So SO stupid :p ?

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Dear Freddys House (a.k.a agony aunt(s) )

I decided to go to my works xmass party tonight.. Was similar to school disco except it was school dinners (in holborn).

Manged to miss out on all the spankings etc as i turned up late.. :p

Anyway i noticed that a girl was there that i liked. For whatever reason we started to chat and shit and got on good :) Despite the usual office "cock blockers" we managed to talk about a fair bit of stuff.

As i have a girl friend (you knew it was coming) i was obviously a bit cautious in what i did and said to her..

Basically though, as much as i love the person im with, i feel that at my age (23) i should be fucking about and doing as i please.

I really do love my GF.. could not want better.. and dont dislike anything about her.. kinda a complete package i guess..

BUT.. as i've never really played about i feel its something that i should be doing.. Dont want to grow old and regret not doing so.

So.. Should i really come clean with my GF and tell her that im not ready to settle down (been with her 1yr 7 months ish) or do i keep her?

As long as i have the urge of wanting to play i dont ever see myself being content...

signed.

a pissed/stoned scoop :p

[edit] i havent posted this on the basis of a girl showing interest in me btw.. Have always thought it :/ The events of tonight just triggered it off though
 

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Basic guy.

Not happy or bored with what you got, think that grass is greener on the other side(which it isn't) and think HEY! I'll go "F*ck around!" and end up with your dick in your hand weeping on FH about your "lost" girlfriend.

Go hug and f*ck your girl and stop even thinking about this.

" really do love my GF.. could not want better.. and dont dislike anything about her.. kinda a complete package i guess.."

If that doesn't tell you everything, you're a moron and should be taken out of the genepool.
 

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Grass is greener syndrome, if you love the girl you're with, and see a future with her, sod the messing around. You might feel like you have missed out, but for each time, imho that being single is great, there's atleast 4 times when it sucks and would be nicer to be with someone.
imho, stick with her, but don't cheat, if you feel compelled to mess about, tell her, either break up, or have a few months break, but imo stay with her and forget about the messing around, you have her to mess around with!
 

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old.Tohtori said:
Basic guy.

Not happy or bored with what you got, think that grass is greener on the other side(which it isn't) and think HEY! I'll go "F*ck around!" and end up with your dick in your hand weeping on FH about your "lost" girlfriend.

Nail on the head.

Every bloke I know, every single one has been tempted by another girl at some stage. It's just life, without sounding like a patronising cock, there is a strong argument that humans aren't really meant to be monogamous *shrug*.

If you do go for this girl, and lose the girl you love, you will at least learn from it and perhaps be in a much better and mature position next time someone special comes along.

When i broke up with my long termer, I shagged everything including the hole in my matress because i had to get the "play around" out my system that I craved when with her. Heh, it was shite and nothing like the intimacy of a loving relationship. Yes, it was good to purge it and it boosted my already inflated ego, but the grass is certainly not greener. Plus, when you're fucking around, you're using condoms and they are shite and kill the moment.

However, the way you feel could be that your relationship has run it's course and it's just not for you anymore, and that you're comfortable and stable but mistaking that for love. Everyone likes to feel comfy that way, but it could be a sign there is an underlying disatisfaction with your current relationship but you don't have the balls to break it off.

When I started to sniff around other girls, that's when I knew that things weren't working for me but the fear of the loss of her was too daunting to deal with. I just stuck it out, but it just got worse and in the end she was the one that ended it.

Women have a sixth sense when it comes to detecting how you're feeling, they just seem to know it (in my experience anyway). Try to imagine how you'd feel if you knew she was thinking the same, does it break your heart? Then don't break hers.
 

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Throad- Stick that shotgun up your ass and stfu!!! :p

Grass is green syndrome.. maybe..

I just kinda saw it as if i had/have these thoughts in my head then maybe i shouldn't be with her.. and i'd never cheat on anyone.

Most of the guys at my work with girlfriends / wifes cheat on them and to me i can never see the point! If your with someone you gotta be loyal. Cant have it both ways!##

Cheers anyway i guess :p
 

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Big G said:
Nail on the head.


If you do go for this girl, and lose the girl you love, you will at least learn from it and perhaps be in a much better and mature position next time someone special comes along.



