dumped after five years

[old.user4556]

fvery drunk, very upset, very fucked

women, why are they so fucking heatrless

 

[Tom]

If shes anything like the average woman she will be absolutely dying to see the impact it has on you.

If theres no chance of getting back together, act like you couldn't give a shit either way. I guarantee it'll piss her right off like nothing else.

 

[Frizz]

Interesting to see how this'll turn out in the morning...

 

[old.user4556]

DING DING, just puked.

She "wants space, and wants time".

]Edit: fucking love Tom, need to puke again, brb,

 

[Frizz]

Either she's drunk and talking shit, or you're drinking because of what she's saying...

 

[Paradroid]

DING DING, just puked.

She "wants space, and wants time".

]Edit: fucking love Tom, need to puke again, brb,

That'll be the space-time continuum that top scientists talk about.


Women suck.

 

[old.user4556]

PUKE, round two,

WHY AM I STRUGGLING TO THE PC TO TELL YOU GUYS. ' cos i love you?

Tell you all in the morn.

 

[Mobius]

Ah, shit.

 

[Tom]

PUKE, round two,

WHY AM I STRUGGLING TO THE PC TO TELL YOU GUYS. ' cos i love you?

Tell you all in the morn.

Aww, look what you did:

 

[Munkey]

Sucks mate I think most of us have experience how much of a bastard women can be.

*hugs*
*wipes puke off shirt*

 

[Trem]

Sorry about that chum.

If you want her back leave her alone and stay away.

 

[Choc]

OMG what an adorable bunni!!!

And dude yer both sexes can be bitches btw...
It will piss her off more if you act like you don't care and pick yourself up and be fun and happy when she is near...
You really (when sober) need to find out the real reason - then and only then you will know if there is hope for the future...
But,
If its not meant to be then it just simply isn't... in the future there will be a bigger and better bird for you dude - one who will love you for you and that love will stay
Chin up dude... it hurts i know but the hurt will fade.

 

[Calaen]

Really sorry to hear that mate, take a look at things when you sober you're ass up.

I disagree with acting all big and tough to piss her off. Just because she asked for a break does not mean she does not have feelings for you, sometimes you feel that something in you're life is wrong and you take steps to find out what it is. You shared 5 years together she will be hurting aswell.

Give her space, treat her with respect and if it is truly meant to be you will both find your way back to each other.

I hope it all works out for you.

 

[Wij]

Two girls you need at a time like this. Stella and Pa(l)m.

If you have any naughty photos of her then it's good therapy imo to yoghurt them and bin 'em.

Am I just weird ?

Anyway, "Dry your eyes m8...

 

[Utini]

Am I just weird ?

You need to ask?

 

[Damini]

Aww, Big G, wake up, clear the vomit residues from round your mouth, stagger to the PC and tell us what's going on.

I have a ready and waiting for you, as soon as you're almost hygenic.

 

[old.user4556]

Really sorry to hear that mate, take a look at things when you sober you're ass up.

I disagree with acting all big and tough to piss her off. Just because she asked for a break does not mean she does not have feelings for you, sometimes you feel that something in you're life is wrong and you take steps to find out what it is. You shared 5 years together she will be hurting aswell.

Give her space, treat her with respect and if it is truly meant to be you will both find your way back to each other.

I hope it all works out for you.

Thanks for this, it's the frame of mind i'm in, we still love one another but she just can't say it at the moment.

It appears to be a catalogue of errors on my part, and instead of addressing them when they cropped up, they all piled up. She was away on holiday for seven days with family, phoned me every day and said she missed me, bought me presents, said how she just wanted to do things with me.

She told me she met a bunch of people her own age there with families, I was so glad she met people to be with. On the final night, she said she was having a farewell dinner (she had to fly home early for an exam resit) with everyone and some of the crew. Then, her sister mentioned (via MSN) that she was out with a couple of guys and some girl.

