Megans little brother

[Laddey]

Angie, megans mum made all the effort last night to make a reet good buffet. Some reet decent scran we had.

Daniel, it's name is btw....Came down stairs in the most foulest fucking mood i've ever seen in my life. No please, no thankyou, no conversation.


Angie said, dan would you like some chicken?
no.

I thought you cheeky little shit. That's a disgrace. Doesn't reflect on Angie or Dave in anyway, because they are quite 'posh'

So today, i text him in the morning to say be at mine for 8:45 to load the car for work. 8:45 came and no sign of him. I was fuming. So i drove to his house and he was still in bed, he didnt get in the car til 9:05.

So he got told. I stressed at him, got him told straight and he didnt like it one bit. So he went in one of his moods again all day so he got terrorised to make it worse (meh).

I blame the weed he smokes, when he smokes loads at night and goes to sleep he wakes up like a complete asshole. Immature little prick. He grafts when he isn't stoned but when he has been the night before he's fucking useless man.

What should i do? Have a word with his mum? She'd be horrified...And he has ALOT of shit he can drop me in to his mum.

It's all down to the green he puffs at night, definatly. He's 16!!

I look at him and see myself when i was his age. What a wanker i was.


Advice my pals?


btw 8 weeks clean on this Thursday coming

 

[Ezteq]

well tbh i think maybe meg should do it because she is actual family and no matter how close you are you aren't so tell him either pull his socks up or she's telling mum!

personally i'd just leave it alone lol i hate fights and if i dont have to be involved i'll do anything to avoid them.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Don't do what you did and go ballistic on him for being 20 minutes late, when you text him in the morning.

If you don't want him treating you like sh*t, stop treating him as such. You start off at the assumption he's sh*t and every situation is heightened by that.

Perhaps think "Yeah, i was like that too, can't hold it against him."

How did you handle someone having a go at you at thata age? Thats right, f*ck off was the answer.

Teenagers; either deal with it or get out of the way.

On the weed; do you smoke it at all? (just read your edit, oh gods, you're becoming one of those people)

On the staying up late and sleeping late...durr...16!

 

[pez]

or kick him in the nuts

 

[Nibble]

like u say u can grass him up but he will sitll be a immature (guna go with chav?) + u said he can say shit about you also + he could take it out on u aswel which could cause more problems?

Also even if his mum knows about him smoking weed, he wont stop regardless

 

[Ch3tan]

He is 16, not a lot you can do. Let him make his mistakes, but gently advise him that he's on a bad road, and that it took you ages to fix yourself from the same errors.

the other thing you have to remember is that he is a 16 year old boy, mood swings, the way he treats his parents, it's all part and parcel of being that age.

A wake up call would be to stop working with him.

 

[Zede]

So long as he's listening to Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, The Doors, Bowie, The Velvet Underground etc.. when he is getting stoned i dont see the problem Just dont get all righteous on his ass, 16 is 16 !

Try to make sure he's using his time getting stoned to educate his mind with some good music and other shizzle - if he is gonna do it, least give him some tips ffs !

 

[megadave]

yeah man i bet you were a right little shit at 16 too, i know i was

 

[Aoami]

i dont remember being 16 really, i bet i was a little **** though.

i did go to work though but thats because i loved my job, maybe i was one of the lucky ones

 

[Sparx]

i was never a shit at 16 but then i joined the army at 16

 

[Lamp]

Don't put yourself in a situation where you're relying on a 16 year old. Especially when it comes to hard graft. The kid - and he is still a kid - is 16. Teenagers are like that. Moody, confused about the soft downy hair on their chests, etc etc. I would give him the elbow, keep shtum, & just let him get on with being a teenager.

 

[Cemeterygates]

Were you not all that far off the same until very recently?

 

[Huntingtons]

as pointed out hes a teenager, but he could also have a substance abuse which is not a positive thing at his age. Its a though one, coz very few on this forum have kids around 16, and teenagers are so very unpredictable. But non-intoxicated, is he truly a good bloke or are you just sticking up for him for being your girls kid brother?

What would make you quit at 16. A girl? Job? parents? hobbies? If hes a good kid and not trying to stone his way out of problems, theres a safe bet you can put him in a semi-straight line.

 

[Laddey]

Thanks for the advice y'all.


But the way i look at it. The choices you make, things you do at an early age have greater impact on you later on in life.

So say he gets 'hooked' on weed. It may well stop him (if not already has) getting a succesful career. Don't get me wrong, i bet a few of you smoke the green and have succesful careers.

Hanging around with cnuts MAY end him up in jail. I'm saying that in worse case scenarios.

I guess im just trying to pass my knowledge down to him, i told him...Go to college, go to uni become a f'ing doctor, solicitor, whatever. If i had the choice to go back, i sure would.

He's working on the windows with me now. Atleast he's earning, but he's earning fuck all compared to what he could be earning in a few years. He's on like minimum wage and there isn't much room for promotion in this job, unless i quit. Which i doubt i will as i've got my foot wedged in that door.

But we all learn from our mistakes i suppose, as i've experienced this first hand.

 

[Garaen]

Why did you get pick him up? You said be at mine for 8.45 - i would have given him till 8.50 then left him. Alternatively, I would have driven him to work and let him make his own way back in the evening and basically said "if you piss me about, i'll piss you about".

I don't know you're situation but I guess he works for or with you? He's 16 and needs a firm "mentor" as he's obviously not getting that from his mother or father if he has an attitude like that at the dinner table and gets away with it - don't try and be his mate, be a complete **** to him and make him work hard (but make sure you are fair to him, and praise him when he does good work but don't take any bullshit from him). If he is a grafter when he wants to be he's just pushing his boundaries, step on his toes a bit and he might change.