Could you live without love?

[Calaen]

Have done so for nearly 29 years so, no worries here.

If we're talking about the "oh i lovez youz!" love.

Would be nice, but can live without.

Air, food, water. Those are my necessities.

For 29 years you have never experienced love from a family member, friend or a partner?

I do not want you to take this the wrong way, but I find that to be really sad.

I suppose being born into a world where it did not exist you would know no different (and be ridiculed if you did feel something different to the norm) However not having that connection friends, family would make the world a pointless place to live indeed.

I voted no it would be poo!!!

 

[Bahumat]

I think Laddey has the best love

 

[old.Tohtori]

For 29 years you have never experienced love from a family member, friend or a partner?

I do not want you to take this the wrong way, but I find that to be really sad.

I suppose being born into a world where it did not exist you would know no different (and be ridiculed if you did feel something different to the norm) However not having that connection friends, family would make the world a pointless place to live indeed.

I voted no it would be poo!!!

That's why i said that i could.

I've not felt, personally, love for things, while there might have been feelings of love towards me. Ofcourse parents love you, but it's not love love, but more of a "oh hi" lolcat kind of love. Family "love" isn't the kind of love i thought this thread is about, as family love, for me atleast, has laways been more of a "die for" feeling, not loveydovey.

There's a big difference in love and care for me i guess.

Although, there hasn't really been a need for "love" either(as in "hugz me!"), or it hasn't "come along" in a partner way.

Only had one partner who i thought i might love, was wrong as i'm single now eh

 

[CorNokZ]

Don't even remember making this thread, but I guess it got a good discussion started..

 

[pikeh]

Only had one partner who i thought i might love, was wrong as i'm single now eh

It wasn't love because she didn't love you back?

 

[russell]

Romantic love is great, but it isn't the only love by any means.

I love my kids, my mum, my hubby, my granny, my family, my friends, my acquaintances, my collegues, my kids friends, my friends kids.

I dont know if they love me, But I love them. Some days I am so full of love for them that I think I might burst (or could that be the Mars bars?)

 

[old.Tohtori]

It wasn't love because she didn't love you back?

Even if she didn't, it is love isn't it? Love doesn't have to be mutual to be love.

I realised i wasn't REALLY in love, just semi-love, when i could let her go.

 

[pikeh]

Even if she didn't, it is love isn't it? Love doesn't have to be mutual to be love.

Yes I know, it just sounded a bit like 'It's not love because she dosen't feel the same'.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Yes I know, it just sounded a bit like 'It's not love because she dosen't feel the same'.

Ah ok, no no, not because of that.

Afterall, if i had oved her, really loved, i wouldn't have let her walk away so easily.

Anyway, i believe you'll agree when i say;

Loving a woman is like making love to a beautiful woman

 

[pikeh]

Loving a woman is like making love to a beautiful woman

They like fine wines, belgian chocolates, and of course the manly smell of a pipe

 

[Belgerath]

Even if she didn't, it is love isn't it? Love doesn't have to be mutual to be love.

I realised i wasn't REALLY in love, just semi-love, when i could let her go.

Not always true.

Sometimes if you truely love someone letting them go is easier if its best for both of you.

 

[russell]

Not always true.

Sometimes if you truely love someone letting them go is easier if its best for both of you.

Example?

 

[Belgerath]

Hum tough to think of something of the top of my head.

Say you where Married to someone. Someone whom though there Partner was dead (say MIA)

They return and your now Wife/Husband whom married you because you where a companion even though you loved them dearly.

They wish to slit up with you because they actually love there first partner.

Now as shitty as it would be. Wouldnt it be better to see the other person happy, rather than it being a messy break up out of spite?

probably not the best example but all i can think of in work

 

[pikeh]

Hum tough to think of something of the top of my head.

Say you where Married to someone. Someone whom though there Partner was dead (say MIA)

They return and your now Wife/Husband whom married you because you where a companion even though you loved them dearly.

They wish to slit up with you because they actually love there first partner.

Now as shitty as it would be. Wouldnt it be better to see the other person happy, rather than it being a messy break up out of spite?

probably not the best example but all i can think of in work

In your first post you said 'easier' to let them go. It wouldn't be any easier IMO.

 

[Belgerath]

Is it easier knowing they will be happy vs say them dieing?

Edit: I really have to learn to explain myself better on forums

 

[Calaen]

I know what you mean and I almost typed the same phrase as an example. Just because you let them go does not mean you have not / or still do not love them.

 

[Mikah75]

But there are things that you love in life at the moment yes?

i wouldn't go that far it's a strong word. There are thing's i like in my life.. Same with family member's close friends, i care for them and don't want to see harm come to them but it's not love as in the supposed can't stop thinking about them missing them etc i don't feel that about anything.

 

[pikeh]

Is it easier knowing they will be happy vs say them dieing?

Edit: I really have to learn to explain myself better on forums

I know what you mean, I guess I'm just being picky and weird. Find it hard to say exactly what I mean as well most of the time, which is why I don't normally get involved in threads like this

 

[Belgerath]

Nore me.

Normally i just post a random pic and laugh at someone on the War forums lately.

Though im trying to be more involved

People here have alot to say and most of it either spark me thinking or getting involved.

 

[tris-]

are we differntiating between love and in love?

 

[pikeh]

are we differntiating between love and in love?

I took the thread as a 'love' in general kind of thing. Like someone love's reading their favourite book, as well as someone loving a partner.
We won't get a clear answer because CorkNutz was lashed when he made the thread!

 

[Calaen]

i wouldn't go that far it's a strong word. There are thing's i like in my life.. Same with family member's close friends, i care for them and don't want to see harm come to them but it's not love as in the supposed can't stop thinking about them missing them etc i don't feel that about anything.

Do you find that as a gay man you/your friends/partners have the same view?

I have a few gay friends male and female and their views towards sleeping around while still being with a set partner (supposedly in love) are bizarre.

If I told my wife/gf that I wanted to fuck around while still having her in my life more times than not I would get booted to the kerb and labelled a cock. But for the people I now its not considered an issue.

 

[russell]

Each

 

[russell]

to their own

 

[sayward]

Mmmm.... No can't live without love, could probably live without being in love.....

 

[tris-]

if youve never had it then you wont miss it.
on the other hand once youve experienced it you may make your whole life aimed at getting it again.

perhaps its more trouble than its worth.

 

[sayward]

True.

 

[old.Tohtori]

if youve never had it then you wont miss it.

I'll quote K from MIB on this: Try it.

 

[tris-]

you can try it but i dont think you can miss something you didnt have untill you have it then you dont have it.

 

[old.Tohtori]

you can try it but i dont think you can miss something you didnt have untill you have it then you dont have it.

That's what i said, try it, you can bloody well miss it.

I'm saying i could live without love, doesn't mean i dont' pine for it, even if i haven't felt it.