Falling in love with my best m8's x.. :/

[Nate]

Get gamah to go see him

 

[[HB]Jpeg]

Well my best m8 had this amazing gf called Steffani, but they broke up like 6months ago, but they kept seeing eachother on a regular basis as they are very good friends..

I've always been able to talk to her about everything eventho I hadn't known her for a while. We have a lot in common and have the exact same humour(which is pretty incredible as I am twisted as hell!). We always have a blast when we're just hanging out..

So.. A month or two ago when we were out clubbing with all of my friends except her x aka. my best m8, and we were both pretty drunk and decided to go dancing while my m8s were at the bar drinking! After a few minutes on the dancefloor we ended up kissing, but after a few kisses we decide that it's probably not a good idea that we're kissing, so we head back to the bar without telling anyone about it.. This has happened a few times, but getting more and more serious. My best friend knows we're hang out, but he told me not to hit on her, but it would be fine if we were just good friends!

After texting eachother here in the holidays Steffani and I decided to watch a few movies at my place last night, but JUST as friendsrolleyes! We start out good by just watching the movies, but ofc end up kissing and when the last movie comes to an end it's 2am and her bus doesn't go anymore.. Fine she could sleep at my place np! She had to get up early because she's taking her driverslicense atm.. Nothing happened besides kissing and her sleeping over, but that's still quite bad taking everything in consideration.

She woke me up by kissing me goodbye and then she left.. I hadn't closed an eye all night 'cause I was thinking of alot of things with this hot girl laying next to me snorring(lol ;D)

Wtf am I suppose to do?
1) Tell her that we can't go on as my m8 means more to me?
2) Tell my best friend that I am falling in love with his x and ask him if it's okay?
3) Be with her in secrecy..?
4) Other..

Pls help me as I am pretty screwed atm

To Slow Crew: No I am not turning this one into a priestess -.-

IMO giv her a good fucking and if she is good .. go for it and hope your mate gets over it..after all he split with her 6 months ago.. so he should be well n truely over her now.

 

[CorNokZ]

IMO giv her a good fucking and if she is good .. go for it and hope your mate gets over it..after all he split with her 6 months ago.. so he should be well n truely over her now.

I don't wanna base a relationship purely on sex lol.. I can get that elsewhere!

And they had quite a nasty breakup, but they still stayed friends

 

[Agell]

I met my future wife through my best mate, she had finished seeing him about 12 months before we started going out. He eventually left the city we lived in after Uni and we have lost touch, however we have been married for 5 years and living together for 8 with a 3 year old son.

So I would say go for it, but tell him whats going on, like what Tilda said, just don't rub his nose in it though when you are around him

 

[tris-]

Wtf am I suppose to do?
1) Tell her that we can't go on as my m8 means more to me?
2) Tell my best friend that I am falling in love with his x and ask him if it's okay?
3) Be with her in secrecy..?
4) Other..

i had this problem a while ago. its really none of your mates business what you do and if was a mate hed stfu and let you get on with it. this is what my friends and i told my mate and he finally accepted it shouldnt be a problem.

the issue was he didnt like the idea of someone else being with his ex gf (fucking moron, does he think the lady will stay single forever?).

i didnt get with her btw but i think its unreasonable for a mate to stop ya. especially in my case, my mate was doing the same thing to another mate!

 

[Ezteq]

well first discuss it with the chick tbh see if she wants to get in to anythign with you because she might just be having fun and she might also go off on one if you go declare your undying woody over her to your mate, so rule one "Establish Facts!"

Then go speak to your mate and say look im not askign for your blessings or anything but i do like and respect you (then make it clear your not about to tounge him because by this point he might be getting scaired) but i got the hots for your x and would like to take the possibility of a relationship with her seriously as i really like her which is step 2 "Clarify the Situation!"

then one of two things will happen
A) he'll be cool with it and everyone will be just like the fonze
B) he'll kick off and then heres where you tell him an x is an x he has no dibs on what you do so back off.

hope it works out for you bud =D

 

[megadave]

had the same problem before, got really close with best mates ex. i took the route of not telling him or anyone. we had lots of sex and a secret relationship for a few months before everyone found out then my life turned to shit. if i could go back in time i'd definately speak my friend about it first.

 

[Ezteq]

aye tbh if you keep something a secret no matter how simple it is people get really arsey because you hid it from them, it kind of adds insult to injury i think and if you just say about it to start with then if there is a problem its always going to be 98 x's smaller tha if you hid it from them.

 

[Mey]

A) he'll be cool with it and everyone will be just like the fonze

 

[Huntingtons]

if he's a good friend you wont lose him, but tell him how you feel and talk to her first as already mentioned

 

[old.Tohtori]

Just send him that to be f*cking honest

I'm back from the holidays and this is a great thing to start the forums with.

*krhmrhm!!*

So, you want to f*ck your best mates' ex?

Step 1: F*ck her.
Step 2: F*ck her again to make sure you weren't having a wet dream.
Step 3: Bring your mate over with her over there too.
Step 4: Tell your friend you and her are together. (well she can't deny it now)
Step 5: Duck the buckshot.
Step 6: Call the police.
Step 7: F*ck the girl while hiding in the bathroom.
Step 8: Never EVER listen to Teh Seel.

