baby crying - agonizing sound.

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

Okay, I knew already that I wasn't that fond of babies, kids and all those little stinking money-drainers, but I was just watching a House episode, and it features Cuddy with a baby. At one point she's on the phone with the baby crying.

It's the most annoying sound I've ever heard. Now I really know I never want kids. The kid would very much be in danger of being pitched like an American Football

Is it just me?

 

[sayward]

It's a dreadful sound. Trouble is the ones you hear in public are often when the mother hasn't a clue what they are crying about, or what to do about it if she did. I often feel like saying for goodness sake do this or that but know I'd be murdered for my interference.

 

[Zenith.UK]

Been there twice and going through it for a third (AND FINAL!) time.
Crying usually means one of:
Hungry
Filled nappy
Hot/cold
Wind/colic/gripe
"I want to be held"

It's annoying because it's MEANT to be annoying. It is supposed to get the mother's attention and 99% of the time it works. It just happens to get everyone elses attention at the same time.

When you hear a baby crying in public in the high street, you shouldn't get angry at the mother as she's caught between a rock and a hard place. She's already stressed to hell by the crying, and people looking and tutting simply don't help the situation. If you want to help, then do it tactfully, like "The little 'un sounds unhappy about something. D'you need a hand with anything?" Even holding the buggy still while the mum lifts the baby out is a helping hand.

What really pisses me of about society in Britain is just how intolerant it has become about parents with small children. If a baby cries, it's awkward to change their nappy in public (oh heavens! exposed baby genitalia! Call social services!) or to give them a feed (that woman's exposing herself in public!). Exposing a baby's genitals while changing them isn't going to cause men to turn into feral paedophiles and rape the baby in front of you, and breastfeeding is the oldest, NATURAL way to feed a baby. It is only because of western attitudes to breasts as sex objects that breastfeeding has become almost taboo.

Roll on the day when it will be illegal to stop a woman feeding a baby in a public place. Scotland already has a law, Wales is planning one and England will have to follow suit.

 

[russell]

I totally agree with you Zenith.
They are babies and that is what they are designed to do!

It is our society that is the problem -babies have always cried and they have always been around(!)
Because we live in an age where the extended family unit is a rarity and family occasions are less frequent we have become fragmented from new borns ( I never held one till I had mine)

And so we find it even more piercing and disturbing. It is -but have a heart -you did it once!
Stop tutting at the mums and help or at least smile and give her a look of sympathy -she has it 24/7. Yes she choose to have it- but until you do, you have NO idea.

I feel really sorry that our society is now so intolerant of infants -we are going back to the Victorian 'seen and not heard' mentality.
Bah - babies cry. The mothers cant stay in doors till they are 3 -get over it

 

[haarewin]

Babies crying is fucking annoying. I work in a shop and 99% of the time the mother ignores it and everyone has to put up with the "little angel".
I always said that if I had kids I'd adopt anyway - no way I'd put up with a baby.

 

[Amanita]

Its supposed to be annoying so that the parents go do something about it. The little critters can't do anything about it themselves so they cry.

A friend of our family had a baby recently and she's around a lot with the baby because she'd go insane if cooped up in her house all the time on her own with nothing but this bawling bundle of joy to keep her company.

And sometimes, there really isn't anything that the mother can do to quiet them down, other than whacking their tits out in public? Folks wouldn't like that much either!

And "our" baby cries when she's got trapped wind and then there's absolutely nothing you can do for her except try to snuggle her into submission

 

[old.Tohtori]

When you hear a baby crying in public in the high street, you shouldn't get angry at the mother as she's caught between a rock and a hard place.

I don't agree, but that's due to the fact that it's annoying to hear a baby cry on a bus etc, and i can't bloody well get angry at the baby about it.

It's not like it's NOT her fault the kid is there.

She made it. She takes the blame and shame.

No, a kid is not a privilage.

 

[russell]

I don't agree, but that's due to the fact that it's annoying to hear a baby cry on a bus etc, and i can't bloody well get angry at the baby about it.

It's not like it's NOT her fault the kid is there.

She made it. She takes the blame and shame.

No, a kid is not a privilage.

We do -we take the blame and the shame everyday -thats what parents do. It just makes your day when someone is kind to you -rather than just glaring at you.

When the going gets tough the majority of us just need a sympathetic look or some help, rather than glares. I have seen a woman reduced to tears by her baby and people tutting in a bank queue.

Also interesting to note that psychologists say that you should really examine how you feel and react to babies crying. Apparantly your reponse says alot about your inner self...

Yup- you Freddies are all selfish uncompassionate bastards!! Role on you all experiencing parenthood and all its delights.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Some take it, some take the baby as a "gift to the world", which makes for arrogant bastards running about with their attack vehicles.

