What to do

[Lothoras]

what to do when your life is utter shite, gf cheated/left you, you dont rly have many friends, you dont have much to do, youre not old enough to buy alcohol and... yeh everything is just balls?

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

yes, this is whine.

 

[Pirkel]

Stop playing computer games. Go make more friends. Tell your gf it's her loss.

And move on.

Seriously if you think your gf leaving you and not having a lot of friends is enough to question why you should still be alive, you're in for a couple of rough surprises during your lifetime.

 

[Blackjack]

fuck all her girlfriends, have a good time with the friends you do have, it's the quality of friends that matter not quantity.
Start some sort of self defence/martial arts, it gives you something to do, you'll meet new friends and it will boost your confidence.
Alcohol wouldn't be the answer in your situation anyway.

No matter how shitty life feels it will get better. I'll tell you something a sergeant of mine told us once. you might find it alittle cryptic (might not) for your situation but i'm sure you will get it "You are never so wet that you won't dry"
Life is like a woman, sometimes it's the greatest thing ever, some times she is a bitch. If she kicks you in the balls... don't break down in self pity. Jump up, grab her hair and fuck her over the kitchen counter. Don't let life get you down mate

 

[Pirkel]

Wow you just said that so much better then I did Blackjack.

Go with his advice!

 

[adoNix]

what to do when your life is utter shite, gf cheated/left you, you dont rly have many friends, you dont have much to do, youre not old enough to buy alcohol and... yeh everything is just balls?

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

yes, this is whine.

You should just send a sms to snushanen! he will buy alchohol for you!

 

[liloe]

what to do when your life is utter shite, gf cheated/left you, you dont rly have many friends, you dont have much to do, youre not old enough to buy alcohol and... yeh everything is just balls?

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

yes, this is whine.

Well alc is surely not the solution, will just make you feel guilty if you ask me. You say you don't have many friends. Well I don't have a huge amount of friends either, so you should try and do stuff with the people you know. Eventually they will bring other people they know and so forth. Also going out will change your ideas a bit, give life a fresh taste so to speak =)

 

[Lothoras]

dont believe computer games has ever been a problem.. atleast not with the gf.. anyways thanks for the replies guys. dunno what to say or do.. hope i get this worked out soon

 

[Lothoras]

You say you don't have many friends. Well I don't have a huge amount of friends either, so you should try and do stuff with the people you know. Eventually they will bring other people they know and so forth. Also going out will change your ideas a bit, give life a fresh taste so to speak =)

I try to get out more these days, and it works quite well, but when i first get the whole soup of shite in my mind and start thinkin about it it drags me a long way back down, and then i start whining on freddyshouse. >.<

 

[eggy]

gf cheated/left you

Well, that either means a) she was a cheating bitch or b) you most likely ignored her a bit too much and put too much priority on playing computer games?

you dont rly have many friends

Again, it's likely you've spent the last few years playing computer games rather than meeting new people and developing social skills?

you dont have much to do

Probably because you've been playing computer games, so don't know how else to entertain yourself. Relying upon a computer game for contentment is probably the worst option available to you.

youre not old enough to buy alcohol

That's not really a problem. If you wanted alcohol it's not hard to get, but really alcohol won't help you.

and... yeh everything is just balls?

Bit of a generic statement so can't really advise.

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

You're (obviously) not even an adult yet. Don't say things like this...sure things might look bleak but I guarentee in, say 3 years time, you'll be in another spot of bother and looking back you'll laugh about why you over-reacted so much. Hormones and computer games...not a good mix.

I would suggest, if you want to sort yourself out:

a) Put computer games lower down on the priority list (note: I'm not saying play games less...but if you prioritise other things, you'll play them less by default)
b) Write a list of everything in your life you'd like to change.
c) Focus on one of those things; if it's your health then join a gym, buy a bike, go for a run twice a week...something to improve an aspect of your life.
d) ...this will lead into new hobbies and eventually meeting new people.
e) You'll still play computer games; it's hard to break an addiction, but hopefully you'll look at games in a new light - actually having fun rather than playing them because you have to.

Hope some of this helps.

 

[leviathane]

it's summer go out and make the bonds with your current friends a bit stronger, get invited to a few partys in shit, meet new ppl mebee a few girls etc, tbh i'd take a break from gaming if i was you, that or just put rl first for a change.

 

[Thorwyn]

clicky

 

[Sharaft]

Stop playing mids, and go albions! xD

or just leave daoc for a coupple of months, get out and breath some fresh air. helps some time Bergen is a nice place too, go to the fishmarket etc whatever makes you feel better.

