is looks everything?

[tris-]

are we in a time now where looks should prevail over personality? would you take someone because they are hot but deep down they are also a bitch/wanker?

part of the reason i ask is, i went to meet a girl (hoe, for the streetwise umongst us) last night. well her body is uber sexy and her smile is leet, but her face isnt all that. the girl is pretty pro all round though, we were out for 6 hours and it felt like 30 mins.

something inside me is saying "omg no you cant like a girl who isnt super hot", i blame it on the media

 

[Gamah]

not at all (thank goodness for me) stop being a shallow prick.

...and anyway, I doubttheres any hot women in boro, if there are they are prossers or pussy visiting for the weekend

 

[tris-]

i dont mean to be shallow, its just something that seems to have been ingrained in me over time. and yeh there is hot bints in boro and no not all of them are prossers (they are actually the ugliest )

 

[Ezteq]

aye not for me tbh i dont give 2 hoots what people look like if theyre nice ill talk to them if they not i wont.

i used to work in a telemarketing job and there was this little bloke there who well tbh he wasnt very nice looking and he would only speak to the girls who looked like supermodels... the thing was these girls knew it and thought him a shallow swine so none of them would talk to him rofl.

as for bf/gf thing i would never go out with someone based on their looks they have to interest me and if theyre nice ill stay if not ill go im not in to the whole "your hot so you can treat me like crap" thing

to answer your question though i do believe looks are now more important generally, look at the tv and magazines and like someone pointed out in another thread theyre all fake anyway so people are striving towards an unobtainable goal when even the people theyre asipring to look like dont look like that.

 

[Bahumat]

You have to find them aesthetically pleasing, but there is a difference between a girl who you think has a cute smile and nice hair, and a person like Heather Graham.

Personality is the main thing, if you dont get on, you'll soon get bored. If the person has a personality which compliments your own, then you'll need a bit of physical attraction.

Do they have to be attractive to you...Yes, do they have to be a super model...No

Doubt that helps?

 

[Naetha]

I don't "get" the whole thing about really liking someone, admitting that they're sexy, but not wanting to go out with them because they don't have supermodel good looks.

What are you afraid of? Your friends taking the piss because she doesn't conform to some stereotype? If you fancy her, if you love her smile and think she's sexy then you'd be stupid not to go for it.

While not trying to be personal though, it seems like she deserves someone less shallow than someone who would even consider not going out with someone because she doesn't look like a supermodel.

 

[tris-]

woo woo steady now. im not shallow, i was simply asking the question, because to me thats how it seems these days. everyone goes on about "oh your gf is ugly" or "that bitch isnt hot". i couldnt care less what people think if they seen me with her. who the fuck mentioned super model anyway? i said super hot, which i thought would be obvious is an exaggeration, like everything i say.

yes you have riled me, because youre saying im something im not

 

[Killswitch]

If looks are everything, I'm utterly screwed! So I'm going to have to vote "no" for my own sake.

My all-time low in the dating scene was a few years ago when I was dating a lass from Sheffield who was cute enough, but nothing to write home about. We'd been dating a few weeks when she said something along the lines of

"I've had a great few weeks, you've made me feel really special but basically you're too ugly and I'm embarrased to be seen out with you so we can't date any more".

Talk about owned!!

So to some people, it seems looks ARE everything, but speaking on behalf of the Ugmo camp, I'd take personality and a mutual attraction over pure looks every time!!!

 

[Gamah]

ok ok,

Someone you are in a relationship is more than a hot chick you bone, they are a friend and someone you will be sending a lot of time with.

As long as you are attracted to them it's not how they look that matters.

Anyone will bone a hot chick whos an air head but who will try and make things go further is shes boring or as thick as poo.

I am in a long term relationship and I think my gf is sexy, shes not typically omgwtf but shes cute and I love her, we spend lots and lots of time together (we live together) so personality is very important.

 

[old.Tohtori]

It's simple genes really.

Back in the old days, fat was good and appealing to people. Because it meant that you are rich, well provided and all that.

Some time ago big hips were everything, because you'd be a good bearer of children.

Now it's a tiny subliminal thing telling us that we must put good+good together. Fat or ugly these days means bad genes.

Also, there's nothing wrong in wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone who looks better on the eye then with someone who eats wookies for breakfast and farts yodas' for lunch.

It's just the standard these days to place someone on a scale from 1 to 10.

NOONE can say, without lying, they would rather date an ugly fat b*tch then a hot woman if given the choice.

 

[Killswitch]

NOONE can say, without lying, they would rather date an ugly fat b*tch then a hot woman if given the choice.

Thing is, if I cared for someone and felt I had a connection with them, I wouldn't think they were ugly regardless. I'd much rather date someone who can make me happy and put up with my little quirks...physical attractiveness comes a distant second to that and what other people think of my choices doesn't even register on the scale...

 

[Naetha]

woo woo steady now. im not shallow, i was simply asking the question, because to me thats how it seems these days. everyone goes on about "oh your gf is ugly" or "that bitch isnt hot". i couldnt care less what people think if they seen me with her. who the fuck mentioned super model anyway? i said super hot, which i thought would be obvious is an exaggeration, like everything i say.

yes you have riled me, because youre saying im something im not

First of all calm down - I don't know you, all I have to go off is how you came across to me in your post, which is why I put the "this isn't personal" bit in.

You say you were just asking the question, but then you directly relate it to a girl you know, so it comes across (whether intentionally or not) as "should I go out with this girl, I fancy her but her face isn't sexy". Now this to me, seems like a shallow thing to ask.

You talk about people saying derisory things about other peoples' girlfriends, but then claim you don't care what people think? If not, then why did you relate the abstract question ("is looks everything") to a specific situation involving this girl and you?

