being a teenager sucks

[Spis]

Emo is phunnie

 

[Dakkath]

Well, nobody ever said being young was easy...

At least girls have tools at their disposal to manipulate guys, emotional warfare being the most deadly kind known to man... Indeed I believe the UN is considering drawing up a treaty to remove this menace from our society!!!

Well, I wouldn't say that cutting her out of your life is the right approachl, friends are a special thing, never throw a friendship away as you'll always regret it... However you will have to distance yourself for a while and things will get easier, eventually

Easier said than done, I know... Been there, done that... As lame as it sounds, we all get to face this scenario sooner or later and it's never fun but you'll get through it, things do get easier... (Usually because you become a jaded, bitter, cold hearted SOB, or is that just me?)

 

[Jeremiah]

Like most of the people in here, I've been through the same thing but I'll try not to regurgitate the "Time is a great healer" line.

But really, I found that most people stay at the point of "I'll really like them but they dont like me" because they never truely accept that there is no chance of anything happening (I count myself amongst the injured!) With me, everytime my female friend gave me a "friendly" hug, in the way girls do, I would be thinking "What does this mean?" and *bam* I was back to square 1 again. Over-analysing situations keeps people from moving on.

Rather than leave the "time is a great healer" line, I would say if you ever feel a "Does this mean she likes me more than she says" moment coming on, try to put it out of your mind. I wont pretend its an easy thing to do, but once I learned to do it, I managed to move on. We stayed friends, and she was even at my wedding

 

[Amildin]

she was even at my wedding

As the bride?

 

[Amanita]

Looking foreward to becoming jaded tbh, I still get hung up over guys and end up hurting for months

 

[Jeremiah]

As the bride?

Hehe, I should have cleared that up - not as the bride

 

[Ryuno]

What you need is a depressing song mate!

I recommend Genetic High. Some great sounds from leeds, if your into that sort of music.

SCRAWL could very much relate to your situation and Who do you belong to is a good song.

Duno if it will help you, but I find music helps me alot!

 

[Darksword]

What you need is a depressing song mate!

I recommend Genetic High. Some great sounds from leeds, if your into that sort of music.

SCRAWL could very much relate to your situation and Who do you belong to is a good song.

Duno if it will help you, but I find music helps me alot!

i dont get the whole depressing song genre, if i wnat something "depressing" the biggest ill go for is bob marley - redemption songs, and thats calling for change etc.

meh, weekends here, dont have to see her till monday


thanks guys. and yeh, i think, by thinking about things im over complicating it. hmmm

 

[old.Tohtori]

Well i can't say sh*t about this situation, my best friend is my ex who i love more then life

By the way, i bet this is "hard" for you since you're still in the Wankathron

 

[CorNokZ]

I hear you buddy..

Me and my x broke it off last sunday after 14 months.. She told me it was over by sending me an sms/text message.. :/

Teenage life sux sometimes

 

[Maff]

Love to say it gets easyer mate but imo i be lieing.
if she is a real friend to you like she say you got to be right with er and just go hrough again how you feel.
it be scary mate i know but just try et across to her your finding it a bit hard at times,but you would like to still be friends and you just some tiems need some time to gte things right in your mind.
but and big things you'll be there for her.
having friend of the oppist sex is a good and tbh i got just as many female friends as male.
some times you'll meet some one and there be your new world and you got to have them,but cant and its a head f**k but its life.
also tbh the fact you cant have them some times make it more a reason you want them.
been there done than ,done them thne not wanted it any more. then you lose what was good befor
one thing i would say dont lock your self away from others and sit on ya own dweling on it.
get out and do any thing or bug your mates on DAoC keep busy and it will gte better mate

 

[Amildin]

3 easy steps,

1) Go to party

2) Get drunk with her

3) Try to pull her

If it doesnt work, no probs your drunk! If it works, hey presto you have a hot girl. Just dont make a big deal of it.

 

[Eeben]

this is why i dont have friends

 

[old.Tohtori]

this is why i dont have friends

That's not the reason

 

[Darksword]

haha, yeh, i should have tried to pull her like a year ago, year and a half ago i know i would have gone out with her for definate but i was too chilled out/chicken shit whatever dunno, and now its a crap situation. Just going to stop talking to her, if she comes to talk to me fine, but really im going to cut contact. Know loads wont agree but its a pretty wierd situation to be in for me so im being stubborn. she knows i like her etc so.