If you get that your baby is only special to you, that's a-ok, good for you, keep the species running and all that. If on the other hand you think everyone should think your baby is special, you should f*ckity right off

I don't really care if a kid cries in the trai or bus, if it's kept below 10-15 minutes.

 

[haarewin]

When the going gets tough the majority of us just need a sympathetic look or some help, rather than glares. I have seen a woman reduced to tears by her baby and people tutting in a bank queue.

I will never forget on my first day I was whinging at someone about a baby crying. The mother was being served behind me and the dad was trying to calm it down, but I only thought "fuck that's annoying!". She heard me and got upset. I felt like a complete prick after that, and my attitude was forever adjusted in how to deal with it.
I now always ask the mum if they need help or if they are ok, and make little 'ooh baby!' noises and make faces to the baby, sometimes it helps and they stop crying and just put on a cute little 'wtf?' face, other times it doesn't help, but you can tell the Mum appreciates it. The noise still does my head in, but I'm polite about it - it's good customer service to pay attention to them and try and make them feel better.

 

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

I really couldn't care about a baby being fed in public. I do care about a diaper being changed in public. It's utterly gross. Go to a restroom or something to do that. I once saw a mother changing her baby's diaper ón a mac D's table ín a completely full restaurant. It wouldn't be the first time I've emptied my stomach due to seeing that.

I also don't care too much about babies crying in public, because, well I can walk (read: run) away, but I really //hate// it in a restaurant orso.

Also, I'm sorry, but I really don't care about the parents. Not that I do get angry at them -- when they try and do something about the crying that is -- but they chose to have a baby. I didn't.

 

[fettoken]

I really couldn't care about a baby being fed in public. I do care about a diaper being changed in public. It's utterly gross. Go to a restroom or something to do that. I once saw a mother changing her baby's diaper ón a mac D's table ín a completely full restaurant. It wouldn't be the first time I've emptied my stomach due to seeing that.

I also don't care too much about babies crying in public, because, well I can walk (read: run) away, but I really //hate// it in a restaurant orso.

Also, I'm sorry, but I really don't care about the parents. Not that I do get angry at them -- when they try and do something about the crying that is -- but they chose to have a baby. I didn't.

There are a few episodes tackling these problems in "Married, with children"

 

[sayward]

I wasn't being unsympathetic. I had three under 5yrs old so I know all about it. I can usually tell why a baby is crying fron the cry, it's just some of the mums I come across don't seem to know or care.

 

[Access Denied]

I have one that's only a few weeks shy of being born so I can look forward to being woken up at some unholy hour by the most annoying sound ever heard.

Still it's what babies do and the Gods help anyone who glares/tuts/shouts at me because my daughter is crying in public. I simply can't believe some of the fucking shit-for-brains replies in this thread. What's a parent supposed to do, stay indoors till the kid is 4 years old? As for Macabre:

"Also, I'm sorry, but I really don't care about the parents. Not that I do get angry at them -- when they try and do something about the crying that is -- but they chose to have a baby. I didn't."

I hope you never have kids because from that I get the impression you're far too self-absorbed to ever put a child first.

 

[adoNix]

I do not have any problems with crying babies in public

What i do have problems with is mothers sitting there not caring about their 5-6 year old kids running around rampaging everything while screaming/crying wildly.


I was on the train once and for the whole fucking trip there was a mother and child in the seats behind me.. the child was kicking my seat the whole train ride (1 hour afaik) when i got off i had written Parenting.com - The home of Parenting and Babytalk on a little piece of paper i had and i gave it to the mother right before i got off the train.. i looked up in the window and there was the mother giving me the finger. I smiled at her and walked away :>

 

[old.Tohtori]

I have one that's only a few weeks shy of being born so I can look forward to being woken up at some unholy hour by the most annoying sound ever heard.

Still it's what babies do and the Gods help anyone who glares/tuts/shouts at me because my daughter is crying in public. I simply can't believe some of the fucking shit-for-brains replies in this thread. What's a parent supposed to do, stay indoors till the kid is 4 years old? As for Macabre:

"Also, I'm sorry, but I really don't care about the parents. Not that I do get angry at them -- when they try and do something about the crying that is -- but they chose to have a baby. I didn't."

I hope you never have kids because from that I get the impression you're far too self-absorbed to ever put a child first.

You get annnoyed at someone listening to rap msic on a boomxbox in a train?

Same difference.

You've got something that's annying to others, that you chose to take into your life and if it causes a disturbance it's yours to deal with, scorn and all.

Like said, you've got no special powers when you get one.

As it is public, I don't think people should be judged by the little larva, but i also will tell you this; you're just the same as those smelly old guys, annoying teens, loud discoblondes etc. I don't have to hate you, but i sure as heck don't have to like the fact you're there.

 

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

You get annnoyed at someone listening to rap msic on a boomxbox in a train?

