Decisiveness

[Dukat]

I dont know why, but lately I've really started to question my own judgement.

Several times I've had to make split second decisions - nothing life or death, mostly social situations with minor consequences, but lately I seem to be making the wrong calls on no-brainers, I'm second guessing myself and find that when I'm try to sleep at night I'm going back over the decisions and wondering what in gods name I was thinking half the time.

Its doing my head in, I pride myself on being decisive, I think that judgement in situations where you do not have the luxury of sitting back and thinking about it is one of the most important qualities a person can have(see my sig as an example), up until the beginning of this year I would have said that my judgement was pretty sound, but after the last month, and especially tonight I really am beginning to wonder.

Tonight it was a social thing online, someone was giving a friend a bit of verbal and I reactled slowly, and when I did act I didnt do enough. It was only a social thing and nothing bad happened really, but at the back of my mind I keep going over it and asking what if I had to make a similar call in a 'life or death' situation and acted like that ?

I dont know if its because I'm on a downer or what, I've missed a fair few of my training sessions lately (RL is busy etc) and its really starting to freak me out in a big way, I just need to get my shit together and I'll be fine, but its frustrating, I just cant remember ever being as bad as this before.

I find fitness training clears my mind and helps when it comes to things like this, and because I've missed most of my sessions in the last two weeks (an unheard of event) I just feel like I'm coming apart at the seams.

I know what I need to do to sort myself out, just get back to training, I've already sorted it out for tomorow, and hopefully after this my sense of judgement will return, I just hate being like this.


Does anyone else know what I mean? or has anyone else had the same thing?

/emo !

 

[Lamp]

Talk To Someone

 

[Dukat]

Talk To Someone

The last time I did that I got put through to a call center in the middle east, when I told them I was suicidal they asked me if I could fly an aeroplane!!

 

[Lamp]

Lol

 

[old.Tohtori]

Hell, i go through things every now and then. I guess it's all part of being human(ish).

I've thought of getting locked up in jail for no reason, i've thought of actually having a baby somewhere(not hidden you hahas'), i've thought of all kinds of scenarios and i've thought of things like you say.

Why did i do like that, what if i had done this, what if where who and why.

You know what?

Don't.

It's a curse of people who think about stuff, to overthink and think of things that will harm you. And more you think about it, the more it will harm you. To get rid of it, you have to force yourself to think "It's nothing like i think, i've done nothing wrong, i've been me and everyone else is them."

9 out of 10 times, you've done nothing wrong, but especially people who want to be nice, they tend to get the "what if i'm nto nice" thoughmode on.

About your current problem, it's a simple matter of "you will f*ck up". Noone gets everything right, but you can't let it get you down. If you do, you won't do the wrong thing anymore, but you won't do the right thing either.

 

[fettoken]

I also have a tendency to overthink stuff, but when ever it starts i just go "fuck that", done is done and i force myself to think about something else, listen to some music etc or go to sleep.

 

[Lamp]

Don't sweat the small stuff

 

[Bahumat]

Dukat, you only have to remember what sensei taught us...
..."always aim for the head, even if you cant see it, aim and shoot. He'll pop out soon enough". Stop thinking about foot shots!

like tohtori said, dont think about it too much, the more you question your choices, the more you will worry about the choices...and this could cause you to think differently to normal

 

[old.Tohtori]

Need an update on this. You still moping around or you got your mind set?

 

[Hawkwind]

I think everyone second guesses dicisions from time to time. Doing it constantly is not good though. You start to loose confidence in your decision processes and that's just a downward spiral. We all make decisions on a dailly basis and have to live with those. Don't sweat it. If you weighed up the options and made an informative decision you can do no more. If you feel yourself questioning things too often in your mind you need to stop and try to focus on something else. You'll soon get out of the habit.

Know what you mean about excercise and going over things in your mind. I always do that when swimming.

 

[Bahumat]

Need an update on this. You still moping around or you got your mind set?

Haha he's stuck deciding whether to post!

Sorry Dukat, I love ya really!

 

[Ezteq]

rofl bahu!


Duk, dont worry man what your going through is simply a loss of mojo. Its np at all really and the more you think about it the worse it gets the only way to get it back is do like nike and just do it! I'm a bloody nightmare for decisiveness i'll spend ages looking at what cereal to buy, panicing over if i made the right choice on stuff and eventually i got over that little bit of OCD by just buying the same stuff lol, it sounds a bit crap and whatever but it works, if you narrow the little incignifcant stuff you worry about, just cut it out all together i found it easier to make a descision when one came along.

the big stuff (life and death stuff) i never have a problem with which is strange. Just go relax and start sorting yourself out then you'll get more confidence then your mojo will come back, np.

 

[Dukat]

Need an update on this. You still moping around or you got your mind set?

Doing pretty good now cheers

I just got in, been at the gym, had a macdonalds, fixed a few friends computers, had a good ride round on my motorbike - the combination of the workout at the gym, the food(hay! I like it! ) and the ride really did help alot, plus the good vibes you get when you manage to help friends out really has cleared my head of all of that emo tosh

Just as I started to come home it rained, then it turned into a big thunderstorm - I love thunderstorms - then one of my favorite tracks came on my MP3 player and it was like some sort of "good omen" for some reason I took the long way back home, laughing the whole way like some sort of crazy mad man

 

[tris-]

it sounds like you had contracted noobitis encephalitic poisoning.

im glad youve made progress.

 

[Olgaline]

Was gonna post a really long a thoughtfull post, but decided not to
dont worry to much tho dukat, you'll get your mojo back I'm sure...

Alas things like these tend to come in waves dont they ?
I mean sometimes, one things sparks it off, you go into a stram off misses, and it takes a while to shake it.

 

[Ezteq]

Was gonna post a really long a thoughtfull post, but decided not to
dont worry to much tho dukat, you'll get your mojo back I'm sure...

Alas things like these tend to come in waves dont they ?
I mean sometimes, one things sparks it off, you go into a stram off misses, and it takes a while to shake it.

pssst.... dont tell anyone i told you, but it came back... your posts a bit late


glad your back on form Duk, its not nice feeling out of kilter tbh.

 

[Levin]

the food(hay! I like it! )

You eat hay? Moooo?

On a more serious note though, I'm glad you feel better!

 

[russell]

Doing pretty good now cheers

I just got in, been at the gym, had a macdonalds, fixed a few friends computers, had a good ride round on my motorbike - the combination of the workout at the gym, the food(hay! I like it! ) and the ride really did help alot, plus the good vibes you get when you manage to help friends out really has cleared my head of all of that emo tosh

Just as I started to come home it rained, then it turned into a big thunderstorm - I love thunderstorms - then one of my favorite tracks came on my MP3 player and it was like some sort of "good omen" for some reason I took the long way back home, laughing the whole way like some sort of crazy mad man

Aaannd he is back... fighting fit.

Yay Dukat