getting out of 'the friend zone'

[tris-]

i guess weve all been there. you end up being friends with a girl, though the longer you know her the more you are attracted to her. is there even a way to get out of the friend zone? its happened to me a couple times now. i tell them how much i like them, they do the the how much they like me, but we are never more than friends :\ i can be as blunt as you like, and so can they, but the mother fucker never progesses!

should you cut your losses and move on, or use some secret leet skillz?

 

[Iceforge]

i guess weve all been there. you end up being friends with a girl, though the longer you know her the more you are attracted to her. is there even a way to get out of the friend zone? its happened to me a couple times now. i tell them how much i like them, they do the the how much they like me, but we are never more than friends :\ i can be as blunt as you like, and so can they, but the mother fucker never progesses!

should you cut your losses and move on, or use some secret leet skillz?

There are "secret leet skillz" that can prevent you from entering the "lets just be friends" zone or what you want to call it, don't know anything about getting out of it again!

move on, I'd say

 

[old.Tohtori]

Nope. Once you get there, there's no way out.

"Oh i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship"
"You're much MORE to me then just a dating guy"
"I spew bullsh*t when i twiggle my gums 'cause that other guy is WAY hotter then you."

So now you're forced to do what every other guy does.

Make bloody sure noone else gets her while you stay her bestest bestest friend

 

[DocWolfe]

I've been in the opposite situations a couple of times... I've been friends with birds and then they've come upto me and told me that they like me. But the problem is they aren't my type of girls.

I've also been in the situation where we've been friends, we have sex, we stay friends and it happens a couple of times but nothing comes from it. Like just when we get drunk together we get attracted to each other.

 

[Jeremiah]

Why not ask her out on a date - like a proper one. Dinner and the Cinema afterwards. Hold her hand while walking about, put your arm round her. If nothing sparks, then its just friends, at least you have tried

 

[DocWolfe]

Or... you could rape her, beat her and leave her for dead...

 

[tris-]

Or... you could rape her, beat her and leave her for dead...

its certainly an option ive pondered and im saving it as a last resort.

Why not ask her out on a date - like a proper one. Dinner and the Cinema afterwards. Hold her hand while walking about, put your arm round her. If nothing sparks, then its just friends, at least you have tried

its a good idea but that just seems a bit forward if there is some crazy reason she doesnt like me. i think there is but how couldnt she? im proper leet and im really good at FPS

i tryed using some skillz on her that got me iplaces in the past, but they didnt seem to work this time :\

btw, im being super serial even cool kids like me need some help now and again.

 

[Olgaline]

tbh it isnt usually as compicated as some might want you to think, we often in mordern society tend to over-analize every little thing, but the thruth is this:

either she's already fantasized about shagging you or she simply see's you as a friend, and ye' sure thats not what people want to belive, but never the less there's more thruth to that statement than you'd think.

 

[tris-]

either she's already fantasized about shagging you or she simply see's you as a friend, and ye' sure thats not what people want to belive, but never the less there's more thruth to that statement than you'd think.

is it possible to sway someone to see you as more more than a friend though? ive always had the problem that i fall for my female mates but untill now ive not been that inclined to make something happen.

 

[Olgaline]

is it possible to sway someone to see you as more more than a friend though? ive always had the problem that i fall for my female mates but untill now ive not been that inclined to make something happen.

well yes sure, but in my experience that usually only happens when the following is true, 1. the thought hasnt been absent from her mind, but she just hasnt acted on it due to variouse posible reasons, 2. that you change significantly in her eyes. now the last one is tricky, becuase no one exept her can tell you how..so it's really a guessing game...could be attitude, physique, clothing...

Or here's the "easy" one..start dating someone els and watch for her reaction

Best you could do tho' is go with your gut instinct, what does it tell you ?

 

[Olgaline]

often if we'r infatuated with someone we choose to ignore obviouse signs that the oposite isnt also true, and in other cases we fail to see whats right under our nose....

the latter is true in my case, took me bloody five years to realize that. but now she's mine

 

[tris-]

Best you could do tho' is go with your gut instinct, what does it tell you ?

im not entirely sure, i cant work her out. ive noticed this though, she is quite quiet when it comes to talking to me but other guys there seems to be no barrier, even though i am her friend. if there is just me and her she doesnt seem as open as usual but if someone else is there she is fine with me.
she seems to be a natural flirter and doesnt know she is doing it so its hard to tell again in that sense

 

[Succi]

simple answer : you cant


first few days of meeting a girl decides whether she see's you as bf or friend material

 

[old.Tohtori]

One funny fact is: Everyone want's to f*ck everyone. Everyone wants to date everyone.