Same difference.

You've got something that's annying to others, that you chose to take into your life and if it causes a disturbance it's yours to deal with, scorn and all.

Like said, you've got no special powers when you get one.

As it is public, I don't think people should be judged by the little larva, but i also will tell you this; you're just the same as those smelly old guys, annoying teens, loud discoblondes etc. I don't have to hate you, but i sure as heck don't have to like the fact you're there.

 

[Zenith.UK]

As it is public, I don't think people should be judged by the little larva, but i also will tell you this; you're just the same as those smelly old guys, annoying teens, loud discoblondes etc. I don't have to hate you, but i sure as heck don't have to like the fact you're there.

Don't think that being judgemental means that you're immune to getting a response. I've had people judge me in the high street under their breath and look shocked when I turn around and confront them about their vocal opinion. EVERY time they've backed down mumbling some sort of half-hearted apology, usually saying "I didn't mean anything by it". Well actually, YES YOU DID or you wouldn't have said it in the first place.

You don't like babies crying, that's fine. I assume that you're either celibate or homosexual because no form of contraception is 100% effective (as well I know with #3).

 

[old.Tohtori]

You don't like babies crying, that's fine. I assume that you're either celibate or homosexual because no form of contraception is 100% effective (as well I know with #3).

Yes quite, i'm a homosexual for getting annoyed by a highpitch screech emitted from someone elses posession. Want to have sex then? Are you interested? Does my homosexuality turn you on?

Like i said, no need to judge out loud, but it doesn't mean i have to like it.

If you never get annoyed by any group of people, or by any other persons actions that don't directly effect you besides "tick you the wrong way", congratulations, you can take the stance against me.

 

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

Don't think that being judgemental means that you're immune to getting a response. I've had people judge me in the high street under their breath and look shocked when I turn around and confront them about their vocal opinion. EVERY time they've backed down mumbling some sort of half-hearted apology, usually saying "I didn't mean anything by it". Well actually, YES YOU DID or you wouldn't have said it in the first place.

You don't like babies crying, that's fine. I assume that you're either celibate or homosexual because no form of contraception is 100% effective (as well I know with #3).

Dude, your logic surpasses my intelligence it seems....

 

[pikeh]

Heard some benefit scrounging mum call her 2yo (guessing) daughter a c*nt the other day for asking for some pick and mix.

Yeh it's a pretty awful sound, but thats just about the only thing a baby can do to show there is something up. Must be pretty frustrating.

 

[Amanita]

It's the most annoying sound I've ever heard. Now I really know I never want kids. The kid would very much be in danger of being pitched like an American Football

Is it just me?

And no, its not you on this one. New mothers are exactly the same

 

[Zenith.UK]

Okay, it seems I didn't make myself clear.

I said celibate or homosexual as those are two ways that you will never have a baby. If you have sex with someone of the opposite sex, there is a chance (however small) of a pregnancy being the result. Contraception reduces that chance even more, but no form of contraception is 100% effective so there is a chance (albeit a very small one) that you could get someone pregnant if you have sex with them.

I was not calling Old.Tohtori a homosexual. I don't know Old.Tohtori well enough from his postings to make that assertion. My impression is based on what I've read so far and on this one limited subject, we have differing views.
I'm happy to agree to disagree and move on.

 

[old.Tohtori]

There is a 100% contraceptive though, and it makes about 99% of the men wince in sympathy

 

[Huntingtons]

cellibacy? (sp?)

 

[Laddey]

I read that its the #1 worse sound to be heard. Either read or watched a documentary

 

[Ingafgrinn Macabre]

There is a 100% contraceptive though, and it makes about 99% of the men wince in sympathy

I've seriously been thinking about tying the knot aye. Doesn't really scare me to be honest, but the thing that's keeping me from it, is the allfamous what if. I mean, I think like this at this point in time. I can't imagine ever thinking otherwise, but what if I do at one point...

 

[old.Tohtori]

I've seriously been thinking about tying the knot aye. Doesn't really scare me to be honest, but the thing that's keeping me from it, is the allfamous what if. I mean, I think like this at this point in time. I can't imagine ever thinking otherwise, but what if I do at one point...

And we're not talking about tying the marital knot, for those misinformed

It takes a bit of self-knowing i think, and if you know for a fact you don't want your own, it's the way to go.

 

[Amanita]

And we're not talking about tying the marital knot, for those misinformed

It takes a bit of self-knowing i think, and if you know for a fact you don't want your own, it's the way to go.

Curiosity got me here, have you gone for this? I recall you being adamant that you weren't going to spawn.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Curiosity got me here, have you gone for this? I recall you being adamant that you weren't going to spawn.

Oh aye, no lil me's running about thank you. I''ve been thinking about it, might as well 'cause i'm not interested.

Then again, why should i