Lastly, the distinction between supermodel looks and super hot looks doesn't mean anything to me - as far as I'm concerned, they're the same thing - something over and above your average girl on the street.

If you fancy her, then go for it. If you don't, then don't. Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder - what is attractive for you may not appeal to your best mates, but at the end of the day its you thats going out with her, not your mates.

 

[Gamah]

"I've had a great few weeks, you've made me feel really special but basically you're too ugly and I'm embarrased to be seen out with you so we can't date any more".

Thats a pretty tough break, but tbh you don't wanna be with someone like that.

 

[Killswitch]

Thats a pretty tough break, but tbh you don't wanna be with someone like that.

Yeah, if it helps I laughed in her face as it was even quite funny at the time..not great for the old self-confidence though.

 

[tris-]

First of all calm down...

okok sorry, i see what you're saying. i was just simply asking the question though and yes her face isnt all that but i dont actually care. like i said i spent 6 hours with this girl i dont even know and it felt like 30 minutes.

so post a pic of your bewbs and we can call it even ffs.

 

[Naetha]

okok sorry, i see what you're saying. i was just simply asking the question though and yes her face isnt all that but i dont actually care. like i said i spent 6 hours with this girl i dont even know and it felt like 30 minutes.

so post a pic of your bewbs and we can call it even ffs.

Hey I never took the picture down

Think me and Ez deserve some reciprocation though - you've seen tits and ass, and all we've seen is mugshots

 

[tris-]

i offered to post a pic of my penis, but apparently id be banned, which is sexist imo :/

 

[old.Tohtori]

Thing is, if I cared for someone and felt I had a connection with them, I wouldn't think they were ugly regardless. I'd much rather date someone who can make me happy and put up with my little quirks...physical attractiveness comes a distant second to that and what other people think of my choices doesn't even register on the scale...

YEah, but missed the point didn't ya?

I meant that if given the choice, you'd rather have a "cute and special and the OOOONE FOR MEEEE!!!" that's hot, then the special someone being a fat rhino with yodaface.

Yeah yeah..."i don't care, i'm just happy i have someone to like me for me"

YEah..but still...you'd rather have a hot caring someone, then an ugly caring someone. IF given choice.

 

[Ezteq]

Hey I never took the picture down

Think me and Ez deserve some reciprocation though - you've seen tits and ass, and all we've seen is mugshots

Naeth get on rl pic thread Blackjack posted his buttocks and he does a dance Oo


the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder thing is true (thank god for that!) i mean if someone is nice and kind and just lovely then i totally get a crush on them no matter what i just go all gooey, if someone is "good lookin" but a real bastard then i immediately go right off them and they actually get very unattractive/ugly to my eyes.

i like the book jane eyre because she falls in love with a guy called Mr Rochester, when he first gets to know her he says "do you think me handsome?" and she replies not at all, this is said as one of these open gob before using brain things and she says that its not a bad thing she just does not know him well enough to think him handsome. Any hoo she goes off meets other people theres this really good looking bloke who wants to marry her but doesnt love her and she goes back to Mr R and says he is the handsomest person she knows and through knowing him he gets even more handsome.


i think thats what im like personality influences looks.

 

[Killswitch]

YEah, but missed the point didn't ya?

I meant that if given the choice, you'd rather have a "cute and special and the OOOONE FOR MEEEE!!!" that's hot, then the special someone being a fat rhino with yodaface.

Yeah yeah..."i don't care 'cause i love her! Looks are nothing!"

Bull. She'd be hot too if given the choice

Well in that case, what a ridiculous thing to say...you're stating something that's basically an axiomatic truth and then acting like you're putting forward some Nobel Prize winning thesis!!!

What you are basically saying is;

'If you could chose you perfect woman and design her from the ground up to meet your every desire, you'd design her so that you found her very attractive! Wouldn't you?!?! Wouldn't you?!?! Eh!?!'

Which is just plain dumb!!!

'If you could have any car you wanted, you'd have one in your favourite colour!!'

It's hardly a cutting and insightful statement now is it? Jeez...

 

[TdC]

the all singing all dancing CoC is not sexist tris-, it's just not interested in your Mr. Floppy

for myself, looks are certainly not everything. I consider myself distinctly average in all respects. I have a gf who I think is hot, but there are ofc girls out there who are more or less hot than she is. What I like most about my gf is that we can make each other laugh, not that she has large jubblies, if you know what I mean.

imo, being hot has a large amount to do with how you conduct yourself. show some personality and style, some flare and wit, hold a door open for someone or help some older person with a heavy bag. thank someone with sincerity, laugh if you're happy. that will show just how hot you are and that it runs all the way through, rather than you looking good on paper and having the personality of a beetroot.

 

[leviathane]

I'm young so don't care bout personality atm, but gotta be somewhat attractive to get you interested

 

[Vladamir]

Tris is getting roid rage again

 

[tris-]

id fight you but i gotta go for my hourly shave

 

[TdC]

had your wax yet?

 

[tris-]

had your wax yet?

NO FFS

thats in 8 days time

 

[TdC]

take a movie of your face when it happens. s(h)ave it for posterity!

 

[tris-]

ooo babe, you love it when you see me in pain.

thats why you ram your cox in my ass all the time isnt it?

 

[TdC]

also why I had all the mirrors installed in the seks room!

 

[Naetha]

I'm young so don't care bout personality atm

Lol, seems like a really daft thing to say! What's youth got to do with who or what you find attractive? Its not like you turn 30 and decide you want to speak to the person you're fucking now.

If all you're doing is sleeping around, then sure personality doesn't matter, but you can have deep and meaningful relationships when you're young - why should it all revolve around looks?