 

[Congax]

gf cheated/left you.... youre not old enough to buy alcohol

xD many more will be leaving!

 

[haarewin]

youre not old enough to buy alcohol

make a time travel device, go into the future, bring yourself back, and have all the alcohol you like.

 

[Naetha]

what to do when your life is utter shite, gf cheated/left you, you dont rly have many friends, you dont have much to do, youre not old enough to buy alcohol and... yeh everything is just balls?

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

yes, this is whine.

Take up martial arts. Have lots of fun, meet new people, and vent that underlying brooding anger

Also a great way of keeping fit and looking cool, and at the end of 2-5 years (depending on how rigorously you train) you can be a black belt

 

[cHodAX]

Take up dogging as a hobby, I did and now I have loads of friends. We all meet down the local park 3 nights a week for a bit of action.

 

[old.Tohtori]

You're a kid, you know sh*t. Sorry to say this, not really sorry.. but it's polite to say...but you don't know jacksh*T about real problems.

As long as you're living at home, i don't believe people should have the right to even call stuff problems. (you might not live at home, in which case you get a bit of rep)

Free food, free living free person to wash the sh*tstains from your underwear.

Now...i for one...i got laid off out of work because they ran out of cash basicly. One month warning and out on the streets.

I am wondering every day where i get cash for my next meal, i haven't had a warm one(you know, home food cooking that's other then basic crub like pasta and vegetables from a frozen bag) in two months. I wake up each morning feeling like sh*t 'cause i don't have enough vitamin stuff in my crub. Go figure, evidently eating bread isn't healthy in the long run *duh*.

I don't know if i can manage this months rent, if i don't, i'll be out of an apartment and forced to move. Probably have to move out of this city, into the countryside where i have 0 friends, leaving everyone i know here. Now...

Let's talk about girls then? Last two girlfriends in a half a year time, first one was a 6 month relationship, the other a bit shorter, both whom i loved and evidently they loved me, left me because things were perfect. Yes, the actual reason for leaving is "current situation with work and not having time or energy for this kinda -thing-". So, from perfect realtionships to nothing...two times. So that goes well too.

What else...ah so, i live alone, had my last money on my bank account in...oh...a week and a half ago and my fridge is more deserted then Iraq. I have a few(read two) really good friends, who go out on weekends while i..well...obviously can't join them. I don't have a job, and there's none available in this country. I've tried them all, but most are busy(with newly released gfames or vacations) or not hiring at all. Oh and also, my chest hurts almost daily and the doctors are looking into it. Might be just a broken rib that healed badly scratching my lung. Super

So, how's your life again?

 

[Sparx]

sorry had to do it

 

[haarewin]

As long as you're living at home, i don't believe people should have the right to even call stuff problems. (you might not live at home, in which case you get a bit of rep)

Free food, free living free person to wash the sh*tstains from your underwear.

not everyone has it that easy. a lot of people have to pay just to live at home. the vicious circle continues, trying to move out but not being able to because you have to pay to live at home and cant save that money to move out which you need to do because rent/house prices here is ridiculous.

people shouldnt belittle other peoples problems though. some things can take over your life entirely and while it may seem trivial to other people, its still a big deal and overwhelming to the person going through it. sure you could look back on something from being a teenager and think 'and i thought that was a problem back then!?' but lets not forget what it felt like at that point in your life.

 

[tris-]

tryin to find out why i should still be alive

yes, this is whine.

fact is there is no reason we are alive really. you just are, so get on with it

You're a kid, you know sh*t. Sorry to say this, not really sorry.. but it's polite to say...but you don't know jacksh*T about real problems.

what ever you dont have to b 20+ to know what real problems are.

 

[old.Tohtori]

not everyone has it that easy. a lot of people have to pay just to live at home. the vicious circle continues, trying to move out but not being able to because you have to pay to live at home and cant save that money to move out which you need to do because rent/house prices here is ridiculous.

If you're 18, you get a job, pay for your living, save up what you can and move the f*ck out when you got the money together.

Leave out the cigs, the bong, the beer, the parties, cancel your internet, sell your computer...whatever...save up and get alife for yourself.

I don't belittle peoples problems, i belittle the way they think they have it SOOO BAD *snif* when they haven't even had real problems to deal with. Like surviving.

 

[haarewin]

no point trying to explain peoples situation because you clearly have an answer for everything.

 

[Sparx]

sell your computer..

That what you done?