I got into a jealous rage and started phoning her, couldn't get through to her so sent her jealous inquisitive messages. She said that in our five years, there was no reason to mistrust her, that she was out for dinner with friends and just enjoying her final night on holiday which I (her loving boyfriend) completely destroyed for her. I phoned the next morning and again gave her the Gestapo treatment.

She came home, I met her at the airport, went home and made love, got my presents, spent the night together, hugged one another because it was cold.

The next morning, she told me it was over. She forgives me for the jealous rant, but she says it has gone on too long. She wants her space and independence and she's fed up having to answer to me all the time she goes out, she doesn't want to answer to anyone, doesn't want a boyfriend, didn't meet someone else. She doesn't want to ask my permission and wants to do what she likes, when she likes. She feels like I tell her off all the time, that i sigh or get angry when she gets too drunk, instead of letting her have a good time. She hates my friends, my social group is a lot older (there is a five year age gap, she's turning 21 and me 26) and tend to be happy not going out and sitting in the pub to have a couple of pints. She wanted to go and have a bender or enjoy a fun night dancing, I used to like doing that but now i'm happy to have a quiet one in with a bottle of wine.

These are not all irreversible, I've not treated her with enough respect, or respected her space. She feels that I wanted to live like a single man, but have her at the same time. I've spent a lot on nice clothes, designer belts, home cinema kit etc, yet I told her I couldn't afford to go away on holiday with her and she missed me so much because we couldn't share it together. I had pumped a lot of money into my new flat, but my priorities were fucked up.

I totally took her for granted, and the jealous outrage was just final.

I've begged her to give me another chance, told her that I can change my ways, but at this moment she wants to just part from me. She still loves me, she wouldn't tell me she didn't and still have a lot of feeling. The bad ass approach won't work, she doesn't like/play stupid games like that.

I've sent her a large bouquet of long stem, large head red roses and a wee note to ask her to give it time and think how she feels and that we have so much to lose.

I need a chance to change, I don't want to live without her, she's my best friend.

 

[bigbb]

Wij always sheds new light on the situation.

I find it quite liberating. Like revelatory.

 

[bigbb]

After that post, Big G... just give her a link to this thread.

 

[Trem]

Its far too early G, you will blame yourself and try to figure out what you did wrong. By the sounds of it you didn't do a hell of a lot wrong but you are in the regret zone right now.

Any bloke would be the same if their bird was out with another girl and 2 blokes and you will realise that when you get into the fuck 'em zone(roughly 2-3 months).

Sorry chum but I can't see what you did wrong really and maybe you will see that soon as well.

They always give you one last shag before dumping you it seems, shes interested in someone else*(so sorry to say that) and she will realise they aren't all that great and want you back but by then it will be too late and you will be with another.

The age thing is nothing, you are 5 years older than her and thats nothing, they always seem to do this around 20/21 she will want you back, I promise you that, but not yet.






*she will never admit that.

 

[Trem]

After that post, Big G... just give her a link to this thread.

Jesus don't do that now I've just posted

I hope it works out Big G but its early days yet, I think the flowers were a mistake me old china, when they say they want space give them space...total space....no contact at all.

 

[tris-]

sorry to hear it.

look on the brightside, you dont need that ugly glass coffee table anymore right? you only got it cos she liked it?

look at the trouble they cause

 

[Ch3tan]

I can see what he has done wrong, and yes Trem it may be that every bloke does that, but it is still wrong.

Think it comes down to the age difference here. G has done his partying, and because he knows it invovles her going out surrounded by lots of men just like him, it makes him insecure. Thats natural, but if he can zip the inctinct to say something about it he will be fine.

Only advise I can give is to give her the space however hard it may be, that means not phoning her, or texting her unless she starts it. Spend as much time with your mates as you can to keep your mind from wandering into the "i wonder who she is with right now, its a bloke, i bet she is shaggin him teh bitch" territory".

If she can see that you are allowing her the chance to enjoy her youth then she'll probably come back to you, and won't resent you if you do stay together anyway and she loses those golden years of partying.

