old.Tohtori
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Yes i know, you're one of the ad hominem crew who can't discuss anything without it.
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Do you think it's necessary though? For you, from what you said, it seems to be, but in a general manner; do you think people can have the same relationship without marriage "forcing" things?
Grats on actually standing a woman for 10 years btw![]()
I don't see why it should be an issue.
I take pride in my friendships with the opposite gender - chastity is one of the most admirable and elusive qualities a human can possess.
Yes i know, you're one of the ad hominem crew who can't discuss anything without it.
Sorry did I have to put a smiley face or a disclaimer to say I was taking the piss![]()
i believe its the general egocentric way people act these, days, and the possibilities that youre not Forced together by social norm, status or economy. Splitting up has become easier which is good, but its also bad and hurtful to the kids (so is sticking together when its not working)I think if anything people probably leave it too long to get married these days. Any healthy marriage is filled with comprimise, but by the time you are in your late twenties or early thirties people tend to be very much set in their ways. It seems to me that people who marry late often find it very difficult to make those changes and find it difficult to have someone taking up their personal space.
no, and yes - if the parents cant handle the divorce im pretty sure it can fuck them up just as much (and maybe more)Not as much as living 24/7 with unhappy, frustrated parents, who take it out on them -one might argue.
no, and yes - if the parents cant handle the divorce im pretty sure it can fuck them up just as much (and maybe more)
A divorce is a mutual decision between two grown up persons,
It´s as much of an assumption as "all divorced people are selfish, egocentric and without responsibility".
Repped for a totally great postMy parents divorced when I was 7, by which point I had seen them have blistering rows daily, had other women coming to the house to scream at my mum for various reasons saying they were the one my dad really wanted to be with and all that toss. I saw my dad strangle my mum until she almost passed out. All those things effected me far more than the love and care I have received from my step-dad whom my mum met when I was 8. They have been together since and are both so much happier than they were before.
In my case at least, divorce was by far and away one of the most positive things to happen in my life, such as the results of it were. Things could, of course, have turned out much different but luckily they turned out well.
Conversely my girlfriend's parents are 49 and 50 respectively and have been married happily since they were 18. Their marriage couldn't be better and it completely changed my viewpoint on marriage - previously, as you might expect, I was vehemently against it.
Having seen both sides of the coin, and having been with my girlfriend for 6 years, I'm still completely on the fence about marriage/divorce. The pragmatist in me says what is the point? We are happy, why put unnecessary financial (the stupid cost of the event itself) and legal constraints on ourselves? But the more whimsical side of me thinks it would be lovely to call my girlfriend my wife and commit myself to her in public in the same way I do privately.
Thankfully, I'm lucky enough to have a very understanding girlfriend and while I get the impression she would like to get married some day what she always tells me is that she knows I would marry her in a heartbeat, and that's enough for her.
All in all, I think it comes down to this for me: if you're in love, marriage isn't going to change how you feel, but divorce can irrevocably change your life and the lives of those you love - especially in the case of kids - but not necessarily always for the worst. Like all things in life, I think you ultimately have to just try and do what is best for you and yours.
So what makes people fall out of love?
The same pussy for 7 years and the fact that she stops gobbling quite as eagerly as she did when she was trying to impress?
Edit: I almost feel ashamed of myself for the crass obviousness of the above.
tbh I would have willingly fucked my ex for the rest of her life (and mine for that matter, as just hers...well...that sounds rather dodgy)The same pussy for 7 years and the fact that she stops gobbling quite as eagerly as she did when she was trying to impress?
Edit: I almost feel ashamed of myself for the crass obviousness of the above.
sounds like most men tbh. the ones who don't get that are gay. just remember men develop the first two due to a well documented phenomenon called "having to listen to teh female winge". as to the latter, well, the hair has to go somewhere you know, and when it's not on my head or on my nuts then it will take another paththe fact that any chance of good sex has flown out the window because he's got a bad back and erectile dysfunction and hair sprouting from alarming facial orifices while still managing to go bald makes it impossible to find him attractive let alone sexy Oo