Bloody Ex......(may contain ranting)

[PLightstar]

As some of you know I split up with my GF a while ago now, and am living a normal happy life without her sucking the life away from me and my finances.
I have reached a point now where I am just about square and am able to spend stupid amounts of money on anything (I pre-ordered the 360). anyway I get this Txt from her last friday, demanding me to pay her £87 for council tax owed back in September. I was like F*** off and ignored it (cause I payed the amount to her to cover this for the month I left her), but I phoned up the council this mornin to double check this and there is still money outstanding under my name from september, so shes managed to screw me over again (bitch), I left her with £600 worth of furniture when I left to cover anything like this and I wanted nothing more to do with her. But now I got to pay this £87 again!!! but I can't even get hold of the friggin council to tell them where to send my half of the bill. Sorry I just needed to vent some anger.

But i am right in making the choice that if I pay this £87 I take back some of that furniture as compensation because im still paying for it on my C/C (i swear that when its paid off its going)

 

[Tom]

Do you still have keys?

 

[PLightstar]

Yes, but because of the 6 month contract I signed is ending this month, I am supposed to give them back to the landlord which gives me till the 1st of December. I think that is why she told me a week before I had to give them up.

 

[Dommers]

Run in nick her stuff. Torch the place. Run out.

 

[Tom]

Right then, presuming she is still there, go in and take some of her stuff.

 

[JBP|]

Alternativley pop round to the council house,cough up the £87 then move on with your life.

 

[Dommers]

But that would be the sensible way out. Forget to mention in the previous post to torch her aswell.

 

[PLightstar]

something tells me I should do the sensible thing, but part of me wants her to suffer for screwing me over again. Though taking the high road of paying it up to the council house, may make her suffer, mainly cause she can't use it to fuel her smoke and drinking habits.

Everybody says I should sleep on it before I do anything rash.

 

[Clown]

Misleading. I thought there would be pictures of the ex on her reds.
Rubbish eBayer, does not deliver. D-

 

[Dommers]

Reply: Pictures were sent. Email sent back saying customer was not satisfied. Customer refunded.

 

[RandomBastard]

However tempting it may be to go and take stuff in her posession, even if it's in your money thats paying for it, it's probably not a good idea.

Is it possible to transfer the council tax into her name? You should prehaps investigate that, as if she's the one living there its not your responsibility.
However while the debts in your name theres not a lot you can do...

Also if you cancel the cc payments on the furniture they'll probablly try to get it back and then she will suffer in a legal way.

*DISCLAIMER* The easiest and most legal option here would just be to pay the council tax, even though it sends the wrong message, and then make sure all such debts are in her name not yours and then ignore all phone calls etc from her in the future.

Also buy a shotgun in case she goes uma thurman on your arse...

 

[GDW]

Reclaim your furniture while she is not in, then be a man about it and confront her over the issue, explaining why you took the furniture.

Since you are paying for the furniture it is rightfully yours.

Paying for it and 'learning' from the experience may seem like the sensible thing to do, but it sounds to me she needs taught a lesson in reality.

....Clown you aren't funny anymore

 

[Ch3tan]

Take the furniture if its yours. Then pay the bill.

 

[tris-]

if you owe the money then you owe it, but if you own the possesions then likewise you own them.

 

[rynnor]

Just pay it n move on - its nothing to how expensive a divorce would be if you'd mistakenly married her!

 

[Deacan]

Do a drive by egging.

 

[Chilly]

write her a load of bouncy cheques, that's always a winner.

 

[old.Tohtori]

It's easy to be a vengeful(sp?) bastard, but taking the high road takes the balls of a horse.

 

[MYstIC G]

Whatever way you play it, don't fuck about with the council tax. If you don't pay it they'll take _all_ the furniture and claim to have sold it for only £87.00

 

[Whipped]

I left my fiancee just over 3 months ago now and it's been bliss since day one

I understand where you're coming from Plightstar. I left over £1000 worth of funiture and electronic equipment when I left and she had been trying to get me to pay the last months TV Licence. Not in my name though

I got a few phone calls, e-mails and text messages so I did the only thing I could to get on with my life. I blocked her from MSN and all my e-mail accounts and got a new sim card for my phone.

Haven't heard a thing from her for over 2 months now

That reminds me. I better check that the wedding was cancelled

 

[PLightstar]

Bloody Hell....

I've decided to take the high road and pay the council tax, I know its not a good idea to mess about with the council, I managed to get hold of someone this mornin and they are guna send me a bill for what I owe to my new address, so I can pay it and be done with it. But its got to be paid together in one sum, and I don't trust her to handle my money shes already proved that always I gave her the money for this back in September, but she spent it on something else. May get her to give me her half and pay it in myself, or we go in together, but she has proved herself to be a coward when it comes to things like this. (she didn't show her face when we closed the bank a/c's)

and for all I care she can keep the furniture and paying for teaches me a lesson to not let people boss me about so much anymore and next time I will get cheapy furniture from a second hand shop or something instead of going for expensive stuff from argos. If its one thing this relationship has taught me is to be a lot more assertive and stand my ground.

 

[DaGaffer]

..going for expensive stuff from argos.

LOL.

You're doing the right thing paying it. Just make sure there's nothing else hanging around (things you might forget about like house insurance) that she can fuck you over on.

 

[Gat_Decor]

Just pay it n move on - its nothing to how expensive a divorce would be if you'd mistakenly married her!

Getting married has nothing to do with how much they can screw you over for

 

[GDW]

Whilst I respect you descision Plight, I feel you have made a moral mistake. You need to learn to be assertive. ( which a few other people giving advice on this thread need to be)

What you have done is show her that bullying wins. Now she'll rip off some other poor sod and so it will continue.

Plight nil
Ex 1

 

[DaGaffer]

Whilst I respect you descision Plight, I feel you have made a moral mistake. You need to learn to be assertive. ( which a few other people giving advice on this thread need to be)

What you have done is show her that bullying wins. Now she'll rip off some other poor sod and so it will continue.

Plight nil
Ex 1

Unfortunately the moral high ground will cut no ice with the council. He made a mistake not making sure it was paid before he left (as he seems to know how dodgy she is). Better to cut your losses than your nose to spite your face. Your right that 'she's got away with it' but what's the practical alternative?

 

[PLightstar]

it sucks that she will be screwing me over again, but i've stopped caring. I just want her out of my life for good, I realised that taking the furniture would result in her trying to get it back someway, I just want her gone so I can properly get on with my life. Im supposed to going on a date in a couple of weeks and I don't want this hanging over my head ruining my life. Plus the fact I do not want to get in the council's bad books, even though I gave her the money back in september to pay this bill, the council's not going to care or they care is that the money is still outstanding.

 

[GDW]

Dagaffer, Im not suggesting in any way that the council tax should not be paid. Im saying that the £87 should be funded by the sale of the furniture.

Plight, you've made your decision, right or wrong so stick with it and put it down to life experience. Now go find someone else and have fun