Women Troubles...Help!

[tankgirl_ni]

i split from my ex about 2 1/2 years ago.. belfast being such a small place i can't not bump into her. now she's just moved into a flat next door to my friends house its even harder. i see her all the time and she STILL plays games. occasionally when she's really drunk i'll get a txt message which i ignore and delete. the rest of the time we just blank each other in the street. its a bizarre state of affairs considering i lived with her for so long. but once bridges are burt its best not to rebuild them.

some people (not just women) are really manipulative and love to be the centre of a crisis. she maybe did go on a date or maybe she just said it to try and provoke you into being jealous... rest assured though if you met someone and told her you were going on a date, all hell would break loose... it wouldn't just be a dismissive retort about a phone bill!

 

[old.Tohtori]

So...i'm confused...was the reason to dump her, or to even initially move out, drunken fights?

If so, man you need a serious check up in your noggin. People do/say stupid things when drunk, it's a fact and should be taken light heartedly.

I'm not really gonna coment on two counts: You allready threw the relationship away and i don't know your reasons.

Please give them though, would like to know why you ended it.

Simple list would do.

 

[PLightstar]

It was the fact it wasn't light hearted drunken talk, it was very aggressive to the point were she would do anything to get me out the house, by any means.

Plus the fact she was insanly jealous, to the point I felt Gulity talking to anyone, incase I upset her.

I didn't like the fact that I seemed over time to be doing all the housework and cooking, even though I think we should share it as we both work full-time.
Then I would be moaned at if there was a mess.

I just felt like she was trying to Control every aspect of my life and most of the time it felt like it was her way only.

There were a few other things aswell


But I did something very strange last night, I went round there to drop a few things off, but we ended up talking for hours and we actually ended up sleeping together, which may have over complicated things really and not one of my best moments. About the problems, she won't give up the drink but she said she would go out to drink. Actually most the problems we managed to sort out. But We have gone back to basics in our relationship we our going to give it a go for a few weeks to see what happens.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Women are jealous. Especially if you talk to other women, it's just something they do since they see others a threats. I take it as a compliment as it only means they give a fuck. Good thing is, they get over it rather quickly.

Aggressive or not, talking when drunk should be kept as such. Talk about it later and then ask if she meant it. We all say things we don't mean when drunk, just because we're pissed off or some other shit like that.

You lean as much as you want really. Cook as much as you want also. If you will do it, she has no need to help. Try NOT cleaning or cooking until she helps and soon you can get to an agreement on where the lines go.

It's good to hear you're giving it a go, sorry if i sounded harsh, but i didn't feel you ahd reason enough to just quit on the relationship. Afterall, moving in together and all means you have to sort some difficulties out. But just quitting on it is never an option. Well, not until nothing works.