Women troubles :o

[Sar]

I'm the same as you DP.

I always hated clubbing when I was your age (hell, still do!), and I'm just lucky I found a woman who's of the same mindset as me. I prefer sitting having a good natter to a few close friends and/or my wife rather than going out and larging it.

 

[Sar]

Originally posted by throdgrain
Because us old fekkers know, it always happens

Not always - I had a mate come to my piss up last night. He married his gf who he's been with since he was 14. That was 14 years ago.

Sometimes it works out - but not if their personalities aren't compatible.

 

[Farsight]

Dook, how are you feeling about yourself right now?

Im not sure if you were serious about the hair loss etc, but if thats new for you, that must have had some impact on your self esteem.
And if you've been ill, you're bound to be feeling a bit low.

Are you feeling insecure? More insecure than you used to? Are you extra sensitive, in case she might be going off you?

If thats the case, and you are as close as you say, you need to discuss it with her. She will need and want to know if she needs to gives you an extra bit of attention right now.

Talk to her

 

[Dook_Pug]

Originally posted by Farsight
Dook, how are you feeling about yourself right now?

Im not sure if you were serious about the hair loss etc, but if thats new for you, that must have had some impact on your self esteem.
And if you've been ill, you're bound to be feeling a bit low.

Are you feeling insecure? More insecure than you used to? Are you extra sensitive, in case she might be going off you?

If thats the case, and you are as close as you say, you need to discuss it with her. She will need and want to know if she needs to gives you an extra bit of attention right now.

Talk to her

I'm undergoing a pretty intensive course of chemo atm so I'm as smooth as a baby's bottom.

I don't think it's related though, even before I was diagnosed I felt this way about things.

I know it's silly but I honestly can't help myself. :s

 

[Farsight]

Not silly Dook, not at all

Everyone wants to be cherished and loved, and when she goes out like this, its hard not to think "she'd rather be somewhere else with someone else than with me"

Thats just human

And you say you've always felt like this about it, but this is the first time you felt bad enough to venture on to the forum about it.
I'd say how you feel about it is worse now than it used to be.

You DO need extra support right now. If you are in chemo, you are undergoing some pretty devastating chemical therapy, not to mention the underlying trauma that the illness that is responsible is causing.

You dont have to be that brave, drop the guard and talk to her.

Or..... dont, but then she wont know theres anything wrong then , will she?

 

[Farsight]

By the way, did she have a good time?

 

[Dook_Pug]

Yea she did. What's more confusing is the fact that I'm glad she had fun.

Yea, what's happening at the moment (cancer etc) has been pretty damn life altering and things have changed alot (I look like a cueball etc), I still don't think that's the problem though.

I think it's more to do with the fact that she's doing something without me. I'm perfectly happy to have a few friends I see every now and again, while doing my college work and having her the centre of my existence. I don't smother her or anything but I love her and she's all I really need. She's not like that though, she has tons of friends and loves seeing them. I don't resent her for that, in fact I like that she's not like me because I know if she was, we'd end up pretty bored of eachother after a while.

I don't get pissed off as such, just really upset and very confused about the whole situation.

Thanks all for the advice btw, has helped me alot. :>

 

[Mellow-]

I think basically letting her go out and have fun with her girly mates is always a good thing. Try to time your own social stuff for the same day, get a few of your mates round while she's out with hers.

 

[Arnor]

if youre feeling shit, and thinking "wth am I feeling this for" then you need to disconnect totally, go do something with some mates, get it out of your head.

Works for me...