Darthshearer
Can't get enough of FH
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Shit with women
As proven here and here.
Now, the girl in the latter thread I am seeing still and she is awesome. We have a couple of weeks ago just spent a week in Cyprus. Its the best and most amazing holiday I have ever had, hand on heart. She is exciting, ambitious a great laugh and very caring. Plus she bought me the King of the Mountains Jersey for my Bday
Right, why I am shit with women.
The week before were due to go away she is in the gym where her ex goes and he came over to chat with her. She is poliet and chats back. General chit chat and she mentions she is going away, which he says "Oh girly holiday" and she looks at him sheepishly and says "No" and he looks suprised (now this is what she told me and I fully trust and believe her). Anyways, that evening she comes over mine, tells me this and it doesnt bother me, then around 11pm she gets a text off him, which she shows me and it doesnt say anything other than, "Battered, did a good time in the run today, just hammered" This doesnt mean much to most but for me!!! WOoooooo LOCO time! It knocked me for six. Anyways that evening we went to bed and I mentioned I didnt feel great and she reassued me she doesnt make any effort to speak to him, contact him at all and I felt good.
The next day we go shopping and a bloke from her mountaineering group she belogs too texts her, I was look and it said "Hey when you coming climbing again then? xxxxx" Now, when I saw the kisses I felt sick and shit. She explained he is 42 (she is 28) and there is no WAY shell find him attractive. So that put me at ease and then she goes on to say that last year she went climbing and there was only her and him and on one of the lifts he lifted her top up to expose her belly to blow rasberrys on it, well thats was like kicking me in the face. Anyways, that evening I spoke with her saying I felt a little uneasy, again she reassured me.
Now, all this is good. Shes been VERY understanding, VERY caring and generally awesome.
A week before we went away this girl told me she had fallen in love with me, great stuff as I know I felt the same, she is awesome and definatley Someone I want to be with forever.
Now, I trust her 1000000000% and believe what she tells me and thats great. Why I am shit with women.........well keep reading.
We have a great holiday and we come off last week and from then its gone a little Pete Tong in my dept, maybe Yoni or the other ladies (Trem :wub can help me.
Firstly, we come off holiday and she goes to the gym as normal and the ex is there again talking to her. Now, she tells me and its cool. My partner is doing some really tough exams for work. She did these exams when the ex split up with her so she was all over the place, extremly upset and not at all well. Anyways, he asks about when she gets the results and it was last Thursday.
Well, Thursday comes and he texts her saying good luck etc and well, she fails Which he was "Oh youll bounce back dont worry" Well, it was like going from 200mph after a great start to our relationship and a great holiday to 0mph. Just hitting a brick wall. I just didnt know what to do when I saw her face. She was devastated. I tried to console her but it didnt seem to help. She called her mother and she said it was a difficult time etc when it happend and that she needs to be positive. She is worried about work etc.
Well, she stayed at mine that evening and I didnt sleep one bit because I felt useless, I was just trying to put myself into her shoes and it must hurt so much, she is an extremly proud person and I know it was hard for her to go into work on Friday for her. I know she didnt sleep at all too. Friday morning comes and she was still on her arse, I tried so much to help, made her breakfast etc but didnt work. She then told me she had texted the ex telling him she couldnt speak / contact him again, which I was shocked about. But in a slefish way happy about.
Anyway, Saturday she studied and Saturday night I went to see her. It was good, we went for Japanese, then went into a bar after for a drink and she just went quiet. She is quiet anyways, but she was really quiet, I though she may of seen an ex. We got home and I asked if she was ok, she said she was tired so watched a bit of TV and she went to sleep.
Sunday we had a good day, went for lunch with her mum and dad and then biking, where she bonked DOH! She is again really quiet. She again assures me when we get home she is ok just tired and maybe still a little down.
Now, I am seriously kicking the fuck out of myself. I am worried Ive done something wrong. Ive talked to her, texted her and she says I seriousley have nothing to worry about she is just a little down over her exams and thats it.
This kid from her climbing group phoned her which she didnt answer as she was biking, this scared me AGAIN, why? WHats wrong with me? Why am I so fucking insecure?
Well, Ive basically told her I am a little insecure, well a lot and its stilll early in our relationship and it will get better, which she agrees.
Now, she again seems quiet tonight. I was supposed to be going to Wales this weekend but cant as a mate has bailed, so tried to arrange seeing her and she has made plans, cool, not her fault, but again she seems quiet and its scaring the shit out of me.
If I ask her much more, why she is quiet shell get pissed off with me To try and cheer her up Ive booked an evening into a Spa for her which she is really happy about. Today weve emailed and she tells me she loves me and misses me etc, so why am I worried
So confused
As proven here and here.