 

[Ging]

Nothing happened besides kissing and her sleeping over

Bambi u fucking homo, you could have boned the fuck out of her yet u let her fucking lie in your bed whilst u no doubt had a hard on like an IRON PIPE, which you were probably doing your best to avoid touching her with!

jesus.

many puppies have died due to this loss of oppotunity.....


kinda reminds me of that twat in Hostel who REFUSED to shag that whore with the PERFECT tits! God i cheered when he was butchered!

so bambi remember, miss another shag oppotunity with her and run the risk of of having your achillies tendons cut then used as a disection victim, it could happen to ANYONE!

 

[CorNokZ]

Step 8: Never EVER listen to Teh Seel.

I would never ever consider it, lol

Bambi u fucking homo, you could have boned the fuck out of her yet u let her fucking lie in your bed whilst u no doubt had a hard on like an IRON PIPE, which you were probably doing your best to avoid touching her with!

jesus.

many puppies have died due to this loss of oppotunity.....

You're a fucking tosser!

We didn't sleep together as it would be totally shitting all over my m8..

Well I know in your case you jump every,- one/thing that just comes near you as you have a hard on 24/7 Ging

 

[Gamah]

I'm a horney cuntey so naturally I would have ragged that hoe till the cows came home. Cornokz me old muker, tell your mate you wanna be with her then get her sweet pussy ready for some daoc style lovin. "Hi dher can i invade ure towah kthx"

Edit: A poem for your situation!

If you want to rag your best mates ex
It's clear that you need to perplex
But when the pussy is on offer
Dont get into bother
Just rag her till you climax

 

[swords]

Life is too short, tell him how you feel and tell her how you feel. Go from there, whatever happens your mate has to deal with it as do you.

 

[psyco]

imo, just act like it was any other chick you met... like you said they've been split up for 6months, he cant own her anymore!

 

[Eeben]

watch out ending in the friend zone if you dont fuck her fast been there done that!

 

[Zenith]

Hmm, havent read the whole post, but I guess my advice would be to ( If you are really certain you wanna hang out with this girl ) tell your mate.. Dont ask for permission, thats pretty stupid, but just tell him that you're in love with his ex. Better than he finds out in any other way.

 

[WiiWii]

I have only one question: are you (OP) sure that it's because your best friend said you couldn't/shouldn't hit on her that might make it more fun? Now you can play 007 and sneak about, it makes it exiting And that might cloud your emotions a bit.

The other issue is, if it was a nasty breakup and they are still friends that useally means one of them havent gotten over the other, that doesnt seem like something you want to get involved with...

I would always chose a friend before a girl

 

[Solari]

I tried to write a decent reply but ended up deleting it a few times. I suppose I'm simply biased and it brings some old feelings out in the open.

In short:

Talk to that girl.
Decide with yourself whether she's worth risking your friendship or not.
If "yes" talk to your mate and deal with things as they come, as much as people can say if he's a good enough friend he won't mind but I know it's sometimes immensely hard seeing clearly through the pain. If you are a good friend to him be aware of his feelings aswell and if you decide to go ahead with this girl be very cautious about your friends feelings aswell.
If "no" end of story I suppose, tell her the truth.

"Love is stronger than everything else and you should follow your heart", yes but first you must know whether it is "love" or something less, and that's for you to find out.

 

[Starwind]

Think of it like this , your mate has already smashed her hips in, why would you want to be thinking about that all the time in the future.

If you mate is your best mate, then respect that, with all the fish in the sea, i dont see it worth gambling a mate on.

Or you could tell you mate, that you kissed her a few time and your calling it off dew to friendship, and if he goes nuts and dont want to talk to you anymore then you can go back to her and smash her hips in.

But remember your mate has proberly already owned her hard to the point were her eyes are rolling to the back of her head.

Infact for posting this on FH, your best mate and the slag you met, should give you a spit roasting if you ask me for going public with this.

 

[VegetaFH1]

tbph with u mate there is nothing wrong with it... nothing at all
U dont need to ask ur mates permission (cus as everybody else has pointed out.. thats just plain stupid talk)

U dont need to sneak around like a pair of idiots in a bush (cus again... its stupid)

U just need to be.. U

Ive had a....sumwhat simply experiance.. only... they werent broken up for 6 months... infact they were still going out... it turns out i risked my friendship with my best mate... for a girl... that cheated on me the same night i asked her to marry me (after i had asked her).. they were still going out and i fell for her.. stupidly.. me an my mate had a fight, desided it was the best way to go.. stayed friends (and are still friends) just that...."thing" isnt in our lives anyway, he's glad now cus i took the fall (but i cryed like a bloody baby lmao)

So think long... and i mean LONG and hard about ur moves mate... and besides.. if ur mate is really ur mate
He'll be like my mate, and understand the situation

JUST BE U - best advice anybody cud ever give u

PS: My mates bin my mate for 10 long years since last.. july

 

[DocWolfe]

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