What to do

[grimlin]

give it about 1 week and your be over it and most shops sell any ages alcohol i think. whn your over it use eggys 25 ways to get a girl, ive tried all 25 and each time they have loved it

 

[Pirkel]

Whooaaa easy guys!

Problems are relative.

When you're 7, losing your pocket money is a huge problem, you're fucked.
When you're 9, accidentally wetting yourself in school worries you immensely.
When you're 14, spots worry the hell out of you, how can life get worse?!?!
When you're 16, exam grades are a real problem.
When you're 18, losing your first love can be so depressing - life sucks etc...
When you're 21, getting a 2:2 instead of a 2:1 hurts like hell...
etc etc

Problems are problems - the severity depends on your personal situation, how old you are, what your experience is.

Hurting hurts the same at any age.

Well said... and like topicstarter said ... time heals.

If there is anything I learned in my short and insignificant little life it is that nothing is as bad as it originally looks. In the end, when you look back at a problem. It was bad... it hurt... it cost you a lot of money... but it was nowhere near as bad as you thought it was.

 

[Infanity]

what to do when your life is utter shite, gf cheated/left you, you dont rly have many friends, you dont have much to do, youre not old enough to buy alcohol and... yeh everything is just balls?

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

yes, this is whine.

If your not even old enough to buy drink, you shouldnt be hitting that stage :d

It sounds emorly tbh mate, Think about it - If your GF has left you and your young. Does it honestly matter ?

Get on with life and go make friends ;d

 

[Sharaft]

As long as you're living at home, i don't believe people should have the right to even call stuff problems. (you might not live at home, in which case you get a bit of rep)

cold dude, i got lots of friends that have problem with themself that live home.. dont see why this is a factor

 

[Sharaft]

i left daoc for a couple of months, that surly had a strange and positive effect. I am no longer addicted to daoc and only play a few hours each week atm.

And btw, going to the fishmarked in Bergen isnt realy that cool as everybody thinks

Ok i know alot what ya say there, been away from daoc now and then ofcourse but always get back not addicted but i like speak to the friends i allready got!

Oh jeg vet jo seff at et jævla fiskemarked ikke er noe gøy hahaha! Sa det bare for å se på den ironiske siden

 

[Lamp]

"You are never so wet that you won't dry"
Life is like a woman, sometimes it's the greatest thing ever, some times she is a bitch. If she kicks you in the balls... don't break down in self pity. Jump up, grab her hair and fuck her over the kitchen counter.

Damn right.

Life's what YOU make of it.

No one else is gonna give you this perfect-life-feel-good-factor on a plate. You gotta grab life by the horns and skull-fuck it.

1. Any woman who cheats on you is not worth your attention. Dump her and move on.

2. Making friends isn't easy. People will walk in and out of your life but only true friends will leave foot prints in your heart. Take up a sport / hobby / interest and try to meet new people that way. May take time, but be patient.

3. Alcohol ain't the way to drown your sorrows. All your problems are still there the morning after.

4. Feeling better is about having a positive mind-set. Don't let depression set in. If you're feeling shite still in a week, talk to someone.

5. Eat well. Drink water. Get proper sleep.

 

[Solo]

myspace and get your emo on?

 

[pikeh]

dont just drink your problems away. It will just make you feel more shit in the morning. take up a hobby. grief only makes you stronger, so learn from it. your still young, im sure you've still got loads of great, and loads of shit experiences ahead of you, just like anyone else on these boards. Sure, your gonna feel like a complete stain when you've split up with your girlfriend, we all do, but that lasts a couple of weeks. look forward to going out, meeting new people. And remember , the only good thing about emo is the music, and the fit girls. (trust me)

 

[Bugz]

Welcome to the years of being moody. I feel depressed alot of my time and I can see how having your gf gets you down, since my gf is the only thing that has stopped me from going on a murderous rampage. Speaking from experiance of being a depressing, moody person, I would consider doing the following:

- Be yourself at all times. If you try to be someone else, you'll fail. If your not a good socialiser, don't go out to clubs etc. if you know it's not you. If your a games geek, be a games geek.

- Listen to happy, vibrant music. They can lift your mood and make you feel alot better. Music has that healing sort of power. Just keep away from the Phil Collins n shit

- Get a job. Earning money = happy person. Moment I got a job and had cash in the kitty, my mood got alot happier. I like spending, everyone does.

- Build the self confidence. Weight lifting, sports, self defence etc. can all help with this. You have to shape your life.

- Make a list of all the things that make your life utter shit and go about changing them.

- Find something motivational and hog it like there's no tomorrow. Motivation = success.