Then they start the "removal". Too fat, too thin, too brown, too blue, not friendly enough, too friendly etc etc.

But there are cases where friends turn into dating, or in best scenarios, f*ckbuddies. But moving from friends to dating usually requires:

A: Long time.
B: A lot of interaction.
C: Many nights together watching films etc as friends.
D: Patience.

And it usually doesn't work if one wants it and the other doesn't since then the one who wants tries too hard

 

[Haggus]

watch "Just Friends" with Ryan Renalds in it.

a lol film

 

[Overdriven]

Tohtori gets it right. Nothing else I can post.

 

[Dandare]

If you value her friendship try to remain friends and occasionly fantasize over her while knocking one out.

Or if you don't value her as a friend then what Doc said with copious amounts of ketamine.

 

[Azurus]

watch "Just Friends" with Ryan Renalds in it.

a lol film

Van Wilder owns Just Friends

 

[megadave]

take her out, get her drunk, see where it goes

 

[Urgluf]

take her out, get her drunk, see where it goes

lol yeah thats the way to go

 

[Haggus]

Van Wilder owns Just Friends

ofc it does but that really doesn't relate to the topic does it :<

Tara Reid is buff

 

[Thadius]

Or... you could rape her, beat her and leave her for dead...

:worthy:

 

[Ezteq]

aye tbh nothing ventured nothing gained go out on a date if she says no then tbh its her loss and at least youll know.

the friendship thing is usually only a cover, two reasons for this; its only because people arnt attracted that they use this or theyre too scared to lose a friend if things go wobbly.

if she really likes you she'll do it but dont waste time pining over it because if theres one thing i've learnt there really is a time to cut your losses and move on before it just gets sad.

 

[Ctuchik]

I've been in the opposite situations a couple of times... I've been friends with birds and then they've come upto me and told me that they like me. But the problem is they aren't my type of girls.

thats usually the reason whith being friends with the opposite sex. u like them good enough to be friends with them but never enough to take it to the next step. or rather, atleast both never seem to want to. usually the girl i'm sad to say.


its very very hard to make a girl change once shes settled with being just friends... usually she just wants u to "have someone to talk to" without any preassures...

but if ur really desperate to try and get things moving u could always try to seduce her. but then u have a very very VERY big chance that she will just plainly walk out on you and never talk to you again :/

so unless ur talking to her first about how you feel and all that, and then actually making the first step if she isnt totally against it (u WILL have to take the first step after that, she wont ever do that), if u dont u might aswell just face facts and cut the losses.

but i wouldent advice any of it. ok, chances *are* thats she wont mind. but its alot bigger that she will and feel awkward after, thus ruining it, then it is she wont.

 

[Chosen]

Well I have had the same problem, just the other way around. She was one of my best friends some years ago, and i took up contact with her again because I really felt sorry for what had happened to her.

We were together almost every day the next two weeks, when one of her best friends told me she had more feelings for me then only being friends.

After that day, the world has gone to hell. In the beginning I only wanted us two being friends, but after a while I thought we might give it a try, and fell in love with her myself. THATS THE STUPIEST SHIT I'VE EVER DONE!

Never ever do anything to a person you have been friends with for a long time, if you don't want to screw everything up. It ends with you two being enemies in the end.


DavidH can tell you exactly what hell I've been going through because of this!

 

[old.Tohtori]

I fail to see how liking some girl can make life hell...

So you like someone, you don't, you ask, they say no. Done. They say yes, you make babies or some other things, can always leave etc. Nothing to stress about. Would be an interesting story to hear since i'm curious on how the f*ck?

 

[Chosen]

I fail to see how liking some girl can make life hell...

So you like someone, you don't, you ask, they say no. Done. They say yes, you make babies or some other things, can always leave etc. Nothing to stress about. Would be an interesting story to hear since i'm curious on how the f*ck?

Well, there is a long long story behind everything. How things ended up as it did. But i cba to explain it all now, maybe I'll make a thread about it later.

But what I'm trying to tell, there is no need to put a good friendship on line, when you're not 100% it will work out.

 

[Overdriven]

Dead women don't say no, kkthx.

 

[Gamah]

Dead women don't say no, kkthx.

To be honest, if it was you trying to shag them I am sure they would find a way.

 

[MaCaBr3]

I'm gonna kill myself if I enter the friend-zone again.