DaGaffer
Down With That Sorta Thing
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- Dec 22, 2003
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how about two shapely ladies getting it on Job? would you mind that?
imo what you're talking about is a mix of your gender preference and what parts of society has taught you to be correct: you're not into the cock, and you've been told that cock+cock = wrong. You've most likely been told that vag+vag is also wrong, but you sneakly turn a blind eye because you're attracted to the ladies.
I've been brought up much the same way: for example, my mum masks her latent homophobia with practical disguises, like "childeren need the balance of a woman and a man to create well adjusted views of gender and role" and suchlike retoric. When I dug a little I found that she is also completely against gay marriage for much the same reasons, however she accepts that love is unconditional and that love happening within the same gender can exist. She just doesn't want the gheis to marry, but as to why exactly she is unclear as it's buried in a deep sense of church and soceity and personal morals (she's nearly 80 btw).
I have a lesbian friend who is virulently against the hetrosexuality is good message that society contunially pumps out; if you start to notice it, you'll see it everywhere: you (as in you the general public) get shown at every turn that the only possible way to happiness is to fall in the pattern of man-woman-kids-pets-nice-house-average-car-be-hardworking-and-productive. She hates the fact that an image is projected that if you're not in a relationship (with a man) and don't have kids and don't have a job then it's impossible for you to be a happy and well adjusted member of the community. As a happily single bloke I've actually started to come around to her way of thinking and have started to get a bit annoyed myself (for example in ads you see that it's considered well and good to be single in your 20's but you're a bit abnormal when you're single in your 30's -why????) and I'm not even gay, and I don't see the hetrosexual confirmation overtones in the world around me until people like my friend point them out to me. NB before you think she's a man hating virago, her point is that the message is flawed; it's not man+woman = happiness, it's people = happiness and for myself I quite agree with her.
I think your lesbian friend is confusing marketing with propaganda. The 2.4 kids nuclear family is shorthand for "buys a lot of soap powder". No point in getting wound up by it.
I've long since come to the conclusion that happiness actually doesn't have much to do with your sexual orientation or what kind of relationship you're in (or not). Some people are happy, others aren't, and its just brain chemistry.