throdgrain
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Im sure it is. Spend a few months in a high security prison then return with your findings to let us all know
Whipped said:Just to add some wood to the already burning fire. Is it possible for a man to be raped? and would he even report it or feel to embaressed?
maxi said:The thing about it is, you're not being realistic about rape. All you're doing is highlighting situations where you think Common Sense should prevail. You fail to realise or address the fact that most rape does not occur in such situations
throdgrain said:I was going to type an enormous answer to this, but frankly you're just arguing for the sake of it, so i cba :/
maxi said:If a person gets totally shit faced and doesn't know what they are doing then that is a danger to their safety. (regardless of what clothes they are wearing)
maxi said:Doesn't that seeming so obvious to everyone that it doesn't need to be said? Yet it's whats been said over and over in this thread. Of course people should be more responsible for their actions but that doesn't mean they ARE.(just like rape shouldn't exist but it DOES) All thats happening is talk of a different solution, one that involves the other sex chaning THEIR behaviour "Hey Missy stop dressing like a slag and getting so drunk and maybe you wont get raped!" (dreadfully inaccurate) instead of "hey you fucking sick ****, don't rape women!"
If a guy got drunk, stumbled somehow into a fight wherein he got stabbed there would not be talk of his responsibility of his actions.
maxi said:Most here will agree, flirting is fun, drinking is fun, and getting the attention of opposite sex is fun...whether male or female.
maxi said:I'm not accepting what you said. The only thing that MATTERS is that people get drunk - what they wear and how they flirt has nothing to do with it.
maxi said:If you think my posts on here are anything more than target practice you're a fool. This shit is fun!
Damini said:re·spon·si·ble ( P ) Pronunciation Key (r-spns-bl)
adj.
Liable to be required to give account, as of one's actions or of the discharge of a duty or trust.
Involving personal accountability or ability to act without guidance or superior authority: a responsible position within the firm.
Being a source or cause.
Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own and therefore answerable for one's behavior.
Able to be trusted or depended upon; reliable.
Based on or characterized by good judgment or sound thinking: responsible journalism.
Having the means to pay debts or fulfill obligations.
Required to render account; answerable: The cabinet is responsible to the parliament.
Responsible is the wrong word entirely. Each person is sentient, autonymous, and in charge of their own actions. If I tell you to kill someone, you are not compelled to do it. If I put a pizza in front of you, you are not forced to eat it. If I leave money out on the side, you are not doomed to steal it. A woman is not a source or cause of rape - only a man is capable of that. A woman can contribute to factors that put her at an increased vulnerability to such a crime, but she is NEVER the source or cause. She is never responsible for another persons actions.
How many of you guys spruce yourself up on a night out? Splash of aftershave, gell your hair, nicest clothes, a flirt, a dance, a drink too many? If any of you were brutally sodomised on the way home, would you think it fair that you were deemed in any way responsible for that? Or are such value judgements only applicable to women?
Damini said:A woman is not a source or cause of rape - only a man is capable of that. .
ECA said:
Yeah because its only men who rape people, women are never rapists.
maxi said:There hjave been cases of men being raped by women(women raping women too i guess). But I think ECAS post just goes to highlight mens defensiveness around the issue. Which is what i as trying to point out from the start. I don't think it helps ANYONE, not least the hard-done-by-honest-to-goodness-men. Like me.
ECA said:
Yeah because its only men who rape people, women are never rapists.
Scouse said:But how about:
- Involving personal accountability; or
- Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own
If you're alcohol-impaired then you can't do that. And if you're drunk then that's your responsibility.
You're also responsible for how you dress and act. The sad fact is if you dress and act in a way that brings attention to yourself then you run a greater risk of being hurt.
Damini said:If you drink lots, then you are responsible for getting drunk. If you are raped when you are drunk you are responsible for putting yourself in a more vulnerable position. You are never responsible for that rape.
The same goes with clothing. You're blurring the borders between personal responsibility for finding yourself in a situation you can't control, and the responsibility of the person in control of that situation.
It's semantics, but its important semantics.
Damini said:I'm not saying that. I know a guy that was sexually abused as a child by a female relative. But are we or are we not talking about how a woman is "responsible" for being raped because of her behaviour in front of other people? Put it in some context before twakking me
Damini said:Well, ECA, since I enjoy labelling men as the sole perpetrators of rape, I'm not going to apologise for being dumb.