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[Ch3tan]

Think you are being harsh Cal, it's not easy to break up with someone, especially after so long. He's obviously wanting to end it, and hasn't chosen the best way.

Got to look at the positives though Ez, you now know you aren't your mother and wouldn't be scared of raising your own kids. You have your own place; and you have great fry ups a short walk away.

 

[Calaen]

Think you are being harsh Cal, it's not easy to break up with someone, especially after so long. He's obviously wanting to end it, and hasn't chosen the best way.

Got to look at the positives though Ez, you now know you aren't your mother and wouldn't be scared of raising your own kids. You have your own place; and you have great fry ups a short walk away.

It's only hard to break up if there are differences that can't be settled within a relationship, if you just want to get with another person, ther is no real difficulty because you are already convinced that you want to be away from it anyway.

Personally it's the age old trick of breaking someones heart but keep them sweet and close just incase your new thing don't work out to well.

 

[Thorwyn]

Think you are being harsh Cal, it's not easy to break up with someone, especially after so long.

It´s still tactless to run around with a new partner just a couple of days after the break up. It just makes it too obvious that the reasons he gave for his decision were made up and that he had closed the chapter of his relation way before it all happened.
If you´re too weak to tell your partner the truth, then at least have the common decency to finish the theatre you started.


...just my 5c

 

[Vasconcelos]

Shocking news Ez, but the first thing that springs to my mind is that indeed he used some sort of excuse to start something different with that jobm8. I just wish thats not the case, but if it is, what a grade A moron of boyfriend you had. You are much better w/o him, and I wouldnt even think of that person as a friend. Friends do not perform taht kind of farces to antoher friend.

But on the other hand, maybe now you have a reason to totally move on, for me its way easier when things just are cut out sudendly than slowly cutting the ties off.

/hugs

 

[Fafnir]

Just think of the smörgåsbord of guys that opened up at a location near you..

 

[Ezteq]

New link that works:

YouTube - Video0004.mp4 welcome...to Jur-Ez Park!!!

Words appreciated guys, it was horrible and vile but it actually does make getting over it all easier now, like I said I no longer want to hug him any more (lol eergh!) and has taken him off the cloud I put him on as being such a perfect, nice, lovely bloke. He is a good guy and I don't believe he actually did anything at all while still with me...it just expalins why he was so certain we were over and not at all interested in trying to save us via councelling or anything (that had puzzled me a lot but is now clear).

I hope I can be freinds with him, but now it certainly won't be to the degree we said we would be when this first happened and I certainly won't carry on contact if it just upsets me, I'm not going to torture myself...a little spanking occasionally yes but I'm no masochist.

Anyway; I hope you like EZ-HQ kids

 

[Sparx]

those rooms are massive!

oo the fox skull

 

[Calaen]

Looks brilliant, as much as I love married life and Eden, I'd kill to have my own place again, there was something so good to just being able to do what you want whenever yuo wanted to do it!!

 

[Ch3tan]

LOL at the wave in the mirror

 

[Cyradix]

Heh... good job on the new EZ-HQ with piggie-lair

 

[Tuthmes]

/wave back @ Ezteq. (Ez send me the private video tour btw)

Very nice house Ez and dinner's already crawling on the floor

 

[cHodAX]

Love your accent Ez, bet you rock at phone sex!

Nice big rooms btw, love older houses.

 

[Bahumat]

*cough* a small piece of plastic fell into it while I was packing lol I removed it with tweezers and it all works now (yay!). Went to the cafe with my neighbors yesterday morning for breakfast and had a nice time, also had a friend phone and another one visit in the afternoon too!
It seems we are all moving on, B2 has got a new girlfriend (I saw them out the other day while I was bringing my hoover home was like being shot!!), it's a girl from his work and I knew he had a crush on her when we were together but he insists they didn't start seeing each other until sunday...the day after I moved out (which was very noble of him lol). I did say to him it was a bit distasteful and he could have at least waited a couple of weeks and pretended to be getting over me but ho hum, at least its put paid to any longing for hugs and kisses I had from him because he came round to get some papers last night and gave me a small hug and I felt a bit sick, so there is certainly no chance of a reconciliation now (and also hopefully will stop me being so grief stricken and now I can move on too)...I just hope I can still be friends with him but if it's too painful I shan't do it.