 

[Hawkwind]

haha, yeh, i should have tried to pull her like a year ago, year and a half ago i know i would have gone out with her for definate but i was too chilled out/chicken shit whatever dunno, and now its a crap situation. Just going to stop talking to her, if she comes to talk to me fine, but really im going to cut contact. Know loads wont agree but its a pretty wierd situation to be in for me so im being stubborn. she knows i like her etc so.

Not wierd at all mate, do what's best for you. Don't live your life trying to keep everyone but yourself happy. It just proves the 'Harry Met Sally' quote that men and women can never be true friends because the sex thing always fucks it up.

 

[Urgluf]

thats life mate, does this to you, hardest thing in the world would be to say goodbye, and your only fooling yourself thinking you could do it. chest out, smile on, go along as normal, one day you will be over it and very glad you didnt stop seeing her.

Totally agree with this..

 

[Eeben]

That's not the reason

it is!! honest

 

[Amildin]

haha, yeh, i should have tried to pull her like a year ago, year and a half ago i know i would have gone out with her for definate but i was too chilled out/chicken shit whatever dunno, and now its a crap situation. Just going to stop talking to her, if she comes to talk to me fine, but really im going to cut contact. Know loads wont agree but its a pretty wierd situation to be in for me so im being stubborn. she knows i like her etc so.

Still try imo, if she liked you then she will still have feelings like that for you now, even if they aren't on the surface at the mo.

And if your going to break it off with her anyway, why not try? Theres nothing to lose here imo. Not saying it would be easy but at least give it a go.

 

[Phooka]

I stopped reading advices half way page 2 so might have been said this

As i see it keep contact (as most people are saying), She aint all that else she wouldnt tell you you are silly for lovving her. There are approxamatly 3 billion women on the planet, have fun
But i know you feel she is all that so i wont tell you not too. Everybody has to learn from their own mistakes because you wont listen to neone else, trust me on that one

If you want too have any sort of a chance with that girl (this is gonne sound corney) ignore her, dont do shit for her, dont be her 'slave' best way of putting it, dont be available. DONT BE THE BITCH
Girlz/women want a man, so be one. Do your thing, have fun, flirt with other girlz (fun and sometimes rewarding )

And listen too EZ, she knows as she was one of em

 

[Melachi]

Still try imo, if she liked you then she will still have feelings like that for you now, even if they aren't on the surface at the mo.

Don't try because she will say no. Infact she will think its creepy that you fancy her. Which either results in more awkwardness or even worse she might string you along.

If you want too have any sort of a chance with that girl (this is gonne sound corney) ignore her, dont do shit for her, dont be her 'slave' best way of putting it, dont be available. DONT BE THE BITCH
Girlz/women want a man, so be one. Do your thing, have fun, flirt with other girlz (fun and sometimes rewarding )

Quoted for truth! Listen too this man, forget the crap you learn from TV about being a romantic mangina.

 

[lilmissnaughty]

Trust me, stay friends with her, but don't ever consider trying to start something with her, keep her as a friend, and thats it. As soon as you become a girls friend, she is not attracted to you anymore, unless you make massive changes to how you act, and that still doesn't guarantee you will get her, and secondly why the hell would you change for this one girl?

dunno bout that tbh someone thats gone from friend to bf is likely to last longer.one night stand u hooked up with an dunno much about dont often work out.depends what u lookin for.
did u actually say why u wanted to stop speakin to her or just go 'this is doin me head in i cant be friends with u anymore' cos if u didnt tell her u wanted her as more then a friend then that would explain the being silly comment.if u did tell her how u feel about her an she said it then u might as well forget it n sever the ties if u cant handle the just friends thing.u both gotta just get out an meet new people to move away from the exaggerated bond u share from the loss of ur other friend

 

[WiZe^]

It geats worse

 

[Saveus]

get in.. get off.. and get out

 

[pip]

it really fucking does, if i was an adult id definatly move.

So heres the situation, ill try and summarise it as i dont want to bore anyone.

