sayward
Resident Freddy
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Don't read this if you haven't read my previous thread.... and only if you are really interested. I think I am going to write a book and I need to vent to people who do not know me. And before anyone says anything; yes I know money isn't everything.
To set the scene my hub and I are both only children, we have been married for a long time and have 3 grown up children who live away.
My solicitor has a photocopy of my mother's will, on a scrappy piece of paper, with a signature and 2 witnesses (half cut off). The boyfriend 'A' has 'lost' the original! He hates me and wants me to get nothing. He and the witnesses have to sign affidavits to say a) he had the original (yeh right) b) they really witnessed the will despite it being a different date from the signature.
All my mother has is a semi bungalow 'up north' max worth £140,000. The only reason she has it is because of me but that's another story. I went through it the other day and everything in it is either mine or i have bought or given her.'A' has already been thro it he's even taken her make up; but it made me realise that until she met him we virtually supported her in every way.
I stupidly told my 3 children what is in the will.It says x to my cousin x to each of my children and x to 'A' because he loaned her some money. I said I wouldn't contest the will (I don't see why this cousin should get anything) I would just administer it as Next of Kin if they all gave me a small sum so all of us got the same amount as opposed to me nothing. Because believe it or not getting this small estate together is a nightmare.
You would've thought I had suggested i bite heads off kittens. All hell broke loose. They accused me of all sorts of things. They felt I wanted to contest it to stop them getting anything! When everything I have ever done has been for them. They started to behave as tho this money was their God given right.
Left me absolutely reeling. 1. Although I had an idea my mother was a nasty piece of work, I had no idea she was this bad 2. what happened to my children's love and faith in me? 3. I know she has deliberately tried to cause as much trouble as possible and she has succeeded. I am trying very hard not to make myself ill.
Then the bombshell dropped my step mother in law died but that's the next installment. I'll leave you with this for the moment as it's getting too long.
To set the scene my hub and I are both only children, we have been married for a long time and have 3 grown up children who live away.
My solicitor has a photocopy of my mother's will, on a scrappy piece of paper, with a signature and 2 witnesses (half cut off). The boyfriend 'A' has 'lost' the original! He hates me and wants me to get nothing. He and the witnesses have to sign affidavits to say a) he had the original (yeh right) b) they really witnessed the will despite it being a different date from the signature.
All my mother has is a semi bungalow 'up north' max worth £140,000. The only reason she has it is because of me but that's another story. I went through it the other day and everything in it is either mine or i have bought or given her.'A' has already been thro it he's even taken her make up; but it made me realise that until she met him we virtually supported her in every way.
I stupidly told my 3 children what is in the will.It says x to my cousin x to each of my children and x to 'A' because he loaned her some money. I said I wouldn't contest the will (I don't see why this cousin should get anything) I would just administer it as Next of Kin if they all gave me a small sum so all of us got the same amount as opposed to me nothing. Because believe it or not getting this small estate together is a nightmare.
You would've thought I had suggested i bite heads off kittens. All hell broke loose. They accused me of all sorts of things. They felt I wanted to contest it to stop them getting anything! When everything I have ever done has been for them. They started to behave as tho this money was their God given right.
Left me absolutely reeling. 1. Although I had an idea my mother was a nasty piece of work, I had no idea she was this bad 2. what happened to my children's love and faith in me? 3. I know she has deliberately tried to cause as much trouble as possible and she has succeeded. I am trying very hard not to make myself ill.
Then the bombshell dropped my step mother in law died but that's the next installment. I'll leave you with this for the moment as it's getting too long.