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So. Question.
Given that parenthood is a lifestyle choice and that parents get an awful lot of help (in terms of tax credits, paid parental leave, ability to return to jobs that are kept open when people without kids don't have a statutory right to similar time off, etc. etc.) is it fair that people with kids expect no detrimental effects at all from their choice?
My o/h has chosen to concentrate on her career and not have kids whilst people all around her disappear off for theirs. Fair enough. But she's the one that picks up the inevitable pieces when that happens and it causes massive headaches that she has to work to fix.
It's bad enough that she's battling the gender pay gap in a male-dominated industry - and I'm fully behind any moves to end pay discrimination based on gender.
But the fact is that people with kids don't work the same hours and have different priorities than those fully committed to their careers. When the shit hits the fan parents, absolutely rightly, prioritise their families. But this leaves non-parents to pick up the pieces.
How do you reward non-parents for their dedication? Or should paid "parental" leave just be rolled out to all?
This goes for dads as well as mums. It's not a gender issue.
Given that parenthood is a lifestyle choice and that parents get an awful lot of help (in terms of tax credits, paid parental leave, ability to return to jobs that are kept open when people without kids don't have a statutory right to similar time off, etc. etc.) is it fair that people with kids expect no detrimental effects at all from their choice?
My o/h has chosen to concentrate on her career and not have kids whilst people all around her disappear off for theirs. Fair enough. But she's the one that picks up the inevitable pieces when that happens and it causes massive headaches that she has to work to fix.
It's bad enough that she's battling the gender pay gap in a male-dominated industry - and I'm fully behind any moves to end pay discrimination based on gender.
But the fact is that people with kids don't work the same hours and have different priorities than those fully committed to their careers. When the shit hits the fan parents, absolutely rightly, prioritise their families. But this leaves non-parents to pick up the pieces.
How do you reward non-parents for their dedication? Or should paid "parental" leave just be rolled out to all?
This goes for dads as well as mums. It's not a gender issue.