Child abuse or caring parents?

rynnor

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http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/americas/6229799.stm

This must be the weirdest story of the day - a very tricky moral dilemma - somehow I find it very disturbing - it sets a nasty precedent imo.

Previously surgery without consent was always done to counter some illness like removing a cancer - now they have expanded the notion of 'in the patients interest' to cover non-lifesaving surgery.

In this case although the parents deny its for their convenience they later state it was to make her easier to move around and make her light enough for the grandparents to look after her which is convenience???

If you follow this path a little further you could allow surgery to amputate her arms and legs on the basis that shes easier to move around - weighs less and is protected from thrombosis in her limbs - you see how easy it is to make a reasonable sounding medical case of the most extreme surgery.

Finally - I think the whole thing diminishes her as a human being - she's practically reduced to the level of a pet - the owners decide to have her spayed - perhaps they will also have her 'put down' - surely a human being who cannot make their own decisions should be protected by society from this sort of maltreatment?


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Treatment keeps girl child-sized

Ashley's parents refer to their daughter as "Pillow Angel"
Parents of a severely disabled girl in the US have revealed that they are keeping her child-sized in order to give her a better life.
The nine-year-old, named Ashley, has the mental ability of a three-month-old baby and cannot walk or talk.

Along with hormone doses to limit her growth, Ashley's parents also opted for surgery to block breast growth and had her uterus and appendix removed.

They say the treatment will help to improve her quality of life.

Ashley's parents, Seattle residents who have not given their names, went public over their daughter's treatment in a blog launched on 1 January.

Their decision came after information about Ashley's case was published in a US medical journal last year, triggering considerable debate and criticism.

Faced with Ashley's medical reality, as her deeply loving parents, we worked with her doctors to do all we could to provide Ashley with the best possible quality of life

Ashley's parents


'Frozen girl' medical debate

Ashley's parents say that because she will remain the weight of a child, it will be easier for them to move her around, bathe her and involve her in family activities - movement that will benefit her physical and mental well-being.

Dr Douglas Diekema from the University of Washington in Seattle, who was on the ethics committee that gave the go-ahead for Ashley's treatment, told the BBC that the panel agreed "because the parents convinced us it was in fact in this little girl's best interests".

"If she were smaller it would be much easier for them to continue to provide a much more personal level of care," he said.

But Agnes Fletcher of the UK's Disability Rights Commission said is was "unnecessary medical treatment to deal with what is essentially a social problem", referring to "the poverty and lack of support" faced by families with disabled children.

'Improve her life'

Ashley's parents wrote in their blog: "A fundamental and universal misconception about the treatment is that it is intended to convenience the caregiver.

The oestrogen treatment is not what is grotesque here. Rather, it is the prospect of having a full-grown and fertile woman endowed with the mind of a baby

Ashley's parents
"Rather, the central purpose of the treatment is to improve Ashley's quality of life."

Ashley has static encephalopathy, a rare brain condition which will not improve. Her parents call her "Pillow Angel", because she does not move from wherever they put her, usually on a pillow.

The couple decided three years ago to take steps to minimise their daughter's adult height and weight.

In July 2004 Ashley began hormone treatment, through patches on the skin, that is expected to reduce her untreated height by 20% and weight by 40%.

Abuse fears

Ashley's parents said the decision to remove their daughter's uterus and breast buds was for the girl's comfort and safety.

"Ashley has no need for her uterus since she will not be bearing children," they said, adding that the decision means she will not experience the menstrual cycle and the bleeding and discomfort commonly associated with it.

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They have my every good wish. I'm sure she's in safe hands.

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The operation also removed the possibility of pregnancy if Ashley were ever the victim of sexual abuse, they said.

The removal of the girl's breast buds was also done in part to avoid sexual abuse, but was carried out primarily so she would not experience discomfort when lying down, the parents said.

The couple emphasised their love for their daughter and said the amount of criticism their choice of treatment attracted had surprised them.

"If the concern has something to do with the girl's dignity being violated, then I have to protest by arguing that the girl lacks the cognitive capacity to experience any sense of indignity," they said.

"The oestrogen treatment is not what is grotesque here. Rather, it is the prospect of having a full-grown and fertile woman endowed with the mind of a baby."
 