Now, the girl in the latter thread I am seeing still and she is awesome. We have a couple of weeks ago just spent a week in Cyprus. Its the best and most amazing holiday I have ever had, hand on heart. She is exciting, ambitious a great laugh and very caring. Plus she bought me the King of the Mountains Jersey for my Bday
Right, why I am shit with women.
The week before were due to go away she is in the gym where her ex goes and he came over to chat with her. She is poliet and chats back. General chit chat and she mentions she is going away, which he says "Oh girly holiday" and she looks at him sheepishly and says "No" and he looks suprised (now this is what she told me and I fully trust and believe her). Anyways, that evening she comes over mine, tells me this and it doesnt bother me, then around 11pm she gets a text off him, which she shows me and it doesnt say anything other than, "Battered, did a good time in the run today, just hammered" This doesnt mean much to most but for me!!! WOoooooo LOCO time! It knocked me for six. Anyways that evening we went to bed and I mentioned I didnt feel great and she reassued me she doesnt make any effort to speak to him, contact him at all and I felt good.
The next day we go shopping and a bloke from her mountaineering group she belogs too texts her, I was look and it said "Hey when you coming climbing again then? xxxxx" Now, when I saw the kisses I felt sick and shit. She explained he is 42 (she is 28) and there is no WAY shell find him attractive. So that put me at ease and then she goes on to say that last year she went climbing and there was only her and him and on one of the lifts he lifted her top up to expose her belly to blow rasberrys on it, well thats was like kicking me in the face. Anyways, that evening I spoke with her saying I felt a little uneasy, again she reassured me.
Now, all this is good. Shes been VERY understanding, VERY caring and generally awesome.
A week before we went away this girl told me she had fallen in love with me, great stuff as I know I felt the same, she is awesome and definatley Someone I want to be with forever.
Now, I trust her 1000000000% and believe what she tells me and thats great. Why I am shit with women.........well keep reading.
We have a great holiday and we come off last week and from then its gone a little Pete Tong in my dept, maybe Yoni or the other ladies (Trem :wub can help me.
Firstly, we come off holiday and she goes to the gym as normal and the ex is there again talking to her. Now, she tells me and its cool. My partner is doing some really tough exams for work. She did these exams when the ex split up with her so she was all over the place, extremly upset and not at all well. Anyways, he asks about when she gets the results and it was last Thursday.
Well, Thursday comes and he texts her saying good luck etc and well, she fails Which he was "Oh youll bounce back dont worry" Well, it was like going from 200mph after a great start to our relationship and a great holiday to 0mph. Just hitting a brick wall. I just didnt know what to do when I saw her face. She was devastated. I tried to console her but it didnt seem to help. She called her mother and she said it was a difficult time etc when it happend and that she needs to be positive. She is worried about work etc.
Well, she stayed at mine that evening and I didnt sleep one bit because I felt useless, I was just trying to put myself into her shoes and it must hurt so much, she is an extremly proud person and I know it was hard for her to go into work on Friday for her. I know she didnt sleep at all too. Friday morning comes and she was still on her arse, I tried so much to help, made her breakfast etc but didnt work. She then told me she had texted the ex telling him she couldnt speak / contact him again, which I was shocked about. But in a slefish way happy about.
Anyway, Saturday she studied and Saturday night I went to see her. It was good, we went for Japanese, then went into a bar after for a drink and she just went quiet. She is quiet anyways, but she was really quiet, I though she may of seen an ex. We got home and I asked if she was ok, she said she was tired so watched a bit of TV and she went to sleep.
Sunday we had a good day, went for lunch with her mum and dad and then biking, where she bonked DOH! She is again really quiet. She again assures me when we get home she is ok just tired and maybe still a little down.
Now, I am seriously kicking the fuck out of myself. I am worried Ive done something wrong. Ive talked to her, texted her and she says I seriousley have nothing to worry about she is just a little down over her exams and thats it.
This kid from her climbing group phoned her which she didnt answer as she was biking, this scared me AGAIN, why? WHats wrong with me? Why am I so fucking insecure?
Well, Ive basically told her I am a little insecure, well a lot and its stilll early in our relationship and it will get better, which she agrees.
Now, she again seems quiet tonight. I was supposed to be going to Wales this weekend but cant as a mate has bailed, so tried to arrange seeing her and she has made plans, cool, not her fault, but again she seems quiet and its scaring the shit out of me.
If I ask her much more, why she is quiet shell get pissed off with me To try and cheer her up Ive booked an evening into a Spa for her which she is really happy about. Today weve emailed and she tells me she loves me and misses me etc, so why am I worried
So confused