Cerb
I am a FH squatter
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This is actually something I've talked about a lot about with various people over the years and always something I have trouble with. I like to think of my self as a good person. I'm not going to say something as ignorant as "I have no problem with gay people" , because that implies there is something to have a problem with and I don't believe there is. Gay people are there and straight people are there, and that's good.
However I have always wrestled with whether or not same sex couples should raise children. I want to say yes go ahead any couple who are willing to look after and love a child deserve one. In fact I do believe this. However where my mind rebels is for the child. Now I know the idea that a childs parents being gay might somehow pass this on to a kid is absolutely ludicrous. My problem is that regardless of this I can't really ever see that child having a "normal" upbringing. Then I think to myself, who am I to decide what a normal upbringing is? My worry is that a child raised by a same sex couple is going to have to grow up facing some of the same stigmas and criticisms that are leveled at his/her parents and I don't think its fair for any child to have to deal with that. It's not right, but the fact is that child is going to be teased in the school yard when two daddies or mommies turn up to bring them home. Other children's parents who are intolerant may encourage their child to "stay away" from the child as if homosexuality was some sort of contagious disease. I wish the world wasn't this way, but we would all be kidding ourselves if we said people don't behave like this. It seems to me that even though any loving same sex couple deserve a child just as much as any other couple, for the child's sake, it would be better if they didn't. Even writing that gives me a taste of bile in my mouth because I know it is a bad solution but there you go. Like I said it's something I wrestle with.
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However I have always wrestled with whether or not same sex couples should raise children. I want to say yes go ahead any couple who are willing to look after and love a child deserve one. In fact I do believe this. However where my mind rebels is for the child. Now I know the idea that a childs parents being gay might somehow pass this on to a kid is absolutely ludicrous. My problem is that regardless of this I can't really ever see that child having a "normal" upbringing. Then I think to myself, who am I to decide what a normal upbringing is? My worry is that a child raised by a same sex couple is going to have to grow up facing some of the same stigmas and criticisms that are leveled at his/her parents and I don't think its fair for any child to have to deal with that. It's not right, but the fact is that child is going to be teased in the school yard when two daddies or mommies turn up to bring them home. Other children's parents who are intolerant may encourage their child to "stay away" from the child as if homosexuality was some sort of contagious disease. I wish the world wasn't this way, but we would all be kidding ourselves if we said people don't behave like this. It seems to me that even though any loving same sex couple deserve a child just as much as any other couple, for the child's sake, it would be better if they didn't. Even writing that gives me a taste of bile in my mouth because I know it is a bad solution but there you go. Like I said it's something I wrestle with.
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