When I started to sniff around other girls, that's when I knew that things weren't working for me but the fear of the loss of her was too daunting to deal with. I just stuck it out, but it just got worse and in the end she was the one that ended it.

I usualy learn by mistakes rather than when being told something. So maybe i should split with her and see how i do feel!

Ever since i've been with her i've always looked at other girls. Maybe im just highly sexed but no matter who i've been with i've always been a window shopper!! :) (nothing more though!).
 

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Remember too; you're a virile young man, not married with a responsible family.

Just do the right thing and end it with the girl before going and fucking around (if that's what you choose).
 

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I'd never cheat mate. Had that shit done to me and i can never see the point in it anyway!

Time to have a thinkie though. No doubt i'll make the wrong decision :)
 

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scoop said:
Throad- Stick that shotgun up your ass and stfu!!! :p

Grass is green syndrome.. maybe..

I just kinda saw it as if i had/have these thoughts in my head then maybe i shouldn't be with her.. and i'd never cheat on anyone.

Most of the guys at my work with girlfriends / wifes cheat on them and to me i can never see the point! If your with someone you gotta be loyal. Cant have it both ways!##

Cheers anyway i guess :p

Make me big boy ;)

Listen to what some of the others have said on here, or you'll be spending plenty more time on here wailing about how you dont understand women, and how basically, you dont have one.
 

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scoop said:
Dont want to grow old and regret not doing so.

That is a serious dilemma.... :(



My girlfriend (who's much more experienced than me) says you just stop wanting to sleep around when you're ready and with the right guy. Should work in reverse...?
 

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my gf is talking about living together and babies :eek7:
 

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Why dont you talk to her scoop, if you decide you want to split up talk to her and explain your reasons and see if rather than a full break up, she'd go with a 3 month break or something. Then you both get some time apart and if you still like eachother at the end, you might get back together.
 

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TdC said:
my gf is talking about living together and babies :eek7:

Lol, must mean your getting old teedles! Do the living together bit first, followed by marriage, then look at the babies if it's working out! My parent's divorced, so those kind of relationship developments are not something I'd suggest people do lightly. Divorce fcuk's up kids, I mean look at me! ;)

And as to the OP, you're a standard bloke, these urges happen to all of us, and often at the worst times. The thing that seperates us from animals is the ability to control them! So look at things rationally and figure out what you want. Don't be a tool, don't give in to the rutting dog side! :twak:

Although if you haven't already been a complete hound (shagging everything with a hole, exactly as Big G describes) at some point in your life, it's something you really need to get out of the way!
 

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talk her into a threesome tbh :p
 

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I did talk to her about it today.. and have done so before (i always prefere to be completely upfront about everything).

She pretty much said to me what most you already have.. and that i would probably regret it if i did (not in a big headed way).

I know i would regret it but its a niggle thats been on my mind for so long. From my point of view, if you have something on your mind, untill you do something about it its never going to go away. You cant "forget" about problems because they will always be there.

The only way i can see myself winning is by ending it with her (being a complete dick) and just being single. I'll regret it but in time i might even prefere it.

I did say to her before about a trail split up but her responce was "I dont look back, you lose me, you lose me.. " ..which is fair enough.

Tried that already teeds..Maybe with a little "persuasion" though eh! :p

Try to imagine how you'd feel if you knew she was thinking the same, does it break your heart? Then don't break hers.

That does make me feel sick but i usualy put that down to jealousy (or jus the thought of her being with someone else)!
 

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Would a girls opinion help? Well, heres mine...


Unless she is COMPLETELY different from every other single girl i have ever known, she won't see the suggestion of a 3 month break the same way you do. 3 month break to you means a chance to get things out of your system, analyse and think about how you feel, and be able to get back to her with an honest decision that wasn't taken lightly.
3 month break to HER means you basically want to have your cake and eat it. Fuck around for a while whilst knowing the some dumb moose will take you back at the end of it....and no girl wants to be that person. To us its a matter of pride. 'If I'm not good enough for you now, then you can eff off' sorta thing.
From a personal point of view, I have trust issues as it is. If someone came back to me after a 3 month break and I knew he'd been playing the field, I don't think I'd ever be able to trust them to be monogamous with me again. Some people are lucky enough to have that mindset, but, I think, deep down, most women wouldn't be happy with it.
Good luck with what is always a horrible decision to make.
 