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i can see where they are coming from as a lot of is fair enough. not having any kids is probably correct.

and ofc if its true that she only has the mind of a 3 month old, i assume we can take out the possibility of the trauma associated with removing limbs etc?
 

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I think its wrong to do this.

There is nothing in this surgery that is imo in the interests of the patient, given the patients mental level.
 

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I agree with the parents, it is not making her life any worse, and if it helps them care for her without harming her then I do no see why it is wrong.
 

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I think its difficult to judge without first-hand experience. I pity the judge who will have to sit on this :(

Personally, in my un-educated and ignorant opinion, I think its wrong.
 

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Ch3tan said:
I agree with the parents, it is not making her life any worse, and if it helps them care for her without harming her then I do no see why it is wrong.

I can see the point but... stopping her developing breasts so she is less likely to be sexually assaulted?

I can understand sterilising her but I think once we start chopping off bodily parts for convenience we're going a bit too far, same w/ drug treatment - making someone a bonsai just to make them easier to care for doesnt rub the right way with my moral compass.
 

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I can see where they're coming from, but at the same time it creeps me out. Having said all that, I don't believe keeping someone in her condition alive in the first place, but that's a whole other debate.
 

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They also said it was to make her more comfortable when lying on her front (considering she can't sit up, they have to move her position frequently to prevent bed sores). Tits are a huge pain when it comes to lying down, especially when you are young and not used to them, and especially I should imagine if you lack the cognitive ability to understand what is happening to your body. Hell, sometimes I feel like I'm hovering a good few inches above my pillow, simply staring at it, and that's not to mention the risk of breast cancer later in life, and the periodic tenderness. Sexual abuse is actually quite frequent in the disabled community - I knew girls when I was growing up that were quite handicapped, and yet still physically full fledged teenagers, and they always had icky older men taking them out. Obviously, this girl can't even leave the home, but I guess when she is so vulnerable it would be something that preys on your mind.

I think fair play to her parents. They've made choices based on what they think is best for their daughter, not simply because they wanted to bonsai a child.
 

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Not for anyone to say other than the parents imho.

We can have views but cannot pass judgement unless we are in a similar situation.

Heartbreaking to say the least.
 

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ECA said:
I can see the point but... stopping her developing breasts so she is less likely to be sexually assaulted?

Yep - that bit worried me - surgery justified because it might possibly prevent some unlikely criminal act - another very bad precedent.
 

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Trem said:
Not for anyone to say other than the parents imho.

We can have views but cannot pass judgement unless we are in a similar situation.

I dont agree - its for society as a whole to protect vulnerable members - parents on Pitcairn Island thought it was ok to pass young girls round as sexual objects - it was outside intervention that stopped it.
 

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Damini said:
Obviously, this girl can't even leave the home, but I guess when she is so vulnerable it would be something that preys on your mind.

I dont think you can condone surgery to pander to parents rather irrational fears - it reminds me of the woman who killed her kids because she thought they were being stalked by a paedophile ring recently...
 

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DaGaffer said:
I can see where they're coming from, but at the same time it creeps me out. Having said all that, I don't believe keeping someone in her condition alive in the first place, but that's a whole other debate.

I cannot help thinking that she's become a housepet - the way she is kept is an affront to the dignity of man - I'm sad that her parents cannot see that their actions have de-humanised her.

I feel that she is being kept alive for the parents rather than her own benefit.
 

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So she'd be better off dead then? Eugenics eh?

:eek:
 

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Next thing we'll have parents using these drugs on normal babies or kittens.... just to keep them "cute" and small
 

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rynnor said:
I dont think you can condone surgery to pander to parents rather irrational fears - it reminds me of the woman who killed her kids because she thought they were being stalked by a paedophile ring recently...

I actually really focussed on the health benefits, and mentioned that to address a previous issue that someone else had raised.

I do think people are being a bit harsh here. You want to see cruel behaviour towards kids, look at pageant queens, not parents trying to minimise the distress in the life of their severely disabled child.
 

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Horrific moral situation:

Will she be legal at 18?

Sorry :(
 

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Will her life be better with or without the surgery? I don't see how having periods, breasts and needing harnesses to bath can possibly be beneficial to what is effectively a 3 month old baby. From what I have seen she is now less prone to certain diseases and infections as well.
 

