someone cheer me up

[kanonfodda]

thanks for all the good cheer and stuff peeplets. I have closure now, and have really become what my title says I am.

glad you are sorting things out matey

 

[TdC]

It's just a process that allows you to ween yourself off someone whilst having the security blanket of having them back any time you want. It's the stabilisers version of being single.

exactly. I couldn't have put it better myself Lou. It's also exactly what she's done. Thank god I've managed to get her to tell me why she's done it though. At first she couldn't give me any reasons that I could understand, and that really was grim, but now I do know "why" and while still not happy I can close and get on with my life.

 

[Will]

 

[Louster]

Lonely is the room, the bed is made, the open window lets the rain in
Burning in the corner is the only one who dreams he had you with him
My body turns and yearns for a sleep that will never come

It's never over, my kingdom for a kiss upon her shoulder
It's never over, all my riches for her smiles when i slept so soft against her
It's never over, all my blood for the sweetness of her laughter
It's never over, she's the tear that hangs inside my soul forever

Oh man, great song from a great album. Have you listened to this? Interesting and sad as hell all at once.

 

[Clown]

Thank you for loving me. For being my eyes, when I couldn't see. For parting my lips, when I couldn't breathe. Thank you for loving me.

I GOT 21 SECONDS TO PASS THE MIC, I GOT 21 SECONDS TO SAY WHAT I GOTTA SAY!

 

[Damini]

 

[TdC]

thanks Lou, you rock as allways



I've taken my refuge in the demon drink for the moment. had a collegue leave for another departement. good excuse to get plastered. bit shit to do it with a crowd of expensive suits though :/ ah well

 

[dysfunction]

"Awwww" "LOL" or "Owned" ?

duck pics[/QUOTE]


I'm sure those are staged photos...

 

[Ch3tan]

So basically Andy, your break up is just like my last one. I would have married that girl happily. Only difference is I didnt accept the "i want space thing" and fought tooth and nail. Which just pushed her further away. Took a lot lot longer than 5 weeks to get over that.

The current temporarily not my gf says she is still confused, which doesnt help me in the slightest, heh

 

[TdC]

well, I didn't accept the "I've thought about this for three weeks and even though I didn't let you in on my thoughts it is now over between us" thing and things got slightly heated up after that tbh Chets mate. things are now cool as I've accepted her ideas (bloody feck all I can do to change them, don't think I didn't fight tooth and nail to try to though). I can now get on with my life.

thing is, having spoken to her tonight (not a good idea tbh), I think I am more chilled about it that she is. I told her that I think (yes I think) that she should be more relaxed about "our" situation (or lack of it) that I am because this is her choice after all. she wants this after all, not me. she got angry and said she's just as fucked over this as I am. I accept her statement at face value, but it only makes me more confused that I ever was

 

[nath]

Fucksake, teed that really gets up my nose. It's so malicious, so inconsiderate, so out of order.

She's dumped you and she seems to be expecting you to acknowledge what she's going through - at least that's the impression I'm getting from what you've written. I really hate that. She made her bed, and now you're supposed to feel sorry for her because she dumped you? What a crock.

Sorry if i'm getting a little riled up here, but it just seems so damned inconsiderate. :|

 

[Frizz]

Unleash your anger:

http://www.newgrounds.com/portal/view/194317

 

[dysfunction]

Just because someone broke up with you doesn't mean that they are void of feelings.

She obviously thinks that it was best to be apart but its not an easy thing to do. She must still have feelings for him as anyone would after being in a relationship that has had meaning.

I know how TDC is feeling as most people would after being in a great relationship thats not worked out. It is crap and its hard to deal with...but the person who made the decision to end the relationship is not having a great time either.

I dont think its being inconsiderate. I think it means she has good memories of the relationship and is very upset that she felt it had to end for whatever reason...and they may well be irrational reasons from a guys point of view.

 

[Ch3tan]

. she got angry and said she's just as fucked over this as I am. I accept her statement at face value, but it only makes me more confused that I ever was

Wow, you are actually me

 

[nath]

I know what you mean Dys but I just think that since she's the one breaking it off - she could have the courtesy of not treating the break up like it was a mutual split. She broke it off and as such should really be (on the face of things) more worried about Teed's feelings rather than her own. I get the impression she's expecting some sympathy which I think is bollocks.

 

[dysfunction]

Yeah I do agree with it to some extent....but women love talking, especially about how they feel and she seems to have the need to tell TDC about how she feels about the breakup.

She may be thinking that it would make him feel better that she is not having a ticker tape parade that its been ended.

 

[nath]

I see what you mean, and I guess that could be what she's trying to do... it's just that teed said she got angry and my reaction to that is "what bloody right do you have to be angry, you broke it off!". Ahh, who knows - maybe she was just trying to be decent.

 

[dysfunction]

Maybe thats why she got angry because he didnt see it from that point of view...

But then again I may be way off! who knows what these bloody women think!

 

[TdC]

I don't rightly know why she was angry. I can only guess that it's me not seeing her point / not understanding why she's done what she has that frustrates her so.
She's done it because she believes that it is the best thing she can do: she no longer feels I am the man for her, she doesn't want to be unhappy ergo she had to go.

I'm not saying that she is not unhappy with it. I know very well she's just as unhappy as I am, but to my mind she has placed herself in a situation where she can go on with her life. At the time I was as unhappy as she was, and couldn't do anything with it. Thus I felt very trapped and caught up in my emotions, because I wasn't the one who had stepped away. I don't know if I can explain it properly.

What Dys said is the literal truth, yet what Nath said is how I felt. To my mind this girl has always thought about herself in relation to us more than I did. It's one of my faults/plusses depending how you look at it. I don't really think about "me", but I do think about "us", this makes for a shock to me when a partner choses for his or herself in a relationship. I'm quick to lable it egotistical when in fact it is normal (I think) oh dear

 

[throdgrain]

The older you get, the harder it is for someone to find the "perfect" partner. Why ? Because there is no such thing. No one is perfect, you have to accept the other persons faults as part of the package. yet we're taught by the media that we can have everything we want, its all there.
Well its not, sometimes you have to take the rough with the smooth. I see it with freinds in thier late twenties and thirties, they seem amazed they can't just get what they want down Sainsburys. Its a sad world mate

I speak by the way with some qualification, its my 16th wedding anniversary today

 

[leggy]

The older you get, the harder it is for someone to find the "perfect" partner. Why ? Because there is no such thing. No one is perfect, you have to accept the other persons faults as part of the package. yet we're taught by the media that we can have everything we want, its all there.
Well its not, sometimes you have to take the rough with the smooth. I see it with freinds in thier late twenties and thirties, they seem amazed they can't just get what they want down Sainsburys. Its a sad world mate

I speak by the way with some qualification, its my 16th wedding anniversary today

You have never spoken a truer word mate. I was having a hard time recently with my current girlfriend as I seem to live in hollywood land alot of the time and was always seeking "TEH ONE!" and couldn't accept her faults.

I was close to splitting up with her a few months ago but gave it a chance as she really was one of the nicest people I had ever met. Anyway to cut a long story short. It has now been 6 months and I have never felt so much for one person ever in my life before (and there has been a few). I really do love her alot. I just wish I could tell her without it sounding shit. I am about to buy her a holiday for her birthday in december, maybe I can muster up something without cheese by then.

The funny thing is, I never realised just how much I love her until I had to leave her for another city. The weeks seem infinitely longer now and my days are just too short.

 

[throdgrain]

Glad to hear it m8, just remember you aint perfect and neither is she, and it all works itself out