Life is an utter bitch sometimes.

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CptDoom

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I wasnt going to do this, i really wasnt but here goes.

My niece has been in and out of hospital from her day of birth, 3hrs after she was born she had to have her spleen removed due to complications.

6 months later she was diagnosed as having Chronic Mylomonocytic Leukemia, a very rare strand of leukemia that affect less than 1% of all cancer sufferes worldwide and given 20% chance to survive it due to complications at birth.

The search for a donor (bone marrow) went into full effect, Anthony Nolans trust advertised on their websites, we arranged a fun day activity at a local park (Northampton Abington Park) where i and several others raised lots of money and spread te word. Ieven did a bungee jump, something i would have never ever done under any other normal circumstance. She was in all the local papers and was becoming quite the little celebrity but alas, no bone marrow match.

Eventually they had to settle on the bone marrow of her father (50% match) which reduced her chances of survival by a further 10%.

Operations go ahead, nerves get frayed and she stabilises after 2 years of Chaemo therapy and utterly amazingly manages to get her match (marrow) right up to 100%. A miracle beyond words.

Last september she is given the all clear, well as far as an all clear can be, she had regular checkups every 3 months just to make sure she was ok. 3 weeks ago she just celebrated her 4th birthday and just started nursery school. All is well.

This friday at 7.13 am she died of a heart attack, totally unrelated.

I dont want to depress anyone, and i dont even know if i feel better for posting this but im off for a while, here and irc.

My family is utterly devastated and me, i have never felt this way before in my life, my sister is catatonic and cant waste time here nor do i have the inclination. There are major things we have to do now, I feel like a prick saying all this, i am hoping its worth doing.

Bethany Coates. :(
 
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Jonaldo

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:( always sad to hear about loss of life, especially when so young.
There's really nothing I can say that can make you feel any better, that just comes with time but I wish your family well.

May she rest in peace.
 
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(Shovel)

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:( Sorry to hear that Cpt.

Best wishes to you and your family.
 
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old.ignus

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All that and people still believe in a god?

Sorry to hear mate.
 
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Deadmanwalking

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Life is an utter bitch...

Good luck to you and your family. It's unfair that things like this happen to anyone let alone someone of that age.

You don't sound like a twat, so no worries for that.

Be strong
 
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Bym

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People ask why these things happen, especially to one so young, but there is no reason and nothing can be said to make you feel better. I hope she is at peace now, she doesn't have to suffer any more, God bless.
 
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Bym

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Originally posted by old.ignus
All that and people still believe in a god?

I don't think it's the right time to play the religious card m8, what if they were religious, you just don't know.

Caroline
 
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Sir Frizz

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I wish only for the best with yourself and your family, Doom.

I kind of know how you feel, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and bone cancer, she is terminally ill, at about 16 months now on average. I felt absoulutely devastated with the news. When i first heard the news i've tried doing my bit by sighing up to grid.org . Though i wish i could do more.

Take care and all the best.
 
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Ash!

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Hope you do feel better for airing your feelings. Hope time is a good friend when it comes to healing the wounds
 
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throdgrain

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Im so so sorry to hear that m8. All my condolences to you and your family :(
 
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mank

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Horrible news. My condolences and best wishes to you and your family, RIP.
 
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Gekul

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Really sorry to hear this :(

Very cruel. My condolences to you and your family :(
 
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Yoni

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doomeh what can I say. I am really sorry to hear this it's just dreadful news. My heart goes out to you and your family for the loss they are suffering. :( :( :(

RIP
 
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Tenko

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This just makes me angry but theres nothing to rage against :(



I hate the random freaking crap which the world throws at us, and nothing I can say will lesson your families loss.



My sincerest condolences :(
 
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old.Dillinja

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Makes all my problems seem very small in comparison. Sorry to hear it mate, just remember to always try to look on the bright side of things and you will pull through anything.
 
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Jupitus

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Doom... I am certain I am not wrong in saying that the feelings of all of us are with you, your sister, and the rest of your family right now. I am deeply saddened to see a bright light put out so abruptly :(
 
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GDW

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That is painfull. One of my children is that age :(

Life is real shit sometimes, but there really are no answers that can make pain like that go.

My heart goes out your family.
 
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MYstIC G

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Sympathies to your & your family my friend.

Regards
Rob
 
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FatBusinessman

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Nothing I say can ease the pain you must be feeling, but my thoughts are with you.

David.
 
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Tom

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Sad news, I hope your sister is well. Remember that people grieve for their personal loss, try and remember what your niece has lost.
 
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kameleon

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Thats really sad, but like bym says, shess at peace now.

You and your family have my deepest condolences.
 
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Damini

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Really sorry to hear that news. It's so hard when these things come out of the blue, and after all that illness had faded it must be particularly cruel and hard to comprehend.

I've just sat here, staring at the monitor trying to find something to say that doesn't seem like it's fallen out of a condolence card, and I can't. Sorry this had to happen to your family.

Lou x
 
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CptDoom

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Thanks people, i appreciate the posts. Just got back from my mums and my sis is a little better but its going to take a long time.

She doesnt want to go back home, as the house is full of Beth's belongings and shes already decided to move out, i guess we just have to be there for her at all times.

The funeral will be thursday/friday (cremation) and its going to be a Humanistic one as we are totally non religious.

Its just really caught us all out and we are all still in a state of shock, cant work out whether its sinking in, has sunk in or will get worse. She really was the nicest, kind little 4 yr old i have ever met.

I dont know why i posted this in BW, I am now glad i did, it wont be much considering the state shes in but ill certainly show her this thread some time down the line and maybe itll make her fell that little bit better.

Its not easy, but it is possible to blank it whilst doing things but the minute you get more than 5 minutes to think it all goes grim again :( Keep active i guess. And time will do the rest.
 

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