Last night..

[Marc]

Women are the devils spawn anyway!

 

[Tasslehoff]

Dude... thats like Rock Me Amadeus except even worse

It's only 'cause you don't understand what he is saying - it's really quite an intelligent track!

 

[soze]

Then, (thread hijack) they never loved you in the first place.

Love vs. lust i guess.

I think love can change. I love my ex but i had no interest in getting married to her and she had no interest in getting married to me. So after that conversation it was carry on with no future or break up. Sad thing is it was a thread on her that caused that conversation lol.

 

[Wonk]

No, you are assuming it is impossible to change how you feel about someone. If you can fall in love with someone, you can fall out of love with them too.

spot on.

 

[kiliarien]

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I'm glad that's not in full English, else I would have heard it coming out of every shitty pimped up Vauxhall Nova & Citroen Saxo from here to Buckinghamshire.

On topic: sorry to hear the news Wonk, hope you feel more positive soon.

Isn't that where most relationships end up in?

First fizzles and bangs(har) out the way, then settle into the gray repetition that is life and share things in a emaningful way yada yada bull bologny

Girlfriend, or wife even, is basically a best friend with a nookie privilages.

If that's the only reason to dump her, then it might be a mistake.

Not necessarily do 'most' end like that - there's always a variety of reasons and I suspect the feeling that people end up more friends than lovers is the best way to express it without it necessarily being the underlying cause.

I agree they're your partner is basically your best friend with nookie privileges. It's the fact that the nookie is still desirable to you that I think keeps people 'in love' as it were. I disagree with your fizzle then monotony concept. Would it be too invasive to ask how long your oldest relationship is and are you basing this concept on experience or just broad outlook?

 

[Ezteq]

I think love can change. I love my ex but i had no interest in getting married to her and she had no interest in getting married to me. So after that conversation it was carry on with no future or break up. Sad thing is it was a thread on her that caused that conversation lol.

lol I've completely gone off the idea of marriage now, I always said I only wanted to get engaged once and that would be to the person I'm going to marry well I got engaged and that went to pot so tbh I started thinking what if we were married?

Screw that, and anyway I am going deeper into my athiestic ways now and thinking well sod marriage having a piece of paper is not going to make you keep loving that person or them keep loving you...I wanted someone who stayed with me because they wanted to be with me not because they'd signed a contract and if the didn't do as expected they would have to go through a divirce to get out.

I am fucking horrified at the thought that B2 was only with me at the end maybe out of routine or habit or something and that he wasn't with me because he was as head over heels, warm and snuggly (stfu it's how I felt!) in love with me as I was with him.

Yep feelings can and do change but I have to say it really, really stinks when one persons change and the other's stay the same...Soze, it might not feel like it but you were lucky that you both felt the same way man.

 

[Genedril]

TBH it's a bit of a gamble Ez.

People change and if as a couple you don't change in a way that the other one likes or you both change in different directions then there's no guarantee that the warm and snuggly will last forever.

But then there's always the chance that it will happen that way and it'll all be alright.

People - awkward buggers to the last.

 

[soze]

Soze, it might not feel like it but you were lucky that you both felt the same way man.

It was all rather friendly my break up we both knew it was going no where but were happy in a rut. And when i say get married i don't just mean the bit of paper. I had the chance to move in with her a few months ago and avoided it. We got stuck at the see each other 2 or 3 times a week stage and were both happy to leave it that way.

Besides i want to get married think of the presents Ez. And im gonna marry a Greek they pin money to ya how sweet if that.

 

[Everz]

It all depends on what you as the individual are comfy with tbh and what you want anything. I'm the slow type, wouldn't want to move in with gf for a good few years even though some weeks we just live at each others, same for her. Aslong as the desire is there for something in the future then relationships can go on.

 

[Ezteq]

...im gonna marry a Greek they pin money to ya how sweet if that.

hmm if you are going for that tactic then you might want to hit the hamburgers and pizzas big time for a few months before hand...give em LOTS of space to pin even more money to you Muwahaha!

 

[old.Tohtori]

I think love can change. I love my ex but i had no interest in getting married to her and she had no interest in getting married to me. So after that conversation it was carry on with no future or break up. Sad thing is it was a thread on her that caused that conversation lol.

Then again, marriage isn't for all and no marriage does not mean no future

I disagree with your fizzle then monotony concept.

Maybe cause that's not what i said.

Start of relatonship = fizzles and bangs.
Further down the line = regular living sets in.

Never claimed that relationship becomes monotonous. I said "settle in to the gray repetition that is life with shared interests yada yada" half tongue in cheek.

FYI: Not answering your "how long you've been dating" quiz, since that shouldn't have any effect on the matter, either way. I could've been in a 3 year relationship, i could know things by listening and talking to friends etc etc.

 

[soze]

Then again, marriage isn't for all and no marriage does not mean no future



Maybe cause that's not what i said.

Start of relatonship = fizzles and bangs.
Further down the line = regular living sets in.

Never claimed that relationship becomes monotonous. I said "settle in to the gray repetition that is life with shared interests yada yada" half tongue in cheek.

FYI: Not answering your "how long you've been dating" quiz, since that shouldn't have any effect on the matter, either way. I could've been in a 3 year relationship, i could know things by listening and talking to friends etc etc.

I did not think i had disagreed with you lol. Thats just what has recently happened to me.

When i got serious i did think i had a future with her and could see myself living with her. After a year nothing had and noting was going to change so if either one of us did want to look for "the one" it was better to split and go sooner rather than later.

 

[old.Tohtori]

I did not think i had disagreed with you lol. Thats just what has recently happened to me.

When i got serious i did think i had a future with her and could see myself living with her. After a year nothing had and noting was going to change so if either one of us did want to look for "the one" it was better to split and go sooner rather than later.

Oh yeah i was just adding to it, not meant to say "you were wrong!" or anything

Yeah, if either is unhappy or unsatisfied, it just doesn't work and trying and trying rarely makes things work either. Staying together just for love? Usually a bad idea.

 

[soze]

I agree with that if you are miserable together its time to split. Unless you have Kids or maybe own a house together it should be a obvious choice