WPKenny
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- Dec 22, 2003
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I've recently been contacted on Facebook by a guy I used to know when we were both kids.
I add people randomly on Facebook. I don't necessarily want to speak to all these people but it's nice to drop into their profiles every now and then just to see what they're up to now and then.
So I'd logged in to do just that and he messages me out of the blue on the live chat thing built into the page.
Fairly early into the conversation he apologises to me for being a c**t to me when we were kids. He was one of those hot and cold type of people where he's fine on his own but around others he took on the pack mentality and I was often the target.
My feelings of that time aren't massively prominent in my head. Yes he was a cock but we were kids (around 15/16) and it's now nearly 12 years ago and I've moved on and it's not something I ever think about.
I accepted his apology and explained that we were kids back then and, kids being kids, none of us were angels.
He doesn't live locally any more but there's a few old friends weddings coming up that he'll be around for and he's asked to meet up with me so he can buy me a drink and apologise in person.
Now I don't hold a grudge against the guy. It was all in the past and when he was being nice he was quite easy to get along with.
So my dilemma is whether I go along and meet up with him and see how it goes or do I just say "It's fine, it was all in the past. Thanks for the offer of a drink but let's leave it there."?
I don't know what's messing with my head more. The fact I'm such a cynical bastard and have a hard time believing he's being 100% sincere and in truth he's flipped and will turn up at the pub ready to stab me? What are his reasons for this sudden regret? He told me it was triggered by a chance encounter with a guy he used to treat in a similar manner to me and they "had words" (he didn't go into detail).
I don't know what I'd get out of it but I don't want to be unhelpful. If he's decided he needs to do some sort of purge and right all the wrongs in his life, who am I to stand in his way? Do I go along just to make him feel better and get it out of his system? Or do I politely decline and tell him I'd rather give the trip down memory lane a miss?
*confused*
I add people randomly on Facebook. I don't necessarily want to speak to all these people but it's nice to drop into their profiles every now and then just to see what they're up to now and then.
So I'd logged in to do just that and he messages me out of the blue on the live chat thing built into the page.
Fairly early into the conversation he apologises to me for being a c**t to me when we were kids. He was one of those hot and cold type of people where he's fine on his own but around others he took on the pack mentality and I was often the target.
My feelings of that time aren't massively prominent in my head. Yes he was a cock but we were kids (around 15/16) and it's now nearly 12 years ago and I've moved on and it's not something I ever think about.
I accepted his apology and explained that we were kids back then and, kids being kids, none of us were angels.
He doesn't live locally any more but there's a few old friends weddings coming up that he'll be around for and he's asked to meet up with me so he can buy me a drink and apologise in person.
Now I don't hold a grudge against the guy. It was all in the past and when he was being nice he was quite easy to get along with.
So my dilemma is whether I go along and meet up with him and see how it goes or do I just say "It's fine, it was all in the past. Thanks for the offer of a drink but let's leave it there."?
I don't know what's messing with my head more. The fact I'm such a cynical bastard and have a hard time believing he's being 100% sincere and in truth he's flipped and will turn up at the pub ready to stab me? What are his reasons for this sudden regret? He told me it was triggered by a chance encounter with a guy he used to treat in a similar manner to me and they "had words" (he didn't go into detail).
I don't know what I'd get out of it but I don't want to be unhelpful. If he's decided he needs to do some sort of purge and right all the wrongs in his life, who am I to stand in his way? Do I go along just to make him feel better and get it out of his system? Or do I politely decline and tell him I'd rather give the trip down memory lane a miss?
*confused*