 

[tris-]

I don't belittle peoples problems, i belittle the way they think they have it SOOO BAD *snif* when they haven't even had real problems to deal with. Like surviving.

the way you make out is that you believe only financial issues are real problems. maybe it is you who hasnt experienced real problems?
there is always a solution to money problems. so what you cant get a job in the gaming industry or what ever it is you did. get a job in a mc donalds, a pub, a factory, a laundrette. or are you saying no jobs exist like that at all in your country? why dont you sell your computer and personall possesions?

 

[eggy]

Whooaaa easy guys!

Problems are relative.

When you're 7, losing your pocket money is a huge problem, you're fucked.
When you're 9, accidentally wetting yourself in school worries you immensely.
When you're 14, spots worry the hell out of you, how can life get worse?!?!
When you're 16, exam grades are a real problem.
When you're 18, losing your first love can be so depressing - life sucks etc...
When you're 21, getting a 2:2 instead of a 2:1 hurts like hell...
etc etc

Problems are problems - the severity depends on your personal situation, how old you are, what your experience is.

Hurting hurts the same at any age.

 

[CorNokZ]

I don't belittle peoples problems, i belittle the way they think they have it SOOO BAD *snif* when they haven't even had real problems to deal with. Like surviving.

I'm 18, living at home and 3 weeks ago I had to fight to stay alive before my surgery.. But that's not a real problem because I still live at home? If I didn't it would be a problem? I don't get it Explain it to me you cuddly seal

 

[old.Tohtori]

Well what i was trying to do, which has worked in the past, is to show that there are worse situations to be in.

Sometimes hearing about other people's problems makes you feel better about your own, put things in perspective.

But...as it seems...on these boards you have to be sympathic if you don't want to be flamed to bits.

But, i'll try to answer all i can:

haarewin, i was bringing out my opinion on how i feel about living at home past 18. I believe you should try your hardest to get out and get your own life. Not saying the original poster isn't doing just this. Like i said, might be he is living outside home and goodoes to him if it's so.

tris, i haven't sold my computer for two reasons: 1: being that people don't buy used computers that much, or with enough cash, that it would be wise because of 2: i need it to make more designs for my CV to make it better and get a better change in the jobhunt. Also getting another job with my education is really THAT hard. I was self learned in the ocmputer business so it's the only one i'm "educated" in. Even the McDonalds here hire someone straight of the bench from a higher education. Also i did explain a lot more then just money problems, but in this world, money does mean all. By the way i have sold my personal posessions as much as i can.

I didn't mean to make it sound like i didn't understand what the original poster was saying, sure, sh*t happens, to all and in different degree, i was simply trying to show and tell that those problems he's having will not be such big problems later on.

I'm 18, living at home and 3 weeks ago I had to fight to stay alive before my surgery.. But that's not a real problem because I still live at home? If I didn't it would be a problem? I don't get it Explain it to me you cuddly seal

This i needed to explain too. I didn't mean that those people who have to live at home should stop whining, i meant those who are happy to stay at home. You know? You've had real problems for sure, like i said, surviving is a real problem.

And don't get too hung up on the word "real", i mean it as a BIG problem. Real problem is when you can't get your car to start etc, all problems are real basicly.

EDIT: Oh and apologies if i sounded a "bit" harsh in my first post, i'm just rather sick of people who whine without a reason about little things (not towards these boards)

 

[Lothoras]

thanks for the replies, all of you.. think i've learned enough from others to know where i am and where i should go. also realized that time is a good thing, and decided to spend it trying to have fun. might do many of the things you guys have posted here.. i could probably have solved most of my problems without this thread, somehow.. but i guess some sympathy and a couple of good words gives it quite a boost. thanks again.

 

[snushanen]

Stop playing mids, and go albions! xD

or just leave daoc for a coupple of months, get out and breath some fresh air. helps some time Bergen is a nice place too, go to the fishmarket etc whatever makes you feel better.

i left daoc for a couple of months, that surly had a strange and positive effect. I am no longer addicted to daoc and only play a few hours each week atm.

And btw, going to the fishmarked in Bergen isnt realy that cool as everybody thinks


And yes Lothoras if u need alc, i will buy if you promise to use it in a decent way

 

[Himse]

Trust me mate, just get out a bit to parties and stuff, you'll meet plenty of new people. Personally about 2 years ago my social life used to really suck, since i was stuck indoors all the time. Now its greatly improved since i get out lots more.


With the girl situation i would say just meet aload of new girls to be honest, I went out one night and met plenty of girls who i am quite close to nowdays.

Just keep your head up and get stuck in, it will work out.