Anyway enough of that...am currently attempting to DL my video tour so will post a link shortly I hope!!

What you may find is you need a break from seeing him. Maybe 4-6 months. That way when you see him, if he has a new girlfrend etc it wont cause you so much pain.
You both got on really well from what I could tell, so if possible you could stay friends.

I do think it was a little sudden him getting a new GF, but that help you distance your feelings.

 

[Tuthmes]

Ohh and the muppetshow poster i must have aswell! >.<

 

[Aph3x]

Nice tour, I see your grow it yourself Fox didnt end up too well, just a skull and no body... I wont be buying from your supplier when I get me a grow it yourself fox!

 

[Mikah75]

Wow, I can't believe he did that, Cal's comment wasn't harsh at all imo, he is a fucking twat. When going out with someone for that long, they were engaged for fucks sake, and day after moving out, 2 weeks broken up and going out with someone, that is fucking cruel and slimey. I hope it helps you get over him faster and you get 'your apiffany' .

On a good note HQ is looking awesome, can't believe it looks that good already, girls are so much better at getting nik naks to make places look good and Michael is looking less slimey and maggoty oh yes you said it so its sticking! Sounds like you are doing well hope it keeps up. Ooo just realised I've got news too I'll pm you me dear.

 

[Ezteq]

Think Bahu hit the nail on the head there, atm may need a break from him because all I feel is disgust now lol. Michael Fox says hellooo to you all btw

It actually has helped, I mean I felt horrible and keep thinking about them periodically and its not nice but man I am getting over him fast now lol. Not quite the best way to heal a broken heart but a good way to get over the sorrow.

Hopefully my mobile broadband thingy will be working a bit better tomorrow so will be in touch if not I may be some time!!

xxx

 

[cHodAX]

Ack I skipped over that earlier Ez, sorry. Horrible thing to do to anyone nevermind someone you have been with for a long time. You deserve better babe, I am sure someone who thinks so is out there for you. Alot of us have had our heart broken before and whilst I am sure we would all agree it never totally leaves you it can make you a better/stronger person but also give you the chance to meet the perfect man for you.

 

[Mikah75]

Oi clear your private storage out can't pm you my life story!

 

[Raven]

Glad your sorting yourself out, the place looks great, I bet its nice to just put stuff wherever you like *wheels wife to the shed*

 

[russell]

You seem to have really settled in missy. Well done.

Just wanted to say that if you have really loved someone, the 'staying friends' bit does not really work initially imo, as it leaves you with false hope... stops you moving on... makes it longer and more painful.

I think even tho its shit what has happened with the other woman, it may help you to make the break cleaner.

You are turning into a social butterfly

 

[Vasconcelos]

Heh! I'm guessing Ez's inbox is becoming a sentimental counselling office ...

 

[Ezteq]

heh hay guys; time for the weekly update seeing as I don't want to keep making lots of boring threads, I'll just stick to the one big one lol!

All is exceedingly well tbh. I gave B2 a huge what for, did the whole 'you disgust me!!' bit and honestly told him I really didn't see how we can be friends now I lost all respect for him and also I'm not hanging about with someone elses boyfriend (I think girls who do that aren't nice and I'm not going to do it) and that was that.

Anyway the next day I get a very tearful phonecall in the evening with B2 saying how he can't believe he's acted this way and a sincere apology (and there is none of the 'reconcilliation' happinging so don't think it lol, I said it isn't going to happen now the Black Hole of Slovakia got her paws on him) anyway he said the realisation that he couldn't keep our friendship and he squished is really slapped him hard and etc etc, saturday we met up and went for a drink just to see if I could stomach it and I couldn't so wished him adieu and he left thoroughly dejected and really sad while I went off the get a chinese.

Anyway I got home with chinese and fantastic Mr Fox and through of him in slugville being miserable and just couldn't do it, because I like to think he wouldn't leave me that way (he probably would but I'd be hoping somone would rescue me) so I called and said get your arse down here and share my chinese and watch the movie, he came over and I made him a sandwich (???wtf was with that??) and he cried his eyes out, very sad/confused/full of self disgust and disbelief at what he did (even though nothing was technically wrong with it it was still morally very dubious...and I told him that!...and so did his parents!!) anyway we watched the movie and he got it together a bit and went home, I said I might feel sick at the thought of hugging him but I do still care (yes I know but in all honesty if I'd left him to be miserable alone I would have felt a total git and not have a clear moral mind). <---this was saturday OK?

