has nothing to complain about and all is good (her literal words) drive her to believe that something must be wrong and that we can't be together.
the above, I do not understand. then she said something I did understand, and that is because everything comes so naturally she doesn't have the feeling that she has to fight for anything. she doesn't feel inspired by "us". there is no "mystery" to our relationship (now we are in the fringes of dodgyness again but I still get the idea) and she thinks that because I'm such a nice bloke (and I am. tbh I'm the archetype "nice bloke", like other nice blokes come to me for guidence you know) I'll let her walk all over me and defer to her in all things. while this isn't quite true (I actually have limits) I do tend to go along with many of her ideas (remember the seeing eye to eye thing?) because they are good ideas and I don't mind. it seems being an easy-going bloke isn't good in relationships. she wants me to make major issues of things (that I don't consider important) so she knows how I stand, but surely my agreement tells her that? jeebus h christ I wish I could understand female logic.
anyway, this morning she's sad and refuses to tell me anything more. I have the idea that she wants me to break it off with her so she gets the easy way out. I'm almost inclined to give it to her, because even though I really like her and do not want our relationship to be over I couldn't possibly handle the idea of her being in this thing against her will. her doubts cause her grief, and that hurts me muchly. breaking it off may be the pain to make the other pain go away.
she has tried her utmost to explain to me that the fact that there's nothing wrong with us, our relationship, my/her friends all like her/me, my mother and her parents like(s) her/me, the fact that everything comes naturally and that we hardly ever argue, the fact that we see eye to eye on just about everything and the fact that she has nothing to complain about and all is good (her literal words) drive her to believe that something must be wrong and that we can't be together.
the above, I do not understand. then she said something I did understand, and that is because everything comes so naturally she doesn't have the feeling that she has to fight for anything. she doesn't feel inspired by "us". there is no "mystery" to our relationship (now we are in the fringes of dodgyness again but I still get the idea) and she thinks that because I'm such a nice bloke (and I am. tbh I'm the archetype "nice bloke", like other nice blokes come to me for guidence you know) I'll let her walk all over me and defer to her in all things. while this isn't quite true (I actually have limits) I do tend to go along with many of her ideas (remember the seeing eye to eye thing?) because they are good ideas and I don't mind. it seems being an easy-going bloke isn't good in relationships. she wants me to make major issues of things (that I don't consider important) so she knows how I stand, but surely my agreement tells her that? jeebus h christ I wish I could understand female logic.
anyway, this morning she's sad and refuses to tell me anything more. I have the idea that she wants me to break it off with her so she gets the easy way out. I'm almost inclined to give it to her, because even though I really like her and do not want our relationship to be over I couldn't possibly handle the idea of her being in this thing against her will. her doubts cause her grief, and that hurts me muchly. breaking it off may be the pain to make the other pain go away.