Rant Startng to get a WEE(not wii) bit tired of women.

[old.Tohtori]

So, been three years, almost four...can't remember, of my last serious relationship. Would like one, why not, i've had my pushies and tushies.

I'm a good guy, i'm funny, i'm not bad to look at(according to OTHERS then my mom ) etc etc. Good guy. Nice. No jerk.

Right, to the point i guess, i'll try and keep it short:

Met girl weekend before new years, went to her place for the night, no sexy. No bother there, old school dating, oh yeah, gotta love it.

Met same girl on different note on new years, she was in "trouble", went to the "resque" her(her words), again to her place, night there, no sexysexy. Again, no problem with no sexysexy, really all round good girl.

Now...she's not interested. At tops get a three word text in four days. F*ck her eh?

That's the short story.

Now, the point here is this...what the F******CK! is wrong with you women?

I get if you don't want me, i get it if you don't want anything to do with me, i GET it if you don't want to get it, but stop with the mindf*cks already.

Two nights at someones place, that SHOULD indicate sexysexy if there's no interest level, and if there is interest, the lack of sexysexy is understandable, but NO sexysexy and NO interest is just a total clusterf*ck of the mind, as opposed to the eclipse of the heart thing.

And the REEEEEEALLY mindf*cking thing about this is two things:

All women met have said that i'm boyfriend material, perfect even as such, "trained" as one would say by natural means.

Yet...no interest?

Also, every single f*cking one of the owmen say the same f*cking thing:

"I want a guy who's funny tihihi, smart, goodlooking enough, but most all, a nice guy and no jerk."

*a breath*

NO YOU F*CKING DON'T!!!

You want a wifebeating, junkcoat wearing, asshole grandioso who YOU can change to YOUR image of a perfect boyfrined to hang his testicles on your mantle! You just want the f*cking glory of it

*another breath*

I think i'm done, yeah, much better, thanks.

Oh and P.S. if anyone, any F*CKING one says "there's plenty of fish in the sea" to me(real life, not here), i'll rip their jugular out with my penis.

 

[taB]

Try going gay?

 

[mycenae]

When you say you went back to her place, I take it this meant that you slept in the same bed, and there was some physical stuff going on, just no sex. If thats the case, then I can see why you're pissed, she's a prick tease etc
If you were sleeping in different beds and there was no hint of physical stuff, then I think you may have found a lass with a screw loose....

 

[TdC]

imo you're being too easy. play hard to get for a while.

 

[old.Tohtori]

When you say you went back to her place, I take it this meant that you slept in the same bed, and there was some physical stuff going on, just no sex. If thats the case, then I can see why you're pissed, she's a prick tease etc
If you were sleeping in different beds and there was no hint of physical stuff, then I think you may have found a lass with a screw loose....

Same bed, 1.5people bed, so the activity can be measured as a huggy type of thing. Certainly not "shun" thing.

And i'd be fine if it was "taking things slow" or somesuch, but this thing is off the chart

imo you're being too easy. play hard to get for a while.

Oh i'm not saying i don't get any

No wait..err...you don't mean that

 

[Trem]

You ever think she was lying there waiting for you to climb on?

You didn't which made her think you didn't want to with her.

But yeah women are all mentals








*runs*

 

[Uara]

You ever think she was lying there waiting for you to climb on?

You didn't which made her think you didn't want to with her.

I had the same experience in second year of Uni, I didnt want to rush things as things we're going quite nicely as they were and didnt want to bugger anything up. But then I think I did by not pushing matters when I stayed over hers that nite and it was just a huggy huggy affair.

 

[MYstIC G]

*runs*

*watches the invisible elastic between Trem & Sam's wedding rings whip Trem back to his wife's side for a sharp beating*

*film*

 

[old.user4556]

You're wasting your time. Move on.

Women aren't that hard to understand and generally you can apply some simple guidelines to avoid wasting time in future:

(this can apply to men just as much btw)

1) Don't play games. If you need to play games, you're wasting your time and you're in for a rough ride.
2) If she likes you, she'll let you know. Women don't like guys and then ignore them for no reason as if the wind changed direction. There will be a reason.
3) If she says things like "I love you like a brother" or "you're a great guy, just too good a guy" - it doesn't matter what or how she puts it, that means "I won't fuck you" or "i won't fuck you and i'm not interested in you, but i'm too scared to be honest and hope you'll get the message and bugger off".
4) If there is any ex-boyfriend baggage, you're wasting your time and you're in for a painful ride as she walks all over you as use you as an emotional crutch until she gets "closure" or "understands" why he fucked her best mate (probably because he didn't like her).
5) There is no wrong time to phone a woman you've just met (as long as it's not 5 minutes later with "I LOVE YOU ALREADY" as a message) - If a woman likes you, it won't matter when you phone - for example:

"this guy is so sweet, he phoned me the very next day to check I got home ok - what a decent bloke!"

"this guy is a stalker, he phoned me the very next day, how clingy is that?"

It won't matter, if she likes you enough, then it won't matter. There's nothing wrong with politeness, manners and getting in touch with someone in a timely fashion.

6) Taking it slow is another way of saying "you're alright, but I might have a much better offer just around the corner". Move on.
7) Pay attention to age. One thing I've noticed as I enter my 29th year of life is that young women are just too immature to have a proper stab at a relationship.
8) Any signs of a mal-adjusted woman with "trouble" (as you mention) is someone that might have "trouble" with you down the line. This also includes "manhaters" or people that cling to you way too quickly. Avoid.