 

[Ezteq]

well when i split up with my previous bf i remember i was a a little bitter and emotionally bruised, anyway i carried on, didnt do that thing of wallowing in self pitty and getting drunk and acting like a loser because i wasnt, he was the loser for acting the way he did, i'd done nothign wrong so wasnt going to punish myself.

what i did do though which i find bizarre even now was adopt a severe mills and boon slushy book addiction, i think i just wanted to read nice stories about people who were in love and all the books had a happy ending, i wanted to prevent myself from becoming a withdrawn emotional eunach, and for me it worked.

this goes for everyone whos going through that situation do not punish yourself!!!

 

[old.Tohtori]

cold dude, i got lots of friends that have problem with themself that live home.. dont see why this is a factor

Yeah i tried to explain it a bit better later on.

I mean those who don't do anything about it. Just in my mind at the age of 18(insert any countries drinking age if you want since it's the MANHOOD!!! age ) you should try to get on with your life.

If you can't, like being sick, having to take care of parents etc, then it's different, but if you're just freeloading of your parents, i have no respect for any sort of "difficulties".

It's a bit of a different subject really i guess...

Anywhoop, what the HELL is this "don't get drunk if you're dumped" bull?!

Get loaded people! Drink! Be merry! Don't punish the innocent alcohol for some relationship thing

 

[Bugz]

Anywhoop, what the HELL is this "don't get drunk if you're dumped" bull?!

Get loaded people! Drink! Be merry! Don't punish the innocent alcohol for some relationship thing

Isn't it basic knowledge? Alcohol is a depressant.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Isn't it basic knowledge? Alcohol is a depressant.

Well getting sh*tfaced i guess is...i havent' really had that many depressing drinks.

Ah well, to each their own.

 

[haarewin]

Isn't it basic knowledge? Alcohol is a depressant.

i suggest you learn what 'depressant' means in terms of drug actions.
alcohol depresses (turns off) higher brain functions. the more you drink, the more of your brain is turned off until the alcohol is metabolised. it is why people become less inhibited after a few drinks. it does not make you depressed.
if you think Freud's psychoanalytic perspective, the 'superego' (conscience) and 'ego' (social constraint) get turned off by drinking alcohol. leaving only the 'id' or the pleasure seeking part of our being.

however drinking is not a healthy way to solve problems though and i do not condone people that drink to "shut out the pain".

 

[Bugz]

i suggest you learn what 'depressant' means in terms of drug actions.
alcohol depresses (turns off) higher brain functions. the more you drink, the more of your brain is turned off until the alcohol is metabolised. it is why people become less inhibited after a few drinks. it does not make you depressed.
if you think Freud's psychoanalytic perspective, the 'superego' (conscience) and 'ego' (social constraint) get turned off by drinking alcohol. leaving only the 'id' or the pleasure seeking part of our being.

however drinking is not a healthy way to solve problems though and i do not condone people that drink to "shut out the pain".

Your Brain - Alcohol is a depressant that slows brain activity down. While one or two drinks makes most people feel relaxed, more alcohol may cause feelings of anxiety, depression, and often aggression. Alcohol’s first effect as it reaches the outer brain is to distort your judgement and lower you inhibition, while producing euphoria (a sense of pleasure).

Other - Alcohol depresses the body’s immune system making it easier to get sick. It also disrupts your sleep patterns, further depressing the immune system.

Thank you very fuckin much, i know what the word depressant means.

Drunk when depressed will lead to continous drinking = depression in simplier terms...

 

[Mey]

"If you want to kill me, hate me, detest me, and live in an unsightly way... Run, run, and cling to life."

If your not old enough to buy alchol then you really shouldn't need to find a reason to live.. that's for the oldies. Life moves on something better will come along, and your look back and say "im glad that bitch cheated on me.."

 

[haarewin]

Drunk when depressed will lead to continous drinking = depression in simplier terms...

depressants do not cause depression.

 

[Bugz]

depressants do not cause depression.

Depressants lead to emotional activity.

It's just different for different people.

 

[Fana]

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

Suicide, a permanent solution for a temporary problem.

No matter how shitty life might feel you can always make it better. If you have at least a couple friends then you obviously are somewhat likeable, and if you have had a girlfriend you are obviously somwhat attractive/loveable - finding things to do isnt so damn hard, just try different sports for a starter, or something artsy, or get politically involved, or get involved in some charity/humanrights organization etc. There are litterally millions of things to do on this planet. Also, if you arent old enough to drink then sorry, but you are just starting out - you will get downtrodden countless times, its part of life, but you will also have the opportunity to experience amazing things. Life is all about what you make of it.

 

[Sharaft]

Yeah i tried to explain it a bit better later on.

I mean those who don't do anything about it. Just in my mind at the age of 18(insert any countries drinking age if you want since it's the MANHOOD!!! age ) you should try to get on with your life.

If you can't, like being sick, having to take care of parents etc, then it's different, but if you're just freeloading of your parents, i have no respect for any sort of "difficulties".

It's a bit of a different subject really i guess...

Anywhoop, what the HELL is this "don't get drunk if you're dumped" bull?!