So the problem is (as with anything in life) a girl. Known her and been good friends for well over a year now, and i really like her, and have done for a hell of a long time, but she doesnt feel the same about me, and ok i accept that. She knows how i feel, and i know 100% that nothing is going to happen, but still wish something could etc. We talk pretty much every day, walk through town etc, and the more i see her, the harder it all gets. So i told her, i think its better we stop talking and stuff, just because i really can't "handle" it anymore (not sure thats the right word but whatever), and she told me to stop being silly like wtf. so a couple of days past and she starts wondering if im being serious etc, asks me if everything is ok between us and i dont reply etc, then i see her on a night out, she was pretty drunk (i was drunk but not hammered, i only started drinking late that night) and she bursts into tears and just ended up hugging her etc, and she said how she wanted us to remain friends and how i was really important in her life and how she really cares for me, and all this just pretty much broke my heart. As any guy can tell you here, a crying girl is a really sad sight and all i wanted to do was make things better for her.

So im in a fucked up situation here; i really like her, so i want to get over her, stop talking to her etc etc, but i literally cant, she wont let me.

as some of u will recall, my friend commited suicide last year, a unbelievably sad situation for me, and also her, we both knew him and were good friends with him/each other etc and so she pretty much always turns to me when she is upset about it or anything. i told her when i said it was best we stop talking that if she ever needed to talk about him or anything important id be there for her, but in general i just needed to stop seeing her and communicating with her.

I really am stuck between a rock and a hard place here, and its driving me insane. Not sure why im even posting this <shrug> maybe writing it down helps or something. haha i feel so fucking emo. advice?

Just stay mates and get another women if she not love you, It won't work anyway no point in letting thoughts of sex ruin friendship

 

[pip]

this is why i dont have friends

Dam got to stop looking at you spoiler allways says same dam thing

 

[Calaen]

Just stay mates and get another women if she not love you, It won't work anyway no point in letting thoughts of sex ruin friendship

Agree with Pip, everyone can be selfish when it comes to them having feelings for someone that does not feel the same. If you class yourself as a good friend you would not deliberately hurt this Girl which is what you would be doing by avoiding her. You are young stay in touch chances are in a couple of years you will both have moved on and will look back and laugh about the time when you wanted to fuck your best friend.

 

[Raven]

who let a fucking warlock in here?

Hi Pip

 

[Melachi]

Drunk 21st salutations my friends, i will remain brief despite spending twice the ammount of time on this post as I normally would because I dont believe drunk people misspell(sp?) every word so to prove my theory right I have to go over every single word.

Darksword as somebody who has just had his 21st birthday tonight (not actually 21 until the end of the month) I feel amazilngly omg am i typing this? gamah is a legend. obligated to tell you that your teen age years are legendary of the legendic biblacle sense. I will of course regret this post as soon as I read it which will be around 3am Tuesday morning due to my departure from the lovely country known as Ayerland to the amazing (communist) country known as China for work for the summer as a barmen exccccclent whatever I'm rambling....

Women are very simple too understand despite what you have be thought. If you want too understant a woman simply recall what you said to her and imagine EVERY single way of percieving (is it per or pre? who cares) and take the worst sounding one and that is probably what they have understood the crazy freaks.

Seriously if all goes well and FH survives untill yo are 21 or + you should search for this thread and you will have a nice laugh about this bint(thats what you brits call women right?) and think WTF was I on? The answer is probably some sort of mad crazy shit that us old folks (I'm over the hill but still sowing the oats, [you can use that one if you like]) never heard of.

Here have a listen to some punk or uplifting funny music and just think that you could be scorign some hoter bird rather being the big fag you are and moping over some probably meidocure (hard word to spell regardless of sobereiety).

P.S. good song = The Shins - Caring is Creepy, of course own the album before you download, isnt that right IRMA? Sue me you muppets.

Peace to all my fans.

[Edit] just realised my first sentance said I would be brief, guess I lied!

 

[Ezteq]

And listen too EZ, she knows as she was one of em

was? whadda ya mean was????

as much as i would love to be a bloke and run about with the pot noodle horn all day long i feel it my duty to inform you all that i am infact still a gal.



anyhoo hate to break it to you but it doesnt get any easier as you get older, it might actually get harder depending on past situations and how jaded you get.

i'm still miffed at that "was" comment btw.











*stalks off with cigar clenched between teeth to read jugs magazine, drink some beer, scratch random areas and fart alot*









questioning my femininity fgs god dammit bare faced cheek imo *burp* any fool can see im a sodding lady!!