Finally, if you find she's fucking with your mind or playing games, it's only because you're letting her treat you that way. Tell her to take a fucking hike and delete her number. If she texts you drunk and says "I really like you", ignore it. If she does it again, tell her to leave you the fuck alone.

Life is simply too short for this shit Tohtori; if you sense your time is being wasted then get out fast before you get hurt.

My 2p.

 

[Turamber]

Crikey there is some good advice there from Mr G. Of course when you really like somebody it is very hard to take it, and instead you keep going back for more shit. It can be possible to turn somebody's heart and mind around through such treatment ... but generally it is not going to work.

Have to decide if the person is worth the emotional investment.

But yes, it is very strange seeing/hearing what some women think of men and what they describe themselves as wanting -- as they fall into the arms of the next cheating, lying piece of shit

 

[russell]

Big G you are scarily accurate imo

Oh I dunno OldT. but if this keeps happening to you, somethings up. Maybe you are attracted to nutters?

Women are impossible -I would hate to be a man trying to decode us. But then men can be just as freaky. I hate all that game playing shit too.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Much appreciated for all the answers, and especially G there.

I was like that, i aplied the rules, but after a long solo run i guess i forgot how much i learned and knew about women, and how much i hate games and go for direct lines.

Thanks for the reminder Big one :worthy:

 

[Wazzerphuk]

I only skim read this thread but you should punch all prick-teases in the face.

 

[Deebs]

BigG is our resident agony aunt, good advice. Are you a bird?

 

[old.user4556]

The thing is, I arrived at my conclusions by being dragged over the coals myself; then going back for more, then getting dragged over the coals, then going back for more (rinse and repeat) .

 

[Uara]

Well as a young 'un (21) it is always useful to gain perspective just so as to avoid too many coal draggings myself!! I shall bear your words in mind in the future!

 

[Trem]

This is all Big G's method of getting you all in his bed

 

[old.Tohtori]

This is all Big G's method of getting you all in his bed

You say it like it's a bad thing

 

[Deebs]

This is all Big G's method of getting you all in his bed

Would rather be in his bed than yours to be honest, you can't even grow grass seed or operate a JCB.

 

[Trem]

Would rather be in his bed than yours to be honest, you can't even grow grass seed or operate a JCB.

My grass is virtually a fucking jungle now and my JCB driving was awesome

You couldn't handle me anyways.

 

[Yoni]

Toht... did you ask the girl out at all? or have you just asked her straight about wanting to develope your friendship.. and if she isn't romantically interested have you just thought about being her friend?

Some of the greatest / long lasting partnerships I have seen in my life have been based on friendship.

I don't see the need to be angry with her. Maybe you didn't give her the right vibes? maybe she is unsure of how you feel and doesn't want to be knocked back herself.

There is a difference between being mucked about and understanding the situation

I hope you find what you are looking for but Murphy's law has proven time and time again that if you go looking you wont find it.... she will come along when you least expect it I am sure

 

[Mabs]

Would rather be in his bed than yours to be honest, you can't even grow grass seed or operate a JCB.

and these are skills you look for in people you bed exactly WHY ?

 

[TdC]

Deebs likes teh ladies to have well-calloused hands and hairy buttocks!

 

[SawTooTH]

Chocolate digestives and re-runs of the A-team are in order

It will imbue you with manliness that no woman can resist

 

[russell]

Fworrrrr.*swoons*

 

[chipper]

if you look in the dictionary and search for headfuck youll see it says women right underneath it.

 

[Yoni]

if you look in the dictionary and search for headfuck youll see it says women right underneath it.

self fulfilling prophecy?

 

[chipper]

could be lol

on topic OP does have a point im sure most of us are nice guys well mannered etc yet it always seems we are the ones that are always left hanging and take a backseat to complete bastards.

it wouldnt be so bad but they (women) in my experience anyway, turn round and say i just want a nice bloke who will treat me right blah blah blah you give em that and hey guess what YOURE OUTTA THERE!

i mean come on if you want fuckwits thats fine but dont bullshit us!!!!!!!


yes i have been burned this is the voice of experience lol

 

[old.Tohtori]

Toht... did you ask the girl out at all? or have you just asked her straight about wanting to develope your friendship.. and if she isn't romantically interested have you just thought about being her friend?

Some of the greatest / long lasting partnerships I have seen in my life have been based on friendship.

I don't see the need to be angry with her. Maybe you didn't give her the right vibes? maybe she is unsure of how you feel and doesn't want to be knocked back herself.

There is a difference between being mucked about and understanding the situation

I hope you find what you are looking for but Murphy's law has proven time and time again that if you go looking you wont find it.... she will come along when you least expect it I am sure

The reason for "anger", or "f*ck her'ism", comes from the show of affection, desire to spend time(and night) with me while there were many other options. Like the couch, which i would've taken if so asked.

There was talks of movies, dates etc, all seemed "yeah that sounds cool". Again, doesn't help.

But, it's not her, she's fine as is, not interested i can take. It's more towards the lack of any common courtesy in the past three years.

Hell, even saw one girl who said she wanted to take things serious from the get-go, yet, she was the one the very next night who wanted to explore her options.

Russell is probably right, as usual, and i attract the most unstable lot of the world

About being friends, not interested in that kind of playing about.

Intentions were made clear, yet, ignoring began.

And i know if i had f*cked up, unless me texting "good night" was way too much

 

[Uara]

Wooooah Toht you texted her 'Good Night' wow you really overstepped the mark there