Dilemma

[fettoken]

Im going to take a coffe with a friend of mine (she). But my GF says she feels bad when i meet that friend and complains i do not listen to her feelings. Why should i have feelings of guilt for this? I have not done anything wrong? On top of that, this friend lost her brother in a motorcycle accident a week ago, so how can i turn down to meet her?!

 

[old.Tohtori]

Is this friend an older friend then your GF?

If so, tell your GF that she knew about her before she hopped on the fett-train.

If not, tell her that if she has issues with you having coffee with a FRIEND, then let's take a look at HER friends

Nothing to feel guilty about and you can also tell her that "I consider your feelings, i just think they're unnecessary."

Or maybe go with;

"You think i'm cheating on you with her?"
If answer is no.
"Then i'm gonna go have a coffee with a friend."

Lots of ways to go, tl;dr is - You're allowed to have female friends and there's no guilt.

 

[fettoken]

She's younger than my GF. I actually met her before i met my GF, and these two know eachother so i guess she is jealous.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Yeah and insecure, she's been around before your GF so you can tell her that "If you think we're fucking about, we have bigger issues then a cup of coffee."

Oh and i'm not responsible for any breakups or bruises you may recieve if you do what i say

 

[Everz]

Tell the gf that the girl is a friend and nothing more.

 

[fettoken]

Tell the gf that the girl is a friend and nothing more.

So i did, but she only responds with "im so sad, you never listen to my feelings". Always with her feelings.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Sounds like she's found a wimmins magazine and is throwing just some generic cryfest out so you will be guilted into staying.

Whatever happens, meet with your friend or the GF will own your ass.

 

[Everz]

So i did, but she only responds with "im so sad, you never listen to my feelings". Always with her feelings.

Ask her why then, convo with her and such and eventually she will be fine with it.

 

[CorNokZ]

lol your gf won't let you see other girls? I have an old friend(girl) that I've known since first grade and that was one of the few conditions I had before we started going out as a couple, that I would be "allowed" to go see her without any trouble and it goes the other way around aswell..

Jealousy is a killer in any relationship

 

[Everz]

Jealousy is a killer in any relationship

True that, it's best for both parties if it occurs for both to get over it.

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

Threesome in the offing for Fettoken.

Tell GF its not cheating if she joins in too

 

[Everz]

Threesome in the offing for Fettoken.

Tell GF its not cheating if she joins in too

That never works .

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

That almost never works .

Fixed

 

[Everz]

No definetly never works.. .

 

[old.Tohtori]

It's one of those spacetime anamoly thingies; getting a threesome only requires persistent asking and a massive amount of askings there of, but men don't ask 'cause they think the answer is no

A girl once asked me the sweetest thing; "Does it bother you that i'm bi?"

 

[Everz]

Indeed, one of the first things I ask the gf was if she ever went with another woman, when the answer was no I was disappointed .

 

[fettoken]

It's one of those spacetime anamoly thingies; getting a threesome only requires persistent asking and a massive amount of askings there of, but men don't ask 'cause they think the answer is no

A girl once asked me the sweetest thing; "Does it bother you that i'm bi?"

And your answer was; "I don't really know, want to find out?"

 

[old.Tohtori]

I think my answer was somewhere between "Aruuuuh?!" and *Droooool*.

Don't really know why i let her go, she even pointed out hotties at a bar.

Hmm...i'm SURE she had a major flaw

Had to surely.

 

[fettoken]

Or you do stupid stupid things when ure on the binge for no reason.

 

[Lamp]

Sounds like your GF is jelous & insecure...you just need to sit down, explain that this other woman is just a friend, expalin that you really do care about her (your GF), that you're a little disappointed that you actually have to have this conversation & you expect her to be a little more mature, that her brother died & I am going to speak to her & that she just has to deal with it, and we can talk about it after.

 

[fettoken]

Only a little bit nicer . Ty Lamp, were thinking of something along those lines but i need to formulate it perfectly unless i want a fatal misunderstanding.

 

[Ezteq]

unfortunately Fett tbh one of three things will happen here, either you go see this other girl who sounds like she needs a friend right now and your gf gets hurt and then gets all bitter about it and it ends up eating away at her and then consequently you

or

you don't see the friend because you care more about your gfs feelings and you are fine with it because your gf is your top priority

or

you don't go see the friend because of your gfs feelings and you end up feeling bitter about it and then she uses the 'it'll hurt my feelings' thing every time you have any female friends.

so either way one of you lot is going to get their feelings hurt either you, your gf or the friend who lost her brother.

Sorry sweetie but that's most often the way it is with folk who don't share.

/hug

 

[Bahumat]

Sounds like your GF is being stupid. Even more so if she knows your friend recently lost a loved one.

Personally I think she's being completely stupid and I'd explain that she is just a friend and you don't want to have to feel guilty for seeing them.

 

[DocWolfe]

Ask your girlfriend to go along with you? Surely more people will be better moral support.

 

[Everz]

^^^

We have a winner.

 

[megadave]

and do something to make your gf feel special, although it might backfire and make her suspicious

 

[old.Tohtori]

and do something to make your gf feel special, although it might backfire and make her suspicious

Harh.

"You never buy me anything nice!"
"Not this again..."

*few days later*

"Here honey i bought you flowers and candy."
"What did you do?"
"Oh...a...Fuck!"

 

[Ch3tan]

Does she like pearls? Decorate her neck. That will make her feel special.

 

[Ezteq]

Does she like pearls? Decorate her neck. That will make her feel special.

are we using euphemisms here, i mean is that like the ZZ Topp song... what I'm just making sure!?

 

[Ch3tan]

Euphemisms? God no! I expect young Fett to do his best Ursula Andrews impression and free dive for his pearls.