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GekuL said:
Will her life be better with or without the surgery? I don't see how having periods, breasts and needing harnesses to bath can possibly be beneficial to what is effectively a 3 month old baby. From what I have seen she is now less prone to certain diseases and infections as well.

As callous as this sounds, she won't notice the bloody difference anyway, and this appears to be the stance her parents have taken.
 

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Tom said:
So she'd be better off dead then? Eugenics eh?

:eek:


The 'eugenics' part has already happened as the parents have had her sterilised. I know there are no easy answers here, but personally I don't believe in life just for its own sake. This kid has zero quality of life and it will never improve. I know what I'd want to happen if I was ever injured and put in a situation where I was quadraplegic and vegetative, which is pretty much where this kid is. So in answer to your question, damn right she'd be better off dead.
 

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You don't know what kind of quality of life this little one has. If she is in as loving and caring family as they say, then she may well have a fairly decent quality of life, in so far as she may well respond to people she knows, be able to emote and to show love and affection.
I'm not sure i agree with what they have had done to her, but i do know how hard it can be to manouvre fully grown adults when they are nothing but a dead weight. The removal of the uterus i find a little extreme as menstruation can be completely controlled with drugs......
Anyways.....I;m not getting on my high horse about this, I have my own kiddies in my own hospital to have those sorts of discussions about!
 

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You may be right, I don't know enough about "3 month old babies" (her mental capacity) to know how much they emote or respond to affection; obviously yes, at some level, but its not really 'life' is it? Its kind of a stasis; the key thing is that her situation will never improve; a goldfish probably has a better life. I know mine is probably the minority view, but I always think of these things in terms of "if that was me..."
 

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I think they did the right thing. I read the article in the Times (T2) today and their position is always what was best for their daughter, and not themselves.

IUm glad I didnt have to make a decision like that.
 

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Well well.

I don't think i should talk about this issue too much, as it's more likely I'LL get flamed for saying what i truly think of the situation.

But, if their going to make her a mutant anyway(yes i said it) then why not just get rid of her completely.

If she stayes as a 3 month old, chopped up live-long-kid well:

She doesn't contribute to the community.
She doesn't get any "life experience".
She probably won't leave the house, atleast without a watchdog.

Basicly i see her as nothing more then a "My baby ain't dead" replacement for the parents.

If that's wrong...i dunno...don't really care either.
 

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I agree, although it's a unpopular opinion.

This is a special case, the kid can't experience anything, unlike the overwhelming majority of people with physical disabilities or learning disabilities.

Why don't you do the same thing you'd do to a pet in that situation. It's the humane thing to do, it's also the economic thing to do, a rare concurrence.
 

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I think it's up to the parents to decide what will help them care for their child best so long as they're not acting in an uneccesarrily cruel way.

It's easy to sit and judge the actions of this couple when you have no comprehension of the situation that they're in and the horrible choices they're faced with.

The previous three comments from toh, brooky and inactionman are slightly callous imo. I had no idea how horrible it felt as a parent to hear that your child wasn't 100% normal and healthy until I experienced it. Anyone who has had a child that is ill will tell you it's not something that is easily laughed off. When it's a serious incurable illness it is truly horrible and people who manage to cope with it are phenomenally brave.

That they've chosen to take on the burden of care and thought about what's best for their daughter is laudable. If they really really were just acting for themselves their daughter would be in a nursing home somewhere.

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How many people here with a disabled child in that condition would have her euthanised?

I'm betting the square root of none, if thats the case you have no right to expect them to do the same. It doesn't even bear thinking about.
 

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Tom said:
How many people here with a disabled child in that condition would have her euthanised?

I'm betting the square root of none, if thats the case you have no right to expect them to do the same. It doesn't even bear thinking about.

I think I've made my position pretty clear on that one. Life is about living, not being a breathing paperweight. I wouldn't want that for any kid of mine. So maybe you think that makes me a callous bastard, but I don't think it does.
 

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I don't think i need to have a disabled child to say what i would do. I know myself and my "values" well enough to say what i would do.

If i had a child(gods forbid i ever do have even one) i would let it go if i found out she/he would be in the state of a 3 month old for...well..life?
 

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