Get loaded people! Drink! Be merry! Don't punish the innocent alcohol for some relationship thing

i usually tell this,

Dont sit on the rock in the tunnel and cry, caus then youll be there forever, step of and move out of the tunnel, when you reached the other side youll be on the way to happyness!

and it actually works ^^

 

[Ezteq]

ah ok i see my mistake now,

yeah go out get pissed as a newt, tell everyone your problems (repeatedly) drink some more, make random drunken depressed threads and then tell people again how youve split up and your really depressed, then go live in the bottom of a whiskey bottle for about 3.5 months because that will solve all your problems, youll come out of it thinking "hay lookit me guys wow i really did something with my life, my god im just like sooo strong!! yay me!"

then you can go about telling people you were drunk for 3.5 months and really depressed...



or you can get up dust yourself off and do stuff that will make you feel happy and like youve achieved something, rebuild your self esteem and get your confidence back.

i know what i'd do (and before anyone tries to analyse me and tell me how i would behave, piss off because i've done both) 1st time i split up with someone i went out got shit faced put on this fascade that i was having a great time and ooh look at me im oh so happy, when really i was being a boring tit who was only damaging myself, 2nd time i reacted in the opposite way and the 2nd was was 100% better.

you obviously posted here because your feeling not too hot and wanted someone to listen to you, i hope you find a way to get back up there that isnt self destructive.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Goddamnit!

Drinking doesn't mean you're going on a drinking binge that lasts for days on end

I hate you hippie jesusloving sober bastards, but i'll still have a for you.

 

[Lothoras]

wow, surprised me that so many people would read and post here.. thanks again for replies, they've helped. im still feeling pretty shite, but yeah, i believe as some of you have said.. in a couple of months i'll probably look back and laugh at all of this. i think having life experience is a good way to stay happy, or atleast getting through shit much easier. believe another thing that smashed me was i realized how much lies and such there is in life. think i'll be more careful next time i decide to trust someone.
so off i go on my hunt for life experience. knowing that i know so little of life tells me that i am the little kid you say i am... : o
i can see the light in the end of the tunnel but i think im still quite deep in.. been tryin to get out with friends lately, i like it. and i will give it more time, will prolly give up daoc and find the same fun irl.
i'll just have to see where the tunnel leads me, i guess. but FUCK i'd like to beat the shit out of that wanker who ran off with my gf.:kissit: ohwell..
thanks again, you've all helped me quite alot. havent tried the drinking part yet, doubt it'll really help much or i'll try it either. not the right way to use the fuzzy stuff called alcohol.
and to the guy who was talkin about happy music.. would iron maiden do the trick for you? it somehow helps me forget, atleast for the time im listening to it.:>
dunno what more to write. hehe. thanks again all :worthy:

 

[snushanen]

yes you prolly will feel better soon.

I have something to say and maybe disagree with some of you.
Some of you say that alcohol isnt the way to fix a problem like that. If alc means drinking yous sorrows away i agree, thats not good. But when meting new people on parties etc, alcohol might be the thing. I mean alcohol is a good thing to use when you are on a party at that age because when alcohol is used, its much easier to make new friends and even meet new girls .
Personly i am coming directly from a party right now and i met a lot of nice pepole. So if i have many wrong spellings its becaue i have used alcohol today Not because i am unhappy with anything, just because i feel it is easier to meet new people that way.

And if i am goingto buy alcohol for lothoras, i hope he will use it in the same way as i am.

 

[Lothoras]

yes, thats a great way to use alcohol snushanen. but sitting for yourself listening to sad blues and drinkin whiskey? how pointless is that

 

[snushanen]

yes it is. drinking alone is a habbit i avoid. You are still pretty yong but dont worry, parties will come very quickly. and then drink in a good way. You dont whant to turn out like a guy did on the party i was at earlier today, a guy who puked 3 hours .

 

[elisera]

I also wouldn't recommend relying on drinking to make friends... What are you gonna do when you start a job and have to get to know everyone there? You certainly can't be carrying that hip flask of vodka round with you all day... Imo better to get to know people when sober and then drink with them later

 

[Lamp]

I don't really drink a lot, but I'm not a hippy.
And I don't love Jesus.

 

[Sharaft]

yes it is. drinking alone is a habbit i avoid. You are still pretty yong but dont worry, parties will come very quickly. and then drink in a good way. You dont whant to turn out like a guy did on the party i was at earlier today, a guy who puked 3 hours .

does that mean that 3 bottles of whiskey every day is bad for your health? i mean comeon... aint it got vitamin C in it?

 

[old.Tohtori]

I also wouldn't recommend relying on drinking to make friends... What are you gonna do when you start a job and have to get to know everyone there?

Hey missy! Don't diss it 'till you tried it!

I for one believe it's common decency to offer your co-workers some refreshments on a hard day of work.

Especially in ireland i believe that would go down well at the office watering well.