Could you live without love?

[Bugz]

I could probably live without companionship as a very broad term - i.e. friends, associates.

But I could not live without my direct family and the missus (and hell, even her family).

 

[fettoken]

Sigh, this thread fails from beginning to end...

 

[Ezteq]

tbh love is a pain in the arse, i love b2 dearly and i love my guinea pigs (b2 and the pigs are my family and it is te bursting kind of love) and it is ...lovely. However, the thought that one day i wont have them is horrible, the pain i feel when someone i love dies (sprockett for example) is so deep and, well, painful i always wonder hy i put mysef throug it (getting new pets who will also eventually die) and the worry of omething happening to my loved ones is constantly there in the back of my mind.

i tell you if b2 goes before me i'm staying single mainly because i can not imagine that there is another human out there who is as perfect for me as him but also becuase i dont want that worry a first time let alone a second.

im not one of these people who loves everyone (like our lady russ here), in fact i only actually love one person in the whole world but man do i love him deeply.

 

[Imgormiel]

tbh love is a pain in the arse, .

isn't your's a little too itchy down there to be loved atm? :O

 

[Lamp]

You'll regret not finding love when your playstations have broken years ago, you sold the games for booze, and you're 55 years old still living in a one bedroom bedsit on your own (you've always been a loner), on the dole, no one cares about you anymore, or they thought you had already died, wearing soiled pijamas, 14 week stubble, whisky breath, yellow nicotine fags stained fingers, malnutritioned, constant hangover, hacking cough (bad lungs). uncut finger nails (all kinds of dirt underneath them), hair unwashed for months (really nasty), haven't had a shower for 3 weeks (the last wash was sqatting in the sink and giving your back a rub with the dish mop and a sprinkling of vim)

 

[Imgormiel]

Bah, i wanted the option 'I'm ambivalent', would have been far more PC imo for the women out there ;p

 

[Edmond]

Been on my own far too long to remember what its like to be loved in a relationship way, but i do have friends that love me, and there is a few i love back too. You dont realise until till you go through shit periods in your life that you then find out how much people do care and make you feel loved, and it does feel great to know they worry and care for you. I would hate to think there are people who never get to know what love and compassion feels like, its quite sad

 

[Mikah75]

Do you find that as a gay man you/your friends/partners have the same view?

I have a few gay friends male and female and their views towards sleeping around while still being with a set partner (supposedly in love) are bizarre.

If I told my wife/gf that I wanted to fuck around while still having her in my life more times than not I would get booted to the kerb and labelled a cock. But for the people I now its not considered an issue.

I have same attitude as majority of population I guess, been brainwashed into societies monogamous construct like most westerners. Not that ive had a partner but still if I did there's no way i'd sleep around. As my mum and dad said treat other's how you wish to be treated . All depends on the relationship I guess, I know a few people in an 'open' relationship but to be honest I think thats just an excuse while going out with someone getting sex on tap to go with whoever you like, they always seem to end up falling in love or breaking up so just a time frame before that.

 

[Cerb]

If we're talking about the "i love you!" kind of love i have to say that even though it would be called unhealthy and "love yourself first" would be said but even though im happy when not with someone from the expierience i have im always MUCH happier when im with someone so i said no...

as for the love of family and friends....straight up no.

 

[Imgormiel]

Sigh, this thread fails from beginning to end...

Nah, ur reply just failed tbh

 

[tris-]

its quite sad

it isnt sad for them though since they dont know what theyre missing out on.
ignorance is bliss as they say.

 

[old.Tohtori]

there are people who never get to know what love and compassion feels like, its quite sad

Again, definition.

Your love is another mans care.

You might think a hug is love, where another man could think of it as a hug.

Etc.

That's why this can never be answered love wise, but CAN be answered "can" wise(hrh).

Any one of you CAN live without love.

 

[Belgerath]

Again, definition.

Your love is another mans care.

You might think a hug is love, where another man could think of it as a hug.

Etc.

That's why this can never be answered love wise, but CAN be answered "can" wise(hrh).

Any one of you CAN live without love.

I could survive yes.

Would it feel like living naw (though this gets us on another topic)

 

[Sparx]

Every single time i start falling for someone i always get so hurt. Like now i was seeing this girl and its been called off cause she admitted she is a bit of a slag and doesnt want to hurt me. Yet again tho every time i let someone in i get so so hurt. I preferred the times where i just didnt respect or trust the opposite sex so i would just have sex with them and toss them aside.

So yes i could live without it, and tbh be much happier

 

[Uara]

Every single time i start falling for someone i always get so hurt. Like now i was seeing this girl and its been called off cause she admitted she is a bit of a slag and doesnt want to hurt me. Yet again tho every time i let someone in i get so so hurt.

