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[old.charliealpha]

You're ill, you feel like shit and you need some compassion. So you ring your girlfriend in the vain hope that she might be able to come round and look after you and stuff but shes alredy made plans to stay at home and chill out with her friends. No matter how ill you say you are she still wont come round.

Then the following day you get woken up in the morning, you havent had time to awaken properly and she ends the conversation abruptly for whatever reason. Bearing in mind that you are still feeling like shit. The she goes round her mates house to get stoned (which she never does with you consequently making you feel guilty whenever you roll a spliff) while you still feel shit stuck at home bored.

Do I feel pissed off with her because she doesnt show any apparent sympathy or am I expected to roll with whatever decision and plans she makes in fear that she'll see my ill-ridden request as smuthering or controlling of some description?

What would YOU do?

 

[Moving Target]

When she's ill do the same.

 

[Furr]

How old is she?

 

[old.charliealpha]

26 years old.

 

[Furr]

Yup you feel pissed off,

 

[old.charliealpha]

I thought it might be me getting caught up in one of those bloody relationship-loophole-thinking-trap things. Kept mulling it over but I couldnt see any reason why she couldnt make the effort to come and see me. I mean, if people on this forum are in a relationship then have you encountered this? (Blokes especially) Or is this something I should be wary of for the future. Shes nice and all that but I get the feeling that shes placing her friends above me in times of need. Be a different story if it was her that was ill.

This is what 4 years without a gf does to you, getting advice from Barrysworld Forums

 

[Furr]

What you trying to say!

 

[old.charliealpha]

I'm venting.

 

[Furr]

Awwwww.

You should try to get her on a leash. But not too much one of my mates got his ex so addicted to him, he's thinking about getting a restraining order on her

 

[~YuckFou~]

Play her game, next time she wants to come around tell her you are going to your mates.

 

[Cod]

Next time she wants to do something, do the same, go round to a friends house and get stoned!

 

[WPKenny]

Well, for one thing you COULD play her game. But you may end up waiting a while to get the opportunity to do this.

If I were you I'd give her the cold shoulder right now. When you're better again act all casual and just say you've arranged a night out with your mates and you'd thought she would be going round to her mate's house to get stoned "like the last time".

Chances are it'll spark a blazing row but hopefully it should get to the bottom of things.

From the way you're pitching it, it sounds suspicious.

When I was nearing the end of a three year relationship, my (ex)girlfriend would bugger off out with her "mates from work". Turns out she was building up a pretty solid relationship with just one f those mates..a bloke.

I'm not trying to make you paranoid, but after four years it's VERY hard to tell someone that things might be going wrong. She might not even be consciously thinking along those lines but a blazing row might get things out in the open and confirm to you if things are going wonky.

I'm NOT saying there's another man invloved, what I'm saying is that maybe it's her way of self-destructing the relationship. Maybe she wants YOU to make the first move.

Have a think.. have the bad times started to outway the good? If so it may be time to confront her.

Christ this all sounds so pessimisitic but it sounds to me, from my own experience, that she could be doing this all subconsciously, wanting you to make the first move. So do it make. Put your mind at rest and find out if there is a problem.

 

[old.D0LLySh33p]

I'd be very pissed off if I were you...

But I'm like that

 

[old.Kez]

What the fuck are you all on about? When was the last time a man successfully played their game against them, without caving in for want of sex and attention?

Do I feel pissed off with her because she doesnt show any apparent sympathy or am I expected to roll

You roll, you definately roll ... a joint :/

 

[old.D0LLySh33p]

True, we do need the whole sex and attention thing

 

[L_Plates]

If i was you ... when i got better id go ot with my mate's for a few days and leave her out of the fun you will have and see what she does ... if she moans about it just say to her you never wanted owt to do with me for the last few days .. now you know how it feels !



(BITCH)

 

[Skyler]

I never had such problems, I didnt really get ill, but when I was down she was there

This sounds a bit dodgy to me, I'd deffo talk to her, its probably best to talk it out, rather than thinking over every single possibility in your head.

WPKennys advice sounds good to me

 

[old.D0LLySh33p]

Skyler speaketh the truth.

It's so bad when you just go over every possibility in your head. Makes you feel like you're going mad

 

[Skyler]

When I was nearing the end of a three year relationship, my (ex)girlfriend would bugger off out with her "mates from work". Turns out she was building up a pretty solid relationship with just one f those mates..a bloke.

But being paranoid that something like that was going on, would freak you out even more...

ta for bringing that to our attention WPKenny

 

[old.D0LLySh33p]

Paranoia...

Gawd dang it, she was supposed to be home an hour ago!

Eeeeeep!

 

[Munkey-]

girlfriends........pah..............





*sob*


god have mercy on my lonley soul

 

[old.D0LLySh33p]

/me hands Munkey some flowers.

Now go find one my son!

 

[Munkey-]

cant. the bastards are all taken and with my track record (go back to valentines day) i seriously doubt they go near me......

 

[old.Kez]

There are women in Qatar?