The forties - an initial review.

[Imgormiel]

Hmm, ok been forty now for like 5 seconds Well actually two months. I can honestly say, it feels like being tired - not physically or mentally. Just I guess spiritually if that's what I mean. There's no sense of 'go' in it. I feel like the fun in being cantankerous and being able to get away with it lost its edge after the first week.

I am harping on to myself about old days and looking back constantly. Listening to old music. I have less time in my head to listen to peeps talking shit and what's going on in their lives. I guess I am missing being a bit younger. Yet the inevitable happens and I should rejoice. /Shrug. Overall - it's a bit sad atm. Let's hope it gets better.

 

[Lamp]

Wait till you start saying to yourself "jeez, I wish I was 20 years younger knowing what I know now". Even if you could go back to being 20 again, 20 years later you'll still look at the 20s & wish you were their age again.

Nothing you can do about it.

Might as well make the most of the time you have left

Stop hanging around young people. They only make you feel your age.

Grow a moustache.

 

[Imgormiel]

Wait till you start saying to yourself "jeez, I wish I was 20 years younger knowing what I know now". Even if you could go back to being 20 again, 20 years later you'll still look at the 20s & wish you were their age again.

Nothing you can do about it.

Might as well make the most of the time you have left

Stop hanging around young people. They only make you feel your age.

Grow a moustache.

Heh, nice observation. I don't hang out with anyone 20 years of age. I guess in some respects I am missing the phrenetic level of conversation that I used to get. Now it seems or I am guessing people are looking at me and saying to themselves, he's old has nothing I want to talk about. Thus I hardly ever get a conversation when I go out. I speak to younger people and it's hard. It's hard not to judge and it's hard to know what really is going on their head. Being single doesn't help either at my age. No kids so I can't really identify with people older than me. It is a very dissonant time for me atm. I know what to do but being this age doesn't make it easy unless I wanna be a sugar daddy - which is in fact, impossible as I have no money. /handsheld to each side as tho to say umm dunno :s

 

[Lamp]

I know exactly where you're coming from.

But it works both ways. You listen to an irritatingly naive opinionated loud-mouthed 20-something babbling on about the rubbish they consider important (twitter, how many friends they've got on FriendFace, how much they drunk last night, the latest app on their iphone, the must have Xbox game, how important it is to save the planet while simultaneously driving daddy's BMW M3 to some music festival in some muddy field where they might have had sex with a cow, emo blogging, ranting about the most microscopically minutely boring details in their life, etc etc etc)

It doesn't get easier. You just have to adjust your mind set

 

[Imgormiel]

I know exactly where you're coming from.

But it works both ways. You listen to an irritatingly naive opinionated loud-mouthed 20-something babbling on about the rubbish they consider important (twitter, how many friends they've got on FriendFace, how much they drunk last night, the latest app on their iphone, the must have Xbox game, how important it is to save the planet while simultaneously driving daddy's BMW M3 to some music festival in some muddy field where they might have had sex with a cow, emo blogging, ranting about the most microscopically minutely boring details in their life, etc etc etc)

It doesn't get easier. You just have to adjust your mind set

I always have and always will keep an open mind

 

[Imgormiel]

I've noticed also that friends my age are very nostalgic and I try avoid that - it is as though they have given up and therefore live by what they knew as being 'safe'. In fact I have been listening to some new music and looking to some contemparary novels to read. But mister 'norm' was never really my thing. So I guess I am going to have to work a bit on my personality to make myself more appealing overall

 

[Imgormiel]

Thanks for the rep Lamp. I don't think I will ever get a mid-life crisis though. I have had far too much shit going on in my life and I mean 'bad shit' for me to even bother with what is my identity. I am just guessing that it has alot to do with the transition of being accessable at 30 something than 40 something. I careless about 'who' I am and care more about where I am than that

 

[fettoken]

Happy belated birthday Img mate!

 

[Imgormiel]

Happy belated birthday Img mate!

Ty ;d

 

[georgie]

Could be worse, you could be in your 50s.

 

[Imgormiel]

Could be worse, you could be in your 50s.

Gibs Georgie a big hug

 

[russell]

I thought the 40's were the new 30's?
Dude -Its really not that old.
Friends of mine have had difficulties with crossing the threshold making them re- evaluate their life. You take stock -maybe you are still in that phase and it will get better?
Hope so x

 

[Turamber]

I thought the 40's were the new 30's?

So very true! I remind myself I am the same age as Jennifer Aniston when I feel old and I feel a whole lot better again. I find that I can be friendly with teens and twenty somethings on Facebook and get on with them fine, and I'm a boring 40 something who is an Accountant and likes history

Age is very much a state of mind, and I write that with a huge lifesucking cheer sucking hole in my belly!

 

[Edmond]

I like to remind myself thet Kylie is older than me...just.

