So, it happened...

[Thorwyn]

Maybe some of you remember the thread I started a few weeks ago...

Today, my father passed away.
A guy from the hospice called me this morning and told me, that it´s coming to an end in the next few hours, so I drove there, waited for the rest of my family to arrive, stayed there for 2 hours and then decided to go back home because I didn´t want to see him die. Just one hour later, my sister called me and said that he passed away. I drove back and we all had a chance to say farewell to him.

As I´m typing this, I`m drinking a glass of red wine on him, trying to sort out my emotions and trying to figure out what´s lying ahead of me (I´m the only son left, so I´m responsible for the organization of all the formalities). I`m strangely calm at the moment. I know that he didn´t suffer any pain when he died and that he went quietly and in peace and that´s good.

 

[Cerb]

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Lamp]

My condolences. I'm sorry for your loss. All the best, fella.

 

[Bahumat]

Really sorry to hear this Thorwyn, also I remember your earlier threads/posts on this.
When my nan died she had an open coffin, but my dad told me something which made sense for me. He said "when your grandad died, He had an open coffin and I wanted to see him one last time, but he did not look the same".

I am thankfull he told me this, because when I think of my nan, I remember how she looked. My dad said dead people look different and it's a lasting image

I think you should not feel responsible to do everything on your own, your sister is going through the same pain so it's better to let them all help.

You have my deepest sympathies!

 

[Vasconcelos]

Crap, rly sorry to hear it man

My deepest condolences to you and your family

 

[Gwadien]

Damn dude, sorry to hear mate,

Thoughts are with you & your family

 

[Jarahl]

Sorry for your loss mate I've got a mate who recently lost his dad too, and I saw in his eyes the pain you must feel now.

My condolences

 

[- English -]

Sorry to hear ;(

 

[Moriath]

Sorry to hear that dude .. my dad died 10 years ago and i still remember it all .. i couldnt go to the hospice and visit him was too hard so i understand you leaving

 

[Ch3tan]

Condolences mate, it will hit you eventually, make sure you use those around you for support when it does.

 

[Jimmy]

Sorry to here fella.
I was the same when my nan passed away couldn't stay in the hospital couldn't even bring my self to go to the funeral which i still regret to this day.

My deepest condolences.

 

[Sparx]

Gutted to hear mate, for what its worth i send you my deepest sympathy
x

 

[Punishment]

Sorry to hear this

Keep your chin up fella

 

[Edmond]

Its always hard, even when you know its inevitable. Stay strong

 

[collegien]

So sorry to hear your sad news.

 

[Ezteq]

BIG hugs sweetie; my thoughts are with you xxx

 

[Tuthmes]

My condolences Thorwyn.

 

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

Sorry to hear mate. My condolences to you and your family.

 

[fettoken]

I am sorry for you. Things will get better i am sure.

 

[Zita]

Wish you the best mate.

 

[Calaen]

Emotions will come eventually Thor.

My thoughts are with you.

 

[Fast]

Sorry to hear bud.

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

Sorry to read of your loss Thorwyn. Condolences to you and your family.

 

[TdC]

My condolences.

 

[xomer]

Sorry for your lose dude.

It's always so painfull to loose a close member of your family.

But keep in mind that your father atm is at better place than the previous one, without any pain and fear

 

[Dvaerg]

I am sorry to hear of your loss mate.

My own dad almost died one month ago, was a blood clot in his brain.
He was very lucky to survive it too...
He doesn't have any sequelae after the brain damage, and i am happy for that.

 

[russell]

I guess its always a shock, even if you know its coming.
You always sound very together and logical on here -hope that quality helps you through it.

 

[liloe]

Mh, in letzter Zeit poste ich hier eher selten und somit habe ich es jetzt erst gesehen, aber du hast mein herzliches Beileid Aber auch die harten Zeiten gehen vorbei, wenn man die guten Erinnerungen behält.

 

[old.Tohtori]

I've been thinking a while what to post here, knowing a bit about Thorwyn, talking about this issue before and seeing as that you pretty much did all the things one can before the inevitable...i guess...

You'll be alright.

 

[Thorwyn]

Thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate your sympathies, thoughts and words.
The funeral is next monday and after that, I guess things will slowly settle down a bit. Can´t wait...

Thanks again!