 

[Calaen]

Nah Trem I think its good for Big G to come here and lay it all out in front of us, I myself did exactly the same as Big G, I always get what I want, designer clothes, Tv's, computers pretty much everything I wanted. But I was always to skint to take a weekend away with the g/f. I was happy to sit in and chill with a movie and bottle of wine rather than go into town (this was because I loved spending qt with my g/f) not because I did not like going into town.

I have changed and I feel a better man for it, I am now more understanding to my wife (yes we sorted it all out) than I ever thought I could have been and I am still me, still buy my clothes and gadgets and piss money up the wall on a monthly basis, however I also slip some cash into a seperate account which is only used for spending on my wife, be it a meal, night out, flowers or just to give her the cash to go out and treat herself.

If you give a woman respect and trust I believe you will be rewarded with a very good relationship for both parties. She must return the respect though or its a waste of time.

Keep your chin up mate the next few days will feel like absolute torture, Let her respond to the flowers in her own time, dont try phoning her morning noon and night. Let her realise that life will be so much better if you share it together.

And if she chooses not to spend it with you, you can take away the knowledge that you have learned and share you're heart and life with another.

Hope it all goes well, getting smashed all day and night is also not the answer mate, its better to keep a clear head.

if you want to talk crap, feel free to drop me a pm.


Stephen

 

[Trem]

Nah Trem I think its good for Big G to come here and lay it all out in front of us

I never said it wasn't good for him to come here.


Ch3t - so its wrong for us to be pissed off for our bird to go out on basically what looks like a double date but its fine for her to do that? We should just sit back and *trust* her? Fine, then if we are meant to do that then they shouldn't do the things that are wrong and it is wrong on her part, G is beating himself up for not a lot really. Blokes buy shiny things, her next bloke will do the same(if it isn't G) and the next after that.

She thinks she wants to do the partying and she thinks its better on the other side and for a time it may well be but she has spent 5 years with G and she won't be as comfy with anyone else for ages as she was with him.

Besides ch3t and cal aren't allowed to comment as they have never had a woman

 

[old.Tohtori]

I can see where ya f*cked up, like with most of these "what the hell happened to my relationship" threads.

But what i AM suprised and quite impressed is that you know that you f*cked up and admit it. Well done.

 

[Calaen]

Besides ch3t and cal aren't allowed to comment as they have never had a woman

Sorry Trem I did not mean it to come across like you were telling G not to post here.

But I agree with Ch3t, as I have covered above I have done exactly the same.

When families go on holiday they tend to meet other families and share their 2 weeks with them, when the hoilday is close to the end they would have a night out together and say farewell. I dont see how she has done anything wrong, My wife could be accused of doing exactly the same thing when she goes away with her buddies, but the thought never enters my mind.

The good thing Is G is realising that he was doing things that were making his partner unhappy, this is a good thing because if you intentionally do things to make someone unhappy then you really should not be with them.

 

[Trem]

I'm all for the bloke in these situations because I have been through it a couple of times myself and when it settles down and stuff becomes clearer I always end up thinking 'hold on a god damn minute, so fucking what if I leave my trousers on the floor, she dumps me because of that, fuck her'

I will side with Big G whatever you guys say, I don't think he was wrong and if he was so very wrong why did she have sex with him?

 

[Bodhi]

Sorry to hear that dude, personally I'd console meself with the fact that you probably aren't the only one who feels like this right now. Give her the space she wants, let her sort her head out for a couple of months and enjoy being single for a while (it really is rather fun ). In the short term, get yourself down the driving range and smack the shit out of a few drivers. It's always helped me out at times like you're having.

 

[Calaen]

I'm all for the bloke in these situations because I have been through it a couple of times myself and when it settles down and stuff becomes clearer I always end up thinking 'hold on a god damn minute, so fucking what if I leave my trousers on the floor, she dumps me because of that, fuck her'

I will side with Big G whatever you guys say, I don't think he was wrong and if he was so very wrong why did she have sex with him?

She still loves him that does not change over the course of 1 day, however she feels that she isnt allowed her own space without answering to someone.


please dont tell me some chick left you because you left pants on the floor?