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heh a female coworker accused me of being a die-hard bachelor with the perverted mind of a teenager when I bitched about my gf bitching about the living-together-making-babies thing.

I'm not a bachelor, I've been in a relationship for 4 years now! longest run evah!
 

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mycenae said:
Would a girls opinion help? Well, heres mine...


Unless she is COMPLETELY different from every other single girl i have ever known, she won't see the suggestion of a 3 month break the same way you do. 3 month break to you means a chance to get things out of your system, analyse and think about how you feel, and be able to get back to her with an honest decision that wasn't taken lightly.
3 month break to HER means you basically want to have your cake and eat it. Fuck around for a while whilst knowing the some dumb moose will take you back at the end of it....and no girl wants to be that person. To us its a matter of pride. 'If I'm not good enough for you now, then you can eff off' sorta thing.
From a personal point of view, I have trust issues as it is. If someone came back to me after a 3 month break and I knew he'd been playing the field, I don't think I'd ever be able to trust them to be monogamous with me again. Some people are lucky enough to have that mindset, but, I think, deep down, most women wouldn't be happy with it.
Good luck with what is always a horrible decision to make.

This also applies vice versa.
 

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scoop said:
Most of the guys at my work with girlfriends / wifes cheat on them and to me i can never see the point! If your with someone you gotta be loyal. Cant have it both ways!##

Just because you work with a bunch of cheating filthy man whores doesn't mean you have to do what they do.

Why, honestly why, do you think you have to play the field or fuck around to feel like you've lived? (you may not but it appears as though you think it's something that you have to do)

If your current girlfriend is attractive to you and you get on very well why risk that so you can hump some girl from the office?

I suspect every man has looked at other women and thought "I wonder...." but the reality of most 'other women' is that they're just like your current woman only a different shape, slightly different personality but essentially the same, at some point you will find yourself thinking the same thing "I'm only 25/27/30 I should be out living life..."

I don't want to sound pompous or moralistic. You've already said you hate the thought of cheating on her and vice versa. My honest advice is add this other girl to your fantasy bank and save her for the bathroom.

If you really want to 'live life to the full' sit down with the current gf and discuss what you both want to do before you're 30. Then fuck off out there and try doing it together - if it doesn't work out at least you gave it a good shot and should be free of guilt if she turns out not to be the one.

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Wank more, think less.

Seriously though, "3 month break" = fuck that, as others have said. I have had someone try this on me and I told them to bollocks and haven't regretted it since.

edit: my missus has just read this thread and agrees with mycaenae (sp? CBA to scroll up) wholeheartedly. Pump that right arm boi!
 

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be thankful for what you have

theres people in this world who dont have anything

and you know why? because they're dead.

and you killed them.


bastard.
 

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Tbh unless I am totally mistaken, at 23 you should have already enjoyed a healthy few years of sleeping around.

Everyone thinks shit could be better, sticking your little tail in another hole, but it always seems that way.

I think you should leave your g/f and give her the chance to find someone that will love her and treat her right. That way you can fuck around like a pensioner on viagra and she can live happily ever after.

Cal.
 

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Calaen said:
I think you should leave your g/f and give her the chance to find someone that will love her and treat her right. That way you can fuck around like a pensioner on viagra and she can live happily ever after.

Cal.

Fair point imo. I don't know you at all scoop but if she's as good as you say she is then she deserves a guy way better than you :p Stop being such a kid, the time for "fucking around" is when youre 13 years old and you have to brag about how many girls you pulled at the school disco.

You shouldn't be that self concious by now, and if you are, get help.
 

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scoop said:
*loads of waffle about xmas party and ladies stuff*

Why yes you are stupid.

i think everyone else has covered it in some form or another, but putting it in black and white normally helps.

oh and the only real reason to "play around" is to have a nice badge.

it reads I have clamidia*

*im not saying you would have it, but by sleeping about with multiple partners you have a far higher chance of contracting STD's than staying faithful with your current partner... unless she has it and isnt telling you :eek: remember to always use a condom! especially to protect you against those 9 months later incidents!
 

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