So Yesterday I called in the morning just to make sure he hadn't killed himself or anything and was coping a bit better now and he said he's broken it off with the Slovak Slapper and is just going to get himself sorted, I asked why he did it and he said he really doesn't know...I suspect he was feeling weak and upset and oh look that nice girl from the office whose been giving me relationship advice and a shoulder to cry on and a supportive ear is available...and now so am I and bam there is was.

Anyway so now I am happy because I'm not feeling like I (or our relationship) was completely irrelevant (I'm not a very vain person but that was an ego killer) and I did the right thing, even though I didn't like him very much at all tbh I still couldn't have slept right knowing I'd been mean like that. The air is cleared and I told him he gets one fuck up (dumping me was horrible but tbh the right thing to do) and he had it, I'll not put up with a series of them (i.e. be 'that woman' who picks up the pieces all the time, because that's not my job anymore) but I do think we can be friends now.

There is no chance of getting back together and it's a nice feeling, it doesn't make me sad at all. I am really happy with HQ and the way my life is now, people coming to visit and texting me and me texting them and stuff and now there is the potential to build a new life including my best friend. Tbh how flipping nice is it all right now eh?

From going from total heartbreak and an outlook as bleak as john major's underwear draw to this is like 2 weeks...makes me think that breaking up, although sad and a terrible ordeal, was really actually very right for me.

 

[Calaen]

It's true what they say about not knowing what you had until you don't have it anymore.

Glad you feel that the situation has worked out in your favour, thats a good way to think!

 

[Ch3tan]

Hmmmm... be careful EZ. You've only been broken up for a couple of weeks, and what you think you feel now may not actually be what you do feel.

Sorry if that doesn't make a lot of sense, I just think from your posts alone that you and b2 are doing everything at light-speed. Being friends so soon after a major break up is never a good idea IMO.

 

[Everz]

Hmmmm... be careful EZ. You've only been broken up for a couple of weeks, and what you think you feel now may not actually be what you do feel.

Sorry if that doesn't make a lot of sense, I just think from your posts alone that you and b2 are doing everything at light-speed. Being friends so soon after a major break up is never a good idea IMO.

This. Doing this super fast just makes things worse.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Then again, sometimes it works straight away. Depends on people, the relationship, the breakup etc. All very person dependant. My best friend is my ex and we hopped on the friend train about a week or two into the breakup with no trouble.

Shouldn't be angry at a man for finding a skirt after a breakup either, it's a coping method for men and well documented as such.

Women deal with it differently, men get hammered or someone to hammer, or both.

Things like coming over for movie and dindin is a bad move in my opinion, it just resets the whole recovery situation. Stay away from eachother with all contacts for x amount of time(depends again), IF you can't handle it. New GF is a good measure, when that's ok, you're fine as friends.

Just my two, three cents.

 

[Vasconcelos]

Oww oww!!

Ez, if experience have taught me something, is that in this life there's no such thing as "never". I might be wrong, but that door isnt completly closed, locked and buried.

I would just keep living by your usually routine, and what will be will be. Be it with B2 or with a new comer. Like Forrest's mum used to say "life is like a chocolate box, you never know what you will get"

/hugs

 

[Nate]

I noticed through that fail link that my dogs video is not available in all countries ;o weird.

Nice to see you're happy where you are now Ez. How much is a place like that rent wise?

 

[Ezteq]

£425 per month. Aye I learned my lesson saying stuff like never or always, you never bloody know tbh so I am simply looking short term, not past June at this point then at June I'll start thinking towards October etc etc.

Anyway let this be a lesson to you all, when you are thinking shit can't get worse, it can but sometimes when you don't even think there is a vague light at the end of it all there's a bright cozy sunbeam...though tbh sometimes there is just more shit with a dead rat on top. My point is I don't think anyone can ever be sure how anything will turn out so don't consider everything fine or doomed, just let it be kids, let it be.