 

[Imgormiel]

I thought the 40's were the new 30's?
Dude -Its really not that old.
Friends of mine have had difficulties with crossing the threshold making them re- evaluate their life. You take stock -maybe you are still in that phase and it will get better?
Hope so x

Umm, I am not taking stock to be honest. I am just seeing it for what it is and what people's perceptions/cliches of what it is to be my age. Perhaps it is coming across that way purely because of what has been said before about being my age? And maybe I am looking at it through those very same eyes because I expected better - which imo was silly

 

[Imgormiel]

So very true! I remind myself I am the same age as Jennifer Aniston when I feel old and I feel a whole lot better again. I find that I can be friendly with teens and twenty somethings on Facebook and get on with them fine, and I'm a boring 40 something who is an Accountant and likes history

Age is very much a state of mind, and I write that with a huge lifesucking cheer sucking hole in my belly!

Go you!

 

[Ezteq]

...

Grow a moustache.

tbh though that's you answer to everything.

*looks for appropriate smilie*

we need a facial hair smilie people!!...preferably one thats twizzling it and going Muwahahaha


Img, I really hope you are feeling better today
xxx

 

[Imgormiel]

tbh though that's you answer to everything.

*looks for appropriate smilie*

we need a facial hair smilie people!!...preferably one thats twizzling it and going Muwahahaha


Img, I really hope you are feeling better today
xxx

Just woke up. The day is yet young, but I had a feeling of being angry towards my mother - but that's another story. CoRn made me laugh about 40 year old emo's though rofl!

 

[Turamber]

Go you!

I had a bit of a mid-life crisis when I was 30, running around with a 16 year old girlfriend, dying my hair blonde and growing a goatee. Since then I've rather adjusted to the idea of being a mature grown-up. Just about.

 

[Edmond]

Have a good day fella.

Go for a walk, go see some friends, occupy yourself

 

[Imgormiel]

I had a bit of a mid-life crisis when I was 30, running around with a 16 year old girlfriend, dying my hair blonde and growing a goatee. Since then I've rather adjusted to the idea of being a mature grown-up. Just about.

Oo! Umm, age for me never really has been an issue. Ok, in a small respect I have grown to think that I should be respected a bit, but not because of my age, generally because of what I have been through. Most of it because I have seen and been through alot of bad shit and still come out of it, sometimes smiling sometimes not. But still, I feel I have something to offer and that's the most important bit of it for my perspective. If I can stop someone from making a mistake or coming to a point where I went through or at least divert/ease things for them then I have no problem in pointing that out if they ask for it.

I think I stopped caring about my image after about 33. The prevalent thing for me has been 'just do what you fucking want' and that's the way I approach life Edmond is right, it really doesn't matter. I might think differently if I had kids and a wife but I don't so fuck me I am not childish, I am liberated

 

[Turamber]

Oo! Umm, age for me never really has been an issue.

Fair play to you sir! I felt like my life was slipping away, although quite why I wanted to look like a complete dickhead beats me I do understand why the 16 year old mini-skirt wearing, bisexual, goth was attractive ... but goodness, I couldn't put up with that puerile conversation now!

 

[Raven]

30 took me by surprise a little but then I realised I am still the same person, maybe a little wiser.

 

[Imgormiel]

Fair play to you sir! I felt like my life was slipping away, although quite why I wanted to look like a complete dickhead beats me I do understand why the 16 year old mini-skirt wearing, bisexual, goth was attractive ... but goodness, I couldn't put up with that puerile conversation now!

You sir gain reps to make you famous 4tw

 

[Imgormiel]

30 took me by surprise a little but then I realised I am still the same person, maybe a little wiser.

You are just 30? Or a bit older? Umm, I can say with relish, I hated my thirties. I had hoped that this decade was to be my decade, so far, I am disappointed

 

[Edmond]

30 hit me like a ton of bricks tbh, 25 came and went, but a few friends struggled with 25

The only thing i will say is that, you get to a point in your life where everything comes together and you become who you are, for me it was 25, i am very much aware that i am a totally different person to who i was b4 25

But its different for everyone i suppose, depends what you have been through up to that point

 

[Imgormiel]

30 hit me like a ton of bricks tbh, 25 came and went, but a few friends struggled with 25

The only thing i will say is that, you get to a point in your life where everything comes together and you become who you are, for me it was 25, i am very much aware that i am a totally different person to who i was b4 25

But its different for everyone i suppose, depends what you have been through up to that point

For me it was 27/28. But those years really made me who I am now. I spent two years homeless. I had an unwanted education and after that I could not see anything the way everybody else see things. I am not bitter but life isn't as twee as everyone would like to have in their ideal. There's no way I could revert back in to being as naive as most are now/were. Boohoo I hear some say, you had it hard and now ur QQ about it. Nope. The education you get from being really on the street makes you appreciate how lucky you really are...