QF"Motherfucking"T I've had this done to me a fair few times, well not that exact reason why we split up but whenever i seem to fall for someone really strongly, they then decide that its too much effort or watever. Then I have to deal with the process of trying to get over them. However I still couldnt live without the general feeling of love altho at times i could live without the kissy kissy love! (if tht makes any sense )

 

[Sparx]

Last year i proper fell for this girl but she called it off as i wasnt arguementative enough for her! She liked to bicker but i'm pretty laid back

Oh and girls who say they hate guys that get jealous are bull shitters. I dont get jealous and had women get so wound up by it they used to challenge me;

Them "I'm going out with John tonight for a drink, oh he is my ex"
Me "have fun, i'll get the boys round for some beer and xbox then"

Then follows the huffing and sulking then a "you dont care" moan

 

[old.Tohtori]

Last year i proper fell for this girl but she called it off as i wasnt arguementative enough for her! She liked to bicker but i'm pretty laid back

Oh and girls who say they hate guys that get jealous are bull shitters. I dont get jealous and had women get so wound up by it they used to challenge me;

Them "I'm going out with John tonight for a drink, oh he is my ex"
Me "have fun, i'll get the boys round for some beer and xbox then"

Then follows the huffing and sulking then a "you dont care" moan

I've been working on a stand-up routine, and i think part of it fits this perfectly:

Women say they want a guy who has a sense of humor, not jealous, charming, and all around nice guy. Then they get a guy who's close enough and start working on him. They nag about this, and that, how he should act and how he should be, and 10 years later, she gives the most ironic line ever;

"You're not the man i fell in love with."

 

[CorNokZ]

Oh and girls who say they hate guys that get jealous are bull shitters.

QFT!

I'm currently sleeping with this girl and she's a total slag! We have a great time talking together and we have great sex.. But she tells me whenever she's been with another guy and at first I got really pissed, but when it started to happen every other week, I just didn't care anymore! And now she's so desperatly trying to make me jealous again, it almost makes me laugh! When we meet at bar I usually get a brief "Hi, how are you doing?" and then she usually starts out by chatting to other guys.. If I starts chatting to a random attractive girl, she comes running!

She's a wierd thing, but a beast in the sack! That's why I use a condom..

 

[Sparx]

Pretty much what i had with this girl too.

She did piss me off tho by chatting one of my mates up in my own house tho. So i went to bed with one of my mates. Next night we were all over the place after making each other jealous

 

[old.Tohtori]

Either of you thought about, you know, confronting the issue with said woman? :lol:

 

[Sparx]

I'm no longer with said girl as of 6 hours after finding out about my Gran

 

[Belgerath]

Either of you thought about, you know, confronting the issue with said woman? :lol:

Nothing wrong with a good old fuck buddy

 

[Sparx]

Nothing wrong with a good old fuck buddy

Thats all i was interested in at first but the more we talked and spent time together i felt more. Its a real shitter when that happens

 

[Belgerath]

Thats all i was interested in at first but the more we talked and spent time together i felt more. Its a real shitter when that happens

Can't say i've been in the situation when its turned into more than a shag every so often.

Though I can imagine it would be a crapper

 

[CorNokZ]

Either of you thought about, you know, confronting the issue with said woman? :lol:

I have.. Told her like a trillion times that either she was with me and only me or she could be without me!

But we can't cut our connections just like that, since we've been talking and having a laugh pretty much every day for the last year or so, and just recently started sleeping together

 

[Sparx]

Your pretty much living the same situation as me CoKface

You dont live in London by anychance

 

[CorNokZ]

No, but I've been in London for a week? Have you ever been to Copenhagen?

 

[Sparx]

Nope, not much of a traveller really been to Ibiza etc but nothing magical

 

[old.Tohtori]

I have.. Told her like a trillion times that either she was with me and only me or she could be without me!

But we can't cut our connections just like that, since we've been talking and having a laugh pretty much every day for the last year or so, and just recently started sleeping together

That's not condronting the issue, that's saying "i don't care if you're with me or not".

Go to her, tell her that her behaviour(talking with other men for reactions) is rather disturbing to you, and you'd appreciate if she didn't do it as much. Also point out that you ARE jealous, with or without trying and that you appreciate her for her, not because of other guys hitting on her.

 

[sayward]

Last year i proper fell for this girl but she called it off as i wasnt arguementative enough for her! She liked to bicker but i'm pretty laid back

Oh and girls who say they hate guys that get jealous are bull shitters. I dont get jealous and had women get so wound up by it they used to challenge me;

Them "I'm going out with John tonight for a drink, oh he is my ex"
Me "have fun, i'll get the boys round for some beer and xbox then"

Then follows the huffing and sulking then a "you dont care" moan

I've been faithfully married for years, and Mr.Sayward isn't at all jealous. I presume he trusts me, I can imagine the reaction if I slept with someone else tho. I really hate jealous men they make your life a misery, I saw it with my father.